ʻO ke wikiō piha i ka ʻōlelo Pelekania

Mai ka wā o ka hoʻokau kūlohelohe ʻano, ua loli nui ka manaʻo o ka homosexuality. I kēia lā, no nā kāne i ke Komohana, ua like ka lanakila ʻana o nā kaua: nā kalapu gay, nā hana pelaka, ka male kāne. ʻĀnō, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o "gay." Hoʻouna ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana a me nā hoʻopaʻi kū ʻole ʻole i ka poʻe e kūʻē nei i nā poʻe LGBT, me nā pālule hoʻokipa a me ka homophobe.

Pono ke ahonui a me ka ʻae loa o ke kuokoa pili ʻana i nā mea āpau akā hoʻokahi wale nō ka heluna o ka heluna - nā poʻe makemake e uha me ka male a me ka hoʻomaka i kahi ʻano heterosexual. Loaʻa kēia mau kāne a me nā wahine i nā manaʻo like ʻole o nā kāne a ʻaʻole e makemake e ʻae e ʻike i kahi ʻano pelekane. Hōʻike lākou he mea ʻole nā ​​homosexuality i ko lākou ʻano maoli a ʻimi e hoʻopakele.

ʻO kēlā mau kānaka ke kū nei i nā ʻano ʻino mai kā lākou mau "hoa" mua. ʻO kā lākou koho ʻana e haʻalele i ko lākou ʻano kāne male ma hope i ʻike pinepine ʻia he kumakaia e ke kaiāulu LGBT a hoʻohuli iā lākou i kipaku ʻia. Ke makaʻala nei ka poʻe heterosexual iā lākou; no ka mea, hoʻoweliweli lākou i ko lākou kūlana. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻohe kaiāulu e ʻae iā lākou, a no laila ʻaʻole makemake kēia poʻe e haʻi iā lākou iho. 

ʻO kekahi o lākou e hoʻohuli i ke olakino, e kōkua iā lākou e hoʻokō i ka loli makemake, akā ua palena ʻia ko lākou mau koho a hele pū ʻia me ka ikaika ikaika. Kūʻē nā alakaʻi o LGBT e like me ke ʻano o ka hoʻoulu ʻana i ka maʻi, homophobic, a i ʻole i hiki i kekahi ke hoʻololi maoli i ko lākou ʻano. Wahi a kekahi e pono ke pāpā ʻia i kēlā me kēia, ʻoiai ke pale aku nei kekahi iā lākou, me ka ʻōlelo o ka ua hoʻololi, a me kēlā me kēia kanaka ke koho wale i ko lākou ala ponoʻī a makemake lākou e aloha - ʻoiai inā no kēia mea pono e haʻalele i ka hui kaiāulu. 

ʻO Kauka Joseph Nicolosi, Jr. - ke keiki a ke kumu alakaʻi nui no ka mālama ʻana i ka male, i hoʻomau i ka hana o kona makuakāne ma hope o kona make ʻana i ka makahiki i hala. Ua hoʻokumu ʻia e ia ʻO nā hui hoʻohui lāʻau, kahi laulā o ka kōkua psychotherapeutic i hāʻawi ʻia i nā poʻe e ho'āʻo nei e hoʻopiʻi i kahi hoihoi like-wahine like ʻole.

Aia kahi ʻokoʻa ma waena o nā ʻano lapaʻau like ʻole, wehewehe ʻo Joseph. — ʻO ka mea i kapa ʻia e kekahi poʻe he "conversion therapy" he ʻōlelo ākea loa a maopopo ʻole, ʻaʻohe code of ethics a i ʻole hui alakaʻi. ʻO ka hoʻololi hoʻololi ʻana kahi mea i hana nui ʻia e nā poʻe ʻaʻole laikini. I ka reintegrative therapy, ke kuleana nui ka mea kūʻai aku. Hāʻawi kahi psychotherapist laikini i ka mea kūʻai aku maʻamau, nā lāʻau lapaʻau e pili ana i nā hōʻike no ka ʻeha kamaliʻi a i ʻole nā ​​​​mea hoʻohui i ka moekolohe i loaʻa iā lākou, a i ka wā e hoʻoponopono ʻia ai kēia mau pilikia, hoʻomaka ka moekolohe ma kāna iho.

Ma nā kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke ʻano o kēia ʻano, ʻike pinepine ʻia ka nīnau no ka ʻike: ʻo kēia poʻe ka poʻe "gay" a mākou e hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻoponopono pololei, a i ʻole ua pololei mau lākou a ke kōkua wale nei mākou iā lākou iho? ʻO kēia e pili ana i ka hoʻoholo ponoʻī, a ʻo ka mea e wehewehe pono ai i kēlā me kēia o mākou ʻaʻole ka mea a mākou e makemake ai e moe me, ʻaʻole ko mākou makemake moe, akā ko mākou mau manaʻo. Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei kaʻu mau mea kūʻai aku ua wehewehe ko lākou mau manaʻo iā lākou, a ke ʻae nei au iā lākou. 

Ua nui nā ʻōlelo hoʻopiʻi ikaika e hoʻololi ʻia nā kānaka. Manaʻo wau aia kekahi ʻoiaʻiʻoʻoiaʻiʻo i kēia - ua hana nā mea āpau i nā hoʻomana haipule. Aia pū kekahi mau makua koʻikoʻi e hoʻohuli ana i kā lākou keiki. Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole kēia i ka mea a ka reintegration therapy e hana nei - ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻāʻo e pale i ka mea like ʻole e like me ka makemake. Mākou i kōkua i kēia poʻe e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou iho, a ke hiki mai ka hana ʻana, hoʻololi ʻia ka moekolohe ma kāna iho. 

E like me ka inoa e hōʻike nei, ke kamaʻilio nei mākou e pili ana i ka hoʻonui hou ʻana. ʻO ka manaʻo e hui pū me nā ʻāpana o ko mākou pilikino i wehe a haʻalele paha. ʻO ka hapa nui o kaʻu mea kūʻai aku ua manaʻo ʻia ʻoiai he keiki liʻiliʻi lākou i hoʻowahāwahā ʻia a hoʻāhewa ʻia, ua paʻa kā lākou makemake huakaʻi. 

He nui nā kāne me ka wahine hoʻokahi e ʻōlelo mai ua manaʻo mau lākou e like me "pēlā." Ua ʻike mākou e hoʻomaka ana ka pilikia i ka wā ʻōpio loa - kahi hoʻokaʻawale ʻana mai ke kāne. Manaʻo pinepine kēlā mau keikikāne ua nāwaliwali lākou, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke launa pū me nā kāne a me ko lākou makuakāne, a ʻo ia paha ke kumu nui loa. Aia kekahi mau ʻokoʻa, ʻoiaʻiʻo, akā, no ka hapa nui o nā kāne i hoʻomohala i ka hoʻowalewale i ka kāne like, he hana maʻamau kēia. ʻO ka mea i uhi ʻole ʻia ʻo ia ka nui o kēia mau kāne e wehewehe i nā ʻike like ʻole o ka wā kamaliʻi. Hōʻike maʻamau lākou i ko lākou makuakāne he mamao a koʻikoʻi, a ʻo ko lākou mau makuahine he ʻano hoʻopiʻi, hoʻopili, a i kekahi manawa hoʻomāinoino. Eia kekahi, loaʻa pinepine kēia mau mea kūʻai aku i nā ʻano koʻikoʻi. Hoʻohui pū ʻia, hoʻonui kēia mau mea i ka paʻakikī o ke keikikāne i ka ulu ʻana o kāna kāne: kaʻawale ʻana mai kona makuahine a me ka ʻike ʻana me kona makuakāne. 

Ma kahi ʻenehana kūikawā, e ho'āʻo ke keiki e hoʻokumu i ka hoʻopili ʻana me nā kāne mai kona ʻona a hoʻohālike iā lākou. Akā inā ʻaʻole makemake ko ke keikikāne e makemake i kāna mau kāne, inā he mea i loko o kāna hana e hoʻonani i ka hana, a laila i ke keikikāne e huhū, a hoʻi houʻo ia - i kona makuahine, a ʻaʻole hana i ka laka e pono ai ma kāna ʻano kāne. ʻIke mākou i kēia me nā mea kūʻai he nui. He poe hoaaloha maikai loa o lakou na kaikamahine. ʻIke lākou i nā wahine e like me ke kua o ko lākou lima. He mea pohihihi nā kāne no lākou, he kāne nā kāne, nani. ʻAʻole ʻike ka kāne e kaʻu mau mea kūʻai.

ʻAʻole i ʻae ʻia ka masculinity o kahi kanaka me ka ʻano like o ka wahine like ʻole. Ua nīnau ʻoia i kona ʻano kāne; ʻaʻole ia i manaʻoʻiʻo i ka hopena. ʻO ke kumu no kēia hewa a he pilina paha paha me kahi makuakāne a me nā makuakāne paha, ʻo ka hōʻino ma ke kula, hana hoʻomāinoino, a me kekahi mea. ʻO ka nui o ka poʻe i kona wā ʻōpiopio e ʻāhewa ʻia ʻo ia e kona wahi a puni, ʻoi aku ka hilahila āna i ʻike nui ai, ʻoi loa ka hoʻopiʻi ʻia ʻana, ʻoi aku ka mākaʻikaʻi nui ("ʻaʻole, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke pāʻani me nā keikikāne i ka ʻōpala, hiki iā ʻoe ke maʻi.") manaʻo e ʻaʻole like ia i nā mea āpau a pono ʻole ʻo ia, ʻaʻole ikaika loa - ʻoiai ʻo ia ka hoʻomaka ʻana e manaʻoʻiʻo iā ia, a laila noʻonoʻo, a laila, ʻaʻohe kumu, i ka wā i hoʻomaka ai ʻo puberty, kahi hele like ʻole o ka kāne like. 

Inā manaʻo ka mea kūʻai aku ʻaʻole hōʻike ʻo ia i kona ʻano maoli e hele mai e ʻike i ke kauka hoʻopaʻapaʻa, e haʻi wale ka mea lapaʻau iā ia ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia ʻo ia e loaʻa kēlā manaʻo, e ʻae wale ʻo ia. he "gay," e ʻae i kāna "homosexuality" a hoʻokō me ia - a ʻo kēia wale nō ka mea hiki ke kōkua iā ia e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. Aia kekahi pūʻulu nui loa o ka poʻe i kūpono ʻole kēia, ʻaʻole lākou i manaʻo he kūpono kēia no lākou. ʻAʻole mākou e koi i ka mea kūʻai aku e koho i kekahi ala. Hāʻawi mākou i kekahi koho o kāna koho. 

Ke holomua nei ka lāʻau, e ʻike ka poʻe i ka hoʻonui ʻana iā lākou iho, manaʻo lākou i pili me nā kāne ʻē aʻe a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi e kamaʻilio pū me lākou, a ma ke ʻano he huahana maʻamau, ʻike lākou i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana o kā lākou kāne like pū me ia iho. Pono ʻoe e ʻike ua hōʻike ʻo mau makahiki o ka hope o 30 i ʻike i ka maikaʻi o ka wahine a hiki ke loli i kekahi poʻe. Ua paa like kēia me ka neuroscience. ʻIke mākou i kēlā mau wahi o ka lolo i pili nui i nā makemake kelepona aʻo nā wahi maoli e hoʻololi i ko mākou mau ola.

Hiki ke hoʻololi. Na ka olelo no oe.

Source: https://www.reintegrativetherapy.com/