ʻO ka psychiatrist koʻikoʻi o ka waena o nā kenekulia iwakālua, kākau ʻo MD Edmund Bergler i nā puke 25 ma luna o ka psychology a me 273 mau papa i ka alakaʻi ʻana i nā nūpepa. Hāpai kāna mau puke i nā kumuhana e like me ka hoʻomohala ʻana o ke keiki, ka neurosis, ka wā kū i ke aniani, nā pilikia paʻakikī, ka pākeke, ka hana hoʻomāinoino, a me ka wahine. ʻO nā ʻōlelo aʻe mai ka puke "Pōʻalima: he maʻi a i ʻole ke ʻano?»

Kokoke mau makahiki he kanakolu o koʻu mālama ʻana i nā kāne like ʻole, ke hoʻolilo nei i nā hola he nui me lākou i ka wā o kā lākou hoʻopaʻa ʻana. Hiki i hiki iaʻu ke noʻonoʻo me ka hoʻomanāhewa ʻole ʻole i nā kāne i nā kāne; noʻu he mau maʻi lākou no ka pono o ka mālama lapaʻau. Ua loaʻa iaʻu nā holomua therapeutic me lākou, kekahi mau hemahema a me kekahi mau hemahema. Maikaʻi wau iā lākou no ke manawa kūpono e aʻo i ko lākou ʻano noʻonoʻo, me ka ʻano o ka genesis a me ka curability o kā lākou maʻi. Ma keʻano laulā, ʻaʻohe kumu o ka hoʻopiʻi e pili ana i nā kāne like.

Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻohe oʻu ʻano o ka pōpilikia, inā i nīnau ʻia iaʻu he aha ka mea like ʻole o ka kāne, e ʻōlelo wau he poʻe kānaka Pelekane kekahi poʻe leʻaleʻa, he nānā ʻole ko lākou ʻano maikaʻi. ʻAe, ʻaʻole lākou he kuleana no kā lākou mau ʻike ʻole ʻole, akā e hoʻopili kēia mau hakakā i ko lākou ikaika kūloko i ko lākou ʻano waho he mea hoʻonaninani i ka haʻaheo, pseudo-agresi a me ka whining. E like me nā masochist psychic āpau, hoʻohilahila lākou i ka wā e hui pū ai me ka mea ʻoi aku ka ikaika, a i ka manawa i loaʻa ai iā lākou ka mana, lilo lākou i loko ʻino, me ka hakihaki ʻana i ka mea nāwaliwali me ka minamina. ʻO ka ʻōlelo wale nō e hoʻomaopopo ai i ka poʻe ʻike ʻole, he ikaika i loko. ʻO ka meaʻoi loa ka paʻakaha ka ʻike maʻamau ʻoe i ke ego intact (ʻo ka mea i kapa ʻia ʻo “kanaka kūpono”) i waena o lākou.

Ma muli o ka ʻike ʻole i kaʻu mau manaʻo ponoʻi, ua hōʻoia pinepine wau iā lākou me nā mea maʻi hoʻopōlohelohe loea, e noi ana iā lākou e hōʻuluʻulu i ko lākou manaʻo e pili ana i nā kāne o nā kāne like ʻole ma hope o ka mālama ʻana. ʻO nā manaʻo o kāna mau kauā mua i hōʻike ʻia e nā kāne male kanaka i hoʻōla ʻia, he hōʻino kino ia, i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana me kaʻu ʻano hoʻoili ʻana e like me ke kamaʻilio keiki.

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Komi ʻia kekahi kanaka pelekane me ka hui ʻana o nā ʻōhua penei:

1. He hoʻonāukiuki a me ka hōʻiliʻili ʻana i nā hewa ʻole.
2. Hōʻike hewaʻole.
3. Ke uhi nei ka hoʻopili ʻana i nā kaumaha a me ka hala.
4. Hypernarcissism a me ka hyperarrogance.
5. ʻO ka hōʻole ʻole e ʻike i nā kūlana i ʻae ʻia i nā mea i moekolohe ʻole ma lalo o ka wānana a ʻo ke kuleana e ʻokiʻoki i nā kihi o ka hana ma muli o ke ʻano o nā kāne i ke kāne he uku no ko lākou ʻeha ʻeha.
6. ʻO ka palekana piha, kahi o nā mea a me ka liʻiliʻi o ke ʻano psychopathic paha.

ʻO ka hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi loa o kēia sextet o nā hiʻohiʻona ʻo ia ka versatility. ʻO ka nānā ʻole o ka naʻauao, ka moʻomeheu, ka hoʻomaka ʻana a me ka hoʻonaʻauao ʻana, nona nā kāne a pau.

KAKEKEAI LAKOLE

ʻO nā kāne a pau he mea hōʻiliʻili hewa ʻo ia ka hewa a no laila he psycho-masochist. ʻO kahi masochist psychic kahi neurotic nāna, ma o kāna mau mea hoʻonāukiuki kuhihewa, e hoʻomohala i nā kūlana e hōʻona ʻia ʻo ia, e hoʻohilahila a hōʻole ʻia hoʻi.

Koho ʻia ʻana ʻo UNSATISFILI, KA ʻĀLOHE HUI I NUI

Ke nānā mau nei ka ʻōleʻa maʻamau i ka nānā. ʻO kāna "cruising" (kahi ʻōlelo homose no ka loaʻa o ka mau minuke ʻelua a i ʻole, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, ʻo ka mea pōkole ʻoi pōkole) he keu aku i ka neterosexual neurotic loea i loko o nā pāʻani he pō. Wahi a ka wahine pelekane, hōʻike kēia e makemake lākou i ka pālahalaha ʻana a loaʻa nā mea hoʻonaninani insatiable. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hōʻike wale kēia i ke ʻano ʻoi ʻia ʻo ka paluʻikepili me ka pili ʻole i ka moekolohe. Hōʻoiaʻiʻo nō i ke ola ʻana o kahi makemake pinepine masochistic no ka pōʻino: i kēlā me kēia manawa i kāna cruises kahi homosexual kahi e hōʻeha, ka hoʻāʻo e hoʻokau, a i ʻole i hele i kahi maʻi maʻi.

Ka Lie ʻākoʻeu o ka ʻĀkiō a me ka wā i hōʻike ʻia ai ka manaʻo o ke kūkaʻi o kā lākou e noho nei.

ʻO ka maka o ka megalomaniac i kahi ola kahi hōʻailona ʻē aʻe o kahi kāne kāne. Manaʻo nui ʻo ia i ka ʻoi loa o kāna ʻano ma luna o nā mea ʻē aʻe āpau, a kākoʻo pinepine i kēia manaʻoʻiʻo me nā hiʻohiʻona mōʻaukala i kuhi ʻole ʻia. I ka manawa like, maopopo leʻa iā ia "Ma ka hohonu, loaʻa i kēlā me kēia ʻano kekahi ʻano makemeke".

LOA ANOHANU WAIWAI MA KA HUI LOA

ʻO ka hapa, ʻo ka hoʻopunipuni hoʻopiʻi o ka hanohano o kahi kāne kāne ʻaʻole e pale i ke kaumaha o loko. E like me Napoleonic "e ʻoki i kahi Lūkini a loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi Tatar," hiki i kekahi ke ʻōlelo: "E ʻoki i kahi kāne kāne a loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi neurotic depressive." I kekahi manawa, ʻo ka leʻaleʻa haʻahaʻa o "gays" [ʻoiaʻiʻo "gay"] - ka huaʻōlelo homosexuals e hoʻohana ai no lākou iho - he camouflage pseudo-euphoric maalea loa. He ʻenehana kēia no ka pale ʻana i ke kaumaha masochistic. ʻO kekahi ʻano hana ʻē aʻe ʻo ia ka huhū nui a hiki ʻole ke hoʻopaʻa ʻia o nā kāne kāne, i mākaukau mau e hoʻohana. Ua like kēia huhū me ka pseudo-aggression i wehewehe ʻia ma ka papa:

INOAʻO KAHI WAHI HĀʻOLA LOA mai CORREAKE

Me ka ʻokoʻa ʻole, aia ka hewa o loko mai ka perversion i nā kāne kāne a pau. ʻO kēia kahi hewa i hoʻoneʻe ʻia e pili ana i ka substructure masochistic. ʻO ka hewa, inā ʻae ʻia a hōʻole ʻia (hoʻole pinepine ʻia), he ʻāpana koʻikoʻi o ka homosexual structure. ʻO ka "hoʻoikaika" i kēia hewa a hoʻihoʻi i kona wahi he mea ia no ka hoʻololi therapeutic i ka mālama psychiatric. Eia ka mea pono e hoʻokaʻawale i waena o ka perversion i ka manaʻo psychiatric a me ka mea kaulana: ʻo ka mea hope e pili ana i kahi connotation moʻomeheu, ʻoiai ʻo psychiatric perversion ʻo ia ke ʻano o ka moekolohe ʻana i ke keiki, e kū ana i kahi kanaka makua, a alakaʻi i ka orgasm. I ka pōkole - he maʻi.

KA HANOLELO KAIKALAINA

Hōʻike ka mea male i kahi nui i nā hoʻonāukiuki a me nā lili i ka mea ʻole i hui i nā pilina heterosexual. ʻOiai i nā hihia koʻikoʻi o ka pilina o ka lōʻihi o ka pilina, aia kekahi mau kuʻuna o ka lili. Hāpai kēia pseudo-lili i nā hakakā kahe mau loa ʻana: he aha ka mea e like me ka lili ʻana ma ka ʻaoʻao, ʻo ia hoʻi, he manawa no ka "hōʻiliʻili ʻana i nā hewa". Kuhi pololei loa kēia i nā hihia i koho ʻia ai kahi hoa wehe naʻaupō a koho ʻia ka hana kūʻiʻo mai iā ia.

"UNSECURITY" PONO O KE KAHU HANA O PSYCHOPATHIC

ʻO ka palekana, mai ka makings i kahi psychopathic i haʻi ʻia, ʻo ia ke kānāwai, ʻaʻole nā ​​ʻokoʻa ke kūwili i waena o nā kāne. Ke ola nei i loko o kahi lewa kipi, hoʻohana lākou i nā pōkole pokole, ala a me nā kipi. ʻO kekahi mau ala o kā lākou ikaika e hoʻokaʻawale ʻia mai kahi wahi dictatorial-criminal. Maʻalahi ka maikaʻi ʻo ka ʻano noʻonoʻo: "Ua nui koʻu ʻeha - hiki iaʻu."

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I kēia lā, ʻoi aku ka pilikia o ka male like male ma mua o nā makahiki he ʻumi. Ua lilo ʻo Perversion i nā mahalo maʻamau i ka hoʻokumu ʻana o nā loina hou i ka hopena o ka hoʻoili ʻia ʻana o nā helu hala ʻole. Ua makemake mau ʻia kekahi mau ʻano pilikino i ka male i ka male, akā, i ka hoʻohui ʻia ʻana o nā hana maʻamau, i nā makahiki i hala iho nei ua ʻike mākou i kahi ʻano o "recruit". He poʻe ʻōpio kēia i kā lākou mau makahiki ʻōpio a i ʻole makahiki he ʻumikūmālua paha. ʻO ka “borderline” homose wahine he mea, i loko o ka manaʻo e “pe a i ʻole,” e noho ana ma waena o nā noho ʻelua. ʻO ke koi no ka male i ka hihia i hāʻawi ʻia i kēia mau ʻōlelo e like me Kinsey. ʻO ka hapanui o kēia mau kiaʻi "ʻaʻole i ʻole he mau kāne like ʻole: ko lākou pseudo-modernism a me ka hoʻokolohua kūpono ʻole (kū mai ka manaʻo i kuhi hewa ʻole he" maʻamau a ʻae ʻia e ka ʻepekema ") he hopena kaumaha, e hoʻolalelale iā lākou me nā hewa weliweli a me ka manaʻohewa iho. Ke hoʻomau nei kēia kaumaha ma hope o ka hoʻi ʻana i ka heterosexuality. ʻO ka ʻike pōkole a me ka ʻike maikaʻi ʻole o ka "moʻomeheu statistically incotic" no ka mea hiki ʻole ke hoʻolaha i nā ʻike olakino maʻalahi.

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ʻO ka mea hou a ʻaʻole i palena iki o ka hōʻino o ka mare ʻana i ka mare ʻana o ka wahine he "bisexuals" i ka wahine haki ʻole i ka wahine e kohu ana nā manaʻo i ka wā e ʻike ai ʻaʻole lākou he wahine, akā he uhaʻi ... "Bisexuality" e noho wale nō ma ka wehewehe ʻana i ka wahine he mau kāne. ka mea i paʻa i ke koena o ka heterosexuality, kahi manawa i hiki ai iā ia ke launa me ka launa ʻole o ka moe kolohe, ke hāʻawi aku nei iā ia i nā alibi ponoʻī kūloko. ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi ke hula i ka mare ʻana i nā lā mare ma ka manawa like, ʻoiai ʻo ia ka ʻike nui i ka wahine. Ke kaawale ʻana o nā kumu libidinal ma waena o ka moʻomeheu a me ka heterosexuality, ʻaʻole i noho wale no ka mea he pelekikena kahi hanana male, akā he ʻano pale. ʻO nā mea e kapaʻia nā "bisexuals" he ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo nā kāne like me ka ʻoluʻolu e pili i ka wahine i aloha ʻole ʻia. Ke mare nei ka wahine i ka wahine i kahi wahine ʻole, ʻaʻole like ʻole ka male ʻana o kāna kāne a me ka hōʻino. E hoʻoulu ʻia nā male o ka "bisexuals" e nā kumu a me nā manaʻo naif na ka male e aʻo iā lākou i ka maʻamau. I ka wā ma mua, ʻaʻole pinepine nā mare i mare; ʻO lākou kēia o ka lula.

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I kēia manawa, hakakā ke kaua mauʻenehana koa ma ʻekolu mau kūlana:
Wahine kāne: "He maʻamau mākou a koi ke koi!"
Nā Heterosexual: "He kupua ʻoe a me kou wahi i loko o ka hale paʻahao!"
Nā psychiatrists: "He maʻi nā kānaka kīlohelohe a pono e mālama ʻia."
Ma lalo o ka hopena o nā hōʻike a Kinsey, ua hōʻuluʻulu a mau kāne kāne i ka wiwo ʻole i kēia manawa e koi i ke kūlana no ka hapa. E like me kēlā me kēia manawa lohi, hiki ke hāʻawi ʻia nā hapalua wale nō. I waena o lākou, ʻo ka mea nui:

1. ʻO ka wehe ʻana i ka ʻike i ka male i ka maʻi homotic he maʻi paʻakikī loa a me ka hiki ʻole o ka hemahema kūʻokoʻa iho nei i hoʻopuni i ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa, a ʻaʻole ia ke ala o ke ola.
2. ʻO ka hoʻolaha ʻana i ka ʻike ʻo ke ʻano ʻo ka male he maʻi maʻi maʻi lapaʻau.
3. Ka hana ʻana a me ka mālama ʻana i nā keʻena outpatient no ka mālama ʻana i nā pelekane i loko o nā ʻōpū psychiatric i loaʻa i nā hale mālama nui i limahana ʻia me nā psychiatrists i hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia.

A hiki i kēia manawa, ua hakakā ka hakakā ʻana me ka moekolohe a me ke ʻano kūpono a me nā koikoi kūpono pono. ʻAʻohe o kēia mau ala i hōʻoia i ka maikaʻi. Hoʻomau ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana i nā moekolohe no ka mea, i ka haʻalele ʻana i nā hōʻuluʻulu, hōʻoluʻolu lākou i ko lākou neurotic ka huhū. He waiwai ʻole nā ​​hoʻoweliweli o ka paʻahao: ʻo ka megalomania maʻamau o kahi homosexual e hiki iā ia ke noʻonoʻo pono iā ia iho he mea ʻokoʻa, akā ʻo kona mau subchia masochistic i mea e hoʻonani ʻia ai ka hopena o ka paʻa paʻahao. ʻO ke ala maikaʻi wale nō e pale aku a hōʻole i ka male i ka pelekane ka hoʻolaha ʻana i ka ʻike ākea ʻole ʻaʻohe mea nani i loko o ka hoʻoluhi ʻia ʻana o kahi maʻi i kapa ʻia ʻo ka maʻi homosexuality. ʻO kēia, ma ka nānā mua aku, ka hana moekolohe, hoʻohui pinepine ʻia me ka hōʻino kūloko o ka subconscious, kahi mea i hōʻike ʻia ma waho o ka moekolohe, ʻoiai ke uhi nei i ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa. ʻO ka ʻenemi maoli no kahi kāne like ʻole, ʻaʻole ia he mea hoʻowalewale ʻia ʻo ia, akā, ʻo kona ʻike ʻole hiki ke kōkua ʻia ʻo ia, me kāna masochism noʻonoʻo, ka mea e hōʻalo ai iā ia i ka mālama ʻana. Ua kākoʻo ʻia ʻo ia e kēia naʻaupō e nā alakaʻi hene.

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Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei kahi kāne male kāne ʻo kāna pilikia wale nō ka "ʻano kūpono ʻole" o ke kaiapuni. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia inā waiho wale ʻia ʻo ia a ʻaʻole pono e makaʻu hou i ke kānāwai, ka hoʻokae ʻana i ka lehulehu, ka hoʻoweliweli a i ʻole ka hoʻolaha ʻana, hiki iā ia ke "hauʻoli" e like me kāna heterosexual. ʻO kēia, ʻoiaʻiʻo, he hoʻopunipuni hoʻomaha iā ia iho. ʻAʻole ʻo ka male kāne he "ʻano o ke ola," e like me ka manaʻo o kēia poʻe maʻi, akā he neurotic distortion o ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa. Ke hele nei me ka ʻōlelo ʻole ʻo ka heterosexuality iā ia iho ʻaʻole e hōʻoiaʻiʻo i ke olakino noʻonoʻo - a ma waena o nā heterosexuals he nui nā neurotics. I ka manawa like, aia nā heterosexuals olakino, akā ʻaʻohe kāne kāne olakino. Hoʻopili ʻia ke ʻano pilikino holoʻokoʻa o kahi kāne kāne me ka makemake ʻole e ʻeha. Hoʻopiha ʻia kēia makemake e ka hoʻokumu ʻana iā ia iho i nā pilikia, kahi i hoʻopiʻi maikaʻi ʻia i nā pilikia o waho e kū nei ka kāne kāne. Inā hoʻopau loa ʻia nā pilikia o waho, a ma kekahi mau pōʻai i nā kūlanakauhale nui e hoʻoneʻe maoli ʻia lākou, e noho mau ana ka male kāne i ka maʻi naʻau.

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ʻO 10 wale nō mau makahiki i hala aku nei, ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa i hiki i ka ʻepekema ke hāʻawi aku i ka hoʻolauleʻa ʻana o ka male kāne me kāna "hopena", ʻo ia hoʻi, ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka manaʻo o ka hewa. Ua hōʻike maopopo ʻia ka ʻike psychiatric a me ka noiʻi ʻana i ka hopena i manaʻo ʻia ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻololi ʻia o nā kāne kāne (i kekahi manawa i pili ʻia i nā kūlana biological a me ka hormonal) he ʻoiaʻiʻo he subdivision therapeutically modifiable o neurosis. Ke nalowale nei ka pessimism therapeutic o ka wā i hala: i kēia lā hiki i ka psychotherapy o kahi kuhikuhi psychodynamic ke hoʻōla i ka male kāne.

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Ua hoʻāʻo nā puke a me nā huahana hou e hōʻike i nā kāne i nā kāne i nā mea hōʻoluʻolu ʻole pono ke aloha. He mea kūpono ʻole ka hoʻopiʻi i nā panakima lacrimal: hiki i nā kāne pelekane ke komo i nā kōkua psychiatric a hoʻōla inā makemake lākou. Akā ka nūhou o ka lehulehu ʻike ʻole i kēia pilikia, a me ka hoʻopunipuni o nā kāne i nā manaʻo o ka lehulehu e pili ana iā lākou iho, no laila ua kūloʻi ka poʻe naʻauao maoli nō i hānau i ka lā i hala no lākou.

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“Ma kahi o kanakolu mau makahiki o ka hana, ua hana like au me ka hapa o ka haneli kāne (he kanakolu mau hōʻike ʻē aʻe i uhaʻi ʻia e ka mea maʻi a i ʻole ka haʻalele o ka mea maʻi) a ʻōlelo e pili ana i ʻelima mau haneli. Hoʻokumu i ka ʻike i loaʻa ma kēia ala, hiki iaʻu keʻike wiwo i ka homosexuality he hoʻomaikaʻi maikaʻi loa no ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa psychiatric o ke ala psychodynamic mai kahi hoʻokahi a ʻelua mau makahiki, ʻokoʻa mau he ʻekolu mau pule i ka hebedoma, hāʻawi ʻia e makemake nui i ka mea maʻi e loli. ʻAʻole paʻa nā hopena i manaʻo ʻia ma nā ʻano hoʻololi ʻē aʻe e ka mea i loaʻa i kekahi mau huahana like ʻole.

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ʻAʻohe hōʻole i ka wahine i ka wahine, akā ke holo nei iā lākou. Ma kahi ʻike ʻole ʻia, makaʻu ʻo ia iā lākou. Ua holo ʻo ia mai kahi wahine a hiki i kahi mea hiki loa, e waiho ana no "kekahi ʻāina ʻē" - i ke kāne. ʻO ka hōʻoia o ka kāne ʻo ia e "manaʻo ʻole" ʻo ia i nā wahine he mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka manaʻo makemake. Ke kuhihewa nei, inaina ʻo ia i nā wahine me kahi hoʻowahāwahā compensatory no ka makaʻu masochist. Hōʻike ʻia kēia i kēlā me kēia kūkākūkā hoʻokūkū me ka mea maʻi maʻi maʻi.

ʻO kahi kāne kahi kāne e pili ana i nā kāne he ʻano mālama i ka wahine. ʻO ka piʻi ʻana o ke kāne i ka mea i hoihoi ʻia he lua. Hoʻohui mau ʻia kēia mea hoʻoweliweli me ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻia. Hoʻohālikelike ʻia i ka hoʻowahāwahā e hōʻike ʻia ana e kahi pilikino ma muli o kā lākou moe kolohe, ka inaina a me ka haʻalele ʻole i nā wahine o ka wahine heterosexual wahine koʻikoʻi. Hoʻopau pinepine ʻia nā ʻano holoʻokoʻa o ka "aloha". Nui nā pilina pelekane e pili ana i nā lua, i ka ʻike ʻole i nā māka a me nā ʻauʻau Tureke, kahi ʻike ʻole ʻia ka mea moe. Kēia ʻano maʻamau i hiki ai ke hoʻokō "hoʻopili" e hana ana i ke kipa heterosexual ʻano e like me kahi manaʻo pilikino.

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Hoʻohui pinepine ʻo homosexuality me nā tendop psychopathic. ʻAʻohe mea pili i ka homosexuality me ka psychopathy - ua kū mai ka hui ʻana mai kahi regression waha. Ma ka papa, ka hana psychopathic no ka hoʻonaninani no ka hoʻopaʻi, eia naʻe ma hope o kēia palimpsest palupalu maluhia aia mau mea hoʻohiolo pilikino hiki ʻole ke hūnā i ka māla pseudo-agresi.

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ʻO ka hui pūʻana o ka male i ka pelekane me ka hoʻopunipuni, ka hoʻohui i nā lepa, ka waiʻona, ka hoʻokaʻina o nā lāʻau lapaʻau, ʻo kleptomania kahi hanana maʻamau.

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Ke pīhoihoi nei ka nui o ka hapa nui o nā pilikino psychopathic ma waena o nā kāne. Ma nā huaʻōlelo maʻalahi, ka nui o nā kāne pelekane e halihali i ka stigma o ka maluhia. Ma ka psychoanalysis, ua ʻike ʻia kēia mea haumia o kahi o ka waha o nā hana o nā kāne o nā kāne. Ke hana nei kēia poʻe e hoʻonāukiuki i nā kūlana a lākou e manaʻo ai ka haki ʻole. ʻO kēia manaʻo o ka hewa ʻole, i ʻike ʻia a hoʻomau ʻia ma o kā lākou ʻano ponoʻī, e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka kuleana kūloko e hoʻomau mau i ka huhū a me ka huhū me ko lākou kaiāulu, a e minamina iā lākou iho i ka melechistically. ʻO kēia ka manaʻo makemake ʻole i ka manaʻo ʻole i ka noʻonoʻo, akā e nānā ana ma waho o ka honua i kāhea ʻia nā kāne like ʻole "unreliable" a me ka aloha. ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha loa i ka nui o ka hapa o nā kāne i ʻole ka ʻāwīwī, nā pseudologists, ka lawehala, ka lawehala o nā ʻano ʻano like ʻole, nā mea kūʻai kūloko, nā mea ʻokiʻoki, ʻikepī, nā pimp, nā mea mālama brodel, a me nā mea a pau.

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Lesbianism

ʻO ka ʻano o ke kāne ka wahine i like me ke kāne: he masochistic hiki ʻole ke kūlike me ka makuahine o ka wā kamaliʻi. I ka hana waha o ka hoʻomohala (ʻo ka 1,5 mau makahiki mua o ke ola), kahi lesbian wahine hou e hele ana ma kahi hanana o nā pilikia i hoʻohuli ʻia me ka makuahine, e hōʻole ana i ka holomua o kēia maʻa. ʻO ka manaʻo maoli o ka hakakā lesbiola maʻi ʻo ia ka mea e hoʻākāka ʻole ai i kahi papa pākēneka ʻole ʻekolu: ʻo ka masochistic "hōʻuluʻulu i nā hewa" e uhi ʻia ana e ka pseudo-inaina, kahi i uhi ʻia e ka aloha pseudo no ka mea hoʻohanohano o ke kiʻi infantile o ka makuahine (hiki i ka neurotics ke hiki wale i nā ʻōpū ersatz a me ke ʻano pseudo-lohi!).

ʻO lesbian ka neurotic me ka triad o ka hilahila ʻole ʻole, e alakaʻi ana i kahi mea tragicomic wale nō quiroquo, kahi ʻōlelo hoʻomākeʻaka ma luna o kahi mea nānā naif. ʻO ka mea mua, ʻo ka male wahine, ʻo ka paradoxically, ʻaʻole ia he erotic, akā hoikaika Hoʻopaʻapaʻa: ʻO ke kumu alaina noʻonoʻo ka hopena a me ka hopena ke kūleʻa a hoʻi i ka boomerang ma muli o ka hala, a he lua wale nō libidinized. ^ E Ha yM. ʻO ka lua, ma lalo o ke ʻano o kahi pilina o ka "kāne a me ka wahine", i hoʻopili ʻia e ka neurotically i waena o nā pilina keiki a me ka makuahine. ^ E Ha yM. ʻO ke kolu, hāʻawi ka lesbiism i kahi manaʻo o kahi mea kūlohelohe; ka makapo ke nānā ʻana i hoʻopō ʻia e ko lākou leʻaleʻa ʻike, aʻo ia ma lalo o kahi ʻano maʻi neurosis lapaʻau.

ʻO ka honua o waho, ma kona naʻaupō, ke manaʻo nei i nā wahine wiwo ʻole wahine. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole he mau kāne ʻoi aku ka wahine. Ma ke ʻano, ʻo kahi wahine ʻaneʻane kūkākūkā i ke kiʻi aku i nā kāne i ka lole, ke ʻano a me nā pilina wale nō e hōʻike i ka camouflage e hūnā nei i kāna hakakā maoli. Ke hoʻomohala ʻia e kēia skotoma e ka lesbians, ʻaʻole hiki i ka mea nānā aku ke wehewehe i ka "lesi" lesive a me ka mea ʻole o nā moe kolohe, e hōʻike ana i ke kuhikuhi infantile, e pili pono ana i ka cunnilingus a me ka umauma, a me ka masturbation e dildos e kālele ʻia ana e pili ana i ka clitoris, me ka ʻike ʻole. me kahi nipple.

Ua hōʻike koʻu mau makahiki 30 o koʻu mau ʻoihana ma ka maʻi he ʻelima mau pae. 
1) masochistic aloha no ka makuahine; 
2) veto o ka noʻonoʻo o ka naʻau e pāpā ana i ka "leʻaleʻa mai ka huhū"; 
3) ʻo ka pale mua he pseudo-inaina; 
4) ka hana mau me ka puʻuwai o ka naʻau, e hōʻeuʻeu i kekahi mau manaʻo i ka makuahine; 
5) ʻO ka pale lua he pseudo-aloha.

No laila, ʻaʻole ʻo ka wahine moe aloha i ke aloha he wahine no ka wahine, akā, ke aloha pseudo a ka wahine masochistic nāna i hana i kahi alibi kūloko ʻaʻole ia i maopopo. 
ʻO kēia hana pale i ka moe wahine i wehewehe i ka: 
a. No ke aha e hōʻike ʻia ai nā lesbi e ke ʻano nui me ka lili nui a me ka lili. ʻO ka mea kū i loko, ʻo kēia ʻano lili he ʻoi aku ma mua o kahi kumu no ka masochistic "hōʻiliʻili i nā pono". 
na B. No ke aha ka huhū huhū, i kekahi manawa i hōʻike ʻia i ka hoʻouka kino kino, i hūnā ʻia a hūnā ʻia i nā pilina male like ʻole. ʻO ka papana pseudo-aloha (pae ʻima) he pale wale nō ka uhi pseudo-lohi. 
c hoowela. No ke aha ka hana o nā lesbians i camouflage oedipal (aloha o ka kāne a me ka wahine) - ke kāhea nei i ka pilina masochistic a ka makuahine a me ka keiki, a hoʻowalewale i nā hakakā ma mua o ka nui, a kaumaha loa i ka hewa.
Makahiki No ke aha he mea kūpono ʻole ke manaʻolana i ka pilina kanaka i loko o ka pā o ka moe wahine. Pono ka wahine hōkeo i ka leʻaleʻa ʻana o ka leʻaleʻa maʻamau, no laila ʻaʻole hiki ia ia ke ʻike i ka hauʻoli.

Hoʻākāka pū ka papa inoa lescative narcissistic no ke kumu e kū ʻole ai ka hakakā o ka pēpē me ka makuahine. Ma lalo o ka hoʻomohala maʻamau, ua hoʻonā ʻia ka hakakā me ka makuahine e ka kaikamahine ma o ka wā i hele a: ʻo ka "inaina" kahiko a noho pū me ka makuahine, ua hoʻohuli ʻia ke ʻano o ke "aloha" i ka makuakāne, a ma kahi o ke "keiki-makuahine" (ka hoʻokō mua) kū i kahi kūlana oedipal triangular "keiki-makuahine-makua". Hoʻāʻo ka wahine wahine e hiki mai ana e hana like, a hoʻolei hou ʻia i ka hakakā mua. ʻO ka "solution" oedipal (ʻo ia kahi mahele kuapo a ke keiki e haʻalele ai i ke kaʻina o kona ulu maʻamau) ʻo ia ka hoʻohana ʻana o nā lesbians i ke kāne-wahine (makuakāne-makuahine) e like me ka uhi pale.

Pono e hoʻokaʻawale i waena o nā ʻano ʻelua o ka ʻike ʻole: "alakaʻi" (alakaʻi) a "alakaʻi" (hoʻopunipuni). ʻO ka mea mua e hōʻike i nā makemake paʻa i ke kanaka, i hea ʻia i ka hopena o ka hakakā ʻana o ke kuʻi hānai, a ʻo ka lua e pili ana i ka ʻike ʻana me nā poʻe e koho ʻia e hōʻole ʻia a hōʻole i nā papa o ka manaʻo naʻau i loko o kēia mau makemake neurotic. ʻO ka "alakaʻi" hōʻike hōʻike i kahi ʻano ikaika o nā wahine moe kolohe e pili ana nuku mua makuahine a "alakaʻi" a i ka makuakāne oedipal. Ma ke ʻano passive, hōʻike "alakaʻi" hōʻike i ke keiki, a "alakaʻi" i oedipal makuahine. ʻO nā mea i luna aʻe nei, ʻoiaʻiʻo, kākoʻo ʻia e nā hōʻike hōʻike maʻi.

Eia hou:

E. Bergler: Ka Hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka Polokalamu