Ngochani dzinotanga kusiya "kuzvarwa nenzira iyi" nharo

"Ndiri munzira chaipo, ini ndakazvarwa nenzira iyoyo" - inotivimbisa imwe rwiyo rwakakurumbira. "Ini handigoni kuchinja, kunyangwe ndakaedza, kunyangwe ndaida," - inomutsidzira mumwe.

Iyi mitsara miviri inoratidza pfungwa yekutanga ye "LGBT kufamba", inotaura kuti ungochani chinhu chakajairika, chiri mukati uye chisingachinjike chinoda kunzwisiswa, kukanganwirwa, kugamuchirwa. Vakasvibiswa nenhema dzeLBBT, chikamu chakakosha cheruzhinji chinotenda kuti kune huchapupu hwakawanda hwezvinhu zvipenyu zveungochani, asi kutaura zvazviri, "humbowo" hwakataurwa nevatsigiri inongova zizi rakasunganidzwa pamwechete.

Kupesana nokusanzwisisika kwakapararira mutsika yechivanhu, munharaunda yesainzi hapana muongorori akakosha mumwe angatsunga kutaura kuti awana humbowo hwehupenyu hwekuzvibata kwevanhukadzi. Zvakanyanya kunaka, vamwe vaongorori tendaiyo multifactorial causation yekuita zvepabonde inogona kusanganisira iyo yezvinhu zvipenyu izvo kure kubva ipapoNekudaro, pfungwa yekuti "innate" ungochani haifananidzi ruzivo chairwo rweSainzi, asi mafungiro ezvematongerwo enyika uye runyerekupe rwevanyengeri, asi kwete maererano nepfungwa, chokwadi kana pfungwa yakajairika.

Kukosha kwehunhu kwepfungwa ye "humhare dzechingochani" yakatsanangurwa back in the late 80's by vaviri vaHarvard ngochani avo vakagadzira maitiro eungochani.

"Veruzhinji vanofanirwa kuve nekugutsikana kuti ngochani vanobatwa nemamiriro ezvinhu, uye kuti ivo vanosarudza kuita kwavo zvebonde zvisingaite ivo pavanosarudza kureba kwavo kana ruvara rweganda ... Pachena vachiona kuti ungochani hunogona kuve sarudzo, tinovhura bhokisi raPandora nerunyoro" sarudzo netsika "Uye ipa vavengi vedu chirauro chekurova ... Kune zvese zvinoshanda, ngochani dzinofanirwa kutorwa sekunge vakazvarwa nenzira iyoyo ... uye sezvo vasina sarudzo, ungochani huchatsiurwa zvekare kupfuura ungochani .⁽²⁾

Pfungwa yekuti kukwezva ngochani yakakonzerwa nebiology yakatanga muzana rino ⅩⅨ, asi ikozvino, zana nemakumi mairi, kunyangwe nekuyedza kwekuedza kwevechingochani kuwana nzvimbo yesainzi kwairi, haichisiri chinhu chinopfuura fungidziro yemvura uye kurota kwebhuruu kwevanhu vane zvakatsveyamiswa. kupindwa muropa. Iyo inorova kuti inokodzera sei 1916 chinyorwa chegore:

“Iko zvino kwakakurumbira kumiririra mamiriro avo sekuzvarwa uye nekudaro kusazo shanduka kana pesvedzera; vese vanozvitora sevanyowani uye vangafara kuwana rutsigiro rwesainzi kuti varegedze pfungwa nemazano avo anoona. ”

Sezvatinoona, kubva panguva yekuburitswa kwechinyorwa kusvika nhasi, izwi rekuti "invert" rakatsiviwa neshoko rekuti "ngochani", asi zvimwe zvese zvakaramba zvisina kuchinjika.

Zvidzidzo zvichidzidza concordance yemapatya (kuvepo kwechimwe maitiro mune zvese) zvakaratidza zvisina kufanira kuti ungochani haugone kukonzerwa nebiology. Bumbiro remakemikari remapatya akafanana rakatarisana ne100%; iwo masikirwo echisikigo, avo maDVD kopi emumwe neumwe, asi panguva imwecheteyo concordance yavo yekukwezva ungochani ndeimwe yepasi pakati pezvose maitiro maitiro: 7% mune varume uye 5% mune vakadzi. Kuenzanisa, heterochombwe concordance ndeimwe yepamusoro pakati pehunhu hwese hunhu uye inosvika ku94% .. Mamwe mabasa anopa zvikamu zvakafanana, uye data kubva kuzvidzidzo zvekare inoratidza yakakwirira concordance inozivikanwa nemhedzisiro semugumisiro weyenzaniso yakasarudzika yakanyoreswa kubudikidza neshambadziro muiyo ungochani. Mumashoko akareruka, kana mumwe wemapatya ari ngochani, ipapo mapatya echipiri, sekutonga, haasi.

Kuongororwa kwemeta kwese kwakakodzera zvidzidzo zvakaburitswa nemasayendisiti anotungamira kubva kuJohns Hopkins Research University mu2016 yakagumisa kuti:

"Kunzwisisa hukama hwepabonde senge chinhu chakazvarwa, chakatsanangurwa uye zvakasarudzika hunhu - pfungwa yekuti vanhu" vanozvarwa nenzira iyoyo "- havawani chitsidzo musainzi."⁽⁵⁾

Kudzivirira kupomerana kwe “kupokana” uye “kusarudzika” kwakanangana nevatsinhanisi vanoverenga zvinyoronyoro chero munhu anofarira kutaura chero chinhu kunze kwekunge achirumbidza zvinonakidza nezvenharaunda yeLBBT nemafungiro ayo, ngatitaurei kuti yevanyori venyaya iyi, Dr. Lawrence Meyer, vakaita senge nyanzvi mune dzinoverengeka dzemiedzo yenyika nematare edzimhosva, kusanganisira kudivi reva LGBT.

Zvinofanira kucherechedzwa kuti havasi vese ngochani mubato redzidzo vaive vakagadzirira kupira basa resainzi mukufarira bato rezvematongerwo enyika revatsigiri. Purofesa Camilla Paglia kumashure mu1994 akanyora"hapana anozvarwa ari ngochani uye zano pacharo rakapusa ”.⁽⁶⁾

Muzvinafundo Edward Stein, asingavanzi zvavanoda zveungochani, anotenda kuti dzidziso yeiyo "ngochani" inokuvadza pane kunaka uye anokurudzira mapoka eungochani kuisiya uye kuitisa ongororo yesainzi, nekuti vanogona kutsigira kuti ungochani hunhu.

"Kubatanidza kodzero dzevanhu neimwe nzira yefungidziro yesainzi, ichiri kungopomedzerwa, kune njodzi." Chandinotya ndechekuti nekukurudzira kutsvakwa munzvimbo ino nekuda kwezvematongerwo enyika, tichazotungamira pakurapwa zvakare. "

Muongorori wezvepabonde Lisa Lisa, anoremekedzeka nhengo yeAPA, anokurudzirawo vanoita zveungochani kuti vasiye kupararira kwengano ye "innate":

"Iwo maLBBT mapoka ane mamiriro uye haana revo. Ivo vanoratidza iwo mafungiro aripo mutsika medu, asi usamiririre zviitiko zvinowanikwa mune zvakasikwa. Nharaunda yeQueer inofanira kumira kuti: "tibatsirei, isu takazvarwa nenzira iyoyo uye hatigone kuchinja" seyambiro yenhau yepamutemo. Iyi nharo ichangotipikisa, sezvo humbowo hwakakwana hwakaunganidzwa, izvo vatipikisi vedu havazivi chakatonyanya kupfuura isu. "Kusiyana kunoitika muhunhu hwebonde revanhu."

“Kusangana pabonde hakuna mvura. Yasvika nguva yekusiya "vakazvarwa nenzira iyi" nharo kumashure. Kodzero dzengochani hadzifanirwe kuenderana nekuti munhu akazova ngochani sei, uye tinofanira kubvuma kuti bonde rinogona kuchinja.

Diamondi inotaura zvikonzero zvikuru zvitatu zvekusiya nzira iyi yekufunga:

1) Nhaurwa "Isu takazvarwa nenzira iyi uye hatigoni kuchinja" haina kuvimbika mune zvesayenzi.
2) Muchiedza chemasarudzo emutemo apfuura, kupokana uku hakusisiri kudikanwa.
3) Iyi nharo haina kunaka nekuti inosarura mapoka akasiyana-siyana munharaunda yeBBBT.

Martin Duberman, muvambi weLBBT Research Center (CLAGS), akabvuma nokutendeka kuti:

"Hapana kana rimwe chete bhuku resainzi rakaratidza kuti vanhu vanozvarwa vari ngochani kana zvakananga."

Esther Newton, anozivikanwa nekutsvagira basa rekuita ungochani muAmerica, akati zano rekusangana pabonde "rakapusa."

"Chero anthropologist anoita basa rekudyidzana anoziva kuti izvi hazvigoneke, nekuti zvepabonde zvinoumbwa zvakasiyana mutsika dzakasiyana .. Uchapupu hwese, kunyangwe hwakamira sei, hunoratidza zvinopesana."

Kunyangwe iyo American Psychological Association, iri pasi peiyo kuedza kwakasununguka kwekuita ungochani pasirese yenyika, yakamanikidzwa kuziva kushayikwa kwekubvumirana munharaunda yesainzi uye kukundikana kwekutsvaga:

"Hapana kubvumirana pakati pevasayendisiti nezvezvikonzero chaizvo zvekuumbwa kwehukama, murume kana murume kana murume. Kunyangwe ongororo zhinji dzaongorora hutachiona hunogona kuitika, hushamwari, hukama hwemagariro, uye hutsika maererano nehukombwe, hapana humbowo hwakawanikwa hwekubvumidza masayendisiti kugumisa kuti kurara kwevanhu kunoonekwa nechero chinhu kana zvinhu. Vazhinji vanotenda kuti zvisikwa uye kurerwa pamwe zvinotamba chikamu chakaoma mune izvi. Vanhu vazhinji vanonzwa kusarudzika (kana kushayikwa kwayo) nezvekuita kwavo zvepabonde. "

Teerera kushoko "Sension" mune ino Quote. Iko kunzwa kwekushayikwa kwesarudzo kunoreva chokwadi chekuti sarudzo yakaitwa isingazive, uye kwete kune chokwadi chekuti yakanga isizvo. Kune izvi, zvakajeka, inoratidza uye American College yeVanachiremba:

"Kunyangwe kukwezva ngochani kungave kusiri sarudzo yekuziva, zvine mukana kuchinja mune vanhu vazhinji."

Asi kunyangwe hazvo paine chokwadi, pfungwa uye zvakajairika, izwi rekuti "akaberekwa", akasarudzika kusvotwa, rinoramba riri musimboti wezvematongerwo enyika we "LGBT kufamba" nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakati. Chekutanga, zvakaonekwa kuti vanhu vanotenda kuti ngochani vanozvarwa nenzira iyoyo, kunze kwetsitsi, vanovaratidza kushivirira; kechipiri, kukwikwidza kwe "kushaya sarudzo" uye "kusava netariro" kunokubvumira kuti ubudirire kuratidza kutsoropodzwa kwevanopikisa, uchivaratidza sevanotyisa misanthropists; Yetatu, iyi yambiro yakanakira inopa ngochani ivo pachavo nekusunungurwa kunosunungura kubva kune mhosva uye nemabasa kune avo ekuzvikuvadza maitiro.

Pnguva imwechete, munyika idzo uko ungochani, kana yagamuchira kuzivikanwa kwemutemo, yakadzika midzi mukuora kwetsika dzakaora munharaunda, iyo ngano ye "innate" inotanga kupa nzira kune zvirevo zvehunhu hwakapesana zvachose. Kunyangwe pro-gay gwara The Guardian, mavhiki maviri mushure mekumanikidzwa kwepamutemo kwevakaroora kana vakadzi muUnited States yose, akaburitsa chinyorwa achipikisa kuti chirevo "chezvematongerwo enyika" chakazvarwa nenzira iyi "hachienderane nesainzi:

"Kutaura nezvebonde redu, hazvitomboitika kuti isu" takazvarwa takadaro. " Kunyangwe hazvo biology pachena ichitora chikamu, mamiriro ezvinhu munharaunda ndizvo zvinoita izvo zvinovaka zvishuwo zvebonde zvakanyanya. Aya mamiriro emagariro, sevamwe chero, anogona kukurirwa kana uchida. Kana tichida kuita izvi, saka todii? ”⁽¹²⁾

Vamwe varume ngochani vanobvuma pachena kuti "gay geni" yaive fananidzo yenzvimbo yevanofarira ungochani:

Mufananidzo unonzwisa tsitsi we "gay akabatwa" wakashata, unofanirwa pakutanga pamushandirapamwe, unobva usisafanira uye unototadzisa mumwe kuratidza zvizere ne "kudada kwake". Zvino pfungwa yekuti kudzikisa ungochani kuti ave nechisikwa chisikwa chesimba musimba rose rezvisarudzo zvekusikwa kwake kuri kuita fashoni, kunyadzisa kukudzwa kwake. “Ehe, isu hatiberekwe nenzira iyoyo. Ehe, takaita sarudzo. Saka chii? Kodzero dzedu hadzifanirwe kuvimba neizvi. Isu hatidi kuenzana kwete nekuti hapana chatinokwanisa kuita isu pachedu, asi nekuti isu vanhu uye vagari, "ndizvo zvinorehwa neWorld Press.

Mutori wenhau Brandon Ambrosino muchinyorwa "Ini handina kuberekwa nenzira iyoyo, ini ndinosarudza kuve ngochani"Inonyora zvinotevera:

"Yakwana nguva yenharaunda yeNBBT kurega kutya izwi rekuti" sarudzo "uye kudzoreredza hunhu hwekuzvitonga pabonde. Kuvengwa kweshoko iri munharaunda yedu kunobva mukutenda kuti pasina kufungidzira kwekubereka, hatizovi nechikonzero chekuda kuenzana. Ini handione chikonzero chekutenda kuti tsika chete dzebonde dzinofanirwa kuchengetedzwa ndidzo dzisingagoni kudzorwa. Mushure mezvose, hakusi kushandurudza kwakasimudzirwa nekutenda kwekuti hurumende inochengetedza mumwe nemumwe wedu, zvisinei nesarudzo dzebonde? Haisi kudzivirirwa kwakapusa kunobva pane imwecheteyo tsika yekuzvitonga pabonde?

Mukutsvaga kwedu kuita kodzero dze ngochani kodzero itsva dzevatema, takasarudza kuti hukama hwepabonde hwakafanana nerudzi rweganda. Handifungi kuti ichi ichokwadi. Pachine kutaura, ndakagutsa varume vanoverengeka kuti vaedze humhandara hwangu, asi ini handina kumbobvira ndaedza ganda ravo.

Nhauro yekuti hukama hwedu hwepabonde hwakarongedzwa nenzira imwecheteyo nhangemutange inogona kunge yakasimbisa rhetoric yedu makore mashoma apfuura, asi isu ikozvino tinoda nharo dzakadai? MuAmerica, isu tine rusununguko rwekuva, uye rusununguko rwekusarudza. Ini nevamwe vahosi tinobvuma pachena kuti, kuwedzera kune genetic code, pane zvimwe zvinhu zvinoumba hukama hwedu hwepabonde. Pese pandinogamuchirwa chete nekuda kwekuti genetic code yangu inondinyima, ndinonzwa kunyadziswa pane kupiwa kodzero. "

Zviratidze paInternet forums, zvinyorwa uye сайты LGBT ine meseji yakaita seiyi:

"Isu senharaunda yevanhu vakaneta nenyaya" hapana chingaitwe nezvazvo "," vanozvarwa vakadaro "," hapana anosarudza kuve LGBT ". "Tinotenda kuti sarudzo inogona kuitika, uye tine kodzero yekuita sarudzo."

Pnguva imwechete, hazvisi zvekusarudza kuziva kwako-kurara kwekunakidzwa, asi nezve kusarudza chisarudzo chaicho.

Chinyorwa mukati lesbo-feminist magazini inoti:

"Ehe, uku ndiko kusarudza, asi neimwe nzira?" Isu tinosarudza pamusoro pezvese zvimwe zvinhu muhupenyu hwedu - kwekugara, zvekudya, zvekupfeka, asi zvisingakwanise kusarudza kuti ndiani wauchada. Chokwadi tinozviita. Nechisikirwo, pane chimwe chinhu chakaberekerwa chebonde, asi chinogumirwa neicho chishuwo chebonde. Nzara ndeyemweya, asi kuigutsa nemashokoreti isarudzo.
Kunyangwe vamwe vanhu vachifunga kuti ivo vakaberekwa nenzira iyoyo nekuti havazozvirangarira ivo pachavo, hazvireve kuti ichokwadi. Ini handirambe kunzwa kwevanhu, asi ini ndinofunga kuti nzira iyo vanhu vanodudzira nayo manzwiro avo inogona kuve isiriyo chokwadi. Kupfuura zvese, nei isu tichifunga kuti munhu anonzwisisa chimiro chake chesaini zviri nani kupfuura sainzi?
Ini handibvumirane nekukura kwekutenderedza kwekuti kune vamwe ndeyekuzvarwa, asi kune vamwe hakuna. Uye handioni chero humbowo hunogutsa kana tsananguro inonzwisisika yekuti izvi ndezvese munhu wese; Ini ndinoona chete izvo vamwe vanhu vanonzwa kuti vanoziva chikonzero chavo.
Ungochani dzinoda kuita ngochani nekuti vanoda chimwe chinhu nezveungochani kupfuura ungochani. "

Kutenda uku kunogovaniswa nemunyori wenyaya iri muchinyorwa Atlantic, iye, anodaro, akaita sarudzo ine hunyanzvi mukufarira hukama hwevane-bonde:

"Kutungamira mararamiro eungochani dzimwe nguva kwakaoma: kureurura kwakaoma kumhuri, kutuka nekutyisidzira mumugwagwa, uye mafirimu echirume akawanda anotyisa. Dai zvaitsamira patiri, tingadai tisina here kurega kushushwa uye rusarura? Zvinoitika kuti havasi vese veduwe. Vamwe vakaziva kuti kunyangwe hazvo zvakanetsa, kudanana uye kusatenderwa nemhuri, ungochani hunoshamisa. ”

Actress Cynthia Nixon mu indavhiyu yeThe New York Times magazini yakataura zvakanyanyisa kuti kwaari, ungochani chisarudzo.

"Ini ndinonzwisisa kuti kune vakawanda izvi hazvina kudaro, asi kwandiri iri sarudzo, uye hapana munhu anogona kundisarudzira ungochani kwandiri." Chimwe chikamu munharaunda yedu chinotenda kuti izvi hazvigone kutorwa senge sarudzo, nekuti kana iri sarudzo, ipapo inogona kusiiwa. Zvichida izvi zvinopa vanofunga nezvekupokana zvavanoda, asi handifunge kuti ivo ndivo vanofanira kuona mamiriro enhauro. "

Muna 2020, izvi "zvinofambira mberi" zvimiro zvine hunhu kunonoka zvakamhanyira kumipendero yedu:

Mienzaniso yakadaro ingadai yakarongedzwa kwenguva yakareba, asi pamwe pfungwa yacho iri pachena: ungochani hauna kuberekwa, ngochani dzinofa. Kana chero humwe hunhu hwekubereka hukawanikwa, nerubatsiro rwekuti ndeupi angagona kusarudza zvido zvemunhukadzi - jini, chimiro cheuropi, kureba kwemunwe, nezvimwe - izvi zvinoita kuti zvikwanise kuziva vanhu vakadai munguva yehupenyu kana kunyangwe vasati vazvarwa uye kunyange. kana zvichikwanisika, ita kurapwa kwekurapa nekubvisa zvakakonzera. Fungidzira kuti kuwanikwa uku kungarevei munyika idzo Sharia mutemo ...

Asi ngochani, rombo rakanaka kwavari, havana zviratidzo zvimisikidzo zvekuzvisiyanisa nevanochata.

Ungochani inzira inowanikwa yepfungwa nemaitiro, kwete kufanorongerwa. Kana kukwezva kwevangochani kwakapihwa nemasikirwo, saka ngochani dzaizozvarwa dziine akakodzera maatomical maficha (semuenzaniso, yakasimbiswa rectal epithelium, lubricating glands, nezvimwewo), zvichivabvumira kuita "zvavakazvarwa" zvido pasina mhedzisiro inosuruvarisa. Nekudaro, zviito zveungochani zvinopesana nemajini uye physiology yemunhu uye nekukurumidza kana gare gare zvinopera mukukundikana.

Inotaurira aichimbochani:

"Paive nekuenderera mberi kwekurwa pakati pekuumbwa kwemuviri wangu nezvandaida kuita nazvo. Ndainzwisisa kuti ndanga ndarasikirwa, asi zvakadaro, ini ndaigara ndichiwana nyaradzo kushamwari dzaive nematambudziko akafanana uye mukufara pamwe chete kwevechingochani kutamba vachitamba kuburikidza nenhamo dzose uye hurwere. Anenge makore 20 mushure mekugumiswa kwehunhu hwakadai, iyo yakaipa kwazvo ndeyekuti dzimwe nguva ndinofanira kupfeka diapura. Iye mukomana aida kuzova murume akatsiga panguva yehucheche. Kurara nevarume hakuna kumushandura kuva murume, asi kungoparadza muviri wake.

Ndakadonhera mumugero, ndichirutsa ropa, uye pfupa rakangoerekana raitika mudumbu mangu ndichimanikidza koni yangu kuburitsa zvirimo. Ndakabata mbatya dzangu dzemukati - ndaibuda ropa kubva mukati. Hupenyu hwangu hwakabuda kubva kumativi maviri. Kwandakafunga kuti kune musuwo wekusimudzirwa, ndakagogodza nzira inopinda kurufu ...

Chikamu chetsanga yangu chakabviswa nekuda kwekukuvara kwemukati kwemukati. Semunhu akabatwa musungwa weMarquis de Sade, sphincter yangu yakasonwa ne tambo yakakora. Ndakapihwa runyorwa rurefu rwemamollients uye laxatives kuti iite kugona kwebvudzi kuburikidza neakanakisa gomba rakamanikana. Nzira dzekuchengera hadzina kushanda, uye ini ndakabvarura seams. Kuti ndimise kubuda ropa, ndakaisa tauro mune zvipfupi zvangu ndokunanga kuimba yekukurumidzira ...

Zvishoma nezvishoma muviri wangu waive uchipora, asi zvakadaro, ndakaramba ndichizvisvibisa. Kumwe kuvhiya kuchazotevera, kwozotevera mumwe ... Makore gare gare, ini ndinoramba ndichitambura nekusagadzikana kwechikamu. Kunyangwe paine kusagadzikana, kurwadza pano neapo uye kunyara, ndinozviona ndakakomborerwa nekuti ndakakwanisa kupukunyuka kubva kune ungochani ndisina kukuvara kana ndichienzaniswa neshamwari dzangu zhinji. ”

Verenga zvakawanda nezvemhedzisiro yeungochani mune izvo zvinyorwa. Ungochani: ongororo yehutano hutano и Pfungwa uye hwepanyama hutano hwevanhu LGBT