Chiremba wepfungwa akasarudzika wezana ramakore rechimakumi maviri, MD Edmund Bergler akanyora mabhuku e25 pane zvepfungwa uye 273 zvinyorwa mukutungamira mapepa eunyanzvi. Mabhuku ake anofukidza nyaya dzakadai sekukura kwemwana, neurosis, matambudziko epamoyo, matambudziko emuchato, kubhejera, kuzvikuvadza, uye ungochani. Izvi zvinotevera zvikamu zvebhuku “Ungochani: chirwere kana mararamiro?»

Kweanoda kusvika makore makumi matatu ikozvino ndanga ndichibata ngochani, ndichipedza maawa akawanda navo panguva yekuongorora kwavo. Ndinogona kutaura zvine musoro kuti handina rusaruro rwechingochani; kwandiri ivo varwere vanhu vanoda kurapwa. Ini ndakave nekurapa kwakawanda kwakabudirira navo, kumwe kutadza uye zvimwe zvinoodza moyo. Ndine chikwereti chavo nemukana wekudzidza chimiro chavo chepfungwa, pamwe neiyo genisis uye kutadza kwechirwere chavo. Kazhinji, ini handina chikonzero chekunyunyuta nezveungochani.

Nekudaro, kunyangwe ini ndisina kusarura kana ndikabvunzwa kuti ngochani chii, ndingati ngochani vanhu vanoto fadza vanhu, zvisinei nehunhu hwavo hwekunze kana husina kunaka. Hongu, ivo havana mhaka nekuda kwekusagadzikana kwavo kusaziva, asi idzi nyonganiso dzinotora simba ravo remukati zvekuti igoko ravo rekunze musanganiswa wekuzvitutumadza, kushungurudza nekutsamwa. Kufanana nevose vanoita zvemidzimu, ivo vanochera kana vasangana nemunhu akasimba, uye kana vogashira simba, vanova vasina hutsinye, vanotsika-tsika munhu asina simba pasina iko kudemba kudiki. Mutauro chete unonzwisiswa nevasina kuziva isimba rakasimba. Chinonyanya kukatyamadza ndechekuti hauwanzo kuwana chinhu chakasimba (icho chinowanzonzi "munhu chaiye") pakati pavo.

Sezvo ndisinganzwisise nezvekufunga kwangu, ndakagara ndakavatarisa nevarwere vakauchirwa, ndichivakumbira kuti vapfupise mafungiro avo nezveungochani makore mashoma apora. Iko kutaridzika kweavo vaaimbobatana navo vachiratidzwa nevarume vanoita zvekurapa kwaive kushoropodza kunouraya, kana tichienzanisa nekumwe kuongorora kwangu kwakanzwika sekutaura kwemucheche.

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Munhu ngochani anozadzwa nemusanganiswa wezvinhu zvinotevera zvinhu:

1. Masochistic kutsamwisa uye kuunganidza kusarongeka.
2. Dziviriro yakaipa.
3. Frivolity inovhara kushungurudzika uye mhosva.
4. Hypernarcissism uye hyperarrogance.
5. Kuramba kugamuchira zvimiro zvakagamuchirwa mune zvisiri zvepabonde pasi pekunyepedzera kuti kodzero yekucheka makona ehutsika yakakonzerwa neungochani semubhadharo we "kutambudzika" kwavo.
6. Kusagadzikana kwakawanda, zvakare kweakawanda kana kushoma psychopathic chimiro.

Chinhu chinonyanya kufadza cheiyi sextet yehunhu kugona kwayo. Zvisinei nehungwaru, tsika, mabviro kana dzidzo, ngochani dzese dzinayo.

JOURNEY GATHER

Wese murume ngochani muvaki anounganidza kusaruramisira uye saka psycho-masochist. A psychic masochist mutsinga iyo, kuburikidza nekusafunga kwake kusimuka, inogadzira mamiriro maanogona kurohwa, kunyadziswa uye kurambwa.

KUPONESA KUSINA KUKOSHESA, ZVINOKOSHA KUTAMBUDZIRA PAKUTSVA

Ungochani chaihwo unogara wakatarisa. "Kubhururuka" kwake (izwi rengochani rekutsvagira maminetsi maviri kana, zvakangoita, kwenguva pfupi) kwakawedzera kudarika murume nemurume vanoita zvehusiku. Zvinoenderana neungochani, izvi zvinoratidza kuti vanoshuvira kusiyana-siyana uye vane zvishuwo zvepabonde zvisingaguti. Muchokwadi, izvi zvinongoratidzira kuti ungochani idya uye husina kugutsa chikafu chebonde. Izvi zvinoratidzawo kuvapo kwechishuwo chekungovirira chishuvo chengozi: nguva dzese muhupfumi hwake ungochani ari panjodzi yekurova, kuedza kupinza, kana chirwere chepfu.

UNSUPPORTED MEGALOMANIC CONVINCION MUKUSHANDISA KWEHOMOSEXUALISTS uye MUMUSANGANO WEHOMOSEXUAL TRENDS

Maonero megalomaniac ehupenyu chimwewo chiratidzo chechikadzi ungochani. Iye anonyatso kugutsikana nezvekukwirira kwerudzi rwake pamusoro pevamwe vese, uye kazhinji anotsigira ichi chitendero nemisoro isina kunzwisisa yemienzaniso. Panguva imwecheteyo, iye ane chokwadi chekuti "Pasi pasi, munhu wese ane imwe mhando yehunhu hwechingochani".

YEMukati YEMAHARA KUTI UYE KUTI UYE KUTAMBIRA VHIKI

Zvimwe, kunyengera kunotsiva ukuru hwengochani hakutadzisi kuora mwoyo kwakadzama kwemukati. Zvakafanana naNapoleonic “kukwenya muRussia uye uchawana muTatar,” mumwe anogona kuti: “kwenya ngochani uye uchawana anoora mwoyo mundangariro.” Dzimwe nguva kunakidzwa kwe "ngochani" [kureva kuti "ngochani"] - izwi rekuti ngochani vanozvishandisa pachezvavo - ndeyekunyepedzera kwekunyepedzera. Iyi inzira yekudzivirira kubva kumasochistic depression. Imwe nzira yakadaro ndeyehasha dzakanyanyisa uye dzisingadzoreki dzengochani, iyo inogara yakagadzirira kushandiswa. Kutsamwa uku kwakafanana nehutsinye hwemanyepo hunotsanangurwa mutafura:

WINI YEMukati YEKUTI KUSVIRA KUSUKWA

Pasina mutsauko, mhosva yakadzika yemukati inokonzerwa nekutsveyama iripo mungochani dzese. Iyi imhosva yakabviswa ine chekuita nemasochistic substructure. Mhosva, ingave yakabvumwa kana kurambwa (kazhinji inorambwa), chikamu chakakosha chechimiro cheungochani. "Kuunganidza" mhosva iyi uye kuidzosera kunzvimbo yayo inoshanda senzira yekuchinja kwekurapa mukurapa kwepfungwa. Pano zvakakosha kusiyanisa pakati pekukanganisa mupfungwa yepfungwa uye iyo yakakurumbira: iyo yekupedzisira inosanganisira chirevo chetsika, nepo kukanganiswa kwepfungwa kunoreva bonde recheche, rinoitika mumunhu mukuru, uye rinotungamirira kune orgasm. Muchidimbu - chirwere.

IRRATIONAL REALITY

Ngochani dzinoratidzira huwandu husinganzwisisike uye hwechisimba janje iro risina fananidzo mune hukama hwehukama. Kunyangwe mune zvisingawanzoitika zvehukama hwehukama hwehukama, pane kuputika kwegodo nguva dzose. Iri godo rekunyepedzera rinopfekedza zvakadzama zvakadzvinyirirwa: zvinoonekwa senge pane godo pamusoro, chiitiko chekuunganidza kusarongeka. Izvi zvinonyanya kuve pachena mune zviitiko apo mumwe mushambadzi akajeka anosarudzwa uye kuvimbika kunotarisirwa kubva kwaari.

"KUSVIKIRA" SEZVINODZIDZWA NEPSYCHOPATHIC TRENDS

Kusagadzikana, kubva pamakaka kuenda kune yakataurwa psychopathic maitiro, ndiwo mutemo, uye kwete mutsauko pakati peungochani. Kugara mumamiriro ekunze ekugwinyira, vanoshandisa zvinyadzo zvipfupi, zvimedu uye zvakasangana. Dzimwe nguva nzira dzayo dzekumanikidza dzinoita senge dzakweretwa kubva mudzvinyiriri-tsotsi nharaunda. Conscious rationalization iri nyore: "Ini ndakatambura zvakanyanya - ndinogona."

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Nhasi, dambudziko roungochani rakanyanya kupfuura makore gumi apfuura. Kutsauka kwave kuita kwakawanda nekuda kwekugadzirwa kwekugadzira kwekutora patsva nekuda kwekuparadzirwa kwehumwe huwandu hwenhoroondo. Humwe hunhu hunhu hwagara hwakakwezvwa neungochani, zvisinei, mukuwedzera kune zvakajairwa, mumakore achangopfuura takaona mhando nyowani ye "vanodzidziswa". Ava vanhu vadiki vava kuda kusvitsa makore makumi maviri kana makumi maviri ekutanga - "muganho" ngochani avo, mune chisarudzo chekuva "kuva kana kusava," vanogara pakati pemachira maviri. Iko kukurudzira kweungochani munyaya iyi kunopihwa nezvirevo zvakadai seKinsey. Vazhinji vea "varindi vemuganho" havazi ngochani chaidzo: kwavo kwekunyepedzera uye kuedza kwakashata (kunobva mukufunga kwakashata kuti ungochani "hwakajairwa uye hunobvumidzwa nesainzi") vane mhedzisiro inosuwisa, vachiremerwa nemhosva inovadza uye kusava nechokwadi. Uyu mutoro unoramba uchienderera kunyange mushure mekudzoka kuhuchingochani. Kuona kunosiririsa uye kusiririsa kwekuona "ngochani.". Kunokonzerwa nekutadza kuparadzira chokwadi chekurapa.

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Chinhu chitsva uye chisina kukwana chekupinda munjodzi dzewanano yaive yekuroora kweanodaidzwa kunzi "bisex zvinyorwa" kune vakadzi vasingatarisi avo vakapererwa nemanhede pavakaziva kuti ivo havasi vakadzi, asi chidzitiro ... "Kufararira" kunowanikwa senge kutsanangudza kwakanakira kweungochani, uyo akachengeta mashenji akareruka eupombwe, ayo kwenguva yakati amuita kugona kwepabonde, achimupa zvakafanira zvemukati alibi. Hakuna munhu anogona kutamba pamichato miviri panguva imwe chete, kunyange nehunyanzvi chaizvo ngochani. Kugoverwa kwakaenzana kwezvinangwa zvepakati pakati peungochani uye ungochani hazvipo nekuti hungochani hahusi kuita kwepabonde, asi nzira yekudzivirira. Ivo vanonzi "bisexinyorwa" vari pachokwadi ngochani nekudyidzana kushoma kwe potency kune vakadzi vasingadi. Kana ngochani wekudaira uku akaroora mukadzi asingatarisirwe, kutsamwiswa kwemurume wake hakugone uye kwakaipa. Michato ye “bisexuals” inokurudzirwa nezvinokonzeresa munharaunda kana kutenda kwekunyepedzera kuti roorano ichavadzidzisa tsika. Pakutanga, michato yakadaro yakanga isingawanzo; ivo vachiri kutonga.

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Parizvino, hondo dzeungochani dzinorwiwa pamatanhatu:
Ngochani: "Isu takajairwa uye tinoda kuzivikanwa!"
Hender ngochani: "Imi makatsauka uye nenzvimbo yenyu mutorongo!"
Varapi vepfungwa: "ngochani vanhu vanorwara uye vanofanirwa kurapwa."
Vachitungamirwa nemishumo yeKinsey, ngochani dzakaunganidza hushingi zvino chaizvo zvinoda chimiro chevashoma. Sezvenguva ipi neipi yeshanduko, hafu chete mitanho inogona kupihwa. Pakati pavo, inonyanya kukosha ndeiyi:

1. Kuparadzirwa kwezivo kuti ungochani chirwere chemhirizhonga mune iyo inonyanya kuomarara uye isingadzivisiki nzira yekuzvikuvadza inokanganisa hunhu hwese, uye kuti haisi nzira yehupenyu.
2. Kuparadzira ruzivo rwekuti ungochani chirwere chinorapika.
3. Kusikwa nekuchengetedzwa kwemadhipatimendi ekunze ekurapa kwevanhurume mukati menzvimbo dziripo dzezvirwere zvepfungwa muzvipatara zvakakura zvine vashandi vepfungwa vakadzidziswa pfungwa.

Kusvika parizvino, kurwa neungochani kwave kurwiswa kuburikidza nevavariro dzakanaka uye zvine hungwaru zvetsika nharo uye zvakaenzana zvirambidzo zviri pamutemo. Hapana imwe yenzira idzi yakaratidza kushanda. Nharo dzehunhu dzinopambadzwa pane ngochani nekuti, nekuregeredza magungano, vanogutsa utsinye hwavo. Kutyisidzira kwekuisungwa hakuna zvakunobatsira: zvakajairika megalomania yeungochani inomubvumidza kuti azvifunge semusiyano, nepo maitiro ake asiri echikuru anoita kuti njodzi yekusungwa iwedzere kunaka. Nzira chete inoshanda yekurwisa uye kurwisa ungochani kuparadzira zvakazara ruzivo kuti hapana chakanakisa pakutambura chirwere chinozivikanwa seungochani. Uku, pakutanga kutarisa, kusangana pabonde, kusangana nguva dzose nekusangana kwakakura kuzviuraya, izvo zvinoratidzira zvisingaoneki kunze kwechikamu chebonde, sezvo ichifukidza hunhu hwese. Muvengi chaiye weungochani haazi tsananguro yake, asi kusaziva kwake kuti anogona kubatsirwa, pamwe nemeso ake epfungwa, ayo anoita kuti arege kurapwa. Uku kusaziva kunotsigirwa neupenzi nevatungamiriri veungochani.

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Ngochani yomunhurume upi noupi inodavira kuti chinetso chake bedzi i“chimiro chisina kururama” chemhoteredzo. Anoti kana akasiiwa ari ega uye asingachafaniri kutya mutemo, kusarudzika munharaunda, kupambwa kana kuratidzwa, anogona kunge "anofara" sekusiyana kwake nevarume. Izvi, zvechokwadi, kuzvinyaradza kwekunyepedzera. Ungochani hausi "mararamiro," sezvinotenda vanhu vanorwara ava zvisina musoro, asi kukanganisa kweunhu hwese. Izvo zvinoenda pasina kutaura kuti heterosexuality pachayo haivimbisi hutano hwepfungwa - uye pakati pevarume nevakadzi kune vasingaverengeki neurotics. Panguva imwecheteyo, kune hutano hwakasiyana-siyana, asi hapana ngochani dzine hutano. Hunhu hwese hwechingochani hwakazadzwa nechishuwo chekusaziva chekutambura. Ichi chishuvo chinogutswa nekuzvigadzira pachako kwezvinetso, izvo zvinonyorerwa zviri nyore pamatambudziko ekunze anotarisana nengochani. Kana matambudziko ekunze akabviswa zvachose, uye mune mamwe madenderedzwa mumaguta makuru anobviswa chaizvo, ngochani ingadai ichiri munhu anorwara nepfungwa.

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Makore gumi chete apfuura, iyo yakanakisa iyo sainzi yaigona kupa yaive kuyananiswa kwengochani ne "ramangwana" rake, nemamwe mazwi, kubviswa kwekuziva kwekunzwa mhosva. Zvichangobva kuitika zvepfungwa uye tsvagiridzo zvakaratidza pachena kuti magumo anofungidzirwa asingadzoreki engochani (dzimwe nguva anotokonzerwa nekusavapo kwebiological uye mahormone mamiriro) ichokwadi kupatsanurwa kunogadziriswa kweurosis. Kushaya tariro kwemunguva yakapfuura kuri kupera zvishoma nezvishoma: nhasi psychotherapy ye psychodynamic direction inogona kurapa ungochani.

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Mabhuku achangoburwa uye zvigadzirwa zvakaedza kuratidzira ngochani sevasina kufara vanotambura vanofanirwa kunzwirwa tsitsi. Kukwirira kune lacrimal gland haina musoro: ngochani dzinogara dzichienda kunobatsira pakurapa uye kuporeswa kana dzichida. Asi kusaziva kweruzhinji kwakapararira pamusoro penyaya iyi, uye kunyengedzwa kwevanhu vanoita ungochani nemaonero eruzhinji pamusoro pavo zvinobudirira zvekuti kunyange vanhu vakangwara vakangozvarwa zuro havana kuvawira.

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"Pamakore makumi matatu ekudzidzira, ndakabudirira kupedzisa kuongororwa kwevanoita zana ngochani (kumwe kuedza makumi matatu kwakapindirwa neni kana nekubuda kwemurwere), ndikayambira vanenge mazana mashanu. Kubva pane chiitiko chakawanikwa nenzira iyi, ndinogona kutaura nechivimbo kuti ungochani hune hutano hwakanyanya hwekurapa kwechirwere chepfungwa kubva pagore rimwe kusvika kumakore maviri, kanenge katatu zvikamu pasvondo, chero murwere achida chaizvo kuchinja. Icho chokwadi chekuti mugumo unofadza hauna kubva pane chero chinodhindisa chako chinosimbiswa nenyaya yekuti nhamba yakakura yevanoshanda navo yakawana mibairo yakafanana.

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Ungochani haarambe vakadzi, asi anotiza kubva kwavari. Asingazivi, ari kutya kwavari. Anotiza mukadzi sezvinobvira, oenda kune "imwe nyika" - kune murume. Kuvimbiswa kweungochani kuti iye "haana hanya" nevakadzi hachidi chinhu kunze kwekungofungidzira. Mukati, anovenga vanhukadzi vane ruvengo rwakaipa rwekutyaonachist. Izvi zvinoonekwa mukukurukura kwega kwega kweanorwara nemurwere asingochani.

Ungochani zvinoreva varume seanodhaka kune vakadzi. Kukwira kwemurume kuchinhu chinokwezva kuri sekondari. Uku kukwezva kunogara kuchisanganiswa nekuzvidzwa. Kufananidzwa nekuzvidzwa kunoratidzwa neyakajairika ngochani kune vavanobata navo, kuvengana uye kusachengetwa kwevakadzi vane hutsinye hwakanyanya mukadzi - murume anovengwa anotaridzika. Kazhinji hunhu hwese hwe "mudiwa" hunodzimwa. Vakawanda vanoita zveungochani zvinoitika mudzimbuzi, mukuvharika kwemapaki uye yekugezera kweTurkey, uko chinhu chebonde chisingawonekere kunyange. Nzira dzakasarudzika dzakadai dzekuwana "kusangana" zvinoita kuti kushanyira murumekadzi wekubereka naye kutaridzika kunge chiitiko chekunzwa moyo.

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Ungochani hunowanzobatanidzwa ne psychopathic tendepts. Ungochani pachako hauna chekuita ne psychopathy - iko kusangana kunobva kune yakajairika muromo kudzoreredzwa. Pamusoro, psychopathic zviito ndezvekufungidzira kwekutsiva, asi zvakadzama maitiro ekuzvikuvadza akavanzika kuseri kweiyo yakasarudzika yakafukidzwa palimpsest, iyo isingakwanise kuvanza iyo yakafara pseudo-yechisimba facade.

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Iko kusanganiswa kweungochani nehutsinye, kupindwa muropa nokubhejera, kudhakwa, kupindwa muropa nezvinodhaka, kleptomania chiitiko chinowanzoitika.

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Iyo iri kurova kuti yakakura sei chikamu che psychopathic hunhu pakati pechingochani. Mumashoko akareruka, ngochani dzakawanda dzinotakura chiseko chekusagadzikana. Mune psychoanalysis, kusagadzikana uku kunoonekwa sechimwe chikamu chemuromo wemunhu ngochani. Vanhu ava vanogara vachigadzira uye kutsamwisa mamiriro mavanonzwa kusarongeka. Pfungwa iyi yekusaruramisira, inoonekwa uye inoenderera kuburikidza nekwavo maitiro, inovapa iwo kodzero yemukati yekugara vachishungurudza uye kuvenga nharaunda yavo, uye kuzvinzwira urombo vachiona zvisizvo. Iyi tsika yekumutsidzira iyo isiri yepfungwa, asi inocherechedzwa kunze kwenyika inodaidza ngochani "kusavimbika" uye kusaonga. Hazvishamisi kuti yakakura sei chikamu chevechingochani pakati pevane humbavha, vanonyepedzera, vanoita zvekunyepedzera, vanoita zvakaipa zvemarudzi ese, vatengesi vezvinodhaka, vanobhejera, vashori, mapimpu, varidzi vevatengesi, nezvimwewo.

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Lesbianism

Iyo genesis yeungochani yevakadzi yakafanana neiyo yevanhurume: kurangana kwekusagadziriswa kwekutarisa naamai vevacheche. Muchikamu chepamuromo chekusimudzira (yekutanga 1,5 makore ehupenyu), novice lesbian anoenda kuburikidza nematambudziko akateedzana uye pasi naamai vake, izvo zvinokanganisa kupedzwa kwakabudirira kwechikamu ichi. Iko peculiarity yemakiriniki lesial kurwiswa ndeyekuti inomiririra isina chinhu matatu-denga dhizaini: iyo yekufungidzira "kuunganidzwa kwekusarongeka", iyo yakafukidzwa ne pseudo-ruvengo, iyo inofukidzwa neakawedzerwa pseudo-rudo kune mumiriri weiyo infantile chifananidzo chaamai (mitsipa inokwanisa chete ersatz manzwiro uye rudo rwekunyepedzera!).

Lesbian ndeyemhino ine hutatu hwekuvanda kusaziva, ichitungamira kune njodzi quiroquo, jee pamucherechedzi asina ruzivo. Kutanga, lesbianism, zvinonzwisisika, haina kukwezva, asi nehasha Kunetsana: Nheyo pfungwa dzechismus muromo-wakadzoreredzwa neurotic ndeye kusagadziriswa kwehasha kurwa kunodzoka senge boomerang nekuda kwemhosva uye chete libidinized. NeChipiri, pasi pechisungo che "murume nemukadzi" hukama, neurotically yakadzora hukama pakati mwana naamai. Yetatu, lesbianism inopa fananidzo yechokwadi yekuzvarwa; mucherechedzi asingaoni anopofumadzwa nemafaro avo ezvekuziva, nepo pasi pechirwere chinorapika chiri neurosis.

Nyika yekunze, mukusaziva kwayo, vanoona vakadzi vechisimba vakashinga. Nekudaro, havazi vese vakadzi vakashinga vanoita ungochani. Kune rimwe divi, wekunze akatsunga lesbian akateedzera varume mune zvipfeko, maitiro uye hukama zvinongoratidza kufukidza kunovanza kukakavara kwake chaiko. Kupofumadzwa neiyi scotoma inosimbiswa nevechisimba, iye akaomesa mate mukanwa haakwanise kutsanangura iyo "inofamba" lesbian kana chokwadi chekuti maitiro echirume, kuratidzira infantile, anoiswa zvakanyanya pakubata nekamazamu nekuyamwa mazamu, uye nekuita bonhora ne dildos yakanangidzirwa pakatarisana ne clitoris, nekusaziva. nembabvu.

My 30 makore eakiriniki anoitika akaratidzira kuti lesbianism ine mashanu mazinga: 
1) masochistic kuda amai; 
2) veto yehana yemukati inorambidza "kufara kubva kusafara"; 
3) yekutanga kudzivirira ndeye pseudo-ruvengo; 
4) iyo inodzokorodzwa vhoti yehana yemukati, ichitora kuvenga kwemhando ipi neipi kuna amai; 
5) Kuzvidzivirira kwechipiri ndihwo rudo-rudo.

Nekudaro, lesbianism haisi "rudo rwemukadzi nekuda kwemukadzi", asi rudo rwekunyepedzera rwemukadzi akangwara uyo akasika alibi yemukati yaasinganzwisise. 
Ichi chinodzivirira chimiro mune lesbianism chinotsanangura: 
a. Nei vakadzi vebhogi vanoratidzwa nekutambudzika kukuru uye godo rezvipenga. Mune chokwadi chaicho chemukati, rudzi urwu rwegodo harisiri chinhu chinopfuura tsime rekuti kuunganidza kusarongeka 
b. Nei ruvengo rwechisimba, dzimwe nguva ruchitsanangurwa mukuwirwa mumuviri, zvakavanzika chaizvo muhukama. Iyo pseudo-rudo dura (yechishanu dha) inongova chifukidzo chekudzivirira rudo rwekunyepedzera. 
in Sei vakadzi vechisimba vachitendeukira ku oedipal camouflage (farce yemurume nemukadzi) - zvinozvivisa hukama hwekutarisira amai nemwana, zvakadzika mumakakatanwa e-pre-oedipal, akaremerwa kwazvo nemhosva.
in Nei zvisingabatsiri kutarisira kugutsikana kwehukama hwevanhu mukati merimiro rechisimba. Iye murume asingazvibati anongogara achitsvaga mafaro, saka haagone kumufaro mufaro.

Iyo narcissistic lesbian chinongedzo inotsanangurawo chikonzero nei kusawirirana kwekuita naamai kusingaendi. Pasi pekukura chaiko, kupokana naamai kunogadziriswa nemusikana kuburikidza nekukamura: "ruvengo" rwekare rwunosara naamai, chinhu che "rudo" chinoshandurwa kuenda kuna baba, uye panzvimbo yeiyo yekudyara "mwana-amai" (preedipal chikamu) iyo triangular oedipal mamiriro "mwana-amai-baba" anomuka. Yemangwana lesbian anoedza kuita zvakafanana, chete kukandwa kumashure mukukonana kwekutanga. Oedipal "solution" (pachayo chikamu cheshanduko chinosiiwa nemwana panguva yekukura kwake zvakajairika) ndechekuti vakadzi vevabonde vanoshandisa murume-mukadzi (baba-amai) kuzvishongedza sechivande chekudzivirira.

Izvo zvinodikanwa kusiyanisa pakati pemafomu maviri ekuzivikanwa asingazivikanwe: "kutungamira" (kutungamira) uye "kutungamira" (kutsausa). Yekutanga inomiririra izvo zvakadzvanywa nezvido zvemunhu, yakachemedzwa mumhedzisiro yekukonana kusingaperi, uye chechipiri chinoreva kuzivikanwa nevanhu vakasarudzwa kuramba uye kuramba kutuka kwehana yemukati vachipokana nezvido izvi zvemweya. Iko "kutungamira" kuratidza kweanoshanda mhando lesaga zvinoreva preedipal vanamai uye "kutungamira" kuna baba oedipal. Mumhando inongoitika, "kutungamira" kuzivikanwa kunoreva mwana, uye "kutungamira" kuna oedipal Amai. Zvese zviri pamusoro ndezvechokwadi, zvinotsigirwa neclinic humbowo.

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E. Bergler: Kurapa kweungochani