Muna Chikunguru 2020, John Blosnich weLGBTQ + Health Equality Center akaburitsa imwe kudzidza nezve "ngozi" yekurapa kurapa. Muongororo yenhengo dze1518 dze "non-transgender sex minorities", timu yaBlosnich yakagumisa kuti vanhu vakaedzwa kushanduka pabonde (zvinozonzi SOCE*) vanoshuma kuwanda kwekuda kuzviuraya uye kuedza kuzviuraya kupfuura avo handina. Zvakapokana kuti SOCE "inokuvadza stressor inowedzera kuzviuraya kwepabonde". Naizvozvo, kuedza kushandura maitiro hakubvumirwe uye kunofanira kutsiviwa ne "affirmative withdrawal" iyo inoyananisa munhu wacho nezvido zvake zveungochani. Chidzidzo ichi chakanzi "humbowo hwakasimba hwekuti SOCE inokonzera kuzviuraya".
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Bonde rinofambisa kusiyana uye kugara zvakanaka muvarume
DZIMWE DZIDZO INORATIDZA KUSHANDA UYE KUchengetedzwa KWEKUREGERERA THERAPY.
Nepo vezvematongerwo enyika vanotungamirwa neLGBT vari kumisa mitemo yekurambidza rubatsiro rwekurapa kune vanhu vanonzwa kukwezva vasingadi ngochani, imwe ongororo yakabuda muUS inoratidza zvinogutsa kuti vanhu vakadaro vanogona kubatsirwa.
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Kurapa kweungochani pele nguva yekururamisa kwezvematongerwo enyika
Nhamba dzakawanda dzekubudirira kurapa kurapa kweungochani maitiro uye kukwezva zvinotsanangurwa zvakadzama mumabhuku ehunyanzvi. Chirevo Sangano reNational Association for the Study uye Therapy yeChingochani rinopa humbowo hwehungwaru hwehungwaru, mishumo yekiriniki nekutsvaga kubva kumagumo ezana ramakore re19 kusvika parizvino, izvo zvinopa humbowo hwekuti varume nevakadzi vanofarira vanogona kuita shanduko kubva paungochani kuenda kuungochani. Pamberi penguva yekururamisa kwezvematongerwo enyika, yaive chokwadi chinozivikanwa nesainzi, iri pachena akanyora repakati pepanhau. Kunyangwe iyo American Psychiatric Association, kusanganisa zvimisikidzo zveungochani kubva kuhurongwa hwekushushikana kwepfungwa mu1974, zvakanyorwa, icho "Nzira dzazvino dzekurapa dzinobvumira chikamu chakakosha cheungochani vanoda kuchinja maitiro avo kuti vadaro".
Inotevera ishanduro zvinyorwa kubva kuNew York Times ye1971.
Kubatanidzwazve Therapy - Shanduko Inogoneka
Kubva panguva yekuchinja kwezvebonde, maitiro ekuita ungochani zvachinja zvakanyanya. Nhasi, kune ngochani kuWest, kurwa kunoita senge kwakundwa: makirabhu, ngochani, gay kuroora. Izvozvi "ngochani zvakanaka." Kurangwa kwekutonga uye mhosva dzisina kumboitika dzakamirira avo vanopikisa LGBT vanhu, pamwe chete nemazita eanopenga uye epamba.
Kushivirira uye kugamuchira kwakapararira kwerusununguko rwepabonde kunoshanda kune vese asi chikamu chimwe chehuwandu - avo vanoda kusiyana neungochani uye kutanga mararamiro ehukombwe. Varume ava nevakadzi vanonzwa maitiro eungochani, asi havadi kubvuma kuzivikanwa kweungochani. Vanotenda kuti ungochani haumiriri chimiro chavo chaicho uye vanotsvaga kununurwa.
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Hondo yezvakajairwa - Gerard Aardweg
Iri bhuku pamusoro peungochani-kuzvirapa pachako kubva pamakumi matatu emakore ekurapa kwechiitiko chemunyori akashanda nevatengi vanopfuura ngochani vatengesi.
Ini ndinoisa bhuku iri kuvakadzi nevarume vanoshungurudzwa neungochani, asi havadi kurarama senge ngochani uye vanoda rubatsiro runovaka uye rutsigiro.
Avo vakanganikwa, vane izwi rakakwenenzverwa, uye vasingakwanisi kuwana mhinduro munharaunda yedu, iyo inoziva kodzero yekuzvisimbisa yega ngochani dzakazaruka.
Vaya vanosarurwa kana vachifunga kana kufunga kuti pfungwa yehunhu hwechingochani uye isingachinjiki manyepo anosiririsa, uye izvi hazvisi zvavo.
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Reorientation Therapy: mibvunzo nemhinduro
Vese ngochani here?
"Gay" ndicho chitupa icho munhu anosarudza zvangu. Havasi vese ngochani vanozivisa se "ngochani." Vanhu vasingazivikanwe se ngochani vanotenda kuti ivo ndevakaroorwa uye vanotsvaga rubatsiro rwekutarisa zvikonzero zvinoita kuti vasvike kukwezvwa nevanhukadzi. Munguva yekurapa, vanachipangamazano uye vezvepfungwa vanoshandisa nzira dzehunhu kubatsira vatengi kutanga zvikonzero zvekukwezva ivo-murume kana mukadzi uye nekunyatso kuvabatsira kugadzirisa izvo zvinokonzeresa kumanzwiro eungochani. Vanhu ava, inova chikamu chakakosha munharaunda yedu, vanoedza kuchengetedza kodzero yavo yekugamuchira rubatsiro nerutsigiro kuti vabve pane zvisingaite zvevakomana nevasikana, vanoshandura maitiro avo ezvepabonde uye / kana chengetedza kusaroora. Izvi zvinowanikwa kuburikidza nehurongwa hwekuvandudza vanhukadzi, kusanganisira kurapa uye kurapa vanhukadzi, zvakare inozivikanwa se "Kurara Kwemagariro Ekupindira" (SOCE) kana Reoriorial Therapy.
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Chinyorwa cheaichimbove ngochani
Anodiwa muverengi, zita rangu ndinonzi Jake. Ini ndaimbove ngochani mune makumi maviri kubva kuEngland. Iyi diary ndeyeavo vanopokana nepfungwa yekuchinja maitiro ebonde. Nyanzvi dzakadzidza nezvebonde kwemakumi emakore uye vakagumisa kuti zvepabonde zvinosiyana muvanhu vazhinji. Uchapupu hunoratidza kuti kunzwa bonde kunogona kuchinja muhupenyu hwese. Icho chokwadi chekuti vanhu vazhinji vanochinja maitiro avo ezvepabonde ichokwadi chakaverengerwa. Ndiri mumwe wevanhu ava.
Handisisiri kunzwa kuda kurara nevarume; vasikana vava kunyanya kutaridzika kwandiri. Pane imwe nguva ndakanga ndisingafungi kudaro, asi ikozvino ndofunga.
Pane imwe nguva, kubatwa nehope husiku hwakasurukirwa, ndakazvifungidzira ndiri mumaoko emumwe murume, ikozvino ini ndinogona kungozvifungidzira ndine musikana wechikadzi.
Vamwe havasi kufara nemamiriro ezvinhu aya. Ivo havana chokwadi nehunhu hwavo hwepabonde zvekuti havagone kubvuma kuti kune avo vasingachagovane zvavanonzwa. Ivo vanonyanya kufara kana vanhu vachinja kuva ngochani, asi ivo havafariri kana zvakapesana zvikaitika. Dzimwe nguva vanhu vakaita seni vanonzi vekuita ruvengo, uye izvozvo imhaka yekuti handidi kurara nevarume!
Vaizondisarudzira here kuti ndinyarare nezve kuchinja hukama hwangu, kurarama mumanyepo uye kuramba izvo zvakaitika? Ehe, zvinoita! Ivo vanoda kundinyaradza, kundinyima kodzero yekurarama nenzira yandinosarudza, uye kundimanikidza kutungamira iwo mararamiro avanofunga kuti anodikanwa!
Ini handina kungorega kuve ngochani, asiwo ndinonzwa kufara. Ini pachangu ndichafambisa hupenyu hwangu nenzira yandinoda, kwete nenzira yavanondiudza. Ndakafunga kuchinja hukama hwangu hwepabonde uye ndakazviita.
Kudzokorora vatengesi veungochani:
Ndiri pano!
Handisisiri mutserendende zvakare!
Zvijaire!
Nyaya yakazara muChirungu: https://www.equalityandjusticeforall.org/diary-of-an-ex-gay-man