Kanema wathunthu mu Chingerezi
Kuyambira nthawi yamasinthidwe azakugonana, malingaliro azokhudza kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha asintha kwambiri. Masiku ano, kwa amuna omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ku West, nkhondoyi ikuwoneka kuti yapambana: magulu azitabane, azigololo, gay ukwati. Tsopano "gay ndi zabwino." Zilango zoyendetsera milandu komanso milandu yomwe inali isanachitike imayembekezera iwo omwe amatsutsa anthu a LGBT, limodzi ndi zilembo zamtundu woyipa ndi zapanyumba.
Kulekerera komanso kuvomerezeka kwa ufulu wogonana kumagwira ntchito kwa anthu onse kupatulapo gawo limodzi lokhala anthu - omwe akufuna kusiya kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikuyamba moyo wosakwatirana. Amuna ndi akazi awa amakhala ndi malingaliro ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma safuna kuvomereza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okha. Amakhulupirira kuti kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikuimira chikhalidwe chawo chenicheni ndipo amafuna kupulumutsidwa.
Anthu oterowo kaŵirikaŵiri amatsutsidwa ndi “mabwenzi” awo akale. Kusankha kwawo kusiya kudziwika kwawo kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumawonedwa ngati kusakhulupirika ndi gulu la LGBT ndikusandulika kukhala othamangitsidwa. Anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amasamala za iwo; kwa anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amawopseza udindo wawo. Ndipotu, palibe gulu limene lingawavomereze, choncho anthuwa sakonda kudzilengeza okha.
Ena mwa iwo amatembenukira ku chithandizo chamankhwala, chomwe chingawathandize kusintha, koma zosankha zawo ndizochepa ndipo nthawi zambiri zimatsatiridwa ndi kukana kwamphamvu. Atsogoleri a LGBT amatsutsa kuti chithandizo choterechi ndi chowopsa, chokhala ndi amuna anzawo, ndikuti palibe amene angasinthe kugonana kwawo. Ena amati chithandizo choterechi chikuyenera kuletsedwa, pomwe ena amachichinjiriza, ndikunena kuti asintha, ndikuti aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi ufulu wosankha yekha njira zomwe angafune - ngakhale zitakhala choncho ndikofunika kusiya gulu logonana.
Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, Jr. - mwana wa katswiri wotsogolera pakugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, akupitiliza ntchito ya abambo awo atamwalira asanachitike chaka chatha. Yoyambitsidwa ndi iye Kuyambiranso mabungwe achire, mitundu yosiyanasiyana yamathandizidwe othandizirana amaperekedwa kwa anthu omwe akufuna kuthana ndi vuto losagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo.
Pali kusiyana koyenera kupangidwa pakati pa mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya chithandizo, akufotokoza Joseph. " —Chimene ena amachitcha “mankhwala otembenuzira anthu” ndi mawu otambalala kwambiri ndi osamveka bwino, opanda malamulo a makhalidwe abwino kapena bungwe lolamulira. Kutembenuza ndi chinthu chomwe chimachitidwa kwambiri ndi anthu omwe alibe chilolezo. Mu chithandizo cha reintegrative, kasitomala amatenga gawo lalikulu. Katswiri wa zamaganizo yemwe ali ndi chilolezo amapereka chithandizo chamakasitomala, chithandizo chozikidwa ndi umboni pazovuta zaubwana kapena zizolowezi zilizonse zogonana zomwe angakhale nazo, ndipo nkhanizi zikayankhidwa, chiwerewere chimayamba kusintha chokha.
Pokambirana za makhalidwe a njirayi, funso lodziwika nthawi zambiri limabwera: kodi anthu awa ndi "gay" omwe tikuyesera kuwawongola, kapena nthawi zonse akhala akuwongoka ndipo tikungowathandiza kuti akhale okha? Izi ndi zodziyimira pawokha, ndipo chomwe chimatanthawuza aliyense wa ife si yemwe tikufuna kugonana naye, osati zilakolako zathu zakugonana, koma malingaliro athu. Makasitomala anga amakhulupiriranso kuti malingaliro awo amawafotokozera, ndipo ndimagwirizana nawo.
Pakhala milandu yambiri yomwe anthu amakakamizidwa kusintha. Ndikuganiza kuti pali chowonadi chinalembedwe izi - zonse zidachitika m'magulu achipembedzo osiyanasiyana. Palinso makolo okhwima kwambiri omwe amasintha ana awo. Komabe, izi siziri konse zomwe lingaliro loti thupi likhalenso - sitikuyesera kuthamangitsa kuyendetsa mosagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Timathandizira anthu awa kuti adzidziwe, ndipo izi zikangochitika, zogonana zimasintha paokha.
Monga dzinalo likutanthauza, tikulankhula za kubadwanso kumunthu. Lingaliro ndikuphatikizanso ndi mbali zathu za umunthu wathu zomwe zidagawanika kapena kukanidwa. Makasitomala anga ambiri amawona kuti akadali mwana zikhumbo zawo zolimba mtima zimakanidwa ndikutsutsidwa, kuti zikhumbo zawo zachimuna zimachepera, munjira ina.
Amuna ambiri omwe amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha anganene kuti kuyambira kale amamva ngati "motero". Tikudziwa kuti vutoli limayamba ali aang'ono kwambiri - kusagwirizana ndi umuna. Anyamata oterowo kaŵirikaŵiri amadzimva kukhala ofooka, kuti satha kugwirizana ndi amuna kapena atate wawo, ndipo mwina ichi ndicho chifukwa chofunika koposa. Pali zosiyana, ndithudi, koma kwa amuna ambiri omwe ayamba kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, izi ndizochitika zenizeni. Chimene sichinafotokozedwe n'chakuti ambiri mwa amuna ameneŵa amafotokoza mochititsa chidwi zochitika zaubwana. Nthawi zambiri amawafotokozera abambo awo kuti ndi akutali komanso otsutsa, ndipo amayi awo amakhala olowerera kwambiri, olowerera, komanso nthawi zina ankhanza. Kuphatikiza apo, makasitomalawa nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zikhalidwe zowawa. Kuphatikizidwa pamodzi, zinthu izi zimawonjezera mwayi woti mnyamata adzakhala ndi vuto pakukula kwake kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi: kulekana ndi amayi ake ndi kudziwika ndi abambo ake.
Pa gawo linalake lachitukuko, mnyamatayo amayesetsa kupeza njira yolumikizirana ndi abambo kuchokera kumalo ake ndikuwatsata. Koma ngati chilengedwe cha mnyamatayo sichikondweretsa zofuna zake zachimuna, ngati pali china chomwe chimapangitsa mwanayo kuti achitepo kanthu, ndiye kuti mnyamatayo wakwiya, ndipo abwerera - kwa amayi ake, osasunthika kuti adziwe wamkazi. Timawona izi ndi makasitomala athu ambiri. Atsikana ndi anzawo apamtima. Amadziwa akazi ngati kumbuyo kwa manja awo. Amuna ndi osamvetseka kwa iwo, amuna ndi osangalatsa, osowa. Amuna sadziwika kwa makasitomala anga.
Mphamvu ya munthu yemwe akukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sakuvomerezedwa ndi zonse. Adafunsa umuna wake, osakhulupirira mpaka pamapeto. Cholinga cha izi chikhoza kukhala kuyanjana koyipa kapena koyandikira ndi abambo kapena abale, kupezerera anzawo kusukulu, kuzunza ana, ndi zina zambiri. Munthu akamakula amadzudzulidwa ndi malo omwe amakhala, zomwe zimam'chititsa manyazi kwambiri, ndikamatsutsidwa kwambiri, zimamuyang'anira Amadziona kuti siali ngati chilichonse chomwe sichabwino, wopanda mphamvu zokwanira - pomwe amayamba kukhulupilira, kenako amamva, kenako, popanda chifukwa, atayamba kutha, kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumawonekera.
Ngati wofuna chithandizo yemwe amakhulupirira kuti kukopeka kwake ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikuimira kuti iye ndi ndani abwera kudzawonana ndi dokotala yemwe amavomereza kuti azigonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, dokotalayo amangomuuza kuti saloledwa kukhala ndi maganizo amenewo, kuti angovomereza ndi “gay,” kuvomereza “kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha” ndikuvomereza - ndipo ichi ndi chinthu chokhacho chomwe chingamuthandize kumva bwino. Pali gulu lalikulu kwambiri la anthu omwe izi siziwakomera, omwe samawona kuti izi ndi zoyenera kwa iwo. Sitikakamiza kasitomala kusankha njira iliyonse. Timapereka njira iliyonse yomwe angasankhe.
Pamene mankhwalawa akupita, makasitomala amawona kuwonjezereka kwa kudzidalira, amamva kulumikizana kwambiri ndi abambo ena komanso kukhala omasuka kulumikizana nawo, ndipo monga chochita, amadziwa kuti kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo kumatsika pakokha. Muyenera kudziwa kuti zaka zomaliza za 30 za sayansi zawonetsa kuti zogonana ndizamadzi ndipo zimatha kusintha mwa anthu ena. Izi zimagwirizana kwathunthu ndi neuroscience. Tikudziwa kuti madera aubongo omwe amalumikizidwa kwambiri ndi zokonda zogonana ndiamomwe madera omwe amasintha m'miyoyo yathu yonse.
Kusintha ndikotheka. Lingaliro lanu ndi lanu.
American McRae Game, yemwe anayambitsa imodzi mwa malo otchuka kwambiri ochizira kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ku United States ndi mankhwala osinthira, tsopano adakhala gay akubwera.