Igama lam nguChristopher Doyle. Ndiyingcali yengqondo ngaphakathi Ingxowa-mali yonyango yamazwe jikelelekwaye ndilifanasini.
Ndikhulele kwintsapho enothando kakhulu. Abazali bam zange bandixhaphaza, bandixhasa ngokupheleleyo kwaye bandamkela. Nangona kunjalo, njengomntwana, andikwazanga ukuseka unxibelelwano lwangempela kunye notata. Kukho nje izinto esingavumelaniyo ngazo - ndandiqwalasele, ndinobugcisa, ndiyila; Utata wakhe wayengumntu olungisa izinto, eyinqobo kuyo yonke imisebenzi yorhwebo. Kwaye ndiyakhumbula indlela ekuqaleni kobuncinci bam, ndaziva ngathi andifani naye. Ngokungathi sahlukile. Kwaye kwakunzima kakhulu kum ndingakwazi ukubona ngesibindi sikatata, kunye nomhlaba wakhe.
Akukho ngozi zenzekileyo kum. Ndikhule ndiyawuthanda umzimba wam, bendingenangxaki nawo. Into kuphela eyenzeke kum xa ndandineminyaka eyi-8 yayikukuba malunga nonyaka ndonakaliswa sisalamane esidala. Kwakunzima kakhulu kum ukusinda kule nto, kuba ndandingaziva ukuba ndingathetha ngayo nosapho lwam. Ndaziva ndinentloni enkulu ngento eyenzekileyo, kwaye oku kudale isiphithiphithi kum: iimvakalelo zesondo kumantombazana namakhwenkwe. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ndandisemncinci kakhulu-ndandineminyaka eyi-8 okanye i-9 ubudala. Andikaze ndiqalise ukufikisa. Ke, isini sam savuswa kwangoko.
Uvavanyo lwam lwezesondo namantombazana lwaqala xa ndandineminyaka eyi-9 - 10, kwaye abazali bam, emva kokuba befundile ngezinto zam, bandihlazisa kakhulu. Kwaye ndicinga ukuba ukusuka kulo mzuzu ukuya kuthi ga ngoku ndibakhonkxelela ngaphandle kwabasetyhini, kuba bendiqala ukucinga ukuba ukuba neemvakalelo zesondo kubi, akulunganga. Kwaye ndaziva ndiziva ndinentloni ngeembono zam zesini, kuba zincinci. Yayingamkelekanga ukuba kule minyaka ndandineemvakalelo zesini, okanye isini, okanye into enjalo. Kwaye ndiyacinga ukuba iyandichaphazela ukuze ndiyeke ubungqingili bam kwaye nditshintshe ubufanasini.
Into yokuba ndingakwazi ukuthetha notata kwaye nenyani yokuba utata engakwazi ukunxibelelana nam kwaye yandinceda kule ngxaki yandonakalisa kakhulu xa ndiyinkwenkwe. Ndaziva ndineentloni kwaye ndinqongophele kwaye ndinxibelelene notata, kwaye ngaphezu kwayo yonke loo nto - bendihlala ndinamathele kumama. Ndifana kakhulu naye: sobabini sasinovelwano kakhulu. Sasinonxibelelwano oluluqilima lweemvakalelo, mhlawumbi nokuba sinemvakalelo kakhulu. Ukusukela ndisemncinci kakhulu bendinamathele kakhulu kumama kwaye ndingahlukanga notata. Kwaye oku kundikhokelele kwiimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo ezingqubanayo, ngakumbi emva kokuxhatshazwa ngokwesini.
Kwiminyaka ye-11-ye-13, ndaqala ukuzilolonga namakhwenkwe am. Ngeli xesha, ndakwazi ukuyifihla, yayiyimfihlo. Kodwa kwakuthetha lukhulu kum- ndinokuziva ndiqinisekile kuyo. Into yokuba amanye amakhwenkwe endifuna ngesini yandise ukuzithemba kwam. Kodwa ngoku, xa ndijonga emva, ndiyazi ukuba yayindim. Oku akuzange kundincede ndizive ndilungile, kodwa kuphela kukuzalisa umngxuma owabakho ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezingafakwanga ngotata kunye namanye amadoda avela kwindawo endikuyo. Bekulula kakhulu kum ukuba neentlobano zesini nabantu abathandana noontanga kunokuba ndinobungqingili kunye nesibindi. Yayibubobomi obubi- ndaphila ubomi obumbaxa, ndizalisa iimfuno zam zeemvakalelo ezingonelisekanga ngokwesini nabanye abafana. Kodwa enzulu, eyona nto bendiyifuna kukuba ibonwe ngabo bangekho ngokwesondo. Ke ukuba bayandithanda kwaye babe ngabahlobo nam. Bendihlala ndiziva ndingumbonisi wangaphandle. Andizange ndivakalelwe kukuba ndikwimeko efanayo nabo, okanye balunge njengabo. Ndaziva ndilahliwe kwihlabathi labantu. Ndaziva ngathi ndhlukile kubo, ngokungathi kukho into engahambi kakuhle kum, kwaye ndaziva ngathi andikwazi ukunxibelelana nabanye abafana kwinqanaba elinzulu, lemvakalelo.
Umntakwethu wayeyintshatsheli yebhola kunye ne-baseball, kwaye nangona ndandilumdlalo weembaleki, ndandikude kwinqanaba lakhe. Wayemdala kunam, iminyaka kwi-5 - 6, ngoko abazali bam babemdumisa kwezemidlalo. Njengo, uChris usenokungabi mbi, kodwa akangekhe afane noBill. UChris unomdla kwaye uyila, ulungile kumculo-oku kuyinxalenye yakhe. Ke mna andikhuthazwanga ukwenza umsebenzi wamadoda, njengokuba wakhuthazayo umninawa wam. Ndandijolise kwimiba yabaseTyhini, kwinto eyayicaphukela ngokwesini ukuba ndingubani. Ke ukunyuswa kobudoda kusapho lwam kwakungabalulekanga kangako kwimeko yam.
Emva koko ndaya ekolishi kwaye ndaqhubeka nokuphila kwezi mvakalelo, ukuba neentlobano zesini namadoda kunye nokungakwazi ukuseka ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nokuba ngamadoda okanye abafazi. Kwaye ndafika kwinqanaba lokuba ndiqale ukudakumba kakhulu ngenxa yomtsalane wesini esifanayo, kwaye bendidiniwe kakhulu ukujongana nayo. Ndaba ngu-21-22. Emva kokuba ndithweswe isidanga kwikholeji, ndafumanisa ukuba ubomi bam abunakulinganiswa, ukuba andinyanisekanga nakubani na ebomini bam, kwaye kufuneka ndifumane amadoda azondamkela njengam. Ekugqibeleni, ndiye ndabafumana ecaweni - kwi-parish yabantu abancinci. Babendithanda kwaye bandamkela njengam.
Ke ngoko, ibiyintoni na inguqu kwinkqubo yam yotshintsho: kwakamsinya nje ukuba ndikwazile ukuphucula ubudlelwane nabantu- oko kukuthi, kukho neqela lamadoda elalithanda kwaye landamkela njengoko ndandinjalo, nomntu endavakalelwa kukuba ndinganyaniseki kwaye unyanisekile malunga neemvakalelo zakhe - umdla wesini esifanayo. Kwaye ndiyakhumbula ukuba ngenye imini ndivuke njani, ndiqonda ukuba andisenawo umdla wesini esifanayo. Oku, kunjalo, akwenzekanga ngokungathi ngumlingo. Utshintsho lwalucotha, kodwa yinyani, kwada kwathi ngenye imini ndaphawula ukuba kum ayisengumbuzo. Kum ngokwam, yayingumbandela weenyanga ezintathu ukuya kwezintandathu.
Ngoku, ndinolwazi lwam, kwaye ndiyingcali yengqondo esebenza nabathengi nge drive efanayo yesini, ndiyazi ukuba rhoqo, amadoda alwa neemvakalelo zawo zesini esinye kunye nokuswela ubudlelwane namadoda aneminyaka yobudala babo. Ngendlela, abanye bethu, kubandakanywa nam, babambekile kumanqanaba okuqala ophuhliso lwezesini. Kwaye kum ngokobuqu, ukuze umtsalane wesini esifanayo, kuye kufuneke ukuba ndidlule kwinqanaba apho kuhlangana khona namadoda. Nantsi into eyandincedayo ukuba ndophule umnqwazi kwaye ndibuyele kwindlela yam, apho ngokuqonda kwam, ndingaba yindoda yokwenene.
Ngaphambi koko, uqhagamshelo lwam lwalunobufanasini. Ndizamile ukuseka ubudlelwane obungafani nobungqingili, kodwa akukho nto yasebenza kum. Uninzi lwazo lwalungekho nokuba lu-sexy. Ndaba neentlobano zesini nabafazi, kodwa zange baphumelele, kwaye kungengenxa yokuba ndingathandwa kubo ngokwesondo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ndinomvakalelo onzulu wokungathobeki nokungazinzi, kuba ndandinamanxeba angavaliweyo kunye nemfuno engafunekiyo yothando kwicala lesini sakho. Kude kube siziva sithandwa kwaye samkelwe ngamadoda akwiminyaka yethu, kwaye singasondeli kubo, kwaye asiyi kuziva silingana kunye nabo, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukwakha ubudlelwane obuphilileyo kunye nomntu obhinqileyo. Oku kufuna inqanaba elithile lokusondelelana namadoda - yile nto ndiyifunayo, kwaye yandinceda kakhulu kutshintsho lwam.
Andazi nokuba bendikhe ndakholelwa na ukuba ndizalwe ndinomtsalane ngokwesini esifanayo. Ndibhidekile ngokwesini, kwaye ndaneentloni kakhulu kwezi mvakalelo. Ndingatsho ngokuzithemba ukuba andifuni ukufana, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo andizikhethanga ezi mvakalelo. Bandixelele ukuba ndizelwe ndinjalo, kwaye mhlawumbi bendicinga okomzuzwana. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, akubangakho mithombo inokundixelela ukuba andifanelanga ukuba njalo. Kwakungekho mntu undixelelayo.
Iminyaka eyi-8 idlulile ukususela oko ndaba nemvakalelo okanye umnqweno wobungqingili. Andiziva nditshatile. Ngokubanzi. Kwaye ndifuna ukuxelela bonke abantakwethu noodadewethu abathandana nabathandana nesini ukuba ndiyakuthanda kwaye ndiyanihlonipha, kwaye ukuba andigxeki kwimbali yam, amava am. Ndiyayihlonipha imbali yakho kunye namava akho, kwaye andabelana ngayo ngenjongo yokukusongela, okanye ukwenza ukuba uzive ngathi umbi kunam. Ndifuna ukuba wazi ukuba umdla wesini esifanayo awubonakali. Le asiyonto ozalwa nayo; yiyo ekhulayo. Kwaye ukuba ufuna, ungatshintsha.
Ndiye ndasebenza njengonyango lwezonyango kangangeminyaka emithathu. Ngaphezu kweminyaka emithathu yokusebenza, ndiye ndamkela kwaye ndanceda malunga nekhulu lamadoda ngokukodwa ekuziqhelaniseni neqela. Uninzi lwabo ngabantu abancinci bokufikisa kunye ne-20 yeminyaka yobudala. Ndisebenzisa iindlela ngeendlela, kwaye zonke ziindlela eziphambili zengqondo, hayi uhlobo lobugcisa obugqithisileyo okanye into enjalo. Uninzi lwabanyangi abajongana nalo mbandela - bonke basebenzisa iindlela eziqhelekileyo zengqondo yengqondo. Sinceda abathengi baqonde amanxeba edlulileyo. Siyabanceda ukuba banxibelelane neemvakalelo zabo zokwenyani. Kubaxumi bethu, iimvakalelo zesini esifanayo azihambelani nobungqingili okanye iimvakalelo zesini. Esi sisigubungelo seemfuno ezinganyangekiyo zeemvakalelo kunye neenxeba zangaphambili. Kwaye sinceda abathengi baqonde ukuba kutheni baneemvakalelo zobungqingili. Sityhila oonobangela abasisiseko kwaye ke sibancede bahlangabezane neemfuno zabo ngeendlela ezisempilweni. Sipholisa namanxeba engqondo abenza bazenze ngokwesondo iimfuno zabo zamadoda.
Inqanaba lokuqala sisiseko kunye nonyango lokuziphatha. Sinceda abathengi bayeke ukusebenza ngokwesondo, sibancede bafumane inethiwekhi yenkxaso. Kubaluleke kakhulu kumthengi ukuba kwinkqubo yokuphilisa kufuneka abenamadoda amaninzi ancedisayo ekukhuthazeni: abacebisi abaphezulu, oontanga namanye amadoda, njengabo, abakwinkqubo yokunqoba - bonke abo banokufumana inkxaso kunye nemvo yokuba noxanduva . Inethiwekhi yenkxaso ibanceda baqonde ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo ezifihliwe phantsi komtsalane wabo wesini esifanayo. Kuyanceda ukufunda ubuchule bokwenza izinto, ukulungisa indlela oziva ngayo kwaye ungene ngqo ezingcanjini, ugqitha ngaphezulu komphezulu. Umphezulu umtsalane wesini esifanayo, kwaye uxinzelelo, unxunguphalo, ukungabalulekanga, ukungabinathemba, kwaye ikakhulu ukuzithiba kuhlala kuyingcambu.
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde unobangela wokutsalwa kwakho ngokwesini esifanayo, kwaye sinceda abathengi ukuba bayichonge. Emva koko sibanceda bayeke indlela yabo yokuziphatha ngokwesondo kwaye baveze iimvakalelo zabo zokwenene. Njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili, umdla wesini esifana nesakho uhlala ufihla ixhala, uxinzelelo, ukuziva ungaphantsi, ukungabi nathemba kunye nemvakalelo yokuba azifezekisi iimfuno. Rhoqo, ezi mvakalelo zihamba kunye nemvakalelo ebalaseleyo yosizi kunye neemvakalelo ezinamandla. Ukufumana ezi mvakalelo ziqinile kwiseshini kwaye uzicwangcise, abathengi baqala ukuziva ukuba ngoku banokuziqinisa ngokwamadoda kubudlelwane obunempilo. Iluncedo kakhulu kubo ukunxibelelana nobuncinci besilisa apho bahlala bengakwazi ukunxibelelana.
Kwinqanaba lesibini, sibandakanyeka kunyango lwengqondo. Enye yeencwadi endisebenza kuzo ibizwa ngokuba "Iintsuku ze-10 zokuzihlolaMsgstr ". Ndizama ukunceda abathengi baqonde iinkqubo zabo zokucinga ezingekho ngqiqweni. Sikwazibandakanya kuqeqesho lokuqinisekisa ukuzonwabisa kunye nokusebenza “nomntwana ongaphakathi”. "Umntwana ongaphakathi" lelinye igama elithetha "ukungazi". Kwaye sibanceda ukuba baqonde eyona nto ibangela ukuba baziphathe ngendlela yobufanasini, eyona nto ibangela ukuba babe neemvakalelo zesini esifanayo. Siyabanceda baqonde ukuba imfuno yabo yothando rhoqo yimfuno yomntwana. Injongo yokusebenza kunye "nomntwana ongaphakathi" kukunceda "umntwana" wabo aqonde ukuba zeziphi iimfuno zokomoya ezingafezekiswanga ebuntwaneni nendlela abanokwanelisa ngayo namhlanje.
Kwinqanaba le-3 kunye ne-4, umsebenzi onzulu we-psychodynamic uyenziwa. Inqanaba lesithathu lidla ngokugxila ekuphiliseni amanxeba oobawo kunye nawamadoda, kwaye inqanaba lesine lijolise ekuphiliseni amanxeba owasetyhini nawabafazi. Ukufika kwinqanaba lesine, umxumi uya kunciphisa ngokubonakalayo, ukuba akunjalo ngokupheleleyo, ukunciphisa umtsalane wesini esifanayo, kwaye uya kuqala ukukhulisa umtsalane wobungqingili. Kwaye apha senza kwakhona imfundo ye-psycho-ngakumbi abathengi abafuna ukuthandana namantombazana batshate. Kunye nemfundo yengqondo yengqondo, sifundisa ubudlelwane kunye nokuqonda abantu besini esahlukileyo: indlela abanxibelelana ngayo nabasetyhini, indlela yokuthandana nabo, into ekufuneka uyijonge nomhla, ukuqonda ukuba ngoobani, indlela abajonga ngayo, izinto abazithandayo nangabo, nokuba bafuna ntoni kubo iqabane okanye umfazi.
Uninzi lomtsalane wethu alunangqondo. Siyatsaleleka kubantu ngaphandle kokuqonda. Ke ngoko, kwinqanaba lesine sizama ukuzisa aba bathengi bahlangana nabantu basetyhini kwaye nokuba batshatile bayazi ukuba bayintoni na kwaye bafuna ukuba ngabasetyhini abanjani. Uqeqesho lobudlelwane lubaluleke kakhulu. Sinikezela ngoqeqesho lobudlelwane kulo lonke unyango. Uqala ngokwakha ubudlelwane namanye amadoda, kuba uninzi lwabathengi bam abanomdla ongathandekiyo wesini esifanayo, enyanisweni, abakaze babe nolwalamano oluhle namadoda. Babesoloko beziva bephantsi kwaye belahliwe. Sibafundisa indlela yokubeka imida esempilweni. Sifundisa indlela yokunxibelelana namanye amadoda, indlela yokugcina unxibelelwano olusempilweni, ukulindela okuhle nokubi kubudlelwane, kunye neemfuno zabo, iimfuno zabo zokwenyani. Oku malunga nobudlelwane namadoda.
Ubudlelwane kunye nabasetyhini bufana kakhulu. Nje ukuba abathengi bafundele ukuba nobudlelwane obusondeleyo namadoda, baya kuba belungele ukuqhubela phambili ubudlelwane nabantu basetyhini. Kodwa kude kube lolu ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye namadoda luye lwasungulwa, abayi kuyazi indlela enxulumana ngayo ngokwenene nebhinqa. Abaphathi kakuhle abafazi. Olu lwalamano olunobuhlobo ngakumbi, endaweni yobudlelwane ekufuneka bube kumfazi wakho osenokwenzeka. Ke kuqala, kufuneka basondele kumadoda ngaphambi kokuba basondele kubafazi.
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Ukukhangela izivuseleli zangaphandle kwade kwamkhuthaza ukuba aqale ahlekise iqabane lakhe ngokulibophelela ebhedini. Kwaye kwii-salon zaseJamani naseJapan, amadoda avuswa ngokumbetha ngeesabhokhwe, anqunyanyiswa kwaye aboshwe, ukuze kungabikho umnqweno wokulwa.
Iingcamango zesondo zesini esifanayo zazininzi, ezikhokelela ekuveleni kweeblues, pinks kunye nabantu abenza imali kuyo. Ngokomzekelo, le yindlela uqongqothwane wabonakala ngayo kwindawo yezindlu zangasese kunye nezindlu zokuphumla. Intombazana encinci ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-14 yaqala ukwanelisa abafazi abatyelelayo ngentlawulo. Ekubeni izikhonkwane kwakufuneka zihlanjululwe rhoqo, emva kwexesha elithile isikhonkwane kumnwe osebenzayo kwakufuneka sitsalwe. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, yaba yimfuno kwisixeko sommandla.
Ababoneleli abaphambili bobugqwetha bezesondo yayizintolongo kunye neekoloni, eziye zadala isidingo sokubandakanyeka kule nto nasemva kokukhululwa. Ukuthandana kolwazi lolwaphulo-mthetho (ingoma ethi “Mama ndiyalithanda isela”) yavuselela ukubunjwa koburheletya obufana nokuziphatha okubi ngokwesini kunye nokuyekelela nakwiintsapho.
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Ulonwabo lwezesondo lolona lunamandla emva kolonwabo lokomoya olufunyanwa ngumntu ngexesha lokuzonwabisa lobuhle (ukwanelisa iimfuno ngaphandle kokutya). Uthando ngabantwana, umnqweno wokwenza okulungileyo komnye umntu, lukhulisa ingqondo kwimfuno yokuqonda ubuntu, obunamava njengolonwabo oluhlala luhleli. Ngaphandle koko, umphumo uya kuba yinto engafanelekanga.
AmaGrike amandulo athi “uthando lumanyanisa iiplanethi.” Uthando luyamanyanisa abantu abangafaniyo nabo.” Ngoko ke, xa kukho uthando, abantu bazabalazela ukufumana ulonwabo xa bezisa ulonwabo komnye umntu. Le yimiqathango yobukho bentsapho, apho imilinganiselo yokuziphatha isisiseko sobukho bayo.
UThixo akabahlanganisi abantu abafanayo ukuze benze intsapho, ebakhuthaza ukuba bakhulise ingqondo yabo, baqonde iintsingiselo ezintsha zengqondo. Kwaye kule ndlela kukho ukulimala okuninzi xa umntu eyeka ukukholelwa kuye, amandla akhe okuqonda omnye umntu wesini esahlukileyo kunye nobuchule. Iziyobisi zizibophelelo ezithintela ukukhula kobukrelekrele kunye nokwakheka kwengqondo.
Ndadibana nabantu abathi ngombulelo: wandinceda ndaba yindoda; wandinceda ndaba ngumfazi. Ngaphezu koko, phambi kwabantwana ababini.
Kodwa kwakukho neemeko ezinjalo. Ndisebenze nomdlali obambene ngezandla ekuqeqesheni ubukrelekrele kubuchule bokuhlanganisa nokukhulula, kwisifundo sesine wabuza lo mbuzo – “Ikhona into engandilungeliyo ngamantombazana, mhlawumbi kufuneka ndenze uthando namakhwenkwe. ?” Kuvela ukuba kwiminyaka eyi-4, kwinkampu yezemidlalo, walimala intombazana eyayizama ukwenza indoda kuye iiyure ezimbini. Umonzakalo wawumandundu kangangokuba wabangela iintlungu ezibukhali kwi-groin kwaye ngenye imini wathathwa yi-ambulensi utyando lwe-appendicitis. Bathi bakundibopha, zaphela ngokukhawuleza iintlungu, ugqirha wotyando wade wandibetha ngesisu ngenqindi lakhe.
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