Kutshanje eRashiya kukho ukukhula okuqhumayo kwizicelo ezivela kubantu abancinci kunye nabaselula "kwinguqu yesini". Ukuqaliswa kolu luvo kwenzeka ngenxa yokuvezwa kwabafikisayo Ubuxoki be-LGBT kwi-Intanethi. Ke abakwishumi elivisayo, ngenxa yeempawu zeminyaka yobudala, basulelana ngokulula ngolu hlobo loxinzelelo phantsi kwesikhokelo sabacuphi kunye nee-manipulators.
Ngokufuthi ngakumbi kwiqela leNzululwazi yeNyaniso idilesi abazali abaphulukene nonxibelelwano nabantwana babo ngenxa yokubandakanyeka kwabo kwintshukumo yeLGBT*. Kunzima ngomntu oqhelekileyo ukuyixabisa ilahleko enjalo, kodwa iinyembezi nokubandezeleka kwabazali abanelishwa kunokubanceda baqonde ubugeza obuqhubekayo. Nali elinye ibali elinokwenzeka kuyo nayiphi na intsapho, kwanaleyo iphumelelayo.
*Intshukumo ye-LGBT yamkelwa njengombutho ogqithisileyo!
Ngokufutshane malunga nonyana: uhlakaniphile, wakhula njengenkwenkwe ekwaziyo, ethobelayo, evuyayo, wayenabahlobo abaninzi, esoloko ebanceda abazali bakhe. Kuyo yonke le minyaka ndifunda iminyaka emihlanu. Wafunda iilwimi ezi-5 ngaxeshanye, waphumelela iimbasa ezimbini zegolide waza wathatha inxaxheba kwi-All-Russian Olympiads. Wayethanda imidlalo, ehamba nge-skiing iminyaka emi-2, i-volleyball iminyaka emi-2, eneminyaka eyi-15 wagijima amaxesha ama-2 ngeveki kwi-15 km.
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Funda ngakumbi »Iingcinga zihlala zifika zokuba akusekho mandla.
Ukuba ngenye imini andinakumelana nayo, ke vumela wena
iya kuba libali lethu. Mhlawumbi umntu uza kunceda.
Kwaye ukuba akunjalo, masihlale siyimbali
ubomi obaphukileyo kunye neentlungu zempambano.
Sifikelwe ngumama ononyana oneminyaka engamashumi amabini ubudala ngequbuliso uyekile eyunivesithi kunyaka wakhe wesine wabaleka ekhaya ukuze kungabikho mntu unokumthintela "ekutshintsheni isini". Yonke le nto yaqala kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo ngencoko kunye nentombazana engaqhelekanga kwi-Intanethi, enotyekelo olucacileyo lokukhohlisa, ukungenisa kunye ne-gynemimethophilia -ukutsala amadoda kwimpahla yabasetyhini nakubantu abadlulayo. Intombazana ibiza unyana wayo kuphela "intombazana yam endiyithandayo." Kukho impembelelo engagungqiyo yengqondo kuye kunye nesimo sengqondo ngokuchasene nonina kunye nezihlobo. Ngomyalelo wentombazana, unyana wakhe washiya umzi kwaye wanqumla onke amaqhina kunye nezihlobo zakhe, ebathintela kwinethiwekhi yoluntu kunye nokutshintsha inombolo yefowuni. Apha ngezantsi sinika kwifom efinyeziweyo ileta ebuya kunina igcwele ziintlungu nokuphelelwa lithemba.
Ibali elinyanisekileyo lomntu owayesakuba lifanasini, elichaza ubomi bemihla ngemihla bomndilili "gay" - i-enemas engapheliyo, ukuziphatha kakubi kunye nosulelo oluhambelanayo, iiklabhu, iziyobisi, iingxaki zamathumbu angaphantsi, ukudakumba kunye nokukrazula, ukuziva unganeliseki kunye nesizungu, ukusuka. obu kuziphatha kakubi kunye neDatura ibonelela kuphela ngokuphumla okwethutyana. Eli bali liqulathe iinkcukacha ezonyanyekayo zezenzo zobufanasini kunye neziphumo zazo, nto leyo eshiya intsalela yelindle elinesicaphucaphu ngokungathandabuzekiyo eliya kuba nzima kumfundi nje oqhelekileyo. Kwangaxeshanye, zichaza zonke ngokuchanekileyo yokusasaza ukungalunganga kobungqingili ngendlela ethandabuzekayo njengokucekeceke kwempunga yempepho. Ibonisa inyani ekrakra yesini lomntu wesini esifanayo njengoko injalo - isikrelemnqaabangenangqondo nabangenabubele. "Ukuba ngungqingili" ekugqibeleni kuthetha ukubandezeleka kunye nentlungu etywiniweyo yogazi kunye negazi, endaweni yokubambelela kwizandla zamakhwenkwe amakhulu e-kawaii yoyoynyh intsomi yabalandeli.
Funda ngakumbi »Igama lam nguChristopher Doyle. Ndiyingcali yengqondo ngaphakathi Ingxowa-mali yonyango yamazwe jikelelekwaye ndilifanasini.
Funda ngakumbi »Mfundi othandekayo, igama lam nguJake. Ndingumntu olifanasini kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini ukusuka eNgilane. Le dayari yenzelwe abo bachasayo umbono wokutshintsha imeko yesini. Iingcali ziye zafunda ngesondo amashumi eminyaka kwaye ziye zagqiba kwelokuba isini siyahluka kubantu abaninzi. Ubungqina bucebisa ukuba iimvakalelo zesini zinokutshintsha ebomini. Inyaniso yokuba abantu abaninzi bayayitshintsha indlela abajonga ngayo ngokwesini yinyani eqinisekisiweyo. Ndingomnye waba bantu.
Andisaziva nditsala amadoda; amantombazana ngoku anomdla ngakumbi kum. Nje ukuba ndingacingi njalo, kodwa ngoku ndiyacinga.
Kanye, ukulala kubusuku obunesithukuthezi, ndizicingele ngenye indoda ngenye indlela, ngoku ndinokuzithelekelela ndedwa nentombazana yesetyhini.
Abanye abonwabanga yile meko yemicimbi. Baqinisekile ngesondo labo kangangokuba abanakwamkela ukuba kukho abo bangasenazo kwaphela iimvakalelo zabo. Banoyolo ngakumbi xa abantu bejika baba ngamafanasini, kodwa abathandi xa kwenzeke into eyahlukileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abafana nam babizwa ngokuba ngabasebenzi benzondo, kwaye kungenxa yokuba andifuni ukuba neentlobano zesini namadoda!
Ngaba bakhetha mna ukuba bathi cwaka ngokutshintsha ubufanasini, ndihlale kubuxoki kwaye ndikukhanyele kwenzeka ntoni? Ewe, kuyabonakala! Bafuna ukundithulisa, bandiphange ilungelo lokuphila ngendlela endiyonyulayo, kwaye bandinyanzele ukuba ndikhokelele indlela yokuphila abazibona ifanelekile!
Andiyekanga nje ukuba ngungqingili, kodwa ndiziva ndonwabile. Mna ngokwam ndiza kulawula ubomi bam ngendlela endifuna ngayo, hayi indlela abandixelela ngayo. Ndigqibe kwelokuba nditshintshe isini sam kwaye ndiyenzile.
Ukucaphula iintshutshiso zesini:
Ndilapha!
Andisemgceni kwakhona!
Qhela kuyo!
Ibali elipheleleyo lesiNgesi: https://www.equalityandjusticeforall.org/diary-of-an-ex-gay-man
Ibali elithunyelwe kuthi ngumfundi wethu.
Ukuqala, ukuba lubi kangakanani uluntu olundinyusileyo sele lonakele. Kwaye ukuba bathi ngoku ukuba "Siyazenzela" kukuzikhohlisa. Ngamaxesha onke kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha, luluntu olusenza ukuba singubani. Cinga ngayo: uwedwa ekhaya, abanye kwindawo enkulisa, okwesithathu esikolweni, kwesine esitratweni. Andithi? - Ewe, ewe. Kwaye into eyenzekayo nabantu abancinci ngoku iyandoyikisa. Iyothusa kakhulu.
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