Nyanzvi inozivikanwa yenyika yeDutch chiremba Gerard van den Aardweg ane hunyanzvi mukudzidza uye kurapa kweungochani kweanonyanya kuita basa rake rakasarudzika re50. Nhengo yeScience Advisory Committee yeNational Association yeZvekudzidza uye Kurapa kwevechingochani, (NARTH), munyori wemabhuku uye zvinyorwa zvesainzi, nhasi ndiye mumwe wevashoma nyanzvi dzinotya kuburitsa pachena kusapindirana kwenyaya iyi chete kubva kunzvimbo dzechokwadi, dzakavakirwa pachinangwa, kwete dzakasvibiswa pfungwa tsananguro data. Pazasi pane chirevo kubva pamushumo wake "The Naturalization" Ungochani uye Humanae Vitae "verenga kumusangano wepapa Chikoro cheHupenyu hwevanhu neMhuri muna 2018 gore.
Kusimbisa hudzvinyiriri hwepfungwa dzengochani, YouTube yakabvisa vhidhiyo iyi nekunyepedzera kwe "kutaura kwerusarura," kunyangwe, seforamu yeruzhinji, YouTube haina kodzero yekuongorora. Parizvino pane chiitiko chirikuenderera mberi chinopesana neYouTube pachikamu chePragerU kutongwa kwemhosva nezveizvi. Izvo zvikonzero zvekudyarwa kwe LGBT mafungiro epasirese pachena pano.
Ungochani hunofanirwa kutsanangurwa maererano nezvekukwezva kwete maitiro, sekududzirwa kwedzimwe nzvimbo, kusanganisa ungochani sedambudziko rekusangana pabonde nemaitiro echikadzi akaroorwa asina kukurudzirwa kukwezva (semuenzaniso, tsika dzekutanga mumadzinza ekutanga kana kutsiva zviito zvepabonde). Ungochani mamiriro ezvinhu ekurara akasangana kana kusangana pabonde mutyairi kune murume kana mukadzi, pamwe chete nehuremo kana kuderera kufarira murume, после kuyaruka, kutanga, toti, ne 17 - 18 makore. Nevakawanda yakavimbika fungidziro, isingasviki 2% yevarume uye 1,5% yevakadzi vanowana kukwezva kwakafanana.
Ini ndinoshandisa izwi rekuti “ngochani” kurondedzera avo vanosarudza kutaura zvavanofunga zvakajairwa uye vagorarama zvinoenderana; kune mazhinji nhasi. Nekudaro, nezve 20% handidi Ziva se “ngochani” uye hugashira mararamiro aya. Iri boka harina ruzhinji rwevanhu uye rinosarura nharaunda yengochani.
Maitiro anoita munhu kune kukwezva kwavo ngochani kwakakosha. Nekuzvimisikidza, anodzvinyirira kufunga kwake nehana, achitsiva kunzwisiswa kwemukati kuti ungochani hunopesana nemasikirwo nekuzvinyengedza kuti ndewechinyakare uye wepasirese. Paanotanga kuzvinyepera nenzira iyi, anomanikidzwa kunamatira zvakanyanya rationization, iyo inopembedza sarudzo yake uye kumubatsira kuti azvione semunhu akasununguka, ane hutano uye ane hunhu hwakanaka. Nekudaro, anozviparadzanisa neicho chaicho, anozvivharira mukufunga kwekuda uye, asingade kuona chokwadi nezvake, anoda kushandura manzwiro echisikigo nemaonero nezve ungochani mu98% yevanhu, iyo yaanoona se "ruvengo". Muchokwadi, haisi nzanga, tsika kana chitendero zvinomutambudza, asi hana yake. Kujairidzwa kweungochani kunochinja zvese kumusoro: "Handisi ini - ndiwe unopenga" ...
Kune kuwanda kwakasiyana kweungochani, semuenzaniso: "rudo rweungochani, mukuru kune vulgar hetero-rudo; ane rudo zvakanyanya, akasarudzika, anofarira, anofambira mberi ”, etc. Izvi zvinopa humbowo hwevacheche vevanhu vanonyanya kufunga nevechidiki, kana rudo chairwo rwepabonde pakati pevakuru rwusati rwasvika.
Kuita zvepabonde nevanhukadzi kugadziriswa panguva yekuyaruka, maererano neiyo 40% yeungochani inokwezva vevachiri kuyaruka, uye ye2 / 3 yavo iyo yakanakira shamwari pasi pe 21 gore. Nekudaro, wekufamba nemakumbo - kusangana pabonde nevadiki, kwagara kuri kumwe kwekuratidzira kweungochani. Nenzira, vanotuka vapristi vanonyanya kunetseka nezvekufamba. Vaprista ava ingochani. Varume vanoita zvoungochani, vanogadzirisa, "rudo rwe murume nemukomana" nenzira yakaita seyemwana (zvimwe pro-lgbt.ru/309).
Pfungwa dzengochani dzinosimudzira zvikonzero zvakasiyana siyana, asi idzi inhema dzose. Iye anofara pane "rima nyaya" mamiriro ezvisikwa, vanoti, "wakazvarwa", uyezve pana "kusabatika"Kunetseka. Muchokwadi, dzidziso yekubereka haina kumbobvira yamboratidzwa. Pashure gay coup mune xnumx goreapo veAmerican Psychological uye Psychiatric Associations vakasiya kutendeka kwesainzi, dzidziso dzevane ngochani dzakatanga kudzvinyirira masangano ezvidzidzo Vanotsvagurudza, kunyanya vanoita zvechisimba kuita zvechisimba, vakaita nhamburiko zhinji kuti pakupedzisira vawane rumwe rudzi rwehunhu hunokonzeresa muungochani. Asi zvinonakidza, mhedzisiro yakatarwa yakawanikwa - huwandu hwakaunganidzwa hwesainzi data hwakawedzera kusahadzika kuti zvinhu zvakadaro zviripo. Ngano yehupenyu yakaputsika kuita zvidimbu: ngochani dzine zvakajairika mahormone, majini uye pfungwa. Asi chokwadi ichi chinotosvika patiri. Zvakare, iyo dzidziso ye "kusachinjika" inotsigirwa zvinotyisa, sezvo mukana weshanduko usatyisidzira kwete chete yakakosha postulate yeanowanzoitika, asiwo nharo yekuti vazhinji vanofanirwa kururamisa mararamiro avo.
Kuunganidzwa kwevanhu vazhinji, vachiratidzira ngochani seanodzvanywa nekubatana nehunyanzvi hwe "venate", kwaratidza kuve chishandiso chakanyanya kukunda kukunda kushamwaridzana kwezvirango nevanopokana "kodzero dzakaenzana" ye "hukama hwavo".
Ngatimbokurukurai zvimwe zvakakosha zvepfungwa uye zvekuona nezveungochani hwechirume. Zvizhinji zvezviri pamusoro zvinoshandawo kune lesbianism, paine chete mutsauko wekuti "amai" vanofanirwa kutsiviwa na "baba", "boyish" ne "girlish", nezvimwe.
Kunzwa kwechikadzi kumwe kunowanzo kumuka mukuyaruka pakati pevakomana vanoda hunhu kana hunhurume hunhu, iwo mweya wakatsiga uye wekurwa. Vazhinji vavavo vakarerwa zvakapfava, uye nekuda kweizvozvo havana kushomeka. Hunhu hwavo hunyoro uye kunyange hukadzi hunoita kuti vanzwe vasina kugadzikana pakati pevezera ravo, pamberi pehushingi hwavanonzwa hwakaderera. Iyi haisi tsika yemukati, asi mhedzisiro yedzidzo, hukama nevabereki uye tsika dzakasimbiswa.
Muchidimbu underdeveloped kana kushungurudzika hunhu hwemukomana wekutanga ungochani imhedzisiro yemafungiro aamai vake, avo vakanyanyisa kutonga hupenyu hwepamoyo, nepo pesvedzero yababa vake, iyo yaifanirwa kubatsira mukuvandudza kwehurume, yaive isingatarike kana yakaipa. Kusiyana kwemuenzaniso uyu kunowanikwa mune inosvika 60% yezviitiko zveungochani zvechirume. Zvimwe zvakakosha zvinogona kusanganisira urema hwemuviri uye kushomeka, zvisingaite vabereki vadiki kana vakuru, kurerwa nasekuru nasekuru, hukama pakati pehama.
Kazhinji kacho mukomana airatidza kushamwaridzana kusina kunaka naamai vake uye kunyange kutsamira pavari, nepo kubatana nababa vake kwaikanganisa neimwe nzira. Semuenzaniso, mukomana anogona kunge ari pasi pedziviriro yakanyanyisa - rudzi rwemukomana waamai "akapambwa" zvakanyanya, akasungwa uye anonamatwa. Amai vake havana kumubata nenzira iyo mukomana chaiye anofanira kubatwa nayo - nokupindira kwakanyanyisa kwechisimba, dzimwe nguva nenzira yeukadzi. Izvi zvinhu zvesimba revabereki zvakasimbiswa zvakavimbika.
Chinhu chakasimba chakabatana nekukwezva kwevakomana vanoita zvechisimba munguva yepamberi kune kusakwanisa kune nyika yevakadzi mukuyaruka uye mukuyaruka - kureva chinhu chekuzviparadzanisa nevezera. Kunzwa kwekuva wekunze uye kuderera semurume kunotambudza zvakanyanya kune wechidiki. Achinzwa kuti haazi wake, anoshuvira kushamwaridzana uye anotanga kukwezva vamwe vechidiki vane hushingi hunhu hwaanofunga kuti hahusi kubva kwaari. Uye haangofunge zvakadaro, asi anonzwa chaizvo kurwadziwa kunoshoreka. Munguva yekuyaruka, kushuva kwakadaro kunogona kuendesa kumafungiro asina kunaka ehukama hwepedyo pane vamwe vanofarira asi vasingawanikwe munyaradzi. Zviroto zvakadaro zvine tsitsi - zvinobva mukuzvinzwira tsitsi kana kuita kwekusurukirwa kweumwe, kushaya shamwari kana chokwadi chekuti haasi "mumwe wevakomana". Kunyanya kana izvi zviroto zvichitevedzana nekuita bonhora kakawanda, vanowedzera kushuvira kwemukomana uye nekupisa pfungwa yake inosiririsa yekubuda kunze uye kuzvinzwira tsitsi. Aya manzwiro akapindwa muropa.
Muchidimbu, kushamwaridzana kweungochani kuita zvisina kufanira kwekufungidzira kwekusagona kubereka; yakagadziriswa pachayo pachayo. Mumwe mudikani anonyudzwa zvakakwana - "anofanira kuve akazara zvangu". Uku kukumbira kusingabvumirwe kwerudo, kuda kwerudo kwete rudo rwechokwadi. Kana kupenga uku kukaenda mukuyaruka, zvinogona kutora pfungwa dzemunhu uye kuzvimiririra kutyaira. Nekuda kweizvozvo, munhu chikamu kana kunyangwe zvakanyanya pamoyo anoramba achiri mudiki mukufunga kwake, manzwiro, maitiro, hukama nevabereki nevanhu vevanhu vake kana murume kana murume. Haasvike pakukura uye anotongwa na humhandarakusapindirana narcissism uye kunyanyisa kuzvinyudza, kunyanya mukuchiva kwavo-pabonde kuchiva.
Mugadziri wemufirimu Pazolini, achirondedzera "nzara yake isingaperi yerudo yemweya isina mweya", yaive yemimwe mienzaniso yakawanda. Anochani wefashoni wechiGerman akafananidza izvi ne "kupindwa muropa nekunwa mvura yemunyu" - zvakanyanya paunonwa, zvakanyanya nyota yako.
A heterialifean analogue yehunhu hwakadai huchave hwomukadzi, senge, semuenzaniso, munyori weanobhuku anoongorora Simenon, aidada zvikuru kuti akakunda zviuru zvevakadzi. Varume vakadaro vane ungwaru hwehudiki, uyezve kune inferior inflex.
Chero zvazvingaitika, hukama hweungochani hunodzidzira mukuzvida. Aya ndiwo marondedzero avakaitwa nemurume wezera repakati: “Ini ndinogara nevatambi vevakabvakidzana navo, vamwe vandinoreurura rudo rwangu kwavari. Vanopikisawo rudo rwavo kwandiri, asi hukama hweungochani hunotanga uye hunopera nebonde. Mushure mekudanana kwenguva diki, bonde rinoitika zvishoma, vaviri vanozotanga kutya, vanonzwa kuda uye vatanga kuchinjana. ” Anopfupisa mararamiro eungochani nechokwadi chinosimbisa uye chakaitika, pasina pfungwa dzekuyaruka uye kunyepa kwenhema: "Hupenyu hwepfambi chinhu chakaipa. Ini handidi kuti izvi zviitike kunyange kumuvengi wangu akaipisisa. " Saka usatenda manyepo ezve "vakanaka, vakatendeka uye vane rudo ngochani," sevakatendeka veKatorike. Uku ndiko kuchenjera kwekuita bonde zvepabonde. Ungochani kurara nehunhu. Ungochani chirwere chebonde, asiwo ihosha remweya.
Aya mazwi ari pamusoro apa anoratidza chokwadi kuti kurapwa, kana kuti pachako kuzvidzidziswa, kunetseka - pasina mubvunzo, nekupindwa muropa kwepabonde zvakare - asi pamusoro pazvo kurwa kune yakazara infantile kuzvida, kuzvida uye kuzvinzwira tsitsi. Kurwa kurwiswa nehunhu uye kuratidzwa kwehunhu, kunyanya izvo zvakaita sekuvimbika, rudo, mutoro, kutsungirira uye kusimba, zviri pakati.
Kukunda zvido zveungochani kunonyanya kuve kurwira iwe pachako, zvisinei, shanduko, dzakanyanya uye dzinogara shanduko dzakaitika muzviitiko zvakawanda, kunyanya nerutsigiro rwehupenyu hwakagadzikana hwemukati hwechitendero.
Nekuda kwekufambiswa kwezvematongerwo enyika uye zvemagariro evanhu vanoita zveungochani, kurapwa pamwe nekupa zano kweungochani, hwunotarisana nekushanduka, kuri kuramba kuchikwira, kunyangwe zvakadaro kuri kwekuzvirapa. Nekudaro, pamusoro peiyo nzira huru, iko kushanda kwemaitiro akadaro hakuregi kugashira kusimbiswa.
Masangano ezvematongerwo enyika anosimudzira ungochani ari kuyedza kubvisa zviito uye zvinyorwa. Nekudaro, semuenzaniso, mabhiri chaiwo anorambidza kurapwa kweungochani muIreland. Homotirania yakanyatso kuwira pamusoro pedu.
Mu 2003, semuenzaniso, Muzvinafundo Spitzer anobva kuColumbia University, iye chiremba wepfungwa uyo akaendesa APA kuimba yekutandarira yevanhurume, akaburitsa yake kudzidza pane kukanganisa kwezano pakati pe200 varume nevarume. Chikamu chidiki chazvo chakachinja zvakanyanya, nepo huwandu hwacho hwakavandudza maererano nehukombwe uye manzwiro akakwana pane zvese. Hapana zviratidzo zvekukuvara, asi kuderedzwa kwakaderera mukuora mwoyo. Dutu reruvengo kubva ku gay gadzi rakauya pamusoro pake nehasha dzisina kumboitika. Pasinei nezvirango zvakasiyana-siyana zvakapesana naye, zvinosanganisira kuramba zvinyorwa uye kurasikirwa kwevatsigiri, Spitzer akaramba achisimbisa kusava nemhosva kwake kwemakore 9, asi akazopunzika *. Akazoreurura kwandiri mukutaurirana kuti aisazombobvira atora nyaya inotyisa yeungochani.
* Mukubvunzana neThe New York Times, Spitzer akakumbira ruregerero kune venhukama uye akataura chinangwa chake chekusiya basa rake, akataura chokwadi chekuti akabvumirana nevatsoropodzi kuti pakanga pasina vimbiso yekuti zvavakabvunzwa zvaive zvechokwadi, kunyangwe zvaiita sekunge ivo vaitaura chokwadi. Nekudaro, basa resainzi rinogona kungoyeukwa kana riine zvikanganiso kana fungidziro, asi sezvo Spitzer aive nezvose izvi maererano nekukwana, mupepeti weiyo bhuku resainzi akangomuramba, nekuti kududzirwa kweruzivo iripo hakutombokanganisa kutendeka kwavo.
Scott Hershberger, nyanzvi uye akaverengera avo anonzwisisana nekufamba kwengochani, mushure mekuongorora kutsvagurudza kwaSpitzer, akagumisa kuti humbowo hunopa humbowo kuti kudzokorora kurapa kunogona kubatsira vanhu kuchinja maitiro avo eungochani. "Zvino vese avo vanokahadzika ekurapa zvekare vanofanirwa kupa humbowo hunogutsa hwekutsigira chinzvimbo chavo," akagumisa.
Mukuwedzera:
• Mufungo wekushungurudzika weungochani (Aardweg 1972) .pdf
• PaPsychogenesis yeUngochani (Aardweg 2011) .pdf
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