Uninzi lwabaphandi luthatha ubungqingili kwilizwe lethu njengento yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo ngokwesondo phakathi kwamadoda (kunye nabasetyhini), isiphumo sibonisa ukubonakalisa umdla ngokwesondo kunye nomtsalane kubantu besini esifanayo.

Kwiimeko ezininzi, unobangela wokuphuhliswa kokubonakaliswa kwabatshatileyo ngamava obuhlungu kwinqanaba lokuchongwa ngokwesini. Eli nqanaba lokuphuhla kwengqondo libhekisele kwiminyaka emihlanu ukuya kwemithandathu kwaye libiza "intlekele yeminyaka emithandathu." Kule minyaka yobudala, umntwana uqala inqanaba elitsha loluntu, kwaye ngokuqala kokufikisa (ukufikisa kunye nokuqhuma kwehomoni ehambelana nayo) umisela isimo sakhe sengqondo kwisini sakhe. Ukophulwa kwemisebenzi yendima yesini kusapho, okanye izigameko ezihlukumezayo kusapho nangaphandle kwayo kukhokelela ekwakhiweni kweziphambuko zokuziphatha (ukuphambuka), okubandakanya ukubandakanyeka kubufanasini.

Kude kube kutshanje, umbono wobume bobufanasini ubukhuthalele inkuthazo eNtshona Yurophu naseMelika, kodwa le ithiyori ayifumananga sizathu senzululwazi, kwaye ukubonakalisa ukuchaneka kwezopolitiko kwezamayeza akunakucaciswa. Ngapha koko, kuba indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo yenziwa kwiminyaka ethile kunye nomxholo othile (imbali, inkcubeko, intlalontle, njl njl), kufuneka kuthiwe ifunyenwe kwaye, ngenxa yoko iphinde iguqulwe. Okanye, kunokohlulwa, kuba inqanaba lobufanasini lihamba kuye nawuphi na umntwana ofumana ulwazi malunga nabo nabameli besini esifanayo. Umdla wokuba leliphi kanye kanye eli sini limele lenqanaba lokukhula komntwana ongatshatanga naye. Inqanaba elilandelayo linomdla kolunye uhlangothi lwesini, "olubi", "alufani nam." Umntwana ngaphandle kokuziphatha gwenxa ugqithisela kweli nqanaba phantse ngexesha lokudakumba kweminyaka emithandathu, okanye emva koko, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphambi kokufikisa.

Ukuthathela ingqalelo ubungqingili njengenye indlela eqhelekileyo ichanekile ngokwezopolitiko, kodwa ayinangqondo, kuba ubudlelwane babantu abaneempawu zobungqingili buphila ixesha elifutshane kwaye bahlala bukhawulelana neemfuno zesondo (singasathethi ke Iziphumo zempilo ezigwenxa).

IZIXHOBO ZOPHUHLISO LWE-HOMOSEXUALISM

Kusekho izityholo zokuba ukutshata kwabantu abathandana besini esinye inokuba ngumkhwa wokuzalwa, kodwa akukho namnye kubo oqinisekisiweyo ngokwesayensi. "I-Gene yoBungqingili", ekukhangeleni apho kuye kwasetyenziswa imali eninzi kwi-lobby, kukufumana isilele.

Phakathi kwezizathu zokuyilwa kokuziphatha kwabantu besini esifanayo zibizwa ngokuba:

• amava okwabelana ngesondo kwangoko ubundlobongela;
• Ukunxibelelana kwabantu abathandana nomntu ongatshatanga naye (amaxesha amaninzi ebusheni);
• ubutsha, ukulungiswa kwamanqanaba okuqala ophuhliso okanye ukulungiswa kwakhona kubo;
• ukwahlula kuyise kusapho, okanye ukungabikho kwakhe ngokwasemzimbeni (kubafana, okanye ngokufanayo, umama ngenxa yamantombazana);
• ukukhathazeka okukhulayo, ngakumbi ngokunxulumana nabantu besini esahlukileyo;
• Ukunqongophala kweemodeli zesini eziqhelekileyo zokunxibelelana phakathi kwendoda nebhinqa (usapho lwesini esifanayo ukukhulisa umntwana);
• iziphene zokuzalwa, abazali abalamkeli isini somntwana (ukuba babelindele ukuzalwa komntwana wesini esahlukileyo).

Njengoko ubona, zonke izizathu, ukubaluleka kwako sele kungqine ukwakhiwa kobungqingili, zinxulumene nendawo yengqondo. Ukuziphatha kwabantu besini esifanayo kunokuhamba kunye nezinye i-pathologies, ngakumbi, uxinzelelo, i-sociopathy, i-phobias, iziyobisi iziyobisi, i-schizophrenia.

Iimpawu zobufanasini

Kule meko, ubukhulu becala, kuya kuba kokulungileyo ngakumbi ukuxoxa ngeempawu zokuziphatha kwabantu abatshatileyo, kuba ubufanasini njengengqondo yentlalo-ntle kunye nokuziphatha kwabantu besini esahlukileyo kuyahlala kunjalo. Ezinye iingcali zengqondo zichonga iimpawu zokuziphatha komntu ongatshatanga ebantwaneni, ezingalunganga kumgaqo, kuba, njengoko besesitshilo, umntwana ngamnye uhamba ngohlobo lwenqanaba lobufanasini, nomdla kubantu besini esifanayo. Ngaphezu koko, abantu abadala abaninzi bayayigcina loo nzala bengakhange babonise naziphi na izenzo zobungqingili- umzekelo, ukuhlangana kwamadoda “kwigaraji”.

Kodwa uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo kunye nokunxibelelana okuphulwe ngoontanga babo kunye nabesini esahlukileyo kwishumi elivisayo sele sisizathu sokukhathazeka kwabazali. Kwaye inqaku alilo “udumo lobufanasini”, kodwa kukungabikho kwezakhono zonxibelelwano, uloyiko lokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo. Ulutsha olunje ngokulandelayo lunokubonakalisa indlela yokuziphatha kwezesini esinye, kuba kulwalamano lwazo kunye neontanga zihamba kwindlela yokuphikiswa, kuthatha isikhundla somthathi-nxaxheba ongathathi nxaxheba kwindibano. Ukuze ancede umntwana onjalo boyise iingxaki ezinxulumene nobudala, ufuna inkxaso yabazali bakhe, kunye nonina nonina.

Umntu omdala onengxaki yokuthandana nomntu ongatshatanga naye, luphawu:

• Umnqweno ongokwesini ongalawulwa kakuhle kubantu besini esifanayo;

• umnqweno wokuziphatha okugqithileyo (kubandakanya nokonakalisa) indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo, ebonakalayo, phakathi kwezinye izinto, kwisimo esithile kwiwadi yakho, ukhetho lwezigqibo zesondo ezigxininisiweyo;

• Umona oqhubekayo ngokunxulumene neqabane lakhe lokwabelana ngesondo, ngamanye amaxesha ukuthintela imvakalelo;

• ubukho beziyobisi ezihambisanayo (i-narcotic, inetyhefu, ubuncinci obunxilisayo);

Ukuphindaphindana nokuzisola malunga nendlela ubani aphila ngayo, okukhokelela ekwakheni ubuqhetseba obutsha obuzinzileyo malunga nesiqu sakho.

UKUNYANGELWA KWE-HOMOSEXUALISM

Khumbula ukuba "ingxaki emntwini" ubufanasini idweliswe phantsi kwekhowudi F66.x1 kwi-International Classifier of Izifo zoshicilelo lwe-10, kwicandelo elithi "Psychological and Behavialal Diservation Associated Development". Unyango lobufanasini, ukuba isigulana sinesizathu esivakalayo esicacisiweyo, sinokufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo. Nangona kunjalo, nokuba bekungenakwenzeka ukuba uguquke ngokupheleleyo umfanekiso wokuzibonakalisa otyhafileyo umntu, unyango lumvumela ukuba afumane ukulingana kwamandla kuye kwaye aphucule umgangatho wobomi bakhe, ukuzamkela yena kunye nomzimba wakhe, kodwa hayi indlela yokuziphatha eyonakalisayo, kubandakanya nokuziphatha ngokwesini.

Phakathi kweendlela zokulungisa isimilo sobufanasini, i-psychotherapy ithatha indawo ephambili. Njengoko uninzi lwezigulana zinembali yokuqaqanjelwa, kunyanzelekile ukuba zichaze isigulo esibuhlungu esibe sisikhubekiso kwisigulana. Lo msitho ufuna ukufunyanwa ngokutsha, ukufundisisa, indawo yokuhlala, ukuphononongwa kwakhona. Kule nto, kusetyenziswe iindlela zobuchule bobugcisa, unyango lokuhlaziya ubuntu, unyango lweqela, unyango lomntu ngamnye, unyango lwengqondo kunye noluleko olusetyenzisiweyo.

Owayesakuba nguMongameli we-American Psychological Association, uGqirha Nicholas Cumings ingxeloNgexesha le-1959-1979 iminyaka. ikliniki yakhe yafikelelwa kwiingxaki ezahlukeneyo ngama-18,000 amafanasini, athi malunga ne-1,600 ijolise ekutshintsheni ulwazi lwabo. Ngenxa yonyango lwe-2,400, babenakho ukuyenza le nto. 

Ngexesha lokususwa kobungqingili kwi-APN 1974 ipapashiwe Uxwebhu, olwalusithi "iindlela zonyango zanamhlanje zivumela inxenye ebalulekileyo yabantu abathandana nabantu abafuna ukutshintsha indlela abathanda ngayo ngokwesondo ukuba benze njalo." 

Kwi-1979, umphandi waseMelika kunye nonyango lwengqondo u-Irving Bieber, okwezandla zaye malunga ne-1000 abaguli abathandana nabantu abatshatileyo, baxela ukuba amazinga okuqala kwakhona aqala kwi-30% ukuya kwi-50%. Ukulandela ngomonde ngaphezulu kweminyaka elandelayo ye-20 boniseukuba bahlala bethandana ngokupheleleyo.

Ugqirha oHloniphekileyo weRussian Federation, ugqirha wezengqondo uJan Goland uchaza amanqanaba amathathu kunyango lwengqondo lobufanasini.

I-1) Kukuba buthathaka kweempembelelo kunye nemikhwa yobungqingili ngokuhlawula ngokupheleleyo okulandelayo. Ukuphakanyiswa kwesimo esizinzileyo, esizolileyo, sokungakhathali kwabantu besini sabo kunye nokususwa ngokupheleleyo kwento ye-eroticism kulwalamano.

I-2) Ukupheliswa kokujonga okungeyonyani kowesifazane. Ukuyilwa kweembono ezinemvakalelo ezinamabhinqa, zombini ngokwemihlobiso (imbonakalo), kunye nemeko yokomoya. Ukuphuhliswa kunye nokuqiniswa kwezakhono zonxibelelwano nabasetyhini.

I-3) Ukuvela nokudityaniswa koqhelaniso. Ukuphuhliswa kokuqhubeka komtsalane oqinisekileyo we-erotic kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuqhubeka kwesini kunye nomntu wesetyhini, kuzaliswe zizinto ezigcwele ngokupheleleyo.

Imeko yokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo kufuneka ihlangane nale miqondiso ilandelayo:

• Umtsalane ongathandekiyo oxhaphakileyo kowasetyhini kuwo omabini amalungu ezesondo kunye nobuhle.

• Isimo esibuhlungu ngokwexesha lakho elidlulileyo njengongonelanga, sibuhlungu.

Ukujonga amadoda, imigangatho yehostele yokuhlangana.

Ukuqonda ukuxabiseka komntu ngokupheleleyo, kokubini kuye, kwezentlalo nakwezesondo.

Ulandelo lokulandela (lonyango emva kwexesha) kwizigulana ze-10 ezisusela kwiminyaka ye-1 ukuya kwiminyaka ye-7 lubonise ukuba abaguli babone ngempumelelo impilo eqhelekileyo yobungqingili kwaye bayeka ngokupheleleyo umtsalane wabo wangaphambili we-pathological.

Umthombo

Okungakumbi malunga nobuchule Jana Golanda

Unjingalwazi odumileyo u-Aron Belkin uxhase ubuchule bukaJan Goland. Iinkcukacha ezithe kratya: 
https://med.wikireading.ru/51366