Kwi-26 ngoJuni 2015, iNkundla ePhakamileyo yase-US yawugunyazisa umtshato wesini esifanayo, iwafuna onke amazwe ukuba akhuphe izatifikethi zomtshato kubantu abatshatileyo abatshatileyo, kunye nokwamkela izatifikethi ezinjalo ezikhutshwe kwamanye amazwe. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko kubonisiwe idatha I-American Institute of Public Opinion Gallup, amafanasini awangxameli ukusebenzisa amalungelo awo asanda kufunyanwa. Njengoko bekulindelekile, akuzange kubekho ukungena "kwabantu abancinci abacinezelweyo ngokwesondo" kumagunya obhaliso, ngaphandle kokupheliswa ngokupheleleyo kwezithintelo "zocalucalulo".
Ukuba ngaphambi kokuba kusemthethweni ukusasazeka kwemitshato yesini esifanayo, i-7,9% yamafanasini aseMelika ayekuyo (ebaqukumbela apho kunokwenzeka), emva kokusemthethweni, kuphela i-2,3% yagqiba ekubeni ilungelelanise ubudlelwane babo. Unyaka emva kwesigqibo seNkundla ePhakamileyo, kuphela i-9,5% yama-homosexuals aseMerika ayekwimitshato yesini esifanayo "emitshatweni", kwaye kwiminyaka emibini kamva yayiyi-10,2%, uninzi lwabo luneminyaka eyi-50 +. Ngexesha elifanayo, inani labantu abangatshatanga be-LGBT liye landa. Umzekelo ofanayo ubonwa e-Netherlands, apho umtshato wesini esifanayo usemthethweni ukususela ngo-2001: kuphela i-20% yabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabo "batshatileyo", xa kuthelekiswa ne-80% yabalingane babo. EFinland, ngo-2018, kuphela ngabasetyhini abangama-210 kunye namadoda angama-120 atshate neqabane lesini esifanayo. Xa kuthelekiswa no-2017, umdla kwimitshato yesini esifanayo unqabile. Kufumaniseke ukuba nangona kukho ingxwabangxwaba ngemitshato yabantu besini esinye, uninzi lwamafanasini aluyidingi kwaphela. Unokuchazwa njani lo mnqa?
Ukuqala, ubudlelwane besini esifanayo abungqine kwindalo. Ukuba kubudlelwane bendalo indoda kunye nomfazi bayazana kunye ngokwahluka kwabo ngokwebhayoloji nangokwengqondo, ngoko ke kubudlelwane bobokwabelana ngesondo omnye komnye akukho bumbano lokuhambelana, yiyo loo nto abantu abathandana bengamaqabane Ukungoneliseki okungagungqiyoiboniswe kuphando rhoqo. Njengoko uqaphele ugqirha wezengqondo odumileyo: Olona lwalamano lubalaseleyo kubungqingili ngama-idyll xa kuthelekiswa nabona bantu abathandanayo.. Ke ithuba lokutshata iqabane lakho lesini esifanayo ayitshintshi into yokuba ubudlelwane obunjalo bungasebenzi. Ukongeza, umdla wamaqabane omnye komnye uxhomekeke kubungakanani “bokungaziwa” phakathi kwabo, kwaye ekubeni amaqabane esini esifanayo etshatile ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo ezifanayo, “ukungaziwa” kubo kuhlala kungaphantsi, nto leyo ekhokelela ekubeni basebenze ngokukhawuleza omnye komnye.
Inkcazo enomdla inikwa ngabaphembeleli abathandanayo abathandana nabathi bajongana neengxaki zoluntu phakathi kwabantu abathandana nabo encwadini. After The Ball (iphe. 329):
Umlinganiswa oJoni Gay uza kukuxelela ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane “obungenaxhala” apho lo mntu angazibandakanyi kakhulu, engenzi iimfuno, kwaye umnika indawo eyaneleyo. Ngokwenyani, akukho sithuba siya kuba sanele, kuba uJoni akafuni mthandi, kodwa kwi-fuck buddy henchman - umhlobo wokutsiba, uhlobo lwezixhobo zasendlini ezingathobeki. Xa ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo kuqalisa ukubonakala kubudlelwane (okuthi, kwithiyori, kube sesona sizathu sivakalayo kubo), bayayeka ukuzonwabisa, babe “ngabanobunzima” kwaye bahlukane. Nangona kunjalo, ayinguye wonke umntu okhangela ulwalamano olomileyo. Abanye bafuna uthando lokwenyani kunye bade balufumane. Kwenzeka ntoni emva koko? Ngokukhawuleza, inyoka eneliso elilodwa iphakamisa intloko yayo embi. Akuzange kubekho isiko lokunyaniseka kuluntu lwabanefanasini. Nokuba wonwabe kangakanani umntu othandana nomntu ongatshatanga naye, uya kuthi ga ngoku aqhubeke ekhangela "ulonwabo." Izinga lokungcatsha phakathi “kwabantu abatshatileyo” abatshatileyo lisondela kwi100% emva kwexesha.
Nantsi indlela uyachaza Ukunqongophala kwe-monogamy phakathi kwamadoda athandana nabantu besini esinye uWilliam Aaron:
"Kubomi bungqingili, ukuthembeka phantse akunakwenzeka. Njengenxalenye yesinyanzelo sesini esinye, kubonakala ngathi yimfuneko yokuba umntu ashiye abemnye umntu ngokwesini, kufuneka abe esoloko ejonge [amaqabane amatsha]. Ngenxa yoko, "imitshato" ephumelele kakhulu yasekhaya yinto apho kukho isivumelwano phakathi kwamaqabane okuba namabali ecaleni ngelixa kugcinwe ukubonakala komdaka kwimeko yabo yobomi.
Ukuqwalaselwa kwabona bantu bangaphakathi kuqinisekiswe ngokupheleleyo ngumsebenzi wesayensi. Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu besini esifanayo unyaka onesiqingatha, kunye nokuhlala ixesha elide, kuhamba nemidlalo engenamdla kunye Imikhwa enomona, zikhona ngenxa ye-ubudlelwane obuvulekileyo", Okanye, njengoko umbhali weholo-Andrew Salivan ebeka, ngokuhlutha "Ukuqonda okunzulu kwesidingo sokukhutshwa ngaphandle komtshato"... Uphando obekufanele ukuba lubonakalise ukomelela kwimibutho yabasetyhini abathandanayo besini esinye lufumanise ukuba kubudlelwane obuphakathi kweminyaka emi-1 ukuya kwengama-5 ubudala, kuphela sisi-4.5% samafanasini axela inkosikazi enye, kwaye akukho namnye kubudlelwane obungaphaya kweminyaka emi-5 (McWhirter & Mattison, 1985). Umndilili ophakathi utshintsha amaqabane aliqela ngonyaka, kunye namakhulu aliqela ebomini bakhe (Pollack, 1985). Uphononongo olwenziwe eSan Francisco (eBell naseWeinberg, 1978) lubonise ukuba ama-43% abantu abathandana besisini esinye banamaqabane angaphezulu kwama-500 abelana nawo, kunye nama-28% angaphezulu kwe-1000. Uphononongo olwenziwe kwiminyaka engama-20 kamva, sele ikwixesha likaGawulayo, alufumananga lutshintsho lubalulekileyo Ukuziphatha: uhlengahlengiso oluqhelekileyo lwamaqabane angama-101-500 ngexesha lobomi bakhe, malunga ne-15% yayinamaqabane angama-501-1000, kwaye enye i-15% yayingaphezulu kwe-1000 (UVan de Ven et al. I-Xnumx) Ngokutsho uphando Iminyaka ye-2013, malunga ne-70 yeepesenti yosulelo lwe-HIV phakathi kwabantu abathandana abatshatileyo iyenzeka kwiqabane eliqhelekileyo, kuba ubuninzi bokukrexeza kwenzeka ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ikhondomu.
Ukulandela uphando lwaphambi kwexesha, uninzi lwakutsha nje luye lwathi amaxabiso ozinzo phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo abesini esifanayo ayafana nalawo esini esahlukileyo. NGAPHAKATHI nqaku Izazinzulu zaseMelika naseCanada zibonelela ngedatha entsha kwizalathi zozinzo zisebenzisa iiseti zedatha ezintathu ezinkulu ezivela eMelika naseKhanada. Ukuqinisekisa umsebenzi wokuqala, izazinzulu zifumanise ukuba abantu abathandana besini esinye banomdla wokuqhekeka kunabantu abatshatileyo. Ngapha koko, umsantsa wozinzo mkhulu kwizibini ezinabantwana, elona qela libaluleke kakhulu kulo uzinzo.
Intatheli yase-Bhritane kunye nomnxibelelanisi uMilo Yannopoulos uchaza ubume bolwalamano phakathi kwezitabane ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:
“Ndihlala ndinomhlobo wam ophambili ondinika imali. Oku kuhlala kungugqirha, ibhanki, okanye into enjalo. Kwaye ndinabahlobo abambalwa ngesondo- abaqeqeshi bobuqu, iimbaleki. Ndiyabamema, kwaye eyona nkwenkwe iphambili iyandimema ... Inyani yile, sinamathuba ongenawo. Sinemvume ebaluleke kakhulu esisikhulula kuzo zonke iinkqubo ezisemthethweni. Yiyo loo nto umtshato wesini ungamampunge. Thixo wam, nabani na ofuna ukuba kunye nomntu omnye uyoyikeka. "
UJoseph Schiambra, oonontlalontle bakhe baphela ngokususwa kwenxalenye yomqolo wakhe kwaye waphantse wabeka ubomi bakhe kuye, ubhala Kwibhlog yakhe:
"Phantsi komthetho obalulekileyo webhayoloji yamadoda, ukhululwe kwiinkcaso zabafazi kunye neentombi, amadoda athandana nabantu abathandanayo bathambekele kubambiswano oluninzi kunye nokungazinzi, ngenxa yoko Inani eliphantsi umtshato wesini esifanayo (i-9,6%), ethi emva kwesigqibo sika-Obergefell inyuke kuphela nge-1,7%, kunye ukugcinwa kokosuleleka yintsholongwane kaGawulayo phakathi kwamadoda malunga nolwalamano oluzinzileyo. Ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda athandana nobungqingili ubukhulu becala ayingomtshato omnye, kodwa kuyaxoxiswana ngalo ubudlelwane obuvulekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kuvela imbonakalo efana nobungqingili abangamadoda nobungqingili okanye ubungqingili. "
Konke oku kuphakamisa umbuzo wesidingo sokwenyani sokutshata kwabantu besini esinye, esenzeka phantsi komlo wokuzabalaza “ngamalungelo alinganayo”, nangona umtshato ulungile, kodwa isiko lenkcubeko. Ngapha koko, abantu abathandana besini esifanayo banamalungelo afanayo nabo bonke abanye, kuba akukho mthetho omnye ucalucalulo ngokwesimo sokuziphatha ngokwesini okanye owenqabela abantu abathandana besini esifanayo kuyo nayiphi na into evunyelweyo kubantu abathandanayo. Ucalucalucalucalucalucalucalucalucalucalano xa umntu enokuthi kanti omnye akanako, kodwa kwiRussian Federation, nayiphi na indoda engatshatanga nomntu ongatshatanga naye angangena kumtshato osemthethweni phakathi kwabo ( iyaqhubeka ngokusisigxina) kwaye babamkele abantwana ukuba bayazifezekisa iimfuno ezisemgangathweni. Ukuba, bekhokelwa yiminqweno ebonakalayo, abantu besini esahlukileyo banqwenela ukubhalisa umtshato wesini esifanayo omnye komnye (umzekelo, ukuququzelela ukufumana imali yokubolekwa kwemali, ukutyelelwa ejele, ukuhanjiswa kwepenshoni, njl.njl.), Bayakwaliwa, njengabo bonke abanye abemi, nokuba bathini ukuqhelaniswa, kuba imitshato enjalo ayibonelelwa ngumthetho weRussian Federation kwaye ukuthanda ezesondo kwamaqela achaphazelekayo akunanto yakwenza kwaphela.
Inqaku le-14 SK RF lichaza ngokucacileyo ukuba ngubani ongatshatanga. Kukho abantu abasele betshatile, izalamane ezisondeleyo, abazali abamkhulisayo kunye nabantwana ababameleyo, kunye nabantu ababonwa yinkundla njengengafanelekanga ngokusemthethweni ngenxa yokugula ngengqondo. Amafanasini awakhankanywa kweli nqaku. Inqaku le-12 le-RF IC ayithinteli indoda engatshatanga ukutshata nomntu ongatshatanga naye. Ke, oku akukhona malunga nokuphelisa ucalucalulo kunye nohlobo oluthile lokungalingani kwamalungelo, kodwa malunga nokufumana amalungelo akhethekileyo abathandana abathandanayo, kule meko, ilungelo lokungenelela kumthetho welizwe ukuthintela inkqubo yedemokhrasi, kunye nokuchaza umba womtshato njengemanyano yendoda kunye nowesifazane ngokubona kwayo .
NgokwesiGqibo seNkundla yoMgaqo-siseko yeRussian Federation ka-Novemba 16, 2006 No. imibutho yabasebenzi. "
Kutheni le nto abaphembeleli be-LGBT bezimisele kangaka ukuba baqinisekise ukuba umtshato wesini esifanayo? Akukho namnye ubathintelayo ukuba baphile ubomi kunye, kunye nakwabathandanayo kudala bekukho imithetho yomthetho elawula iipropathi kunye nemicimbi yelifa elibi kunaleyo yomtshato. Ngapha koko, njengoko amanani-manani asemthethweni abonisa ukuba umtshato wesini esifanayo ubonakalisa, uninzi lwabantu abathandana abathandana nabo alubadingi konke konke.
Kwangexesha elide, abaxhasi bemilinganiselo yentsapho baye bazama ukubonisa ukuba i-ajenda ayikokongeza udidi olutsha "abasandul 'ukutshata" kwiziko elikhoyo lomtshato ukuze uPetya atshate noVasya, kodwa ukutshabalalisa imilinganiselo yokuziphatha ekhoyo. kunye nezithethe zenkcubeko nezekhaya, ezibandakanya ukubhangiswa ngokupheleleyo kwaloo maziko omtshato ngolo hlobo. Olu ayilotshintsho nje kumagama ambalwa emthethweni, lutshintsho eluntwini. Apho umtshato wesini esifanayo sele usemthethweni, umzabalazo wokumiselwa ngokusemthethweni kwesithembu kunye nobudlelwane bobulili obufanayo buqala ukuvela, kunye neyokuqala i-notarised isithembu somanyano.
Umtshutshisi obalaseleyo we "LGBT intshukumo" uMaria Gessen, owayesengumlawuli wenkonzo yaseRussia "Inkululeko yeRadio", kwinkqubo Umbutho wase-Australia i-Radio ye-ABC iqinisekise ngokupheleleyo olu loyiko lokwenza umbono:
“Umzabalazo womtshato wobungqingili uhlala ubandakanya ubuxoki ngento esiya kwenza ngayo ngomtshato xa sifika ngendlela yethu. Siyaxoka ukuba iziko lomtshato liya kuhlala lingaguqukanga- liyotshintsha, kufuneka litshintshe. Kucace gca ukuba kufuneka iyeke ukubakhona. Ndinabantwana abathathu abanabazali abahlanu, ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi, kwaye andiqondi ukuba kutheni bengabinabazali abahlanu ngokusemthethweni. "Ndingathanda ukuhlala kwinkqubo yomthetho ekwaziyo ukwenza le nyani, kwaye andicingi ukuba iyahambelana neziko lomtshato."
Inkqubo yezomthetho "ekwazi ukwenza le nyani" inokufumaneka kuphela ku "Isibindi seHlabathi ElitshaI-Aldous Huxley, okanye kwizixeko ezibini ezidumileyo zoLwandle oluFileyo. Nokuba kudlule iGrisi neRoma yamandulo eyabola ngokupheleleyo ngexesha lokuncipha kwabo, akukho mntu waba nesibindi sokungena kumtshato.
I-Hesse ayisiyiyo yodwa ekuvakaliseni ezo zicwangciso. Ngosuku olulandelayo emva kwesigqibo seNkundla ePhakamileyo yase-US sokuba semthethweni umtshato wabantu besini esifanayo, unjingalwazi kwezopolitiko u-Tamara Metz ichaziweInqanaba elilandelayo lomzabalazo kukususa iziko lomtshato:
"Yintoni elandelayo?" - Ukuphelisa umtshato, ukuphelisa ukubandakanyeka kukaRhulumente, ukupheliswa kwenqanaba elisemthethweni. Naxa sibhiyozela uloyiso, kufuneka siqale ngokugxininisa ekupheliseni umtshato. Inkululeko, ukulingana kunye nempilo yenkululeko yenkululeko yethu ixhomekeke koku ”
Ngu ngokwe Intatheli yesini esifanayo uSally Cohn:
"Ibhokisi encinci yomtshato wesintu incinci kakhulu ukuba sikwazi ukuveza izimvo zothando kunye nentsebenziswano. Mhlawumbi inyathelo elilandelayo ayilulo olunye ulwandiso lwendlela emxinwa yomtshato, kodwa ukupheliswa komehluko oqinisekileyo phakathi kweentsapho ezitshatileyo kunye nolwalamano olulinganayo, kodwa olungaqondakali.
Ngu uluvo Umhlohli wezeSosayensi kwiYunivesithi yaseVictoria Meagan Tyler:
"Ukuyeka umtshato xa uwonke kuya kuba yindlela ekhawulezayo yokuqhubela phambili, kuba ukuphela komtshato kunokukhokelela ekuqaliseni kokulingana kubo bonke."
Uluntu lwe-LGBT (uninzi lwazo lungalindelanga) lusetyenziswa nje njengefonti yenkanunu ukukhuthaza iingcinga zaseSodom kunye notshintsho kwezentlalo phantsi kwezilogeni zamalungelo nokulingana. Njengombhali omnye ukubeka: Ukuba esixekweni sakho kukho iparitha yesini-musa ukuzingcamla ukuba umzabalazo wamalungelo “oontlalontle” uqalile. Ngumntu oveze "amalungelo ezitabane" ukuze ukusombulula ezinye iingxaki».
Kwangelo xesha, abantu abaninzi abathandana nabantu besini esinye baphikisana nokuchazwa ngokutsha komtshato ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, kodwa abambalwa ababa nesibindi sokuthetha ngayo bavulelwa intshutshiso engathethekiyo ngabatshutshisi, kwaye ilizwi labo laxhokonxwa. Ngokutsho kwenye yazo:
Ubuhlobo besini esifanayo bahlukile emtshatweni, kwaye ukuzenza into engachananga. Inqaku asiyiyo into ebhetele okanye imbi, kodwa ukuqaphela ngumahluko kunye nokubhiyozela yantlukwano. Ukuthi akukho mahluko kuyahlekisa. ”
Njengoko abathathi-nxaxheba kule vidiyo ichazwe ngokuchanekileyo, abantu abatshatileyo “abatshatanga” bayazityeshela iimfuno zomntwana, benze kwaye baqinise izimvo ezigqwethekileyo malunga nobudlelwane phakathi kwezesini. Kukuzona nto zilunge kakhulu ukuba umntwana akhuliswe ngunina noyise. Lo mthetho uqinisekiswa ngobunzima obuninzi kunye neengxaki zeemvakalelo kunye nezengqondo ezithi abantwana abaninzi baziinkedama okanye bakhuliswe ngobuso obungaphelelanga okanye bokubakhulisa. Ngokusemthethweni “kwemitshato” yesini esifanayo, imeko engalunganga yabantwana iba yinto “eqhelekileyo” emiselwe ngumthetho kumntwana ngamnye okhuliswe kubudlelwane besini esinye. Umntwana onjalo uyakuhlala ehluthwa nguyise wendalo okanye umama wakhe, endaweni yoko uya kunyanzeliswa kubudlelwane bemvakalelo kunye nomntu angamaziyo. Ewe kunjalo, oku kunokwenzeka kwakhona ngoqhawulo-mtshato kwiintsapho ezingafaniyo, kodwa olu luphawu olucacileyo lokuba kukho into engahambanga kakuhle kwaye ayijongwa njengesiqhelo.
Nangaphambi koqhankqalazo olwenziwe ngu-Stonewall, "unguvulindlela wokulwela amalungelo abantu abathandana nabathandana nabo," uCarl Wittmann, kwinguquko yakheUkubonakaliswa ngokwesiniIkhuphe esi silumkiso silandelayo:
“Izitabane kufuneka ziyeke ukuvavanya ukuzithemba kwazo ukuba zilingisa njani emtshatweni wesini esahlukileyo. Abantu abatshatileyo abathandani besini esinye baya kuba neengxaki ezifanayo nezabo bafanane nomntu ongatshatanga naye, kodwa umahluko kuphela wokuba baya kuba yimbumba. Ukukhululeka kwezitabane kukuba kuthi ngokwethu sigqibe ngendlela kwaye sihlala nabani, endaweni yokuvavanya ulwalamano lwethu malunga nabantu abathe tye kunye neenqobo zabo.
Umtshutshisi ogunyazisiweyo we-LGBT uPaul Ettelbrick wabelana ngale nto Ukuxambulisanaukuba umtshato uchasene neenjongo "zesiko lesini gay" kunye neenjongo ezisisiseko zomnyhadala wokulalana:
"Ukuhlala ngokuzithemba kuthetha ukwandisa iiparameter zesini, ezesondo kunye nosapho, kwaye apha endleleni, siguqula esona siseko soluntu ... Njengobungqingili, ndihluke ngokusisiseko kwabasetyhini abangengabo abathandanayo, kodwa ekukhuseleni ilungelo lomtshato osemthethweni, kufuneka siphikise ukuba siyafana nabantu abathandanayo izibini, zabelana ngeenjongo kunye neenjongo ezifanayo, kwaye nizinikele ekwakheni ubomi bethu ngendlela efanayo ... Umtshato awuyi kusikhulula njengabathandana besini esinye nesinye. Ngapha koko, iya kusithintela, isenze singabonakali ngakumbi, isinyanzele ukuba sizibandakanye nesiqhelo kunye nokujongela phantsi iinjongo zentshukumo yenkululeko yamafanasini ... Kuyimfuneko ukugxila kwiinjongo zethu eziphambili-ukubonelela ngeendlela ezizezinye zomtshato kunye nokutshintsha ngokupheleleyo izimvo zoluntu kusapho.
“Ilingana elitshatileyo elilingana” lomlinganisi yavumaukuba ii-polls ezibonisa uninzi lwabemi baxhasa "umtshato wesini esifanayo" zisekelwe kwidatha yobuqhetseba. Uyabuza imfuno "yokungagungqi" yomtshato ngokubanzi kwaye ufuna "ukubhiyozela iyantlukwano, hayi ukuhambelana":
"Amanye amaqhinga asetyenziswa yindawo yolungiselelo yokutshata kwabantu besini esifanayo abandakanya ukuveza iinyani, ukusebenzisa impikiswano, ukwenza kunye nokuthintela imbangi ngokuhlekisa nangokusebenzisa imbumbulu. Esona sesona sikhokelo sinyanzeliswayo yimfuno yokulingana, nangona oku kunonxibelelwano oluncinci kunye nemfuno elungileyo "yokulingana kubo bonke." Kumele kwamkelwe ukuba ngumbandela wezopolitiko, hayi okona kulungileyo okanye kufanelekile ... Abaxhasi bemitshato yesini esifanayo bathi umtshato "lilungelo". Nangona kunjalo, umtshato sisiko lesiko, hayi umthetho. Batsho ukuba isithintelo emtshatweni sinokuthelekiswa nengcinezelo yembali abajamelana nayo abamnyama okanye abasetyhini abahluthwe amalungelo okuvota. Kodwa idatha yendalo, enje ngesini lomntu okanye ibala lolusu, ayifani nendlela umntu akhetha ukubonisa ngayo ubuni bakhe.
Ngokutsho Umbhali okhankanywe apha ngasentla uAndrew Salivan:
"Kukho into engalunganga malunga nokulondolozwa kwabantu abathandana nabo besini esinye ukuba bazame ukubethelela abathandana besini esinye kunye nabantu abathandana nabesilisa ngokwesini ukuba bamkele imodeli engagungqiyo yesimo esingafaniyo nesinye. Ngokokwenyani, amafanasini akaqhelekanga, kwaye ukutshintsha ubomi bawo obuhlukeneyo nobunzima bube yimodeli enye yokuziphatha kuthetha ukungayilibali into ebaluleke kakhulu kwaye imangalisayo kolunye ubunye babo. ”
I-Queer Dissident Iqokelela, izibiza ngokuba “ngokuchaseneyo,” igxeka iingcinga ezibalaseleyo zokuvuselela ubungqingili kunye iyakhuthaza ukungathathi nxaxheba “kumaziko olondolozo lwempilo” njengomtshato:
"Kutheni abantu abatshatileyo kufuneka benandiphe amalungelo awalelwayo kwabo bangatshatanga okanye bakhethe ezinye iindlela zolwalamano? Kutheni le nto kufuneka silwakhe ngokutsha ubomi bethu obuvuselelayo kunye neemvakalelo, ukuze sikwazi ukungena kwisakhelo kunye neepatter ze-hetero-world? Hayi, ngokungqongqo, kutheni simele sithambekele kwinqanaba lokunyuka? Umzabalazo wokulingana emtshatweni e-United States ngoku ugubungela zonke ezinye iingxaki abajongane nazo abahlali, kwaye oku kukude ... Kwaye akufuneki ukuba silinganiswe nabalawulwa be-heterosupremacists kunye nabalandeli bezenkolo. Ekugqibeleni Simele ukutshatyalaliswa kobukhulu bomtshato kunye nosapho lwenyukliya. Isimo sengqondo sonke esithi "unathi okanye singabanqolobi", esihlala kwinkampu yabo baxhasa umtshato wesini esifanayo, sifana kakhulu noBush Jr. kwaye sishiya igumbi elincinci lokucinga okuqinisekileyo.
Intatheli yesini esifanayo kunye nomsasazi werediyo uMichelangelo Signoril cetyiswa Amatshantliziyo akhuthaza ulwaphulo mthetho
“Yilwa imitshato yabantu besini esinye kunye nezinto ezilungileyo zabo, kwaye, emva kokuba semthethweni, chaza ngokupheleleyo iziko lomtshato. Funa ilungelo lokutshata kwabantu besini esinye ukuba ungahambeli kwimigaqo yokuziphatha koluntu, kodwa ukubhenca intsomi kwaye utshintsho olukhulu kwiziko le-archaic. Ukubhaliswa ngokusemthethweni komtshato wesini esifanayo kwenza ukuba kuguqulwe ngokupheleleyo inkcazo yosapho kwinkcubeko yaseMelika. Esi sisixhobo sokugqibela apho unokurhoxisa yonke imithetho ephathelele kubufanasini, wazise iinkqubo zokufundisa ubufanasini kunye ne-AIDS kwizikolo zikarhulumente, kwaye, ngamafutshane, ufezekisa utshintsho olukhulu kwindlela uluntu olusijonga ngayo nangendlela esiphatha ngayo.
Njengoko ukuziqhelanisa kubonisa, okuqala ngezitatimende ezihlaselayo malunga nesidingo sokumisa ngokusemthethweni “ukutshata” kwabantu besini esinye ngenjongo yokuba “ubulungisa nokulingana” kuphelela ngokuhlaselwa ngobuninzi, ukuzama ukukhusela iinqobo zesiko.