Ukongeza kwiintsomi eziqinisekisiweyo malunga nokuzalwa kunye nokuziphatha kwabantu abathandana nabo besini esinye, izishoshovu zesini zikwazile ukumilisela intsomi yokungabinakho. Uhlala uve ukuba imizamo yokutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo iyingozi ngoba kukhokelela kwiintloni, uxinzelelo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuzibulala (okungangqiniswanga kuphando). Umzekelo, ukusweleka kweTreatment kuhlala kuvakaliswa kuthiwa "kukuzibulala" okunxulunyaniswa nonyango lwehomoni. Ngokwesebe le-bbc lesayensi, uhlobo lokuzibulala kwakhe alugcini amanzi, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba, wazibhaqa ngengozi nge-cyanide, awayehlala eyisebenzisa. Ngokutsho Ukuvavanya uNjingalwazi weBiografi uNjingalwazi D. Copland: "Uye wasabela kunyango lwehormoni ehlekisayo, kwaye umsebenzi wakhe wawukwinqanaba eliphezulu lokuqonda. "Wayekwimeko entle kwiintsuku ezingaphambi kokuba asweleke, kwaye wonwabile kwaye wabonwabisa nabamelwane bakhe."

Ngayiphi na imeko, unyango lwehormoni (ikhemikhali ekhutshelweyo) alunakuthelekiswa nonyango lwe-psychoanalytic reparative, ejolise ekuphuhliseni ubuni besini sowesilisa kunye nokuphelisa umvandedwa wengqondo ebuntwaneni. Uxinzelelo ngenxa yokuzama okungaphumelelanga kokutshintsha umkhombandlela kunokwenzeka, njengako nakuphi na ukusilela, kodwa enyanisweni uninzi lokuzama ukuzibulala kubangelwa kukungachazwa okwenziwe ziinkokeli zombutho we-gay ukuba ukuqhelanisa akunakutshintshwa. Umzekelo: http://www.bbc.com/news/world-…

UMBALI OBHALASELWE KWI-PSYCHODYNAMIC REPAIR TERAPY.

Kwi-psychotherapy eguquguqukayo, ubufanasini bubonwa njenge "yunithi ye-neurosis", i.e. ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwengqondo yendalo eguqukayo ebangelwa sisisombululo esingathandekiyo kwiimpikiswano ezinzulu zengqondo okanye ukulimala. Okwenzakalisayo kunokugqogqa, njengokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo okanye ngokweemvakalelo, okanye kudalwe zizimvo ezichaphazeleka kwiimeko ezimbi zomntu ngamnye ajongene nazo. I-psychotherapy ye-Dynamic ichonga, ikhethe kwaye isombulule la mava abuhlungu, ekhokelela ekunciphiseni kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukupheliswa kwemikhwa engathandekiyo yesini esifanayo.

Umbutho weSizwe woFundo kunye noNyango loBungqingili (NARTH) uchaza le patheni yomtsalane wesini esifanayo:

Kumntwana onesifo sengqondo sokuzikhathaza, amava aqinileyo ngokweemvakalelo anokuthi aphazamise ukukhula kwakhe ngokwesini, apho kwiimeko ze8 ezivela kwi10 kuya kukhokelela ekutsaleni umdla wesini sakhe, esiya kuba sisidenge ngexesha lokufikisa. Sicima into engaxhunyiwe.

Ukungafumani mvume, ingqalelo, kunye nokuthandwa ngamanani angamadoda kuya kubuyekezwa ngobuhlobo bezesondo kunye nabo. Kwesinye isiganeko, umntu obhinqileyo onesithukuthezi ujonga umntu onesibindi, ozithembayo nozithandayo - umfanekiso wento engafunekiyo enqwenelekayo, nakumnqweno wakhe wokuba neempawu ezifanayo, uqalisa ukwenza ngokwesini umniniyo. Umtsalane wakhe ongekho mgangathweni kukuzama ukuba neempawu ozifunayo, nokuba zikwifom yokomfuziselo. Ngamanye amaxesha ubudlelwane kunye nendoda endala iyilelwe ukulungiselela ukungabikho kobudlelwane bukatata.

Unyango oluhlaziyayo lukhulisa amandla ahlukileyo kumntu onjalo, amazise ngobudoda bakhe kwaye amvumela ukuba alondoloze ubuhlobo kunye nesini sakhe ngaphandle kokwabelana ngesondo.

Uhlobo lwesibindi sokuthandana kwabantu besini esifanayo linemvakalelo efanayo yokunqongophala kwesazisi njengohlobo lwabasetyhini, umahluko kuphela kukuba imeko yendawo yokuhlazwa ngokukhohlakeleyo yamfundisa ukuba angabonisi buthathaka kwaye azifihle ubundilele bakhe phantsi kokhokelo lwendoda enemehlo. Apha kukho indlela yokukhusela "yokwenziwa kokuphendula" apho impembelelo engamkelekanga yohlulwa ngokugqithisa umkhwa ochaseneyo. Kuba ulungelelwaniso olunjalo lweempawu alusosiphumo senkqubo yokuphuhliswa kwendalo, yona, njengomthetho, yinto ebalaseleyo kunye ne-hypertrophic parody yomgangatho wokuqikelela. Ke kukho i-caricature barbel kwizikhuselo zesikhumba kunye ne-transvestites, kunye ne-makeup yazo kunye negrimite kakhulu ezifana neziqhwithi kunabafazi. 

Uhlobo lwesibindi lobufanasini bethuthuzela inkwenkwe eyoyikayo ngaphakathi kuye ngokufuna ukusondela kunye neqabane elincinci kunye nelingenalo nesibindi, imele inxenye yokudakumba eyayiyekisiwe ebuntwaneni ukuze iphile.

Unyango kule meko luya kujoliswa ekuchaseni i-hyper-masculine facade yobuxoki kunye nokutyhila ubudoda bayo bokwenyani. Le nkqubo ikwafuna ukusonjululwa kwentlungu yabantwana yokuxhatshazwa kunye nokoyikiswa, okuphelisa isidingo sokuphinda iminqweno yabo yesini ehambelana nembuyekezo.

Inguquko evela kubungqingili ukuya kwisini esahlukileyo kufuneka ingabonakali njengombuzo "omnye okanye omnye." Kukho ukuqhubekeka okuthile, oko kukuthi, ukuncipha okucothayo, ukuqhubela phambili kwezokuqhuba kwabantu abathandana besini esinye kunye nokunyuka kweempawu zakwamadoda kunye namathuba, inqanaba lokubonakaliswa kwahluka ngokubanzi. Kumele kuqatshelwe ukuba zininzi izizathu ezahlukileyo ezikhokelela kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo apho kunokutsala umdla kumntu wesini esinye. Le modeli ingentla ichaza enye yezona zinto zixhaphakileyo zobungqingili kwaye ayibanga ubumbeko. Umntu unokuthatha inxaxheba kubudlelwane bobungqingili ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, ukusuka ekukhubazekeni kwengqondo ukuya kwi-nihilism yolutsha. Iimvakalelo zakhe zesini esifanayo zinokubangelwa yimfuno yokwamkelwa, ukuvunywa, ukuthanda, okanye ukubonakalisa isizungu, isizungu, okanye inkanuko nje. Umntu okwishumi elivisayo unokuziphatha kakubi ngokwesini esifanayo ngenjongo ye-adventure, imali, phantsi koxinzelelo loontanga, okanye ephantsi kwempembelelo yeendaba. Oku kungayindlela yokuziphindezela kubazali, intiyo emadodeni, okanye ukuphinde ufumane imeko yempatho gadalala ngokwesondo.

ISIQINISEKISO SOKUGCINWA KWEEMPENDULO.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_FzrYfZnmjg

isishwankathelo idatha yovavanyo, iingxelo zeklinikhi, kunye nophando kwiminyaka edlulileyo ye-135 ibonisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba amadoda kunye nabasetyhini abakhuthazwayo banokuhamba besuka kubungqingili baye kwelungqingweni. Iindlela ezahlukeneyo zisetyenziselwe ukunyanga ubungqingili, kubandakanya unyango lwengqondo, iindlela zengqondo zokuziphatha kunye nobunkokheli bolawulo lobufundisi. Kukho ubungqina bokutshintsha okuzenzekelayo ngaphandle kongenelelo.

Ithini I-academy ngale nto.

Kwi-1956, ugqirha weengqondo obalaseleyo we-Edmund Bergler wabhala okulandelayo:

"Iminyaka eyi-10 eyadlulayo, eyona nzululwazi ibisemagqabini yayikukubuyiswa komntu onobungqingili kunye" nesiphelo "sakhe, ngamanye amazwi, ukupheliswa kwecala lokuziva uziva. Amava amatsha ngengqondo kunye nophando sele engqina ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo isiphelo esingenakuphikiswa sobufanasini (ngamanye amaxesha sibangelwe yimeko yokungabikho komzimba kunye nemo yehomoni) ngokwenyani iyunithi eguqulweyo yonyango lwe-neurosis. Namhlanje, i-psychoanalytic psychotherapy inokunyanga ubufanasini. Ngaba singabaphilisa bonke abantu besini esinye? - hayi. Iimfuno ezizodwa eziyimfuneko, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, umnqweno wesini sokuba umntu atshintshe. Esi sifo, xa sijonga isini kuqala, sidityaniswa rhoqo kunye nokuzitshabalalisa ngokungazenzisiyo, okuzibonakalisa ngaphandle kwendawo yesondo, njengoko kugubungela ubuntu bonke. Olona tshaba lomntu wesini esifananayo ayisiyo ubugqwetha bayo, kodwa kukungazi kwakhe ukuba unokuncedwa, kunye nokubona kwakhe ngengqondo, okumenza ukuba aphephe unyango. Oku kungazixhasa kweenkokeli zesini. ”

Kwiminyaka yokuziqhelanisa ye-30, uBerggler uncede abantu abathandana nabalingani be-100 ukuba batshintshe indlela abajonga ngayo. Ichaza impumelelo epheleleyo kwi-33% yamatyala.

I-Irving Bieber, egqiba kwi-1962 iminyaka elithoba kufunda I-106 yamafanasini yathi i-27% yabo yaba ngabodwa emtshatweni ngenxa yonyango lwengqondo, kubandakanya abo babekhe babafanasini. Kwi-1979, wathi malunga ne-1000 yamadoda athandana namanye abhenela kuye lonke ixesha kwaye idatha yayihambelana nesifundo sokuqala.

"Ulandelo lwesigulana kule minyaka ilandelayo ye-20 boniseukuba bahlala bodwa, kwaye amaqondo okuqala kwakhona asusela kwi-30% ukuya kwi-50%. "

UDaniel Kappon kwi1965 ingxelo malunga neziphumo zomsebenzi wabo weklinikhi kwizigulana ze-150: I-50% yabantu abathandana nabantu abatshatileyo, i-30% yabantu abathandana nabantu abatshatileyo kunye ne-90% ye-bisexuals yaba ngabantu abathandanayo.

Xa i-APA isusa ubufanasini kwi-1974, wakuchaza oko Iindlela zonyango zanamhlanje zivumela inxenye ebalulekileyo yabantu abathandana nabasetyhini abafuna ukutshintsha indlela abathanda ngayo ngokwesini ukuba benze njalo ".

Emva kokuba i-APA iguqukele ekubeni ngumbutho wezopolitiko onesimangalo esichasene nezenzululwazi zokulwa namaphetshana asemthethweni kwizipapasho ezisesikweni, ayisihoyi kuphela uphando olwenziweyo malunga notshintsho lokwaqhelanisa, kodwa ikwanyanzela ezintsha, njengoko iziphumo ngokuqinisekileyo zingangqubelani nomgaqo-nkqubo wazo wangoku. Yile nto kanye eyenzekileyo kuphando olwenziwe ngu-Szydlo noSchroeder, ekwakufanele ukuba ibhale ukwenzakala kunye nokungabi nalutho konyango olubuyisayo, kodwa enyanisweni bafumana ubungqina bokuxhasa ukusebenza kwayo kwabanye abantu.

Kwi-2004, owayesakuba ngumongameli we-APA kunye nelungu lesebe lezesini kunye nemicimbi yezesini, uRobert Perloff igwetyiwe Iqela lezopolitiko elingu-APA ongabandakanyekanga kwezopolitiko wabiza inzame zokubuyisa unyango olubuyisayo "alunamsebenzi, alunasayensi, kwaye alunangqondo."

U-Perlof uqaphele ukukhula komzimba wophando ochasene nesibhengezo esidumileyo sokungakwazi ukutshintsha imeko yokuziphatha ngokwesondo kwaye waxhasa isikhundla se-NARTH.

https://youtu.be/GIoLjFZSBW4

Omnye uMongameli we-APA, u-Nicholas Cumings, kwiNkomfa yoNyaka ye-2005 ingxelophakathi kwe1959 - 1979 I-18,000 yamafanasini yaya eklinikhi yayo ineengxaki ezahlukeneyo, ekuthe malunga ne1,600 ijolise ekutshintsheni inkambo yabo. Ngenxa yonyango lwe-2,400, babenakho ukuyenza le nto.

Isazinzulu esikhokelayo uJeffrey Satinover kwi-1996 wabhala malunga nempumelelo ye-50% kwisampuli engacwangciswanga, kwaye malunga nokuphumelela kwe-100% kwi "iqela elikhethwe ngononophelo kubantu abanomdla."

URobert Spitzer, obabukhuphe ngokwakhe ubufanasini kuluhlu lweengxaki zengqondo kwi-1974, waziswa kwi-2001 kufunda, eqinisekisa ukuba ukutshintsha kungekuphela nje yokuziphatha kwabantu besini esinye kunye nokuzazisa, kodwa kunye nokuzibandakanya ngokwesondo kunokwenzeka. Spitzer yongezwa ukuba unyana wakhe uye wafana nokuba ungungqingili kwaye ufuna ukutshintsha, uya kumxhasa ekufuneni unyango kunye neenzame zokutshintsha imeko yakhe ukusuka kubufanasini abe ngumntu wesini esahlukileyo.

UScott Hershberger, unjingalwazi obalaseleyo kwizazi ze-LGBT, emva kohlalutyo lophando lukaSpitzer kugqityiweukuba ubungqina obuqinisekileyo bokuba unyango olubuyisayo lunokunceda abantu ukuba batshintshe indlela abathandana ngayo nabathandana abathandanayo.

"Ngoku bonke abo bathembela kunyango olubuyisayo kufuneka banike ubungqina obuqinisekileyo bokuxhasa isikhundla sabo."

Ezinye zeengxelo zokuphumelela kwakhona kwendlela yokusebenza kwengqondo yengqondo ishwankathelwe kwitafile: 

Ikholeji yaseMelika yoNyango lwabantwana kwi2008 bhengezwe okulandelayo:

“Nangona umdla wabantu abathandana besini esinye inganyanzelekanga ukuba uzikhethele yona, uguqukayo kubantu abaninzi. Unyango lokuvuselela inkanuko yesini kunokuba luncedo. ”

Umphandi kwi-psychology yophuhliso, Lesbian Lisa Diamond kwi udliwano ndlebe I-2015 yonyaka yatsho okulandelayo:

“Ukuziphatha ngokwesondo kuyaguquguquka. Lixesha lokushiya umbono "wokuzalwa ngale ndlela" ngasemva. Amalungelo abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabo akufunekanga axhomekeke ekubeni umntu waba njani na kwaye kufuneka siyamkele into yokuba isini singatshintsha.

Unjingalwazi Camilla Paglia, ubuhlakani kunye nesini, utsho into enye:

"Isini sokwabelana ngesondo siyamanzi kwaye siyakwazi ukutshintsha."

Ukwahluka kwesini kuqinisekiswa kuphando. Ke malunga nesiqingatha sabantu abanomtsalane wesini esifanayo babekhe bathandeke okanye banobungqingili, kwaye malunga nenani elifanayo labantu abathandana abathandana nobungqingili baba ngabantu abathandanayo okanye abathandanayo. Utshintsho olufanayo kukhetho lwe-erotic luqheleke kakhulu phakathi kwabantu abathandana besini esinye kunabantu abathandanayo. Neil Whitehead ngaphakathi uphando I-2009 ibonise ukuba ubungqingili nokuba eneminyaka eyi-16-17 iminyaka ubuncinci be-25 izinzile ngakumbi kunobungqingili okanye ubungqingili.

Freud ngexesha elifanelekileyo qaphela, subconsciingly, umntu onobungqingili unomdla ofanayo kubafazi njengomntu oqhelekileyo, kodwa sihlandlo ngasinye ebeka uvuyo lwayo kwinto eyindoda. Uphando lwale mihla luqinisekisile ubukho bempembelelo zesini kumadoda athandanayo ukuba athembele kubasetyhini.

Ingxelo epheleleyo kumaphepha e-128 echaza iimeko eziphumeleleyo zokuphinda ubekho ziya kufumaneka kwabo banqwenela ukufunda apha: https://vk.com/doc8208496_4467…

Ukushwankathela ubungqina obukhoyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, singathi ngokomyinge, isithathu sabantu abathathe inxaxheba kwinkqubo yohlengahlengiso baxela ngenguqu ukugqiba ubungqingili, ingxelo yesithathu inguqu ebalulekileyo ekubhekiseni ubungqingili kunye nokuphucuka ngokubanzi kwempilo yengqondo nokusebenza ngokwaseburhulumenteni, nengxelo yesithathu yokusilela iziphumo. Ukwamkelwa kwezizathu zokuba nomtsalane kubantu abathandana nabo ngokwesondo kunye neemfuno ezingaphantsi kweemvakalelo, kunye nokukhula okulandelayo kokungabelani ngesondo kunye nokwabelana ngesondo, kubonakalise ukuba zezona zinto zisebenzayo ekuguqukeni kubufanasini.

Le ndawo iqokelele ubungqina obungaphaya kwekhulu kwezabantu abathandana bodwa — abantu abashiya indlela yobungqingili kwaye baba ngabantu abathandanayo. http://testpathvoc.weebly.com/

Okungakumbi malunga nezatifikethi ze80 ezivela kwenye indawo: http://www.ldsvoicesofhope.or…

Indawo yokhuselo lwamalungelo ex-gay (acinezelwa kakhulu luluntu lwe-LGBT). https://www.voiceofthevoiceles…

LIXESHA LOKUYISHIYA INGXOXO ethi “ZALWE NGENDLELA”.

Emva kweminyaka emininzi yophando, ummeli we-APA kunye ne-LGBT, uGqirha Lisa Diamond, uxelele ingxelo yokuba ukhetho ababelana nalo ngesondo uninzi lwabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye luhlala lutshintsha, kwaye uninzi lwabo lubathanda kakhulu abantu besini esahlukileyo.

"Iindidi ze-LGBT azinantshukumo kwaye azinantsingiselo, utshilo u-Diamond. Babonisa iikhonsepthi ezikhoyo kwinkcubeko yethu, kodwa musa ukumela izinto ezikhoyo kwindalo. Sisebenzise la macandelo njengenxalenye yesicwangciso sethu sokufumana amalungelo oluntu, kwaye kuya kusiba nzima ngoku ekubeni sisazi ukuba oku akuyonyaniso.

Ukuze iqela elithile labantu likwazi ukufumana imeko ekhuselweyo kwisicwangciso somthetho, kufuneka ibe yeyentsusa kwaye isisigxina. Uluntu lwaseQueer aluhlangabezani nenqobo yokugwetywa kweNkundla ePhakamileyo yeso simo, kuba yahluke ngokupheleleyo kwaye ayingqinelani: abanye banobungqingili ngokupheleleyo, abanye ngokuyinxenye; Umntu ebethandana naye kunyaka ophelileyo, kulo nyaka kungenzeka ukuba ayinguye, njl.

Le ngxelo ichasene ngokupheleleyo nemithetho yamva nje epasiswe kumazwe amaninzi ase-US ethintela "unyango lokubuyisela" ngesizathu sokuba "ukuqhelaniswa kwabantu abathandana besini esifana nesinye" kucingelwa ukuba kuzelwe kwaye kuhleliwe, kwaye ke ukuzama ukuyitshintsha akuyonto nje ililize, kodwa ikwakhohlakele.

“Abantu be-LGBT kufuneka bayeke ukuthi, 'sincedeni, sazalwa ngolu hlobo kwaye asinakutshintsha.' Ukwabelana ngesondo akulungiswanga - kumanzi, kwaye abachasi bethu bayayazi le nto njengoko sisazi. Ke ngoko, lixesha lokushiya umbono "wokuzalwa ngale ndlela" ngasemva kwaye ufumane iingxoxo ezingcono zokufumana amalungelo kunye namalungelo, kungenjalo iya kubuya isizonde.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cpzqDU6O3t0