Ngaba bonke abantu abathandana besini esifanayo?

Igama elithi "Gay" sisazisi umntu Ukukhetha zam. Ayingabo bonke abantu abathandana besini esinye abachaza "njengezitabane." Abantu abangazichazanga njengezitabane bakholelwa ukuba bangathandani ngokwesini esinye kwaye bafuna uncedo ekuchongeni izizathu ezizezona zibangela ukuba bangathandani. Ngexesha lonyango, abacebisi kunye noochwephesha bezengqondo basebenzisa iindlela zokuziphatha ezifanelekileyo ukunceda abathengi ukuba baveze izizathu zokuba nomtsalane kubantu besini esinye kwaye babancede ekusombululeni izizathu ezibakhokelela kwiimvakalelo zobufanasini. Aba bantu, abayinxalenye yoluntu lwethu, bazabalazela ukukhusela ilungelo labo lokufumana uncedo nenkxaso yokuphelisa umtsalane wesini esifanayo, ukuba batshintshe indlela abathanda ngayo kunye / okanye bagcine ukungatshati. Oku kufezekiswa ngokweenkqubo zokubandakanya abantu ngokwesini, kubandakanya nengcebiso kunye nonyango lokuthandana kwabantu abathandanayo, okwaziwa ngokuba "kukungenelela koSondo kwezeSondo" (i-SOCE) okanye Unyango kwakhona.

Kutheni le nto abenzi bezitabane bezama ukunqanda ukwanda kwabantu ngokwesini esinye?

Imibutho elwela amalungelo abantu abathandana nesini iyalela amalungu ayo ukuba alahle abantu abatshatileyo nabangathandekiyo ukuba abachane njengabantu abathandana nesini, ikakhulu kuba abaxhasi intsomi yokuba abantu abathandana nabo bazalwe. Kwi-2008, iAmerican Psychological Association yathi: "Nangona uninzi lophononongo luye lwavavanya amandla anokubakho emfuzo, i-hormonal, intlalontle kunye nenkcubeko kwisimo sokwabelana ngesondo, abukho ubungqina obufumanekileyo bokuvumela izazinzulu ukuba zigqibe kwelokuba ukujonga ezesondo kugqitywe yiyo nayiphi na into okanye izinto ezithile.Msgstr ". Ubufanasini bunezizathu ezininzi, kwaye abantu bazibona ngokwahlukileyo kubomi babo. Abanye abantu bathanda ukuguqukela kudliwano-ndlebe oluza kubanceda baphelise i-drive engafunekiyo yesini esifanayo, kwaye oku kuyasongela i-ajenda yezopolitiko yeentshukumo zobungqingili.

Ngaba unyango ngokwahlukileyo kubantu besini esahlukileyo?

Hayi. Abacebisi abaqhuba unyango lokuphinda basebenze kwakhona baneediploma kwaye babonelele ngeenkonzo zengqondo kwimiba eyahlukeneyo, kubandakanya nomnqweno ongathandekiyo wesini esifanayo. Abagxeki bacacisa ukuba unyango lokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo njengendlela engalunganga okanye eyingozi yonyango, ngelixa abanye beyibiza ngokuba kukuzama "ukucinezela ubungqingili", obuxhomekeke ekuziphatheni okuqinisekileyo. Ezo nkcazo zibubuxoki kwaye azibonisi umsebenzi weengcali zempilo yeengqondo eziqinisekisiweyo ezisebenza kunyango lokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo.

Ngaba abantwana bayakuvunyelwa ukuba bafumane ukhathalelo ngokwengqondo ukuba unyango luvunyiwe?

Ewe ulungile Abantwana abathe bakhohliswa ngabantu besini esifanayo kwaye abangaqinisekanga ngesondo sabo ngenxa yobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo baya kuvunyelwa ukuba bafikelele kunyango kuba oko akuqinisekisi ubungqingili. Ngapha koko, umntwana uhlukunyezwa kabini - kuqala ngolwaphulo-mthetho, kwaye ke yimeko yezopolitiko, eyala ukubonelela ngonyango emntwaneni, ukuba ayisiyongqinelwano yesini.

UngungqingiliIyavuma Ngaba unyango luyingozi?

Abanye babahleleli bezitabane bathi unyango lokubuyisela kwakhona kwimeko yesiqhelo ngokucacileyo luyingozi kwaye lunokukhokelela ekubeni ulutsha lube nexhala, uxinzelelo kunye / okanye ukuzibulala. Nangona kunjalo, akukho sifundo esinye sohlalutyo soontanga esingavavanya abantwana abaye bafumana unyango kwakhona, ngenxa yoko zonke izityholo zokuba olo nyango luyingozi kwaye alunamsebenzi.

Imithetho elawula ukuvinjiswa kokunyanga kwakhona isekwe kuphela kwinkcazo yezopolitiko evela kwinto ekuthiwa yingcali yengqondo kunye nezempilo, ezinje ngeAmerican Psychological Association (APA), ethi yona kwi2009 idale iTask Force ebandakanya kuphela iingcali zengqondo zesini nobungqingili. Akuzange kube kuphela ukuba uMsebenzi oQhelekileyo ukwala ukwamkela oososayensi beengqondo kunye noochwephesha bengcali yengqondo abasebenza kunye nabathengi njengenxalenye yonyango lokuvuselela kunye / okanye abo babefudula benobungqingili, onke amalungu eli Task Force aziwa njengabachasi bexesha elide kunyango lokuvuselela izizathu zentanda-bulumko nezopolitiko.

Iqela elisebenzayo le-APA kwingxelo yalo licebisa abazali ukuba bangabheneli kunyango lokuhlengahlengisa abantwana babo. Imithetho eyilwayo ethintela ukwamkelwa kwabantu besini esahlukileyo ichaza kuphela izimvo ze-APA kunye neminye imibutho "ephambili", ingazinanzi iziphakamiso ze-American Association of Christian Psychologists (AACC), uMbutho weSizwe woFundo kunye noNyango lobufanasini (NARTH), uMbutho Wezonyango WamaKatolika (CMA) kunye neAmerican College of Pediatricians (ACPeds), bonke abo baxhasa ilungelo lomthengi lokusombulula umtsalane wesini esingafunekiyo, kunye nelungelo labazali lokuthatha isigqibo sokuba loluphi unyango lwezamayeza nolwengqondo olulungele usapho kunye nabantwana babo. Lilonke, le mibutho yenziwe ngabantu abangaphezulu kwama-50 XNUMX abaqeqeshiweyo bezempilo yezengqondo kunye nezonyango.

 Ngaba bukho ubungqina bokuxhasa ukusebenza kwe-heterosexual-solidifying therapy?

Ewe, iminyaka ye-100 yophando, enyanisweni. Kwi-2009, uMbutho weSizwe woFundo kunye noNyango loBungqingili baqhuba uhlolo loncwadi olubanzi ngesihloko sokuphinda ubekho kwaye bagqiba kwelokuba amanye amadoda kunye nabasetyhini banokuhamba besuka kubungqingili bathandane nobungqingili kwaye amanyathelo okutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesini ayengeyona ngozi. Ukongeza, incwadi ka-Dr. James Phelan yokwaphula umhlaba ikhutshwe kwi-2014 "Iziphumo eziphumeleleyo zonyango lokubuyisela kwakhona kwimeko yesiqhelo"Apho kunikezelwa iminyaka eyi-100 yophando, kunye nophononongo olusebenzayo lwebhayibhile lwempumelelo ezibhaliweyo ezibonisa ukuba unyango lwancede abanye abathengi banciphise ukuqhuba kwabo besini esahlukileyo kunye nokuziva benobungqingili.

Ngaba abazali babantwana babo banyanzelisa unyango?

Abanye abaphembelela abantu abathandana nesini gay batyhola ngelithi abazali banyanzelisa abantwana babo ukuba baphinde benze imisebenzi yonyango, kubandakanya neenkampu ezathi zasebenzisa iindlela zokuguqula (i.e. electroshock). Izityholo ezinjalo ziintsomi eziqinisekileyo eziphandiweyo zaza zangqinwa, kodwa nangona kunjalo zisetyenziswa njengecebo lokuoyikisa ukukhuthaza abenzi bezomthetho ukuba banqande ukwamkelwa konyango ngokwesini esinye, ngelixa kwangaxeshanye bevumela ukwenziwa kwezonyango okuvumayo. Ngapha koko, ukuba abaphembeleli bungqingili baxakeke kakhulu ngonyango olungenantlonelo, kutheni ungathinteli unyango olungeyonto yonke endaweni yokuzama ukuluthintela unyango kuphela? (Ukujonga, njengangoku malunga nezigulana ezingama-1 ezigidi ngonyaka zifumana unyango lwe-electroshock kunyango loxinzelelo, ikatatonia, isifo se-manic, njl. Njl. Njl.)

Imithetho ethintela unyango lokuvuselela imo yobuntu isongela ilungelo lomgaqo-siseko wobomi, inkululeko kunye nokufumana ulonwabo, kunye nelungelo lokudibana nodokotela oqinisekisiweyo oNyanzeliswa uMgaqo-siseko wokuqala wase-U.S. Ukunceda umthengi ukusombulula umtsalane ongathandekiyo wesini esinye ukuze aqhubeke ethembekile kwiinkolelo zakhe zokomoya. Bonke abazali, abantwana kunye neentsapho bafanelwe lilungelo lokuzenzela izigqibo kwaye akufuneki banyanzelwe ukuba bakhethe phakathi kwengcali yezengqondo kunye nenkolo.

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