Kugonana kwa akazi kumatchedwa kuti lesbianism (nthawi zambiri sapphism, tribadism). Mawuwa amachokera ku dzina la chilumba chachi Greek chotchedwa Lesbos, pomwe ndakatulo yakale yachi Greek ya Sappho idabadwira ndikukhalamo, m'ma aya momwe muli malingaliro achikondi pakati pa azimayi. Poyerekeza ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kugonana kwa akazi okhaokha sikunaphunzire kwambiri. Maubwenzi ogonana amuna okhaokha pakati pa akazi, mwachilengedwe, sakhala owononga kwambiri ndipo amakhala ndi mavuto ocheperako, chifukwa chake palibe chifukwa chofunikira chofotokozera zomwe zikuchitika mderali. Komabe, kuyambira zazing'ono zomwe zimadziwika kuti azimayi omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, chithunzicho sichitanthauza utawaleza. Amayi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ovutikirapo matenda amisala ndikuwonetsa zovuta zingapo zokhudzana ndi moyo wawo: maubale apafupi, uchidakwa, fodya ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, nkhanza za anzawo komanso chiopsezo chowonjezeka cha matenda opatsirana pogonana. Amayi achiwerewere achikulire, kuposa anzawo ogonana amuna kapena akazi anzawo, kumvera chiopsezo chotenga kunenepa kwambiri ndi khansa ya m'mawere, и nthawi zambiri Nenani za kukhalapo kwa nyamakazi, mphumu, kugunda kwa mtima, sitiroko, kuchuluka kwamatenda operewera komanso kudwala kawirikawiri.
Etiology
Asobianism a D. Nicolosi
Asobianism a A. Sigler-Smaltz
A Lesbianism olembedwa ndi E. Bergler
Amabala
HIV ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana
Mavuto amisala komanso zizolowezi zina
Chiwawa
Khansa ndi kunenepa kwambiri
Kuthekera kwa kusintha
Etiology
Ndikofunikira kusiyanitsa pakati pa kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, popeza chimodzi sichimatsatana. Maganizo amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kukopa nthawi zonse chizindikiro cha matenda amisala, pomwe amagonana amuna okhaokha khalidwe sikuti zimangotengera kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, chifukwa chake, sizimalola lingaliro lakupezeka kwa wodwalayo. Zifukwa zotsogolera munthu wathanzi kuti azigonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndizosiyanasiyana. Amatha kuvala choloweza ngati mnzake wa munthu wamkazi sangathe, chifukwa chochita chidwi. zokondakukhumbira kwambiri komanso chiwerewerekoma nthawi yomweyo khazikani zokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Atsikana ena achichepere, motsogozedwa ndi atolankhani, tsopano asankha kuti ndi amuna ogonana amuna okhaokha chifukwa sanamvepo pafupi ndi abambo ndipo amamasuka kwambiri akamachita ndi azimayi. Mosakayikira izi ndikudziwuza mopupuluma komanso kolakwika, chifukwa mkazi aliyense yemwe ndi wamkazi amakhala ndi mwayi wodalirika, womverana komanso womvetsetsa ndi abwenzi ake kuposa abambo. Kuphatikiza apo, tsopano kuli kwawoneka bwino pakati pa achinyamata kufotokozera kukhala “bisexeness”, ndipo atsikana ena akuyesanso kugonana kwawo chifukwa cha chikhalidwe. Ndime zoterezi sizosangalatsa pa nkhaniyi: ziziwona kwambiri za kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, zomwe zimadziwika ndi kulimbikira komanso zovuta kuthana nazo, ndipo nthawi zina zimakopa chidwi cha munthu wogonana. Kukhalapo kwa kukopeka kotere mwa munthu kumawonetsa kuti mkati mwa chitukuko chake chamalingaliro kunachitika zomwe zidasokoneza njira yake yabwinobwino ndikuletsa kukwaniritsa gawo lomaliza - kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mwanjira imeneyi omasulidwa kukhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chizindikiro cha kusakhazikika pamalingaliro ndi neurosis.
Tipanga pang'ono kusinkhasinkha kuti timvetse bwino zomwe zimapanga neurosis kuchokera ku malingaliro azakuya. Edmund Bergler pantchito yake "Basic Neurosis" imafotokoza kuti neurosis ndi "matenda osokoneza bongo (i.e., osagwirizana ndi zomwe zilipo) osadziŵa", Zomwe zimakhazikitsidwa pakukumana ndi zikhumbo zachabe, mantha, kudziimba mlandu ndikuchita njira zoteteza... Mwanjira ina, tikulankhula za vuto lochepa lamisala, lomwe limawonetsedwa pazolakwika komanso zowononga, koma osataya zenizeni (ngakhale malingaliro ake atha kusokonekera kwambiri). Chidziwitso chachipatala chimatsimikizira kuti matenda amitsempha amangopitilira zaka.
Choyambitsa matenda amitsempha ndimapanikizidwe akunja kapena amkati omwe amachititsa kusokonezeka kwamalingaliro, komwe kumakakamizidwa kupita kokakomoka. Pankhani yokopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, izi zitha kukhala kugwiriridwa, kungoganiza kapena kukanidwa kwenikweni ndi anzawo kapena makolo, kulephera kukhazikitsa ubale wapamtima ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Wodwala sakudziwa chomwe chimayambitsa mkangano, ndipo chitetezo chokha chokha motsutsana ndi vuto loponderezedwa ndi chomwe chimawoneka pamwamba. Neurotic nthawi zonse amayang'ana munthu kapena zochitika zomwe zimalola kuyambiranso kwamachitidwe ake amanjenje. Amatha kuyerekezedwa ndi munthu yemwe wanyamula galamafoni kulikonse ndipo nthawi zonse amayang'ana turntable pomwe amatha kusewera chimbale chake chokha - chizolowezi chake chosazindikira.
Kuyenera kudziwidwa kuti kwenikweni всех anthu amakhala ndi mitsempha ya muubongo, koma si onse omwe amakulitsidwa mwanjira yoti neurosis imachitika. Ili ndi vuto la kuchuluka, osati bwino (ngakhale Hegel adanenanso, nthawi ikhoza kubwera pamene kuchuluka kudzasanduka bwino). Kusiyanitsa kochita bwino pakati pa munthu wabwinobwino ndi wamanjenje ndikuti zomwe zamugonjetseratu ubwana wake zimasemphana kwakukulu komanso Kuwona zenizeni zenizeni, pomwe omalizirayo amagwiritsa ntchito molakwika kubwereza kusamvana kwake paubwana.
Asobianism a D. Nicolosi
Monga momwe woyambitsa bungwe la National Association for the Study of kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amafotokozera, Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, mkangano waukulu womwe umayambitsa kukwatirana ndi atsikana ndikukana kwawo mosazindikira ukazi wawo. Nthawi zambiri, kukanaku kumachitika chifukwa cha kusokonezeka kwamaganizidwe, komwe kumalepheretsa kukhazikitsidwa kwa mayiyo munthawi yovuta kwambiri pakukula kwachikazi. Ngakhale msungwanayo sakuwonetsa mawonekedwe achimuna, chabwino, amakhalabe ndi zisonyezo zakusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Nthawi zina, atsikana omwe amatembenukira ku chiwerewere amatha kuzindikira kuti kukhala wachikazi ndi kosayenera kapena kosatetezeka. Amayi ena mosazindikira amapatsa ana awo aakazi chithunzi chosakongola chachikazi, ndikupereka chinthu chofooka kapena cholakwika kuti chizidziwike. Pokana amayi ngati chinthu chowazindikiritsa, atsikana nawonso amakana ukazi womwe amayi awo amakhala. Mwachitsanzo, powona mayi wongokhala pansi, modzichepetsa akupirira kunyozedwa ndikuchitiridwa nkhanza ndi abambo, mtsikana mosazindikira amasankha: "ngati izi zitanthauza kukhala mkazi, ndiye kuti sindikufuna kukhala m'modzi." Nthawi zina kuchitanso chimodzimodzi kumayambitsidwa ndi kugona ndi abambo ali aang'ono. Kuchokera pamalingaliro a msungwanayo, ukazi wake mwanjira inayake umayambitsa nkhanza zakugonana, chifukwa chake, kuti adziteteze, mtsikanayo akuwona kuti ndikofunikira kusiya gawo lachikazi "lovuta". Amayi omwe amachitidwa zachipongwe kapena kugwiriridwa ali ana komanso achinyamata amakhala osatheka kudalira amuna. Chifukwa chake, atha kutembenukira kwa azimayi kuti akwaniritse zosowa zachikondi komanso zogonana.
Nthawi zambiri, azimayi oterewa amayenera kukhala achikhalidwe komanso mawonekedwe. Ichi ndi njira yopulumukira m'maganizo, yofanana ndi mawu akuti: "Ngati wina andikhumudwitsa, ndidzakhala ngati iye - kuti ndisapweteke. Ine ndidzakhala pakati pa olamulira. " Atsikana ambiri omwe ali ndi vuto la jenda amakhala otanganidwa ndi mphamvu, ndewu, komanso kuyerekezera komwe amateteza. Atakula, azimayi otere amatha kuchita sadomasochism, kulamulira, kapena mutu "wachikopa". Makhalidwe amenewa amatulutsa kusamvana komwe kumakopa chidwi chazakugonana. Msungwanayo yemwe samadziwika ndi amayi ake amapondereza mkwiyo wake, chifukwa, mbali imodzi, amamufuna, ndipo mbali inayo, wavulazidwa ndi iye.
Otsatsa ena samavutika kwambiri chifukwa cholephera mayankho, koma chifukwa chosowa chisamaliro cha amayi. Amayi oterewa amafunikira kubwezeretsa kulumikizana ndi amayi awo, mawonekedwe omwe amapezeka mwa mkazi wina. Kukopa kwa maubwenzi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuli poti mzimayi “amadzazidwa” ndikumalumikizana ndi gawo lakelake lomwe adamukakamiza kusiya - ukazi wake. Amakhala ngati obwereka kwa mayi wina, koma njira yamtunduwu yothetsera vutoli siyibweretsa machiritso ku moyo. Mgwirizano ndi mkazi wina umangopereka chinyengo cha kukhulupirika, komwe kumayenera kuchirikizidwa ndi njira zovuta zodzinyenga komanso kupotoza zenizeni.
Asobianism a A. Sigler-Smaltz
Andria Sigler-Smaltz, yemwe amagwiranso chibwenzi, pakadali pano wokwatira, amafotokoza chikhalidwe cha maubale omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
A Lesbian amakonda anthu azigonana kuti akhutiritse zomwe akufuna ndipo samawopa kulumikizana kwambiri ndi anyamata kapena atsikana. Mu kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mkazi amakhala "womata" mu chitukuko choncho sangathe kupitilira kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Nthawi yeniyeni komanso kuphwanya kwa chitukuko chabwinobwino kumawonekera, kumatsimikizira kuchuluka kwa mavuto ake ndi kudziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi.
Chomwe chimapangitsa chidwi pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi kusalumikizana komanso kukhudzika pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, omwe, monga lamulo, sagonana ngati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kasitomala wina, pozindikira kuti maubwenzi omwe amacheza ndi amuna anzawo amamutsimikizanso kuti akufuna kukondana, adandifotokozera:
Ndikakumana ndi mzimayi yemwe ndimakopeka naye, china chake mkati mwanga chimati: "Kodi udzakhala mayi wanga?" Uku ndikumverera kolimba kosaletseka komwe sindingachite chilichonse. Mwadzidzidzi ndikumva kuchepa. "Ndifuna kuti andizindikire, ndikufuna kukhala wapadera kwa iye, ndipo chikhumbochi chimagwira malingaliro anga."
Otsala ena amakhala ndi malingaliro osayenera komanso mikangano yamkati ndi abambo, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti akulephera kulandira amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Kuphatikiza apo, ena aiwo amagwirizana kwambiri ndi zachikazi, pomwe azimayi amawoneka kuti ali ndi mphatso komanso zofunika, pomwe amuna amawonedwa ngati otsika, oledzera komanso opanda pake. Sizachilendo kuti azimayi omwe akhala akuchita zankhondo kwa nthawi yayitali amayamba kunyansidwa chifukwa chogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa abambo ndi amai ndikuti kukopeka ndi kugonana sizofunika kwambiri pa maubale. Kwa akazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, "kukopa mtima" kumatenga gawo lofunikira kwambiri kuposa kukopa kugonana. Milandu yomwe kugonana ndichinthu chofunikira ndizogwirizana chifukwa zimayimiranso chikondi.
A Lesbians nthawi zambiri amamva kuti "Sindingakhale opanda inu" poyanjana. Poyang'ana koyamba, pali mwayi wolumikizana kwambiri m'mubwenziwu, koma kuyang'anitsitsa kumavumbulutsa machitidwe omwe amawonetsa mgwirizano wosasweka wokhala ndi mantha komanso nkhawa. Mikangano yayikulu imawoneka mitu yobwerezabwereza yokhudzana ndi kupezeka kwa chizindikiritso. Mwachitsanzo, tikuwona kuopa kusiyidwa ndi / kapena kutengeka, kulimbana kwa ulamuliro ndi mphamvu (kapena kusokonekera), komanso kufunitsitsa kophatikizana ndi munthu wina kuti mukhale ndi chitetezo komanso kufunikira.
Maubwenzi apakati pa akazi amayesetsa kwambiri kukhala pawokha m'malo mophatikiza, ndipo sizachilendo kuti okwatirana amachepetsa kulumikizana ndi achibale kapena anzawo. Kusuntha kotereku kumapereka mphamvu kwa mnzakeyo, kupewa kudziyimira pawokha, komanso kumateteza ku zomwe zawopseza mgwirizano wawo wosagwirizana.
Ngakhale kuti maubwenzi omwe amagonana amuna okhaokha amakhala nawo nthawi yayitali kuposa amphongo, nthawi zambiri amakhala osokonezeka ndipo amagwiritsitsa "thunthu" la nsanje, kudziwidwa kwambiri ndi ziwonetsero zosiyanasiyana. Mwa njira izi, kukhudzika kwa mtima kumakhala kwambiri, ndipo mikangano imakulirakulira. Kuchuluka kwa nthawi yocheza pamodzi, kuyimba foni pafupipafupi, kupatsana makadi mphatso kapena mphatso, Kuthamanga mwachangu pansi padenga limodzi ndikuphatikiza ndalama - izi ndi zina mwanjira zodzitetezera motsutsana ndi ufulu. Mu mauyanjano otere, timawona zolumikizana zathanzi - kudalira kwam'maganizo ndi kupatulira kwakatundu.
* Khalidwe lapa nsanje la lesbians la lesbians lidadziwika mu ntchito ya Kraft-Ebbing ya 1886 ya chaka "Psychology": "Ubwenzi woletsedwawu umakula makamaka m'ndende za azimayi ndipo umayenderana ndi nsanje yakuthengo komanso chilakolako champhamvu. Mkaidi atangoona kuti mkaidi wina amusekerera wokondedwa wake, pamakhala nsanje yoopsa ikulimbana. " izi zimatsimikizira ndi woyang'anira ndende ya akazi amakono: "Kwa mabanja oterewa mumafunikira maso ndi maso, chifukwa zonyozeka pakati pawo ndizowopsa: simunawoneka, simunamwetulire, ndipo ndizo zonse - panali mikangano ndi ndewu. Adagawananso m'njira yoti aliyense adziwike - ndikunyoza kwambiri komanso kugawana zinthu zosavuta. ” Ndipo malinga ndi wina nkhani za ndende ya azimayi: "Ziwonetsero zozizira kwambiri, zamagazi, nthawi zina ngakhale zakupha, zimachitika ndendende m'magulu achikazi omwe adakhalako Soviet Union makamaka chifukwa cha nsanje ya nkhonya (abambo achangu)."
A Lesbianism olembedwa ndi E. Bergler
Matupi a akazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi ofanana ndi amphongo: mkangano wosaganizika ndi mayi wapaubwana. Mu gawo la pakamwa (zaka zoyambirira za 1,5), wamisala wopanda ulemu amadutsa zovuta ndi zovuta zingapo ndi amayi ake, zomwe zimalepheretsa kumaliza gawo ili. Chodabwitsa cha kusamvana kwamankhwala achisilamu ndikuti chikuyimira chimango chosamveka: chosakanikirana "chosokonekera", chomwe chimaphimbidwa ndi chidani cha pseudo, chomwe chimaphimbidwa ndi chikondi chokokomeza cha kukonda kwa nthumwi ya chifanizo chanthawi ya mayi (ma neurotiki amatha kungotengeka ndi malingaliro a ersatz ukali wachinyengo).
Lesbian ndi wamanjenje wokhala ndi vuto lobisala, kupangitsa kukhala koyipa quiroquo, nthabwala kwa wopenyerera wosazindikira. Choyamba, kukondana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mosadabwitsa, sikutanthauza zolaula, koma wamakani Kusamvana: Maziko m'maganizo neurotic yotsekemera pakamwa ndi mkangano wosasunthika womwe umabweranso ngati boomerang chifukwa chodziimbira mlandu komanso pambuyo pake omasulidwa. Kachiwiri, mothandizidwa ndi ubale wa "Mwamuna ndi Mkazi", maubwenzi amayanjana pakati mwana ndi amayi. Chachitatu, kuperewera kwa zamatsenga kumapereka chithunzi chachilengedwe; woonerera wopanda khungu amachititsidwa khungu ndi kusangalala kwawo, pomwe pansi pake pamakhala vuto laubongo.
Dziko lakunja, mu umbuli wake, limawawona akazi olimba mtima. Komabe, si azimayi onse olimba mtima omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kumbali inayi, wamisala wakunja wolimba mtima yemwe amatsata amuna mu zovala, machitidwe ndi maubwenzi amangowonetsa kubisa komwe kumabisa vuto lakelo. Wowonererayo sangathe kufotokoza za amuna omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena kuti mchitidwe wogonana amuna okhaokha, kuwonetsa kutsogoleredwa, umayikidwa mozungulira pakumeta ndi kuyamwa kwamawere, ndipo maliseche ophatikizana ndi dildos amamangidwa mozungulira Clitoris, yemwe samadziwika ndi chibowo.
Zaka zanga za 30 pazakuchipatala zawonetsa kuti lesbianism ili ndi magawo asanu:
1) kukondera kwa mayi;
2) veto chamkati choletsa "chisangalalo chosakondweretsa";
3) chitetezo choyamba ndi pseudo-chidani;
4) veto obwereza chikumbumtima chamkati choletsa chidani chamtundu uliwonse kwa amayi;
5) Chitetezo chachiwiri ndi chikondi cha pseudo.
Chifukwa chake, “lesbianism” si “chikondi cha akazi kwa mkazi”, koma chikondi chabodza cha mayi wopenyerera yemwe adapanga tanthauzo lakale lomwe sakulimvetsa.
Dongosolo lachitetezo mu lesbianism limafotokoza:
a. Chifukwa chiyani ochitidwa nkhanza amadziwika ndi mikangano yayikulu komanso nsanje yayikulu. Mu zenizeni zamtunduwu, nsanje yamtunduwu imangokhala gwero la kusonkhanitsa kopanda chilungamo.
b. Chifukwa chomwe udani wankhanza, womwe nthawi zina umawonetsedwa, umabisidwa kwambiri mu zibwenzi. Dongosolo la pseudo-love (wosanjikiza chachisanu) ndi chophimba chabe ukali wachinyengo.
mu Chifukwa chiyani ochita zolaula amatembenukira ku njira ya oedipal camouflage (farce ya mwamuna ndi mkazi) - imayipitsa ubale wamaonedwe a mayi ndi mwana, okhazikika m'mikangano isanachitike ogeipal, olemedwa ndi liwongo.
mu Chifukwa chiyani sizingathandize kuyembekeza zogwirizana ndi anthu pakati pa amuna ndi akazi? Wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mosakondwa amangofuna chisangalalo chowoneka chotere, chifukwa chake sangathe kukhala wachimwemwe.
Kukhazikika kwa amuna ndi akazi amafotokozanso chifukwa chake kusamvana kwakanthawi ndi mayi sikumatha. Pansi pa kukula kwabwinobwino, mikangano ndi mayi imathetsedwa ndi mtsikanayo pakugawanika: "chidani" chakale chimakhalabe ndi amayi, gawo la "chikondi" limasinthidwa kupita kwa abambo, ndipo m'malo mwa kukakamira "mwana-mayi" (preedipal gawo) zochitika zazing'ono zazing'ono za oedipal "mwana-mayi-abambo" amapezeka. Amuna achiwerewere amtsogolo amayesanso kuchita zomwezo, koma kuti abwererenso kunkhondo yoyamba. Oedipal "yankho" (palokha gawo losintha lomwe mwanayo amasiya pakukula kwake kwachizolowezi) ndikuti azimayi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amadzibisa ngati chophimba choteteza.
Ndikofunikira kusiyanitsa mitundu iwiri yosazindikira: "kutsogolera" (kutsogolera) ndi "kutsogolera" (kusokeretsa). Loyamba likuyimira zikhumbo zomwe zimaponderezedwa ndi munthu, zimayesedwa pakumaliza kwa nkhondo yayikulu, ndipo chachiwiri chikutanthauza kuzindikira anthu omwe asankhidwa kukana chikumbumtima chamkati motsutsana ndi izi. Chizindikiro "chotsogolera" cha mtundu wogwira ntchito ya amuna kapena akazi okhaokha chimatanthauzanji preedipal amayi ndi "kutsogoza" kwa oedipal bambo. Mu mtundu wongozindikira, chizindikiritso cha "kutsogolera" chikutanthauza mwana, ndi "kutsogolera" ku oedipal amayi.
Zonsezi pamwambapa, zachidziwikire, ndizoyenera ndi umboni wazachipatala, wofotokozedwa mwatsatanetsatane m'mabuku a E. Bergler.
Amabala
Ndi zambiri zaposachedwa Amayi a American Medical Association (AMA) nthawi zambiri kuposa amayi omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amangonena za mavuto amisala, thanzi lathanzi, mavuto ambiri osatha, uchidakwa, komanso kusuta fodya kwambiri. Magawo ena onjezani pamndandandawu chiwopsezo chowonjezereka khansa ya m'mawere, kukhumudwa, nkhawa, matenda amtima, khansa ya m'magazi, kunenepa kwambiri, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, komanso ngozi zonse zakugonana mosadziteteza ndi abambo ambiri.
HIV ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana
Maphunziro angapo [1, 2, 3], adakhazikitsa ubale wodalirika pakati pa mchitidwe wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso popanda bambo bambo adakali mwana, komanso makamaka mwa atsikana kuposa anyamata [1, 2]. Kulongosola komwe kungachitike kukusonyeza kuti kukhalapo (kapena kusapezeka) kwa abambo mnyumbayo kumawonetsedwa ngati chisonyezo cha bata ndi kudalirika kwa ubale ndi abambo. Malinga ndi kufotokozera kwina, atsikana omwe adapulumuka chisudzulo cha makolo awo adakali achichepere amayamba kugonana m'mbuyomu ndipo amakhala ndi zibwenzi zazifupi.
Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti kumasuka ku kugonana komwe kumagwirizana kumayenderana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Amayi ochita zachiwerewere amakhala ndi chiwerengero chowonjezereka cha ogonana, omwe ambiri mwa iwo amakhala amayi. Malinga ndi zaposachedwa kafukufukuAmayi omwe ali ndi zibwenzi zambiri zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri zogonana.
Malingana ndi zoperekedwa The U.S. Centers for Disease Control Center (CDC) 97% isanachitike amuna ogonana ndi amuna (28% chaka chatha), 86% ikuchita zachimuna ndi 48% anal. Zinali kukhazikikakuti azimayi omwe amagonana ndi akazi ena (WSW) ndiwotheka kwambiri kuposa azimayi omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kugona ndi mkamwa kapena kugonana ndi pakamwa ndi wokondedwa wawo, komanso mwayi woti anali ndi zibwenzi zoposa 50 apamwamba ndi 350%. Achinyamata ambiri, omwe amatha kutenga kachilombo mosavuta. Ponseponse, WSW wokonda kwambiri Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (makamaka chifukwa choti amalimba mtima ndi "anthu ofanana"), zomwe zili zowonjezereka. zimawonjezera ngozi zawo kachilombo ka HIV, hepatitis C ndi zina zokhudzana ndi STD (abambo omwe amagonana ndi amuna).
Poyerekeza ndi akazi a 32%, amuna XXUMX% WSW adanenanso Za matenda apakale amodzi kapena angapo opatsirana pogonana. Matenda opatsirana pogonana kwambiri omwe amapezeka pakati pa akazi monga bakiteriya vaginosis, chlamydia, maliseche ndi anthu papillomavirus, ndiye pathogen khansa ya khomo pachibelekeropo.
Kwa zaka makumi awiri zapitazi, gulu la asamwali adayamba kugonana. Magazini okopa anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, masitolo ogulitsa zoseweretsa zachiwerewere, ndi makampani opanga mafilimu olaula omwe amayendetsedwa ndi akazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akuchulukirachulukira. Makalabu a Lesbian amatsatsa mausiku a "Ndimakonda Pussy" ndipo amanyadira "zochitika" m'malo osambira. Mabungwe a Lesbian BDSM amapezeka m'mizinda ikuluikulu ku United States, ndipo polyamory ikuchulukirachulukira. Ma Lesbies ena posachedwapa ayamba kutsanzira machitidwe ogonana a MSM, kuphatikizapo nkhonya, rimming (35%), urolagnia ndi jekeseni wa zinthu (25%) Khalidwe ili limaphatikizidwa ndi chiopsezo chachikulu chaumoyo.
Mavuto amisala komanso zizolowezi zina
Magwero ambiri [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8] zindikirani kuti CSF idalemba 2-3 nthawi zambiri za kukhumudwa, nkhawa komanso malingaliro ofuna kudzipha. Mkhalidwe wa azimayi omwe amadziwika kuti ndi "bisexual" ndiwonyansa kwambiri. Kuphatikiza apo, pakati pa WSW pali chizolowezi chochedwetsa ndi kupewa kufunafuna chithandizo chamankhwala. Choipa china ndichakuti azimayi ena, omwe poyamba amatchulidwa kuti ndi amuna wamba, amasintha chizindikiritso chawo kukhala "transgender," zomwe zimawayika pachiwopsezo chosasinthika chotenga ma horoni achimuna, ma opaleshoni yopweteketsa komanso kuvutikanso kwa m'maganizo.
Malingana ndi zoperekedwa American Psychiatric Association, WSW ndi 3 nthawi zambiri imakhala ndi vuto la kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndipo imatha kugwiritsa ntchito kwambiri mowa ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Monga kale, ziwerengero zachisonizi zimayang'aniridwa ndi azimayi "amisili". US Department of Health (HHS) Health Women zimatsimikizira:
"Kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kumawoneka ngati kofala pakati pa ma lesibiyani (makamaka atsikana achichepere) kuposa azimayi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ... Amayi omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ali ndi mwayi wambiri kuposa ena kuti adabaya mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndipo ali pachiwopsezo chachikulu chotenga matenda opatsirana pogonana."
Kafukufuku ku California wakuwonetsa kuti chiopsezo cha kudalira mowa mwa CSW chikuwonjezeka ndi nthawi za 4, mankhwala - mwa nthawi za 3,5, ndi vuto lina lililonse lomwe limagwirizanitsidwa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zinthu za psychoactive - zolemba nthawi za 3,4.
Chiwawa
Phunziro lalikulu zinawonetsa kuti akazi amisala ndi akazi anzeru muubwana amakumana ndi kusiyana “Kukulira ndi chiwawa”. Kwa abambo ambiri ogonana, chiwawa sichitha kuubwana ndipo tsopano chikupitilira mbali ya wokondedwa. Mabanja achisamba nthawi zambirikuposa amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi ozunzidwa komanso oyambitsa zachiwawa.
Kafukufuku wa APA adapeza kuti 47,5% ya operewera leseru akhalapo ndi nkhanza kwa mnzake. Zofanana anayambitsa CDC - 40,4% ya ochitidwa nkhanza omwe adachitidwa chipongwe ndi wokondedwa wawo; mu 29,4%, zachiwawa zinali zazikulu: kumenya, kugwirira kapena kumenya kena kovuta.
Zolemba Pafukufuku wa Banja zanenedwakuti 70,2% ya otsala omwe amachitidwa nkhanza azikumana ndi nkhanza zaka zapitazo. Phunziro lina kuwululidwakuti 69% ya azimayi omwe amachita zibwenzi zogonana amuna okhaokha amatsutsana, komanso 77,5% yowongolera machitidwe mwa mnzake. Wolemba zoperekedwa Ndemanga yaposachedwa ya CDC, pa 63,5% wamba ya akazi amisala omwe amakhala ndi nkhonya yamalingaliro kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wawo, nthawi zambiri amawonetsedwa kudzipatula kwa mabanja ndi abwenzi, kuchititsidwa manyazi, kutukwana komanso kuwatsimikizira kuti palibe amene akuwafuna.
Bodza ndi anzanga sangalalanikuti nkhalwe mu maubale omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri zimakhala zachikhalidwe. Pampulu lawo, 23,1% ya amuna omwe amagonana mosakwatiwa anena kuti amakakamizidwa kugonana ndi bwenzi lawo lomwe ali nalo, ndi 9,4% kuchokera kwa bwenzi lawo lakale. Kuphatikiza apo, 55.1% inanena zaukali komanso mwamakani. Wina kafukufuku zinapezeka kuti poyerekeza ndi 17,8% azimayi omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, 30,6% ya akazi achisembwere amagonana mosagwirizana ndi zofuna zawo, ndipo malinga ndi Waldner-Haugrud (1997(1)) 50% ya otsogola omwe adalandidwa ndi okondedwa wawo.
В nkhani 1994 ya chaka mu magazini ya "Journal of Interpersonal Violence" idayankhula zamavuto osagwirizana ndi nkhanza zomwe zimachitika pakati pa akazi ndi akazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ofufuzawo adapeza kuti 31% ya omwe adafunsidwa akuti adakumana ndi gawo limodzi lozunzidwa ndi wokondedwa wawo. Malinga ndi Nichols (2000), 54% ya akazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha adawona kuti adakumana ndi 10 komanso zowonjezerapo zachiwawa zochitidwa ndi anzawo, 74% ikuwonetsa ma 6 - 10 episode.
Malinga ndi kafukufuku yemwe boma la Canada lidachita:
"... nkhanza za okwatirana zimachitika kawiri kawiri pakati pa anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha poyerekeza ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha: 15% ndi 7%, motsatana" (Kuyeza Chiwawa Choyenderana ndi Akazi: Zochitika Zosasintha 2006, p.39).
Kafukufuku wapadziko lonse wokhudza nkhanza pakati pa akazi ndi amayi akuwonetsa kuti "kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumakhala ndi ziwawa zochuluka kuposa zomwe zimagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. 39% ya omwe adafunsidwa adanenapo kuti amzunzidwa mwakuthupi komanso m'maganizo ndi mnzake poyerekeza ndi 21,7% ya omwe adayankhidwa kuchokera ku cohabitations amzake (CDC 2000) Zochulukirapo mitengo yayikulu Ziwawa pakati pa WSW ndithu zimayambitsa kupsinjika kwa malingaliro awo.
Khansa ndi kunenepa kwambiri
Amayi omwe sanabadwe ali pachiwopsezo chachikulu cha khansa. Women Health Health (HHS) zolembamahomoni omwe amatulutsidwa nthawi yapakati komanso yoyamwitsa amateteza amayi ku khansa ya m'mawere, khansa ya m'mimba komanso khansa ya m'mimba. WSW amadziwika ndi mitundu iyi ya khansa kwambiri, popeza sangakhale ndi pakati, ndipo ngati zingachitike, ndiye mwayi wake kuchotsa mimba kukwera. Kafukufuku awonetsa mauthenga kuchotsa mimba ndi khansa ya m'mawere ndi zovuta zamaganizidwe. Polycystic ovary syndrome, chiopsezo cha khansa ya chiberekero, nthawi zambiri wopezeka pakati pa WSW.
Maphunziro ambiri [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8] adawonetsa izi kwa akazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndizikhalidwe kwambiri mitengo yapamwamba kunenepa kwambiri (3 / 4 vs 1 / 2), yomwe zimawonjezeka ali ndi chiwopsezo matenda amtima, mitundu ina ya khansa, komanso kufa msanga. Kuchuluka kwa umboni wa sayansi akuwonetsa kuyanjana kwa matenda amtima komanso chiwopsezo chowonjezeka cha matenda amtunduwu, kuphatikizapo matenda a Alzheimer komanso kuchepa kwa mtima. Poyerekeza ndi mitundu ina ya maukwati, azimayi omwe ali ndi zibwenzi zofananira amakhala gulu limodzi kuchuluka kwambiri kwaimfa, yomwe m'zaka zaposachedwa ikukula.
Kuthekera kwa kusintha
Ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti kwa anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi chofuna kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo, ndiye kuti chiyembekezo chilipo. Milandu yambiri yothandizirana pochiritsa osati kungogonana amuna okhaokha, komanso kukopa lofotokozedwa mwatsatanetsatane m'mabuku aluso. Edmund Bergler, yemwe adachiritsa za 30 odwala omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mu 100 zaka zamachitidwe azachipatala, zolembakuti, nthawi zambiri, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, monga amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amakhala ndi chidziwitso chothandiza pakuchiritsa matenda a psychodynamic. Nenani Bungwe la National Association for the Study and Therapy of kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha limapereka chithunzithunzi chokwanira cha zowunikira, malipoti azachipatala komanso kafukufuku wasayansi kuyambira kumapeto kwa zaka za zana la 19 mpaka pano, zomwe zimatsimikizira motsimikiza kuti abambo ndi amayi omwe ali ndi chidwi amatha kupanga kuchoka pa kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kupita kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Pamalo Mawu (s) a Chiyembekezo anasonkhana pafupifupi ma umboni a kanema a 80 a azimayi ndi abambo omwe anathetsa zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikukhala ndi moyo wokwatirana. Ndipo ngakhale chikhulupiriro chikhale chisonkhezero cha kusintha muzochitika zambiri, chipembedzo sichofunikira kwambiri pakusintha, ngakhale mosakayikira ndichothandiza, popeza chimapatsa munthu chitsogozo chodziwikiratu ndikulimbitsa kufuna kwake pakutsutsana ndi mbali yakumaso ya umunthu wake.
Kutengera malingaliro andale, Mabungwe azachipatala azakumadzulo amatsutsa kuchitira kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo mosaganizira kuti "ndizowopsa", koma, kunyenga paguluosafotokoza kuti:
(1) Ntchito zonse zama akili zamavuto onse amwini komanso apakati zimatha kukhala zovulaza;
(2) Sayansi yodalirika siyinawonetsebe ngati kuti chiwopsezo chovulaza mankhwalawa chosagonana ndi chimodzi ndichopambana, chofanana, kapena chochepera chiopsezo cha psychotherapy ina iliyonse.
Ndipo pomwe APA imaletsa pagulu kuyesa kwazithandizo kuti zisinthe, mkati mwake mabuku odziwika kwambiricholinga cha akatswiri omwe adanenedwa zotsatirazi:
"Umboni waposachedwa uku ukutanthauza kuti kusinthana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kungasinthidwe mchithandizo kwa makasitomala olimbikitsidwa, ndikuti kuyesayesa kokonzanso chithandizo sikubweretsa vuto."
Palibe zomwe zapezedwa mu izi: mpaka kumbuyo monga 1973 mu chikalata chofuna kupatula egosyntonic (i.e., zovomerezeka kwa wodwala) kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha pamndandanda wazovuta zam'mutu, APA adalemba, izo "Njira zamakono zamankhwala zimalola gawo lalikulu la ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe akufuna kusintha malingaliro awo kuti atero".
Kafukufuku 2018 ya chaka idawonetsa kuti ambiri mwa iwo omwe amafunsira gulu kapena akatswiri athandizidwe amakumana ndi kusintha kwakukulu pamaukwati ogonana, kudziwika, ndi machitidwe. Kuphatikiza apo, adakumana ndi kuchepa kwa malingaliro ofuna kudzipha, kukhumudwa, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, komanso kuchuluka kwa magwiridwe antchito komanso kudzidalira. Pafupifupi zoyipa zonse sizinali zochepa, ndipo zotsatirapo zabwino ndi zoyipa zake zinali zofanana ndi omwe ali ndi psychotherapy yachilendo yamavuto ena amisala.
Dziwani kuti vuto lokopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha silisiyana ndi vuto lina lililonse lachipatala: "kusintha" sizitanthauza kuti vutolo limatha kamodzi kokha. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu atha kuthana ndi kukhumudwa, izi sizitanthauza kuti sadzakhalanso nayo. Komanso, anthu omwe amasiya kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena zakumwa zoledzeretsa amakumana ndi ziyeso zakale, koma pang'ono, ndikupunthwa ndikubwerera kumbuyo ndi gawo limodzi lolakwika.
Kusintha kuchokera kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mpaka kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikuyenera kuwoneka ngati funso la "chimodzi kapena chimzake." Pali kupitiliza kwina - kutanthauza kuchepa pang'onopang'ono pakulakalaka amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kuchuluka kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kuchuluka kwake kumawonekera mosiyanasiyana. Ambiri mwa omwe adasiya kukhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mothandizidwa ndi psychotherapy, adangodandaula kuti sanachite izi kale, chifukwa anali otsimikiza kuti sangathe kapena sayenera kusintha.
Kuwonjezera:
Kuchokera ku Tomboys kupita ku Lesbians (J. Nicolosi) .pdf
Mufunsoli, azimayi awiri omwe ali pachibwenzi amalankhula za zifukwa zomwe zidawatsogolera panjira iyi. Nkhani zawo zimafotokoza momveka bwino zaumboni zomwe zafotokozedwazi, zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti kuperewera kwachisawawa nthawi zambiri kumachitika chifukwa chovutitsidwa kwambiri ndi amuna. Vutoli limatha kuwonekera paterophobia (kuwopa abambo) ndi / kapena androphobia (kuopa amuna ambiri). Abambo a amayi omwe pambuyo pake amalowa mu kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala osokoneza bongo, amamwa mowa mopitirira muyeso kapena amachitanso zachiwawa.
American Psychological Association inanena kuti kusapezeka kwa kholo limodzi kapena onse awiri, makamaka kholo la kugonana komweko ndi mwanayo, kumatha kukhala kokhudzana ndi zokopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kwa atsikana, kumwalira kwa mayi ali mwana kumathandiza kwambiri. Atsikanawa ali ndi chosowa chosavomerezeka chosunga ndi kufunitsitsa kuti abwezeretse ubale wosalimba ndi amayi awo, omwe amayang'ana mosazindikira mwa mayi wina.
Pali amatsenga okongola m'moyo, wolemba nkhaniyi adapeza zithunzi zoyipa ngati izi. A Lesbian ndi akazi wamba ndipo amatha kukhala osiyana kwathunthu komanso owongoka! Kodi mukuganiza kuti amuna omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amawoneka ngati a Angelina Jolie nthawi zonse?
Olemba ndakatulo zamakalabu:
Kukongoletsa lol
Chochititsa chidwi, kodi amadziwa chilichonse chokhudza kupanga? Nzosadabwitsa kuti ndioperewera
Izi ndizomwe zimawonekera ngati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, monga momwe tawonetsera m'nkhaniyo. Mwachionekere munawerenga nkhaniyi pa zala zanu. Khalidwe logonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sizili zofanana.
Bwanji osangoyamba kudziwa zomwe zili mu nkhaniyo musanalembe ndemanga? Chilichonse chikufotokozedwamo.
Inde, pali akazi “otsitsimula” ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha—asungwana achichepere amene amayesa jenda ndi kudzitcha “ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha” kapena “bi” kwambiri chifukwa cha chikhalidwe chamakono kuposa chifukwa cha kuonongeka kwa ukazi komwe kuli pamtima pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Mpakafika zaka 20, sindimagwiritsa ntchito zodzoladzola komanso kuvala kotero kuti mumsewu ndimakonda kumva "mnyamata" akundilankhula. Pafupifupi 25, adasiya tsitsi lake, adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mwaluso zodzoladzola komanso amavala madiresi / masiketi.
Dysphoria ya jenda komanso malingaliro azakugonana sizinthu zofanana!
Ndinu malo abodza okopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo mudzatsekedwa. Chofunika.
Bwino.
Cat de handicapați sunteți, dacă cine vă spune adevărul în față gata e homofob, sunteți cretini?! Asta e părerea autorului din sursele din care a extras, vă supăra adevărul? Atunci asta este, adevarul nu poate să fie inâbușit niciodată, aseppt răspunsur de genul “homofobule”
chimodzimodzi cí věci.Homosexualita je zcela normální jev.Autorka je mimo
Ndipo pancake iyenera kugwedezeka ndani, yemwe amakumana ndi ndani!
Ndikudziwa (kapena ndakumanapo m'moyo) ANTHU ambiri ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amaoneka ngati zitsanzo! Ndikumvetsa kuti cholinga cha nkhaniyi ndi zotsutsana ndi zofalitsa, komanso zinalembedwa mopanda nzeru komanso mopusa (kwa mbadwa za pachilumbachi). M'malo mwachabechabe chonsechi, titha kumvetsetsa zifukwa ndi mwayi wa "chochita"!
Nayi mtundu wina wa inu:
Munthu wokongola)))
Mkazi wonenepa wamba wazaka zopitilira 40. Zowongoka zojambula zonse zapamwamba!
Ndiko kulondola kunena osati “woongoka”, koma wabwinobwino/wathanzi. Leskicon ya sodomite ndi yolakwika mkati.
Pankhaniyi, mawu akuti "matenda" si oyenera. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi mtundu wachizolowezi.
Opusa, kodi mukumvetsetsa tanthauzo la zomwe mudalemba? Zotsutsa! Kutengera ndi nthawi yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito, mukuvomereza kuti pali zabodza za LGBT ngati chodabwitsa. Kodi zalembedwa mopusa? Zoona? Pa ziwerengero ndi zoyesa za asayansi?
Inunso ndinu odana ndi mabodza. Kodi cholakwika ndi chiyani? Ndi chete poop amene amadziwa kuponya? Kwenikweni, mwachizolowezi, palibe chotsutsa.
Inu nokha mukutaya poop pano, okondedwa. Ndemanga yake ndiyabwino kwambiri.
Kuti podrzuć nam kilka fotek tych lesbijek
Ndipo palibe zomwe zimasokoneza zomwe nkhaniyo imanena.
Mukudziwa bwanji kuti siamzanga chifukwa chovulala? (M'malo mwake pali msungwana wokongola waku Poland yemwe ali pachibwenzi ndi atsikana aku Taiwan, onse omwe akuwoneka kuti akuwonetsa kukondana komanso kusowa kwa chidwi cha makolo).
Iwo (mosadziwika kwa iwo) adabwereza zomwe zimapangitsa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuti afotokoze za nkhaniyi.
Komanso, monga tawonera, atsikana ambiri achichepere amalimbikitsidwa ndi abwenzi anzawo / anzawo omwe amasokonezeka ndi kukondana / kugonana.
Akufunadi chidwi cham'mutu; ndipo m'dziko lamasiku ano lakhotakhota atsikana achichepere ambiri akukopeka kuti asinthe maubwenzi awo ndi atsikana anzawo. Izi ndizodziwika kwambiri pakati pa atsikana akumenya msinkhu, zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti asokonezeke pogonana.
Heck, ku UK, tsopano akuti ndi wachinyamata m'modzi yekha mwa achinyamata awiri omwe amadziona kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Ripoti la YouGov lidawonetsa kuti 1% ya aku Britain amasankha china kupatula 2% amuna kapena akazi okhaokha - ndipo chiwerengerocho chikukwera mpaka 23% mwa azaka 100-49.
Izi ndizoyipa, ndipo mukuziwona mochulukirachulukira popeza makamaka atsikana achichepere amakakamizika kuganiza kuti akuyenera kukhala ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuti agwirizane ndi anzawo. Azimayi nawonso amalolera kutengera zochita za anzawo kuposa amuna, ngakhale kuti sichinthu chimene amachiona kuti n’chopindulitsa kwa iwo. Chifukwa chake, mukuwona azimayi ambiri achichepere, achonde, okongola akutsekeredwa m'maubwenzi oopsa omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha chifukwa atolankhani adawauza kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi "kumanga anthu" komanso chinthu chokakamiza chaulamuliro wa makolo.
Atsikana achichepere osaukawa adzawonongedwa pafupifupi moyo wawo wonse pokhapokha atapeza chithandizo cha ASAP, chifukwa apo ayi amangokhala owerengera ngati omwe atchulidwa pamwambapa.
Nkhani yopatsa chidwi
Ndemanga yabwino
Ndi nkhani yabwino
Ndi zamtundu wanji zopanda pake zomwe zalembedwa mu ndemanga yanga e̶t̶o̶y̶ ̶s̶t̶a̶t̶e? O_O
Nkhani yabwino. Ngakhale chowonadi chokhudza kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha chalembedwa kwinakwake.
Atsikana a LGBT, bwererani! Mukukhala moyo wabodza. Osadzinamiza kuti malingaliro sangasinthidwe. Ndikhulupirireni, ngati mukufuna kukhala moona, kupeza chisangalalo chenicheni ndi banja lathunthu, mukhoza kusintha ndipo mudzakhala okondwa kwambiri mu udindo wanu watsopano - mkazi mu lingaliro lonse la mawu.
Mulungu akupatseni chisangalalo cha banja ndi bambo wachikondi komanso wokondedwa!
Inde. Islet of sanity.
Moyo wabodza? Ndizosiyana, kwenikweni
Chowonadi ndi chakuti posachedwapa palibe pafupifupi amuna omwe amakonda ... Tsopano muyenera kukhala ndi munthu wabwino kuti muwasangalatse, ndipo muyenera kuphika ndikusamba. Anthu ambiri safuna kukhala pachibwenzi ngati akapolo.
Chifukwa chake, mukubweretsa ukapolo wanu pafupi
Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndichinthu chachizolowezi, si vuto. Palibe umboni wotsutsa izi. Zina ndizokwanira.
Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sichinthu wamba, koma matenda amisala, vuto lachiwerewere chaumunthu. Anachotsedwa pamndandanda wazowunika zamisala makamaka pazifukwa zandale zokhudzana ndi kukakamizidwa kwa ma sadomites osakhutira ndi chowonadi, chomwe sichikugwirizana ndi mankhwala ndi sayansi yeniyeni. Ndipo kuti anthu akhulupirire kuti kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chinthu chabwinobwino, amangokhoza mwamphamvu, zomwe zafotokozedwa momveka bwino m'malamulo amakono achiwawa pagulu. Monga mwambiwu umati, ngati simungathe kupikisana ndi chowonadi, chitsekeni, zomwe zidachitika kumayiko akumadzulo.
Ndine wachiwerewere, ndipo ndikugwirizana ndi wolemba. Azimayi ambiri (koma osati onse) alibe chifundo, amaopa amuna, sangathe kulekerera kusungulumwa, amavutika kukhazikitsa maubwenzi okhalitsa, amakhala ndi nkhawa zambiri, amavutika kwambiri pokonzekera ndi kupanga mapulani a nthawi yaitali. Sindikuvomereza kuti izi ndizosavuta kukonza. Mwinamwake ngati mutazigwira muunyamata, mukhoza kuzikonza nthawi zina. Koma safuna kukonza, amakhulupirira kuti dziko lonse likuwakhumudwitsa, ndipo ngati mutasintha maganizo awo, ndiye kuti zonse zidzawayendera. Koma, tsoka, o, thanzi lamalingaliro silikuyenda bwino. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti m'malo mwa chithandizo chamaganizo choyenera, iwo amakokedwa m'gulu la anthu otayika omwewo.
Mukunena zowona, mwanena chilichonse. Inenso ndikugwirizana nanu. Tonsefe timafunika kuthandizidwa. Ndiwe munthu wamkulu kwambiri. Ndipo ndizovuta kwa ine kuvomereza kuti ndine wolephera. Mukuyenera kukhala owongoka komanso okwatira kale.
Ichi ndi chinthu chomwe ndimaopa kwambiri.
Ana ambiri a Gen Z amakopeka ndi moyo woopsa wamatsenga wa utawaleza kenako osatha kuthawa mwanjira yabwinobwino, kapena kuwononga zaka zawo zonse zabwino atakhala pachiwopsezo chazovuta zakuthupi kapena zamaganizidwe kuzunza.
Ndizowopsa kuganiza za kuchuluka kwa ana osalakwa omwe adzatayike chifukwa cha mliri wa LGBT.
Olga, kodi mwayeserapo kusintha chinachake mwa inu nokha ndikudzipangira nokha, mwachitsanzo, kukhala mkazi wogonana, kukhala ndi mwamuna, banja, ndi ana? Kapena kodi mumatsatira mfundo yakuti n'chiyani chingachitike?
Ndimadana ndi akazi okhaokha ndi chilakolako.
Mukunena zowona, mwanena chilichonse. Inenso ndikugwirizana nanu. Tonsefe timafunika kuthandizidwa. Ndiwe munthu wamkulu kwambiri. Ndipo ndizovuta kwa ine kuvomereza kuti ndine wolephera. Muyenera kuti ndinu owongoka komanso okwatira, Olga.
Aloleni akuchitireni, ndikutisiyira anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Nthawi yomweyo ndinakumbukira sewero lanthabwala lakuti “Adzandichiritsanso”, ngakhale kuti nkhani imene inakambidwa kumeneko sinali yokhudzana ndi akazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha andale monga momwe zilili m’nkhani ino.
Simunabweretse mkangano wopitilira umodzi kuti mutsutse zomwe zidalembedwa m'nkhaniyi, zomwe anthu ochokera kugulu la "Sayansi ya Choonadi" adayesa kutsutsa ndi chikondi chawo chonse ndi kafukufuku wawo, pomwe adaganizira kafukufuku wakale wakale - pamaso pa onse. izi za LGBT hype, ndi zatsopano. Iwo adawonjezeranso mawu a Freud, pomwe sananene kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndizochitika zenizeni za kugonana kwa anthu, koma adanena kuti ndizo zomwe zimayambitsa kuchedwa kwa kugonana ndi maphunziro. Chifukwa chake bwerani, Lizok, siyani kunyambita mabere ndikuwerenga zamankhwala azachipatala azaka zoyambilira, osati ng'ombe zolembedwa mu Intrigue kuchokera ku ukatswiri wapakama wa Fomina.
Zachidziwikire, ndizovuta kuvomereza kuti china chake chalakwika panthawi ina, ndimamvetsetsa bwino.
Kumbali yanga, ndinena - ndine bi. Ndipo ndimavomereza mwamtheradi ndi wolemba za zifukwa zamaganizo za kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Koma sindikuvomereza kuti ichi ndi matenda, chiyenera kuthandizidwa, apo ayi ndizovuta, ndi zina zotero. ndipo ndizo zonse. Inde, ndinali ndi vuto lalikulu lolankhulana ndi anyamata kusukulu ndiponso ndinali ndi mavuto ena ndi abambo anga. Koma akhala kale kale, ndinawathetsa ndipo ndinayiwala. Pali mkazi yemwe ndimamukonda kwambiri ngati munthu, ndi wachifundo komanso wosalimba ndipo pali chikhumbo chofuna kumuthandiza, kumuteteza, kumuteteza, kumuteteza ... sindikudziwa chifukwa chake. Tili ndi ubale wozama ndi malingaliro ofanana a dziko ndi zokonda. Pali malingaliro ogonana, alipo, koma palibe chinanso kuposa kuti akadali chinachake chauzimu ndi chobisika ndipo ine, ndithudi, sindikumvetsa chifukwa chake izo ziri zoipa? Ngati Ambuye apereka izi motere ... sindikuganiza kuti ndikuchita cholakwika chilichonse. Ngakhale kuti ndikukonzekera kumanga ubale wautali wachikondi ndi mnyamata tsiku lina, ndi maubwenzi ogonana nawonso. Koma Mnyamata yemweyo YEKHA. SINDIKUyesa kugonana kwanga. Ndine wokondwa kwambiri kuti ndine bi, chifukwa zenizeni kwa ine ndizosiyana, zowala kwambiri komanso zozama.
Mwachidule, zimangondikwiyitsa pamene gulu la utawaleza liwukiridwa. Lolani anthu azikonda omwe akufuna kuti azikonda ndikupitirizabe ndi moyo wanu. Basi.ndi.moyo.wanu. Ngati simukuwakonda, musawamvere - ndizosavuta
Nastya! Chonde ndiuzeni kuti mukufuna kuyambitsa banja, ana ndikukhala mkazi wokondedwa m'lingaliro lonse la mawu ndikumanga ubale ndi mwamuna. Njira ya mkazi pambuyo pa mwamuna.
Ayi, mwachionekere sakufuna. Lekani kukakamiza akazi anu ana! Chimwemwe ndi chosiyana ndi aliyense.
nkhani yabwino dave! mkazi wanu adazinena sabata yatha ndipo tidaganiza zowonera chakudya chabanja usikuuno. Posachedwa ndidasokoneza Jude wanga womaliza kuopa kuti agwidwa ndi mliri wa LGBT. kungoti chigololo cha mkazi wanga chikapezeka paunyamata, sitikhala bodza. Ndimadananso ndi kukhala mwamuna wachiwerewere yemwe sanasamalidwe bwino chifukwa nthawi zina ndimakumanabe ndi malingaliro ndi zongopeka zomwe zimakhala zovuta kuziletsa nthawi zina, makamaka ndikamachezera.
ndi Zonyansa kwambiri ndipo kuti atengere ana omwe ndi nkhanza za ana