Ngokwenkcazo, isifo sisimo esingathandekiyo somzimba, esibonakaliswa ngokuchasene nokusebenza kwaso kwesiqhelo, ixesha lokuphila, ulungelelwaniso kwimeko-bume, kunye nokusebenza okulinganiselweyo.

Ubuya kusabela njani ukuba isalamane sakho, umhlobo okanye umntu osebenza naye ebekwimeko eqhelekileyo, ukuba akuhlali njalo, enxulumana nezi ngxaki zilandelayo:

• Ukuncitshiswa okuphambili kokuseka okanye ukugcina umtshato uphumelele;

• Ukuhla kobudala bokuphila kwiminyaka eyi-5-10;

• Isifo esinganyangekiyo, esisifo esisesona sifo sisibindi (hepatitis);

• Umhlaza obulala ngokuphelileyo wenkqubo yokugaya ukutya;

• Imiphunga;

• Ukopha ngaphakathi;

Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuqatha, uninzi lwayo olungenakuguqulwa;

• Ukonyuka okuthe kratya kokuzibulala;

• Unokwenzeka olusezantsi kakhulu lokuba iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zinokupheliswa ukuba imeko ngokwayo ayipheliswa;

• Kuphela yi-30% enokwenzeka yokuba imeko ingasombululeka kunyango olude, oluhlala lubiza kakhulu kunye nolwexesha kwisampula engaqhelekanga (kunye nepesenti ephezulu kakhulu yempumelelo phakathi kwezigulana ezikhuthazwayo nezikhethwe ngononophelo).

Kule meko ingenagama, sinokongeza ezinye iziqinisekiso ezine. Okokuqala, nangona imvelaphi yayo ixhomekeke kwilifa, imeko, ekuthetheni ngokungqongqo, isekwe ekuziphatheni. Okwesibini, abantu abakweli lizwe baqhubeka nokuziphatha, ngaphandle kweziphumo ezibi. Okwesithathu, nangona abanye beyibona le ngxaki njengengxaki kwaye bafuna ukuyicima, abanye abaninzi bayakhanyela ukuba banengxaki kwaye baxhathisa ngandlela zonke ukuzama ukubanceda. Okwesine, abantu abangafuni uncedo batyekele ukunxibelelana omnye komnye, ngamanye amaxesha ngokukodwa, kwaye bangenisa uhlobo “lwenkcubeko”.

Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, uya kukhathazeka kakhulu ngomntu osondeleyo kuwe, okwimeko enjalo, kwaye akukhathaleki nokuba uluntu luthatha le nto engafunekiyo okanye isifo, ungathanda ukumnceda. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, uya kuphindela kunyango, oko kukuthi, uya kuzama ukunceda isalamane sakho, umhlobo okanye osebenza naye ngokusisusa ngokupheleleyo le meko. Umbuso lo sithetha ngawo utywala.

Utywala ngokuqinisekileyo abunqweneleki ngqo ngenxa yazo zonke iziphumo ezibi ezinxulumana ngqo nazo, nangona ingenguye wonke umntu onotywala ophuhlisa uluhlu olupheleleyo lweengxaki. Olu luhlobo lokuziphatha okunyanzelekileyo okanye okuluthayo okunosapho, kwengqondo, intlalontle, imfuzo, kunye nezizathu zokuzimisela. Ngaba isiselo esinxilisayo sinokujongwa njengesifo 'ngokwengcaciso engqongqo yegama? Oku kunokuba ngumdla kwingxoxo yentanda-bulumko, kodwa ingekuko ukuziqhelanisa, kunye nokunye ukuxhomekeka. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kwesalathiso esincinci sokuphilisa "unyango", isiselo esinxilisayo sisafanele ukunyanga, kwaye siyithathe njengesifo (eneneni, esenza ulungelelwaniso lwengqondo, siluchaze njengengxaki), ngenxa yeziphumo ezibi zobuqu nezasekuhlaleni. icala

Ngoku khawufane ucinge esinye isalamane, umhlobo okanye umntu osebenza naye ekwimeko enoluhlu olufanayo lweengxaki:

• Ukuncitshiswa okuphambili kokuseka okanye ukugcina umtshato uphumelele;

• Ukuhla kobudala bokuphila kwiminyaka eyi-25-30;

• Isifo esinganyangekiyo, esisifo esinokubangela isifo sesibindi, ukwandisa umngcipheko wokukhula komhlaza wesibindi;

• Isifo esinganyangekiyo esingapheliyo, kunye nomhlaza onxulumene noko;

• Umhlaza oqhelekileyo wokubulala umhlaza;

• Amathumbu amaninzi kunye nezinye izifo ezosulelayo;

• Ukonyuka okuthe kratya kokuzibulala;

• Unokwenzeka olusezantsi kakhulu lokuba iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zinokupheliswa ukuba imeko ngokwayo ayipheliswa;

• Ubuncinci i-50% yokupheliswa kokususwa ngokusebenzisa unyango olude, oluhlala lubiza kakhulu kwaye ixesha elininzi kuthathwa kwisampuli engacwangciswanga (kunye nenqanaba lokuphumelela eliphezulu kakhulu, kwezinye iimeko lisondela kwi-100%, phakathi kwabaguli abakhuthazwayo nabakhethwe ngononophelo).

Njengakwotywala: okokuqala, nangona imvelaphi yale meko inokuxhomekeka kwilifa, ukuthetha ngokungqongqo, yimodeli yokuziphatha. Okwesibini, abantu abakweli lizwe baqhubeka nokuziphatha, ngaphandle kweziphumo ezibi. Okwesithathu, nangona abanye beyibona imeko yabo njengengxaki kwaye bafuna ukuyicima, uninzi bayakhanyela ukuba banangxaki kwaye baxhathise ngobukrwada ukuzama 'ukubanceda'. Okwesine, abantu abangavumiyo ukuncedwa banomdla wokuphantse banxibelelane bodwa benze i "subculture".

Le meko yile ubufanasini. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kokufana phakathi kwala majini mabini, okwenzekayo ngoku ngumahluko obonakalayo kwindlela abasabela ngayo.

UGqr Jeffrey Satinover. Ingcali yengqondo, ugqirha wezonyango.