NgoJulayi ka-2020, uJohn Blosnich we-LGBTQ+ Health Equity Centre wapapasha enye kufunda malunga "nengozi" yonyango lokubuyisela. Kuphando lwamalungu angama-1518 "abantu abancinci bezesondo", iqela likaBlosnich ligqibe kwelokuba abantu abaye bazama ukutshintshwa ngokwesondo (emva koku kubhekiselwa kubo njengeSOCE *) baxela ukuxhaphaka okuphezulu kweengcinga zokuzibulala kunye nokuzama ukuzibulala kunabo Andi. Kuye kwaxoxwa ukuba i-SOCE "yi-stressor eyingozi eyenza ukuzibulala kwabancinci ngokwesondo". Ngoko ke, iinzame zokutshintsha i-orientation azamkelekanga kwaye kufuneka zithatyathelwe indawo yi-"affirmative withdrawal" eya kuthi imvisisanise umntu notyekelo lwakhe lobufanasini. Olu phononongo lubizwa ngokuba "obona bungqina bubambekayo bokuba iSOCE ibangela ukuzibulala".
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Ukuhluka kwesondo kunye nentlalontle kumadoda
OLUNYE UFUNDO LUQINISEKISA UKUSEBENZA NOKHUSELEKO LONYANGO LOKUBUYISA.
Njengoko iipolitiki ezikhokelwa yi-LGBT zidlulisa imithetho yokuvala uncedo lonyango kubantu abafumana umtsalane ongafunwayo wobungqingili, olunye uphando luye lwaphuma e-US olubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba abantu abanjalo banokuncedwa.
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Unyango lobufanasini ngaphambi kwexesha lokuchaneka kwezopolitiko
Iimeko ezininzi zonyango oluyimpumelelo lolungiso lobufanasini kunye nomtsalane zichazwe banzi kuncwadi lobuchwephesha. Xela Umbutho weSizwe woFundo kunye noNyango loBungqingili ubonelela ngesishwankathelo sobungqina obunamandla, iingxelo zekliniki kunye nophando ukusuka ngasekupheleni kwenkulungwane ye-19 ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, nto leyo ebonisa ubungqina bokuba amadoda kunye nabasetyhini abanomdla banokwenza utshintsho ukusuka kubufanasini ukuya kwisini esinye. Ngaphambi kwexesha lokuchaneka kwezopolitiko, yayiyinyani eyaziwayo yesayensi, ekhululekileyo Ubhale umshicileli ophakathi. Nditsho noMbutho waseAmerican Psychiatric Association, ngaphandle kobufanasini bobufanano kuluhlu lweengxaki zengqondo kwi1974, qaphele, oko Iindlela zonyango zanamhlanje zivumela inxenye ebalulekileyo yabantu abathandana nabafazi abafuna ukutshintsha indlela abathanda ngayo ukwenza njalo..
Uguqulelo olulandelayo amanqaku isuka kwiNew York Times ye1971.
Unyango kwakhona. -Ukutshintsha kunokwenzeka
Ukusukela ngexesha lemvukelo yesini, isimo sengqondo sobufanasini sitshintshe kakhulu. Namhlanje, kubantu abathandana abathandana nobungqingili eNtshona, umlo ubonakala ngathi uza kuphumelela: iiklabhu zabathandana abathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandanayo, umtshato wesini. Ngoku "gay kulungile." Isohlwayo solawulo kunye nokugwetywa okungazange kwenzeke ngaphambili kulindele abo bachasene nabantu be-LGBT, kunye neelebheli ezinomdla nezasekhaya.
Ukunyamezelwa kunye nokwamkelwa ngokubanzi kwenkululeko yesondo kusebenza kuwo onke amaqhekeza abantu - abo bafuna ukwahlukana nobufanasini kwaye baqale indlela yokuphila eyodwa. La madoda nabafazi banamava obufanasini kodwa abafuni kwamkela isazisi sobufanasini. Bakholelwa ukuba ubufanasini abumeli ubuntu babo bokwenyani kwaye bafuna ukuhlangulwa.
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Idabi lokujonga izinto ngokufana - Gerard Aardweg
Isikhokelo sonyango lobufanasini-Ukusekelwa kwiminyaka engama-30 yokufumana unyango umbhali usebenze ngaphezu kwe300 yabathengi abathandana abathandanayo.
Ndinikezela le ncwadi kwabasetyhini nakumadoda ahlushwa ziimvakalelo zesini esithandanayo, kodwa abafuni kuphila njengezitabane kwaye badinga uncedo olwakhayo nenkxaso.
Abo balibalekileyo, abanelizwi labo liphelelwe, kwaye abangazifumani iimpendulo kuluntu lwethu, eliqonda ilungelo lokuziqinisekisa kuphela kubantu abathandana nabanye.
Abo bacalucalulwayo ukuba bacinga okanye bavakalelwa kukuba umbono wobufanasini ongenabungozi nongaguqukiyo bubuxoki obubuhlungu, kwaye ayisiyabo le.
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Ukunyanga kwakhona kwakhona: imibuzo kunye neempendulo
Ngaba bonke abantu abathandana besini esifanayo?
Igama elithi "Gay" sisazisi umntu Ukukhetha zam. Ayingabo bonke abantu abathandana besini esinye abachaza "njengezitabane." Abantu abangazichazanga njengezitabane bakholelwa ukuba bangathandani ngokwesini esinye kwaye bafuna uncedo ekuchongeni izizathu ezizezona zibangela ukuba bangathandani. Ngexesha lonyango, abacebisi kunye noochwephesha bezengqondo basebenzisa iindlela zokuziphatha ezifanelekileyo ukunceda abathengi ukuba baveze izizathu zokuba nomtsalane kubantu besini esinye kwaye babancede ekusombululeni izizathu ezibakhokelela kwiimvakalelo zobufanasini. Aba bantu, abayinxalenye yoluntu lwethu, bazabalazela ukukhusela ilungelo labo lokufumana uncedo nenkxaso yokuphelisa umtsalane wesini esifanayo, ukuba batshintshe indlela abathanda ngayo kunye / okanye bagcine ukungatshati. Oku kufezekiswa ngokweenkqubo zokubandakanya abantu ngokwesini, kubandakanya nengcebiso kunye nonyango lokuthandana kwabantu abathandanayo, okwaziwa ngokuba "kukungenelela koSondo kwezeSondo" (i-SOCE) okanye Unyango kwakhona.
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Iidayari yomntu owayetshatile
Mfundi othandekayo, igama lam nguJake. Ndingumntu olifanasini kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini ukusuka eNgilane. Le dayari yenzelwe abo bachasayo umbono wokutshintsha imeko yesini. Iingcali ziye zafunda ngesondo amashumi eminyaka kwaye ziye zagqiba kwelokuba isini siyahluka kubantu abaninzi. Ubungqina bucebisa ukuba iimvakalelo zesini zinokutshintsha ebomini. Inyaniso yokuba abantu abaninzi bayayitshintsha indlela abajonga ngayo ngokwesini yinyani eqinisekisiweyo. Ndingomnye waba bantu.
Andisaziva nditsala amadoda; amantombazana ngoku anomdla ngakumbi kum. Nje ukuba ndingacingi njalo, kodwa ngoku ndiyacinga.
Kanye, ukulala kubusuku obunesithukuthezi, ndizicingele ngenye indoda ngenye indlela, ngoku ndinokuzithelekelela ndedwa nentombazana yesetyhini.
Abanye abonwabanga yile meko yemicimbi. Baqinisekile ngesondo labo kangangokuba abanakwamkela ukuba kukho abo bangasenazo kwaphela iimvakalelo zabo. Banoyolo ngakumbi xa abantu bejika baba ngamafanasini, kodwa abathandi xa kwenzeke into eyahlukileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abafana nam babizwa ngokuba ngabasebenzi benzondo, kwaye kungenxa yokuba andifuni ukuba neentlobano zesini namadoda!
Ngaba bakhetha mna ukuba bathi cwaka ngokutshintsha ubufanasini, ndihlale kubuxoki kwaye ndikukhanyele kwenzeka ntoni? Ewe, kuyabonakala! Bafuna ukundithulisa, bandiphange ilungelo lokuphila ngendlela endiyonyulayo, kwaye bandinyanzele ukuba ndikhokelele indlela yokuphila abazibona ifanelekile!
Andiyekanga nje ukuba ngungqingili, kodwa ndiziva ndonwabile. Mna ngokwam ndiza kulawula ubomi bam ngendlela endifuna ngayo, hayi indlela abandixelela ngayo. Ndigqibe kwelokuba nditshintshe isini sam kwaye ndiyenzile.
Ukucaphula iintshutshiso zesini:
Ndilapha!
Andisemgceni kwakhona!
Qhela kuyo!
Ibali elipheleleyo lesiNgesi: https://www.equalityandjusticeforall.org/diary-of-an-ex-gay-man