Dr. Julie Hamilton 6 zaka zophunzitsira zama psychology ku University of Palm Beach, adagwirapo ntchito ngati purezidenti wa Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, komanso Purezidenti ku National Association for the Study and Therapy of Hom usho usho. Pakadali pano, ndi katswiri wovomerezeka pamavuto a mabanja ndi ukwati machitidwe apadera. Mu nkhani yake "Kugonana Amuna Kapena Akazi Okhaokha: Njira Yoyambira" (Kugonana Amuna Kapena Akazi Osiyana Pakati), Dr. Hamilton amalankhula za nthano zomwe zimafotokoza mutu wa kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mchikhalidwe chathu komanso zomwe zimadziwika pofufuza kwasayansi. Ikuwonetsa zinthu zomwe zimathandizira kukulitsa kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kwa anyamata ndi atsikana, ndipo ikuyankhula zokhudzana ndi kusintha kwa malingaliro osayenera a kugonana.
• Kodi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chilengedwe kapena ndikosankha?
• Nchiyani chimatsogolera munthu kuti akopeke ndi kugonana kwake?
• Kodi amuna kapena akazi amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakula bwanji?
• Kodi kukonzanso kuyambika?
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Kodi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chilengedwe, kapena ndikusankha?
- Palibe chimodzi kapena china. Pali zambiri zabodza zokhudza kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha m'chikhalidwe chathu. Nthano zomwe timamva siziri zoona. Anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha n’kwachibadwa ndipo n’kosatheka kusintha. Komabe, anthu samabadwa ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha - iyi ndi nthano chabe yomwe imafalitsidwa kwambiri pachikhalidwe chathu. M'zaka za m'ma 90, panali kuyesayesa kwakukulu kutsimikizira maziko a chilengedwe cha kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, chifukwa zingathandize kuti "Gay Rights Movement," ndipo kotero panali kufufuza kwakukulu, koma palibe amene anafika ponena kuti zinali chifukwa cha biology. .
Dean Hamer adachita kafukufuku wama jini, ndipo atolankhani nthawi yomweyo adalengeza kuti geni yachiwerewere yapezeka, ngakhale wofufuzayo sananene choncho. Palibe amene adatha kubwereza kafukufuku wake motero adachotsedwa. Scientific American itamufunsa ngati kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumangotengera biology, adayankha, "Ayi. Ayi. Tikudziwa kale kuti zopitilira theka zakusintha kwa chiwerewere sizotengera ... Zimapangidwa ndi zinthu zambiri, kuphatikiza zachilengedwe, zachilengedwe komanso chikhalidwe. "
Kafukufuku wa a Brain a Simon LeVay adanenanso zomwezo ndipo adavomereza kuti alephera kupereka umboni uliwonse wotsimikizira kuti: "Ndikofunikira kutsimikiza kuti sindinatsimikizire kuti amuna kapena akazi amabadwa otere - ndiye cholakwika chofala kwambiri chomwe anthu amatanthauzira pantchito yanga. Sindinapezenso malo ogonana mu ubongo. "Sitikudziwa ngati kusiyana komwe ndidapeza kwakadabadwa kapena kuwonekeranso pambuyo pake."
Kafukufuku yemwe anakafufuza mbiri ya mapasa aku Australia omwe ali ndi zidziwitso pa ma 40 masauzande angapo apeza kuti ngati mapasa ofanana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndiye kuti pafupifupi 20 kapena peresenti yocheperako, winayo akhale amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ngati kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuli chifukwa cha sayansi, titha kuwona zochulukirapo, popeza mapasa ofanana ali ndi chilengedwe chomwecho.
M'malo mwake, palibe wofufuzira m'modzi yemwe angakuwuzeni kuti wapeza zomwe zimayambitsa kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ofufuza ambiri akuti kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumalumikizidwa ndi kuphatikiza zinthu zachilengedwe ndi chilengedwe, zomwe zitha kufotokozedwa mwanjira iyi:
Ngakhale APA, imodzi mwa mabungwe opanga zamisala, omwe samakhazikitsa mayendedwe asayansi mu psychology yayikulu, anasintha mawonekedwe ake kuchokera ku 1998, pomwe akuti zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa chidwi cha amuna kapena akazi okhaokha zimazika mizu mu biology.
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kufalitsa nkhaniyi, chifukwa mabodza onena za kukonzekereratu za kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi zotsatirapo zowononga kwambiri. Anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi zoyendetsa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha safuna kuchita kapena kukhala nazo, koma mchikhalidwe chathu amauzidwa: "Ichi ndiye lingaliro lanu, vomerezani, munabadwa mwanjira imeneyi, palibe chomwe chingachitike." Ndipo bodza ili limabweretsa kudana kwambiri ndi malingaliro odzipha.
Mwa njira, pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha timawona kuchuluka kwambiri kwa kukhumudwa, kudzipha, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, etc. Amatsimikizira izi poti anthu sakuwavomereza, komanso izi sizowona. Titaona ziwerengero zamayiko olekerera kwambiri, monga Denmark, Netherlands, New Zealand, Finland kapena Sweden, komwe kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kwakhala kwazaka zambiri, sitikuwona kusiyana kulikonse.
Ngakhale kuti amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sanabadwe, sitinganene kuti amuna kapena akazi okhaokha "amasankha" kukopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (ngakhale pali ena: http://www.queerbychoice.com/) Anthu amatha kusankha zochita zawo - ngakhale atalowa chibwenzi kapena ayi, koma zokopazo zokha, monga lamulo, sizosankhidwa.
Kodi chimatsogolera munthu kuti akopeke ndi kugonana kwake?
Ngakhale zinthu zachilengedwe zingaphatikizepo zokumana nazo zachiwerewere kapena zochitika zina zowopsa, chifukwa chodziwika bwino ndikuphwanya chitukuko cha kudziwika kwa amuna kapena akazi, zomwe mu 80% milandu imatha mu kukopeka kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Chidziwitso cha jenda ndi momwe munthu amadziwonera yekha malinga ndi jenda, kutanthauza kuzindikira kwamwamuna kapena wamkazi. Amapangidwa kudzera mu ubale wa mwana ndi kholo komanso anzawo amtundu wawo.
Poyamba, makanda amadzidziwa okha ndi amayi awo, koma pakati pa zaka ziwiri ndi zinayi za moyo, njira yodziwira zogonana imayamba. Pa nthawi iyi ya chitukuko, mnyamatayo ayenera kudzipatula ku mgwirizano wake ndi amayi ake ndikupanga ubale wolimba ndi abambo ake, chifukwa kudzera mu ubale ndi iye amaphunzira tanthauzo la kukhala bambo. Mnyamatayo amadzifunsa kuti: Kodi amuna amachita bwanji? Zikuyenda bwanji? Kodi akutani? Ndipo bambowo amayankha mafunso amenewa kudzera pa ubale wake ndi mwana wake. Amachita izi pocheza ndi iye, kuwonetsa kuti amamukonda ndi ntchito zake, komanso kudzera pakumonana. Kulumikizana ndi chikondi ndikofunikira, monga kukumbatirana kapena kugwirana manja, komanso kovutirapo, ngati masewera olimbana kapena ovuta. Kudzera mu kulumikizana kotero kuti mnyamatayo amayamba kulimba thupi lake komanso kulumikizana kwake.
Pazaka pafupifupi 6, pamene ana ayamba kupita kusukulu, gawo latsopano limayamba: tsopano mnyamatayo amayang'ana anzawo pofunafuna mayankho a mafunso omwewo abambo ake anali nawo kale. Amayesetsa kuvomerezedwa ndi kuvomerezedwa ndi anyamata ena. Chifukwa cha ubale womwe amapanga nawo, akupitilizabe kukhala wopambana, kudziwa zambiri za anyamata ena motero, za iye.
M'zaka zoyambirira za sukulu ya pulaimale, nthawi zambiri ana sakonda kusewera ndi anyamata kapena atsikana. Amakonda kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi amuna kapena akazi. Iyi ndi gawo lachilengedwe komanso lofunikira pakukula, chifukwa munthu sangakhale ndi chidwi ndi anyamata kapena amuna mpaka atamvetsa za iye. Mapeto ake, atatha zaka zambiri kulumikizana ndi oimira jenda, mnyamatayo akutha msinkhu, ndipo tsopano akuyamba kuwonetsa chidwi ndi chidwi cha omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Pakuwonekera kwa zosowa zakugonana, chidwi ichi chimasandulika chilakolako chogonana komanso kufunitsitsa kukondana ndi anyamata kapena atsikana.
Kwa mwana yemwe pamapeto pake amakopa kuyendetsa gonana, njira yomwe ili pamwambapa nthawi zambiri imalakwika
Monga lamulo, china chake chimamulepheretsa kudzipatula bwino kuchokera kwa amayi ake ndikugwirizana ndi abambo ake. Ndizotheka kuti bambo yemwe anali bambo ake anali osafikirika kwa iye, kapena mwina sanawone ngati abambo ake anali otheka, odalirika kapena otayika. Kuzindikira ndi chilichonse. Zomwe zikuchitika kwa ife sizofunika kwambiri, koma momwe timazindikirira. Chifukwa chake, sizingakhale kuti kulibe abambo, koma poti pazifukwa zina mnyamatayo sanamuwone kuti analipo kapena ofunikira kukhazikitsa mgwirizano. Kuzindikira kumayendetsedwa ndi kupsa mtima kwathu ndipo ndipamene sayansi imatha kuchita gawo laling'ono, poganiza kuti mwana yemwe ali ndi chidwi kwambiri amatha kuzindikira kukanidwa komwe kulibe. Amatha kuganiza kuti abambo ake safuna ubale ndi iye, kapena machitidwe ake ena angawone ngati kukanidwa, ngakhale izi sizikutanthauza kwenikweni. Mwachitsanzo, bambo m'mitima mwake amatha kufuulira mwana wake wamwamuna, ndipo kwa mwana wazaka ziwiri, munthu wokuwa amawoneka wowopsa, chifukwa chake sakufuna kusiya zabwino zogwirizana ndi amayi ake ndikumangokhala pafupi ndi chimphona chowopsa komanso chokufuula.
Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti kupsa mtima kokha sikumapangitsa munthu kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kuphatikiza pazinthu zina zachilengedwe ndi komwe angathandizire kukulitsa kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndizofunikanso osati kwambiri bambo iyemwini monga bambo, i.e. bambo yemwe mnyamatayo amadziwika naye. Kwa anyamata omwe amakula wopanda bambo, wophunzitsa, aphunzitsi, amalume, agogo, kapena ngakhale oyandikana nawo amatha kukhala ngati munthu wotero.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mnyamatayo akuwona kuti bambo ake safuna kuti akhale naye paubwenzi, ndiye kuti pamapeto amaleka kuyesetsa kuyandikira. Pachifukwa ichi, pali ngakhale liwu - "kudzipatula." Amawoneka kuti akutseka khoma nati: "chabwino, ngati sukundifuna, sindikufunanso." Ndipo mkati mwake amakana bambo, komanso chilichonse chomwe abambo akuimira, ndicho. M'malo mwake, amakhalabe wolumikizana ndi amayi ake ndipo amatenga ukazi, pomwe nthawi yomweyo amafunafuna, pansi, chikondi chachimuna ndi kulumikizana ndi kugonana kwamphongo. Nthawi zambiri, mnyamata wotereyu amakhala ndi zovuta pamlingo wotsatira wa chitukuko, komwe amayenera kukhala wofanana ndi anyamata anzanga ndikupanga ubale ndi iwo. Atha kukhala momasuka ndi azimayi omwe amamudziwa bwino, kapena amawopa anyamata ena. Ngati ali ndi chikhalidwe chamtundu wa akazi, anzawo akhoza kumamupatula ndikumamupatsa mayina. Chifukwa chake, amadutsa pasukulu ya pulaimale, amakumana ndi atsikana, koma nthawi yomweyo, akufunitsitsa kuti awonedwe, kuvomerezedwa ndikuzindikiridwa ndi anyamatawa. Panthawi yachitukuko yomwe kuyanjana ndi abambo ndikofunikira, amayandikira kudziko la azimayi, omwe amagwiritsa ntchito ngati chidziwitso chake. Atafika paunyamata, sangakhale ndi chidwi ndi atsikana - ali ngati mlongo kwa iye, sizosangalatsa kwa iye, amadziwa kale zonse za iwo. Zomwe zimaphimbidwa ndi halo yachinsinsi kwa iye, komanso zomwe amafunafuna ndizolumikizana ndi amuna. Kusowa kwache kosafunikira kwa ubale wapamtima ndi kugonana kwake, momwe amalembera, amayamba kugonana. Mnyamata wotere amaganiza molakwika kuti adabadwa mwanjira imeneyi, chifukwa m'masiku ake onse ozindikira amakumbukira yekha kufunafuna chikondi champhongo. Ndizowona kuti nthawi zonse anali kuyang'ana chikondi ichi, koma poyamba sichinali chilako lako chakugonana, koma kufunikira kwakazindikirika ndikuzindikira, komwe kunasinthidwa ndikukopa.
Ambiri mwa iwo, omwe ali ndi zaka 13, amapezeka kuti amakopeka ndi anyamata angakuuzeni kuti izi zinali zowapweteketsa mtima. Anthu ambiri safuna kukopeka ndi kugonana kwawo, koma izi zimadzaza mkati mwake chifukwa zosowa zawo zinali zopanda pake. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti tisawanyoze: "Ichi ndi chisankho chanu - mwasankha izi." Mumataya chidaliro pakunena izi chifukwa ndizosemphana ndi zomwe adakumana nazo - amadziwa kuti sanazisankhe.
Kukula kwa kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumakhala kovuta kwambiri
Kwa azimayi ena, kukulitsa chidwi cha amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikofanana ndi kakulidwe ka amuna komwe kwalongosoledwa pamwambapa: amapanga ubale ndi abambo ndi anyamata ena, koma osati ndi atsikana, ndipo kufunika kolankhulana ndi kugonana kwawo sikungakhale kosakwaniritsidwa. Kwa atsikana ena, uchembere wabwino ndi mtundu wa kusaka chikondi cha amayi, ndikudzaza zopanda pake zomwe zidapangidwa kale. Kwa atsikana ena, malingaliro a ukazi amatha kusokonezedwa ndi zomwe adakumana nazo. Mwina adawona abambo awo akumenya amayi awo kapena kum'chititsa manyazi, ndipo adazindikira kuti kukhala chachikazi kumatanthauza kukhala wofooka, kapena kukhala wovutitsidwa. Ndipo kotero adasiyana ndi mawonekedwe awo achikazi, chifukwa chimadziwika kuti ndi chosayenera komanso chosalimbikitsa.
Mwina iwonso adavutika. Izi zitha kuchitika ngakhale muunyamata, monga kugwiriridwa kwa tsiku, kapena mtundu wina wa nkhanza, zomwe zimawapangitsa kudzipatula ku unzika wawo kapena kupewa amuna.
Tsopano mchikhalidwe chathu, kusekondale komanso koleji, tsopano zakhala zikhalidwe kunena kuti mumakonda zikhalidwe, ndipo atsikana ena amatengera izi. Mothandizidwa ndi chidziwitso cholakwika chomwe chikuzungulira mchikhalidwe chathu, achinyamata ena amayesa kuyesa kugonana kwawo ndipo izi zimakhala njira ya moyo, chifukwa ndi zomwe takumana nazo, timapanga zilakolako ndi zikhumbo.
China chomwe chimapangitsa azimayi ndi chotchedwa "kudalira m'maganizo". Amayi amadziona ngati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ngakhale atakwatirana, koma amalowa muubwenzi ndi mkazi wina yemwe amakhala wopanda thanzi kwambiri. Itha kuyamba ngati ubale, womwe umasokoneza kwambiri, ndipo kudalirana kwakukulu kumapangika pakati pawo. Zikuwoneka ngati: "Ndikukufunani, inu nokha amene mumandimvetsa ndikumandimva, palibe amene amakwaniritsa zosowa zanga monga inu." Ndipo zimasandulika kukhala "sindingakhale ndi moyo popanda inu, ndimwalira ndikakhala kuti ndilibe iwe. ”Maubwenzi amenewa amatha kutha kutha msanga komanso kukhala ndi chidwi. Ndipo popeza azimayi awa, kudalira kwawo kwachisangalalo, kudutsa malire a zomwe zimaloledwa mwamalingaliro, izi zitha kutsogolera kudutsa malire mu ndege yakuthupi. Asanakhale ndi nthawi yoti adziwe, amapezeka ali pachibwenzi.
Kuthekera kwa kusintha
Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa chitukuko chathu, kuti mutha kudziwa anthu omwe akupanga izi, kapena zina zomwe sizinatchulidwe pano.
Ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti kwa anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi chofuna kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo, ndiye kuti chiyembekezo chilipo. Tikudziwa kuchokera pakufufuza kuti kusintha kumatheka, osati mikhalidwe, komanso machitidwe okha. Bungwe la National Association for the Study and Therapy of kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha linapereka chithunzithunzi chaumboni wopatsa chidwi, malipoti azachipatala ndi kafukufuku wasayansi wazaka zam'ma 1900, zomwe zikuwonetsa motsimikiza kuti amuna ndi akazi omwe adalimbikitsidwa amatha kusiya kugonana amuna okhaokha kapena akazi okhaokha.
Dziwani kuti vuto lokopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha silisiyana ndi vuto lina lililonse lachipatala - "kusintha" sizitanthauza kuti vuto lanu linazimiririka kamodzi. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu adatembenukira kwa ochiritsira ndi vuto lakukhumudwa ndikumaliza bwino chithandizo, kumva kusinthidwa, kukhutitsidwa kwambiri komanso kusangalala, izi sizitanthauza kuti sadzakhalanso ndi nkhawa. Mosakayikira, munthawi yovuta ya moyo wake, amatha kubwerera, makamaka ngati ali ndi chiyembekezo chochita. Mavuto samatha mosavuta, Kusintha ndi njira yayitali. Chifukwa chake ngati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amati asintha, kenako ndikupitiliza kuvuta, izi sizachilendo. Timazindikira izi mu gawo la zosokoneza. Chifukwa chake, anthu omwe ali panjira yakuchotsera mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena zakumwa zoledzeretsa amadziwa kuti nthawi zina amayenerabe kulimbana ndi ziyeso, koma pang'ono kwambiri, ndikuti ndizosavuta kupunthwa ndikubwerera. Chifukwa chake musakhumudwe ndi mabodza omwe mumamva muchikhalidwe chathu, zosinthazo zimatsimikiziridwa ndi sayansi ndipo tikudziwa kuti zikuchitika. Ambiri mwa omwe adasintha kuyendetsa amuna omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mothandizidwa ndi psychotherapy amanong'oneza bondo kuti sanachite izi kale, chifukwa chikhalidwe kapena banja lawo limawatsimikizira kuti mwina sangayesetse kusintha.
Ndadzidzimuka pang'ono.
Mwambiri, nkhaniyo idayenda munjira zoyenera, koma mwayi wosintha wandiyambitsa chibwibwi.
Ngati munapanga chosankha cholakwika ponena za kudzisankhira nokha, ndiko kuti, mawu omaliza a malingaliro anu, ndiye kuti mwamsanga kapena pambuyo pake mudzazindikiradi kuti munalakwitsa. Koma vuto ndiloti nkhani yonseyi ndi nkhani yapadera (pepani). Pali malingaliro anzeru pano, koma ngati munthu atsimikiza zomwe akufuna, palibe mwayi wowongolera.
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Chowonadi ndi momwe analeredwera ndi chilengedwe cha chilengedwe cha mwanayo. Palibe jini yokonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Zonse zili m'mutu. Banja ndi lodzaza ndi miyambo ya banja ndi yofunika! Muyenera kusamala ndi ana. Muzitsatira mfundo ndi maganizo a m’maleredwe. Mnyamata ndi mtsikana ndi osiyana ndipo amafunika kulera molingana ndi jenda.
Nkhani
A., bambo, zaka za 32. Anamnesis: kuchokera ku banja losakwanira, mwana yekhayo wa makolo awo. Anapita ndi amayi ake. Kuzolowera kwambiri. Kukula popanda kupatuka. Kuyambira wazaka za 10 anali ndi chidwi ndi atsikana, adayesetsa kupanga anzawo, koma kulumikizana ndi anzawo nthawi zambiri kumakhala kovuta chifukwa cha zovuta chifukwa chokwanira. Kuyambira zaka za 14, kuseweretsa maliseche pafupipafupi pogwiritsa ntchito erotica yachikazi monga cholimbikitsira. Kuyambira zaka za 16, kuyesa kangapo kupanga ubale ndi atsikana, kutha osapambana. Kupatula pang'onopang'ono komanso kukayikira. Pazaka za 25: kukonza zolaula. "Sindinadziwenso choti ndiziwonera, ndinawunikiranso zolakwika zonse zomwe zingachitike." Kukonzekera kwapadera pa zolaula zazimayi. Kugonana ndi anyamata kapena atsikana sikunakhazikitsidwe, panalibe zachiwerewere. Kuyambira zaka za 25: adayamba kuyang'ana zolaula ndi transsexuals, anali wokondwa kwambiri. Kukonzekera kwa chifanizo. Kulingalira kwamphamvu zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumapangika pang'onopang'ono, kenako ndikuyang'ana "ndikuwonera zolaula ndikuwonera zolaula", adayamba kuchita zoyeserera za anus ndi oyeserera "Ndidapeza chisangalalo, koma osasangalala." Pazaka za 27, kusinthika kwamphamvu pakulumikizana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, malingaliro omwe amakhala nawo kwa ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sanatengere gawo lililonse, amadziona ngati amuna okhaokha. Pakadali pano, kudzera pa intaneti, adalumikizana ndi hule wamkazi, yemwe anali woyamba kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Pambuyo pake, kumva chisoni kwambiri. Patatha sabata limodzi, kulumikizananso mobwerezabwereza. Anayamba kuyendera zigawenga ndimagonana mlungu uliwonse, nthawi iliyonse ali ndi zolaula, kenako adachita zachiwerewere. Ndinasiya kuchita zolaula. Chiwerengero cha omwe amagonana ndi 20 munthawi ya 27 - 29 zaka. Amabisira anthu okondedwa. Anachita manyazi kwambiri atalumikizana. Mwa zaka 30 za kukhumudwa kwambiri, kusakhutira, chisokonezo, kusowa tulo, mavuto ndi edrection. Mu zaka za 30, msonkhano woyamba ndi wachibale wakutali, bambo wazaka za 60, wothandizira masewera. Anayanjana ndi wachibale, kenako adamutsegulira. "Anandichirikiza kwambiri." Zolimbikitsidwa ndi wachibale, adayamba kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. "Pofika chaka cha 31, ndidataya 40 kg!" Ndi zochitika zambiri zolimbitsa thupi, adakana kucheza ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito chidwi cha omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Posakhalitsa zochitika zoyambirira zogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi, mkondowo wopanda zovuta, wokhala ndi chotupa. Pofika nthawi ya 4 mwezi womwe ali paubwenzi wokhazikika ndi mtsikana, akukonzekera kuyambitsa banja. Samva kulakalaka amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amakumbukira zopusa. Zovuta zazikulu zokhudzana ndi kuthekera kofotokozera mwatsatanetsatane wa moyo wake kwa mkwatibwi.
mlandu womwe mudafotokoza siamodzi;
Ndikuwopa kuti zikungowonjezereka, ndiyenera kuzindikira kulolerana, kukwatiwa kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndi zina zambiri chifukwa palibe njira yothetsera vuto lachiwerewere. Ili ndi tsamba labwino, koma izi ndizochepa kwambiri ... dongosololi liyenera kusinthidwa.
Tsoka ilo izi sizingatheke.
Aliyense ayenera mwina kulankhula za izo ndipo musachite mantha! Palibe chifukwa choyang'ana Kumadzulo ndi United States. Ndikopindulitsa kwa iwo kupanga anthu amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Choncho ndikosavuta kupotoza ndikuwononga anthu. Kungoti apenga,! iwo akhala akukonza izo kwa zaka. Anthu sakusangalala. Ndondomeko yokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha imayambitsa kuwonongeka, makamaka ngati maukwatiwa ali a GAY banja ndipo adzadzutsa mbadwo watsopano!
Zomwe mudafotokoza ndizofala.
Munthu, hetero. Mavuto ndi atsikana, motero amasangalala ndi hetero-porn, koma kenako amayamba kuvutikira, ndipo pang'onopang'ono amakhala ndi chidwi ndi zachiwerewere / zolaula.
Izi zonse zimakhazikika ngati reflex yokhazikika. Ubongo ukuwoneka kuti "wayiwala" chisangalalo chake kwa akazi ndipo umakhazikika pamalingaliro ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Amathandizidwa ndi mawonekedwe omwewo. Ndikofunikira kubwezeretsa chisangalalo pang'onopang'ono kwa amayi, ndipo ndi.
Palibe maphunziro asayansi otsimikizira mapangidwe a kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akamachita maphunziro.
Malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amayambitsidwa ndi kusasamala kapena ubale ndi abambo ndi malingaliro okhalitsa omwe samakhala ndi umboni wotsimikizira za sayansi. Chimalimbikitsa lingaliro lakuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kungathe kuchitidwa bwino, koma kungofuna. Ndinena nthawi yomweyo kuti izi sizichitira mwanjira iliyonse. Chifukwa palibe choti muchiritse. Izi sizoyambira! Inde, anthu savomereza anthu otere. Makamaka ku Russia. Chifukwa chake ambiri odzipha.
Inde, munthu amabadwa mwanjira imeneyi. Sachita chidwi ndi azimayi konse, sawakonda. Ndipo kuti sanapeze chifukwa sikutanthauza kuti mulibe kapena sudzapezekanso m'tsogolo.
Panali nthawi yoyesera "kuchitira". Izi sizinapeze zotsatira. Kukopeka ndi kugonana komweko kunasungidwa kwathunthu.
Sikuti simukudziwa za iwo sizitanthauza kuti kulibe. Iwo akufotokozedwa lipoti... Zomwe sizipezeka pali umboni wokhudzana ndi zinthu zachilengedwe, zomwe zikuonekeratu adauza APA.
Zomwe zimatsimikiziridwa mokwanira muzochita zamankhwala. Ngati mukuyesetsa kuthana ndi mavutowa, zizolowezi zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sizingathandize. Zambiri: https://pro-lgbt.ru/5195/
Demagogic "mkangano mwachitsimikizo" ndi malingaliro olakalaka. Zikhulupiriro zanu sizimagwirizana ndi zenizeni.
Zolakwika zomveka "Non sequitur". Chiŵerengero chodzipha cha ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha m'mayiko omwe sadzudzulidwa ngakhale pang'ono ndi anthu chidakali chokwera modabwitsa, monganso kwina kulikonse. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, kuvomereza kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumangowonjezera matenda ndi kuvutika pakati pa LGBT. Zambiri: https://pro-lgbt.ru/386/
APA imalimbikitsa omenyera ufulu wa LGBT kuti asiye malingaliro awo amkati, popeza sizotsatira zasayansi, sizothandiza ndipo zimasankha. Zambiri: https://pro-lgbt.ru/285/
Zolakwika zomveka "kuyembekezera maziko". Akapeza, tidzakambirana.
Si zoona. Zopitilira 100 za Chingerezi zomwe zafotokoza bwino za njira zochiritsira zomwe zalembedwera chidafotokozedwa mwachidule. Zambiri apa.
Moni, ndipo ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ndikakhala ndi vuto lofanana ndi m'nkhaniyi? Ndikufuna thandizo ..
Muyenera kukonda zimene Mulungu wakupatsani. Muli ndi manja, maso, thanzi, unyamata - iyi ndi mphatso yochokera kwa Mulungu - moyo. Ndipo Baibulo limakuuzani mmene mungakhalire ndi moyo umenewo. Pali njira imodzi yokha yosangalatsa, ena onse ndi achinyengo komanso onyenga chifukwa cha zilakolako zathu zosakhalitsa. Kumbukirani: simuyenera kukhala ndi moyo ndi zomverera, koma ndi chowonadi, ndipo malingaliro amakhazikika pakakhala chowonadi.
gaskiya nima ina bukatar taimako akan lamarin nima yashafeni
Zambiri. Pitilizani kugawana zolemba zina.
Kodi LGBT ndi matenda???
Lero ndikuululirani chinsinsi choyipa. Kotero apa. LGBT si matenda, koma chibadwa cha makolo athu, komanso, choyipa kwambiri. Ndipo kuchokera pamenepo, ndizo zonse, kuchokera pachilumba cha Ceylon, (tsopano Fr. Sri Lanka), komwe alendo amachokera ku nyenyezi ya Tau Ceti, (ali ndi ma exoplanets 8 omwe amazungulira mozungulira, komanso 1 asteroid yakutali, yokhala ndi kanjira kosakhazikika, kolowera, poyerekezera ndi Dzuwa lakwawo - Tau Ceti ), m'zaka zakale. Nthawi, adachita zoyeserera zawo zama chibadwa kumeneko, kuyesera kutengera dziko lathu lapansi, komanso adawoloka anthu ndi nyama, chifukwa chake tinali ndi zolengedwa zanthano monga: satyrs, centaurs ndi mermaids !!! Koma, pa chirichonse, mu dongosolo: mu mabuku a Vedic, pali lingaliro loti: "Chisinthiko chiwerengero, kupulumuka kwaumunthu." Ndiko kuti, kwa wina, ndizo, (kwa anthu oyera), kwa wina, ndizochepa, (kwa akuda, Latinos ndi Chinese), koma tonsefe timagwirizanitsidwa ndi chinthu chimodzi: mwamsanga pamene ichi ndi chisinthiko. chiwerengero, kupulumuka kwa anthu, kufika, monga zotsatira, hybridization, mlingo, pansipa, 50%, choyambirira, mwa munthu wotere, (mtundu wa anthu: HOMO SAPIENS), kuyamba: maganizo, zamoyo, komanso, kusokonezeka maganizo, m'thupi, pamlingo wa mphamvu ya aura, chifukwa chake, chidziwitso chake cha jenda komanso kudzizindikira chimatayika, ndipo, poyesa kutseka izi: "mabowo" amalingaliro, mu aura yake, amayamba kuyang'ana. , (mosadziwa), kwa iyemwini, mwamuna ndi mkazi, kuti munthu wathanzi, malinga ndi aura, pansi pa chakudya, mphamvu zamaganizo ndipo potero, akhazikitse aura yake. Ndipo zimachitika motere: 1. Amiseche. Mwachitsanzo, 1 (mmodzi) mkazi wathanzi, Scandinavian, (woyera), ndi chisinthiko chiwerengero cha 10 (khumi). Ndipo timamuwoloka, ndi munthu wathanzi, wochokera ku fuko la Scandinavia, (woyera), nayenso, ndi chiwerengero cha kupulumuka, 10 (khumi). Ndipo tidzawakwatira. Malamulo a RITA, nthawi yomweyo, (Vedic), samaphwanyidwa ndipo ngati ali ndi ana, ndiye, mosasamala kanthu za chiwerengero chawo, adzakhala ndi ana athanzi nthawi zonse, popeza, pathupi ndi kubadwa, 10 kuphatikiza 10 ndikugawaniza ndi awiri (ndi makolo onse awiri) alinso 10. Ndiko kuti, pa kubadwa, mwana woteroyo, (msungwana), amabadwa: wabwinobwino, wathanzi, (wamaganizo), mkazi wamtsogolo. Ndipo tsopano, tidzayesa kulowererapo mu ndondomekoyi ndikuwonjezera, kwa unyolo wa kholo la ana, wachitatu, (mlendo), ndi chiwerengero cha kupulumuka, (malinga ndi chisinthiko, pa dziko lapansi), 5 (zisanu) ndikuwona. chiyani, tidzapambana. Tili kale ndi makolo a 3 (atatu), mu unyolo, mwachibadwa komanso ndi kuwonjezera kwa DNA yachilendo, chiwerengero cha kupulumuka, munthu, chisinthiko, pa kubadwa, nthawi yomweyo amatsika ndi 1,666666666666667 mayunitsi, kuyambira: 10 kuphatikiza 10 kuphatikiza 5 zikufanana ndi 25 ndipo ngati izi zigawidwa ndi 3 (zitatu), ndiye kuti timapeza 8,333333333333333. Malamulo a RITA akuphwanyidwa momveka bwino, ndipo ngakhale, kwa mlendo, izi ndi zabwino, popeza chiwerengero chake cha chisinthiko, mu wosakanizidwa wotere, chawonjezeka, makamaka, kwa mtundu wa anthu - izi ndi zoipa, chifukwa, ndi zina zotero. kusakanizidwa ndi kusakaniza, chibadwa, mwana woteroyo, ndi Negroid, Latinoid kapena Chinese genetics - chiwerengero chake cha chisinthiko, kupulumuka, kwa munthu, chidzagwa (m'mibadwo yotsatira). Ndipo tsiku lina, padzafika mphindi pamene, wake, mbadwa zakutali (m'badwo wachinayi kapena wachisanu), adzamva mwadzidzidzi kuti akusowa chinachake, popeza chiwerengero chake cha chisinthiko, kupulumuka kwaumunthu, chagwa, chifukwa chake, padziko lonse lapansi. kusakanizidwa kwa mafuko ndi alendo, pansi pa 50% yapachiyambi, mwa makolo, 10 ndipo iye, KWA NTHAWI YOYAMBA, Amayang'ana MKAZI, kuti adzitseke yekha, "mabowo" amaganizo awa mu aura (komanso, mosazindikira) . Kupatula apo, msungwana, (msungwana, mkazi), wokhala ndi chisinthiko cha 4 (anayi) kapena apamwamba pang'ono, kuphatikiza 0,5, amamva bwino, ndi mkazi wathanzi, wokhala ndi nambala 10, (monga, 4 kuphatikiza 10 ndi 7 pamene agawidwa ndi 2) kapena, woyambirira, wosakanizidwa, (munthu ndi wachilendo), wokhala ndi chiwerengero cha 8,333, (popeza 4 kuphatikiza 8,333 ndi 6,1665 pamene agawidwa ndi 2). Ndipo izi ndi momwe akazi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amawonekera nthawi zonse, popeza, ndi chiwerengero cha kupulumuka kwa anthu, pansi pa mayunitsi a 5, (mwa mkazi), mkazi wotere, (msungwana, mtsikana), sakopeka ndi amuna, chifukwa, mwachibadwa komanso pamlingo wa mphamvu ya aura, sangathe kupanga banja lokhazikika ndi mwamuna !!! 2. Gays. Tengani, mwachitsanzo, 1 (m'modzi) mkazi wathanzi, wochokera ku fuko la Scandinavia, (woyera), wokhala ndi chisinthiko cha 10 (khumi). Ndipo timamuwoloka, ndi munthu wathanzi, wochokera ku fuko la Scandinavia, (woyera), nayenso, ndi chiwerengero cha kupulumuka, 10 (khumi). Ndipo tidzawakwatira. Malamulo a RITA, nthawi yomweyo, (Vedic), samaphwanyidwa ndipo ngati ali ndi ana, ndiye, mosasamala kanthu za chiwerengero chawo, adzakhala ndi ana athanzi nthawi zonse, popeza, pathupi ndi kubadwa, 10 kuphatikiza 10 ndikugawaniza ndi awiri (ndi makolo onse awiri) alinso 10. Ndiko kuti, pa kubadwa, mwana woteroyo, (mnyamata), kubadwa: wabwinobwino, wathanzi, (wamaganizo), munthu wam'tsogolo. Ndipo tsopano, tidzayesa kulowererapo mu ndondomekoyi ndikuwonjezera, kwa unyolo wa kholo la ana, wachitatu, (mlendo), ndi chiwerengero cha kupulumuka, (malinga ndi chisinthiko, pa dziko lapansi), 5 (zisanu) ndikuwona. chiyani, tidzapambana. Tili kale ndi makolo a 3 (atatu), mu unyolo, mwachibadwa komanso ndi kuwonjezera kwa DNA yachilendo, chiwerengero cha kupulumuka, munthu, chisinthiko, pa kubadwa, nthawi yomweyo amatsika ndi 1,666666666666667 mayunitsi, kuyambira: 10 kuphatikiza 10 kuphatikiza 5 zikufanana ndi 25 ndipo ngati izi zigawidwa ndi 3 (zitatu), ndiye kuti timapeza 8,333333333333333. Malamulo a RITA akuphwanyidwa momveka bwino, ndipo ngakhale, kwa mlendo, izi ndi zabwino, popeza chiwerengero chake cha chisinthiko, mu wosakanizidwa wotere, chawonjezeka, makamaka, kwa mtundu wa anthu - izi ndi zoipa, chifukwa, ndi zina zotero. kusakanizidwa ndi kusakaniza, chibadwa, mwana woteroyo, ndi Negroid, Latinoid kapena Chinese genetics - chiwerengero chake cha chisinthiko, kupulumuka, kwa munthu, chidzagwa (m'mibadwo yotsatira). Ndipo tsiku lina, nthawi idzafika pamene, wake, mbadwa zakutali (m'badwo wachinayi kapena wachisanu), adzamva mwadzidzidzi kuti akusowa chinachake, popeza chiwerengero chake cha chisinthiko, kupulumuka kwaumunthu, chinagwa, chifukwa chake, kusakanizidwa kwa dziko lonse lapansi. mafuko ndi alendo, pansi pa 50%, kuchokera pachiyambi, mwa makolo, 10 ndipo iye, KWA NTHAWI YOYAMBA, ADZAONA MUNTHU kuti adzitsekere yekha, "mabowo" amaganizo awa mu aura (komanso, mosadziwa). Pambuyo pake, mnyamata, (mnyamata, mwamuna), wokhala ndi chiwerengero cha chisinthiko, 4 (anayi) kapena apamwamba pang'ono, kuphatikizapo 0,5, adzamva bwino, ndi munthu wathanzi, ndi chiwerengero cha kupulumuka, 10 , (monga ngati, 4 kuphatikiza 10 ndi 7 pamene agawidwa ndi 2) kapena, ndi choyambirira, wosakanizidwa, (munthu ndi wachilendo), wokhala ndi chiwerengero cha 8,333, (popeza 4 kuphatikiza 8,333 ndi 6,1665 pamene agawidwa ndi 2). Ndipo izi ndi momwe ma gay amawonekera nthawi zonse, popeza, ndi chiwerengero cha kupulumuka kwa anthu, pansi pa mayunitsi a 5, (mwa mwamuna), mwamuna wotero, (mnyamata, mnyamata), sakopeka ndi akazi, popeza, mwachibadwa komanso pamlingo wa mphamvu ya aura, sangathe kupanga mgwirizano wolimba ndi mkazi !!! 3. Ogonana ndi amuna awiri. Apa, zonse ndi zophweka. Awa ndi mbadwa za ma hybrids (anthu ndi achilendo), makolo omwe, m'kupita kwa nthawi, adazindikira, adathamangitsa oimira alendo ndi osakanizidwa m'dera lawo (monga, mwachitsanzo, ku Rus Yakale, pamene anthu oterowo adathamangitsidwa. kuchokera kumadera , kupita ku EUROPE, komwe, pambuyo pake, adapanga madera ndi mayiko, ndi malamulo abwino a LGBT) ndikusiya kusakaniza (mwachibadwa) ndi oimira mayiko ena, adakwaniritsa kuti ngakhale ana awo ofooka, (pobadwa), anali ndi kupulumuka chiwerengero cha 5, ndiko kuti, chinachake pafupifupi, m'maganizo, pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, choncho - bisexuality!!! 4. Anthu a Transgender. Uwu ndiye digiri yowopsa kwambiri, kugwa, kuchuluka kwa chisinthiko, kupulumuka kwa munthu, mwa mwamuna kapena mkazi, pamene, mwachibadwa ndi m'maganizo ndi mwachilengedwe, pamlingo wa mphamvu ya aura, munthu (mwamuna kapena mkazi). ), ali ndi chiwerengero, cha kupulumuka, cha munthu, chofanana ndi 1 (mmodzi) ndipo munthu woteroyo sakhalanso ndi mphamvu zamaganizidwe mu aura ndi mphamvu zake (mwamuna kapena wamkazi), kotero kuti, chifukwa cha kusakanikirananso. , thupi lake, kubwezeretsa, mwa iyemwini, lamulo lachimuna kapena lachikazi ndipo motero , zimakhala zosavuta kwa iye (monga hourglass) kuti ayambe, mwa iye yekha, njira yatsopano yopangira - mwamuna kapena mkazi (kutenga mahomoni), potero kubwezeretsa, mu 100%, wina, choyambirira, jenda. 5.
Phunzirani ndi kuthandizira mfundo za m'banja. Tiyeneranso kuletsa mafilimu okhala ndi zokopa za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso LGBT! Ana amafunika kutetezedwa. Tsopano popeza Disney wayamba kutulutsa makatuni ndi makanema okhala ndi otchulidwa jenda. Sukulu zibweretsenso momwe tinaphunzitsidwira m'makalasi ogwirira ntchito kwa atsikana ndi makalasi a anyamata. Aphunzitsi ayenera kuphunzitsidwa mwaukadaulo. Ndipo kutsimikizira, zambiri zimachokera ku kuleredwa. Ndikofunika kulemekezana ndi kuyamikirana, sikoyenera kufananiza anyamata ndi atsikana. Pali njira zambiri zophunzitsira aphunzitsi abwino ku Russia. Intaneti iyenera kukhala yotetezeka kwa ana athu! Zimakhudzanso tsopano makamaka pa psychology ya mwana!
"Ndipo zonsezi zinachokera ku chilumba cha Ceylon, (tsopano chilumba cha Sri Lanka), kumene alendo, ochokera ku nyenyezi ya Tau Ceti, (ali ndi ma exoplanets 8 omwe amazungulira mozungulira, komanso 1 kutali asteroid"
Kodi mukudabwa?
Mmmm, mungafunse, koma ngati mtsikana wanga wamkazi anali paubwenzi wabwino ndi amayi ake mpaka zaka 13. Koma pambuyo pake unansi wake wabwino ndi amayi ake unatha, kodi angayang’ane choloŵa m’malo cha chikondi cha amayi? (pakali pano akunena kuti akutsutsana ndi lgbt)
monga, atha kukhala munthu wa lgbt pokonda malingaliro odana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha??
kaya kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikwachibadwa kapena kuti munthu anabadwa nako sikudziwika ... osafunikira ..kungoti kunali chakudya chapamwamba komanso chopatsa thanzi ..panopa chemistry ndi bioadditives ..ana amabadwa ngati mbee .apolisi ndi asitikali amapeza ndalama zambiri pa tank yogwetsedwa miliyoni ..komanso salary yokwana 200 thousand ...pambuyo pake mwamuna aliyense adzakhala ngati fagi ..popeza malipiro ake ndi 7-12 thousand ... nyumba 8 thousand .....
Inde Inde. Chirichonse chinali chomwecho.
Uyenera kunyongedwa chifukwa cha nkhani zopanda pake! Nthano, zovomerezeka momveka bwino ndi malingaliro amakono a chauvinist amadzi. osankhika, siziyenera kuperekedwa ngati kafukufuku wasayansi, makamaka potengera kusintha komwe kungathe kuchitika pamalingaliro. Sizophweka, musatengeke ndi chauvinism!
Omenyera ufulu wa LGBT nthawi zonse amawonetsa homofascism ndikuyitanitsa chiwonongeko cha omwe samatsatira malingaliro awo. Mwanjira imeneyi mukuwonetsa kuopsa kwa kayendetsedwe kanu ka anthu.
Zomwe Gerard Aardweg adaziwona pazifukwa zomwe zimayambira kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha zimawoneka ngati zoona kwambiri kwa ine. (kudzimvera chisoni, kunyozeka chifukwa chosakwanira / kuponderezedwa umuna/ukazi, maubwenzi ndi makolo, kudzikonda, etc.)
Ndinasangalala kuwerenga buku lake lakuti "The Battle For Normality". Zowona zake ndi zomveka, zowona nthawi zambiri nthawi imodzi ndipo zimalongosola bwino zifukwa zomwe zimakhalira ndi zizolowezi za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Koma, mwatsoka, Gerard "amanditaya" ponena za chithandizo chamankhwala ndi zifukwa zoyambira chithandizo.
Sindinadziŵe bwino lomwe tanthauzo lake lenileni ponena za “makhalidwe,” “chikumbumtima,” ndi “mlandu.”
Gerard amakana kugonjera kwa makhalidwe abwino (ndi "superego") ndipo amatsutsa kuti makhalidwe ndi chikumbumtima ndi chinthu chomwe chili mbali yachibadwa ya psyche yaumunthu.
Gerard akutsutsa kuti zinthu monga mabodza, kuperekedwa, kupha ndi kugwiriridwa zimawonedwa ndi munthu ngati chinthu choipa pafupifupi "chifukwa".
Gerard anandandalika kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha pakati pa zinthu zimenezi, akumautcha “cholakwa chenicheni” ndi “chidetso,” ponena za chenicheni chakuti ogonana ofanana ziŵalo ambiri adzadzimva kukhala aliwongo. (mwachitsanzo mukatha kugonana)
Iye ananena kuti anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha alibe chikumbumtima, koma amayesa kuchipondereza.
Sindikukana lingaliro ili, koma likuwoneka kwa ine kukhala losatsimikizika komanso losatukuka bwino - pali kusowa kwa kumvetsetsa kozama, komwe Gerard akulowa m'malo ndi chipembedzo. (makamaka Chikhristu, zipembedzo zina sizimaganiziridwa nkomwe)
Kuchiza, m’chiwunikiro cha kumvetsetsa koteroko kwa makhalidwe ndi chikumbumtima, kumawoneka ngati kuyesa kulowetsa kudzidetsa ndi “mlandu wachipembedzo” mwa ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndiko kuti, kuyesa kuchotsa mantha amodzi ndi ena. (wedge by wedge)
Ndikukayika za mphamvu (ndi chitetezo?) ya njira imeneyi. Lingaliro lomwe chikhulupiriro chachipembedzo chokha chingathandize kuchiza kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha zikuwoneka kwa ine zabodza, zotsutsana ndi sayansi. Komabe, ndikuzindikira kuti chipembedzo chimapereka yankho losavuta ku funso lakuti "chifukwa" (chifukwa chiyani mukuyamba mankhwala) zomwe zimakhala zovuta kuzipeza popanda chipembedzo.
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Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, monga kusokonezeka kwa umunthu, kumatsimikizira zizolowezi za munthu, khalidwe lake ndi zomwe amakonda kunja kwa khalidwe la kugonana, makamaka ngati zimachitika popanda kukakamizidwa ndi kunja komanso mu "kuvomereza."
Ndiko kuti, m'malingaliro anga, chithandizo cha kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumatanthauza kukonzanso, ndipo pankhani ya chithandizo chodziwitsidwa ndi chipembedzo, mwinanso kuwonongedwa kwa gawo lina la ego. Kudzitukumula kumachepa ndipo m’malo mwa chikhulupiriro chachipembedzo cha mphamvu zapamwamba.
"Ego-lobotomy" imachitika, momwe gawo la umunthu limachotsedwa pamodzi ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Malingaliro anga, omwe angakhale abodza: - "Ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" ochiritsidwa potembenukira kuchipembedzo amakhala ndi khalidwe linalake losakhala lachibadwa, ngati kuti akusewera. Zisonyezero zodzionetsera za kudziletsa, zonga ngati kuvala zovala zakuda ndi zosaoneka bwino, manja oponderezedwa ndi mawu okonzedwa monga akuti “Ndinapeza Mulungu,” zalinganizidwira kuletsa kudzidetsa kumene koloŵetsedwa m’mankhwala ochiritsira ndipo zimakumbutsa miyambo yopanda tanthauzo ya “kagulu kakunyamula katundu” yopanda tanthauzo. kudzera mwa amene kale anali wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amayesa kupeza “chiyeretso” chachikulu. (kusintha minyewa imodzi ndi ina)
Ndizosadabwitsa kuti ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatengera lingaliro la chithandizo pafupifupi ngati kuphedwa. (kufanana ndi schizoid personality disorder, mantha odziwononga)
Izi, ndithudi, zimagogomezera kudzimvera chisoni kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chikondi cha "kusonkhanitsa zopanda chilungamo."
Ndiponso, n’zosadabwitsa kuti chithandizo choterocho makamaka (?) chimagwiritsidwa ntchito kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ochokera m’mabanja achipembedzo, ndiko kuti, ndi kudzidetsa koloŵetsedwamo kapena kudziimba mlandu, zomwe sizinalole kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kukhala mbali ya umunthu.
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Zikomo.