Ku-26 ngoJuni 2015, iNkantolo eNkulu yase-US yavumela ukuthi umshado wobulili obufanayo uvume ngokomthetho, idinga ukuthi zonke izifundazwe zikhiphe izitifiketi zomshado kubantu abashade nabobulili obufanayo, nokwamukela izitifiketi ezinjalo ezikhishwe kwezinye izindawo. Noma kunjalo, njengoba kukhonjisiwe imininingwane I-American Institute of Public Opinion Gallup, ongqingili abajahi ukusizakala ngamalungelo abo abasanda kuwathola. Njengoba bekulindelekile, akuzange kube khona ukuthutheleka “kwabancane abacindezelwe ngokocansi” ezikhulwini zokubhalisa, naphezu kokuqedwa ngokuphelele kwemikhawulo “enobandlululo”.
Uma ngaphambi kokusabalala kokugunyazwa kwemishado yobulili obufanayo, i-7,9% yabangqingili baseMelika yayikubo (ebaphetha lapho kungenzeka khona), khona-ke ngemuva kokugunyazwa, yi-2,3% kuphela enqume ukwenza ubuhlobo babo bube semthethweni. Unyaka ngemva kwesinqumo seNkantolo Ephakeme, kuphela u-9,5% wongqingili baseMelika ababese “mishadweni” yobulili obufanayo, futhi ngemva kweminyaka emibili kwaba ngu-10,2%, iningi labo lineminyaka engu-50+. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, inani labantu abangabodwa be-LGBT liye landa. Iphethini efanayo ibonakala eNetherlands, lapho umshado wobulili obufanayo ubusemthethweni kusukela ku-2001: kuphela i-20% yabashadile bobulili obufanayo "abashadile", uma kuqhathaniswa ne-80% yontanga yabo yobulili obuhlukile. E-Finland, ngo-2018, abesifazane abangu-210 kuphela namadoda angu-120 bashada nomlingani wobulili obufanayo. Uma kuqhathaniswa no-2017, isithakazelo emishadweni yobulili obufanayo sehlile. Kuvele ukuthi nakuba kunomsindo ngemishado yabantu bobulili obufanayo kodwa iningi lezitabane aliyidingi nhlobo. Lendida ingachazwa kanjani?
Okokuqala, ubudlelwano bobulili obufanayo abuzinzile ngokwemvelo. Uma ebudlelwaneni bemvelo owesilisa nowesifazane bencedisana ngokwahlukana kwabo kokuzalwa nangokwengqondo, khona-ke ebudlelwaneni bobulili obufanayo akukho ukuvumelana kokuhambisana, yingakho ongqingili behlangabezana ukungagculiseki njalokuboniswe kusesho njalo. Njengoba kuqaphelekile udokotela wengqondo odumile: "Ubuhlobo obubi kakhulu bobungqingili buyi-idyll buqhathaniswa nobungqingili obuhle kakhulu". Ngakho-ke ithuba lokushada nomuntu othandana naye wobulili obuhlukile alishintshi iqiniso lokuthi ubudlelwane obunjalo abusebenzi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, inzalo yabalingani komunye nomunye incike kakhulu ebangeni “elingaziwa” phakathi kwabo, futhi njengoba abalingani bobulili obufanayo befana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, “okungaziwa” kubo kuhlala kuncane, okubaholela ekusebenzeni ngokweqile ngokushesha komunye nomunye.
Incazelo ethokozisayo inikezwa izishoshovu ezimbili ezingungqingili ezibhekana nezinkinga zomphakathi wobungqingili encwadini. After The Ball (k. 329):
"UJoni Gay ojwayelekile uzokutshela ukuthi ufuna ubudlelwano" obungenasisekelo "lapho lover engahlanganyeli khona kakhulu, engenzi izimfuno, futhi emnika isikhala somuntu siqu esanele. Kuyiqiniso, asikho isikhala esizoba sanele, ngoba uJoni akafuni umuntu othanda yena, kepha umngani we-fuck Buddy henchman - umngani ozobe ese-fucking, uhlobo lokwenza izinto zasendlini okungathembeki. Lapho ukunamathela ngokomzwelo kuqala ukuvela ebudlelwaneni (okuthi, emcabangweni, kube yisizathu esizwakalayo kubo), bayeka ukukhululeka, babe "banenkathazo" bese behlukana. Noma kunjalo, akuyena wonke umuntu ofuna ubuhlobo obunjalo obomile. Abanye bafuna romance yeqiniso mutual futhi bayithole. Kwenzekani emva kwalokho? Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, inyoka eneso elilodwa iphakamisa ikhanda layo elibi. Akukaze kube nesiko lokuthembeka emphakathini wobungqingili. Akunandaba ukuthi ongqingili bajabule kanjani nesithandwa sakhe, ekugcineni uzohamba eyofuna “i-adventure.” Izinga lokukhashelwa phakathi kwabongqingili “abashadile” lisondela kwi-100% ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile. ”
Nakhu ukuthi kanjani uyachaza ukuntuleka kwesimo esisodwa phakathi kwabesilisa abathandana nobungqingili uWilliam Aaron:
“Empilweni yobungqingili, ukuthembeka cishe akunakwenzeka. Njengengxenye yokuphoqelelwa kongqingili, ngokusobala, kunesidingo sokwakheka “sokumunca” ubudoda babalingani bakhe bocansi, kufanele ahlale ebhekele [abalingani abasha]. Ngenxa yalokho, "imishado" ephumelela kunazo zonke yileyo enesivumelwano phakathi kwabalingani ukuthi babe namanoveli ohlangothini ngenkathi kugcinwa ukubukeka kwesimo sempilo yabo. ”
Ukuqashelwa kwabangaphakathi kuqinisekiswe ngokuphelele umsebenzi wesayensi. Ubuhlobo babashadikazi bobulili obufanayo ngokwesilinganiso unyaka nesigamu, nokuhlala isikhathi eside, kuhambisana namadrama angenalutho futhi izigcawu ezinomhawu, ikhona kuphela nge-ubudlelwane obuvulekile", Noma, njengoba isishoshovu se-homo-Andrew Salivan sikubeka, ngokulahleka kwe "Ukuqonda okujulile ngesidingo sokukhipha emzimbeni"... Ucwaningo okwakufanele lukhombise ukuqina kwezinyunyana zobulili obufanayo empeleni luthole ukuthi ebudlelwaneni obuphakathi kweminyaka engu-1-5 ubudala, bangu-4.5% kuphela ongqingili ababika indoda eyodwa, futhi akekho noyedwa ebudlelwaneni obungaphezu kweminyaka emihlanu (McWhirter & Mattison, 5). Ubungqingili obujwayelekile buguqula abalingani abayishumi nambili minyaka yonke, kanye namakhulu ambalwa phakathi nempilo yakhe (Pollack, 1985). Ucwaningo olwenziwe eSan Francisco (eBell naseWeinberg, 1985) lukhombise ukuthi ama-1978% wabantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo babenabalingani abangaphezu kwabangu-43 abalala nabo, kanti abangama-500% babenabantu abangaphezu kuka-28. indlela yokuziphatha: ubungqingili obujwayelekile buyashintsha abalingani abangama-1000-20 phakathi nempilo yakhe, cishe ama-101% abenabalingani abangama-500-15, kuthi omunye u-501% abe nabangaphezu kuka-1000 (UVan de Ven et al. I-Xnumx) Ngokusho ucwaningo Iminyaka ye-2013, mayelana ne-70% yokutheleleka nge-HIV kubantu abathandana nobungqingili kwenzeka ngomlingani ojwayelekile, ngoba ubuningi bokuphinga benzeka ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ikhondomu.
Ngemuva kokucwaninga kwangaphambilini, abaningana bakamuva baphikise ukuthi amazinga okuzinza kwabashadile abesilisa nabesifazane afanayo nalawo ezithandani zobulili obuhlukile. AT isihloko Ososayensi baseMelika nabaseCanada banikela ngemininingwane emisha ngezinkomba zokuzinza besebenzisa amasethi edatha amathathu amakhulu abamele abavela e-United States naseCanada. Ukuqinisekisa umsebenzi wokuqala, ososayensi bathole ukuthi imibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo ivame ukwehlukana kunabantu abashadile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, igebe lokuzinza likhulu kakhulu emibhangqwaneni enezingane, lona kanye iqembu okubaluleke kakhulu ukukhathazeka ngalo ukuzinza.
Intatheli yaseBrithani kanye nomsakazi uMilo Yannopoulos uchaza kabanzi ngobudlelwano bezitabane ngale ndlela elandelayo:
“Ngihlala nginomngani oyedwa oyinhloko onganginikeza imali. Lokhu kuvame ukuba ngudokotela, osebenza ebhange, noma into enjalo. Futhi ngiba nabangane abambalwa kwezocansi - abaqeqeshi bomuntu siqu, abasubathi. Ngiyabamema, futhi lelo soka eliyinhloko liyangimema ... Iqiniso liwukuthi, sinamathuba ongenawo. Sinokuyekelela okuphawuleka kakhulu okusikhulula kuyo yonke imicikilisho. Yingakho umshado wezitabane ungenangqondo. Nkulunkulu wami, noma ngubani ofuna ukuba nomuntu oyedwa kubi kabi. "
UJoseph Schiambra, omikhuba yakhe yobungqingili yagcina ngokususwa kancane kwe-rectum yakhe futhi yacishe yamlahlekisela ngempilo yakhe, ubhala kubhulogi lakhe:
"Ngaphansi kokubaluleka kokuzalwa komuntu wesilisa, okhululwe ekuphikisweni kwabafazi nezintombi, amadoda angongqingili athambekele ekubambisaneni okuningi nokungabi nalutho, yingakho inani eliphansi umshado wobungqingili (i-9,6%), okwathi ngemuva kwesinqumo sika-Obergefell wenyuka kuphela nge-1,7%, kanye ukugcinwa kokutheleleka nge-HIV phakathi kwamadoda ebudlelwaneni okuthiwa buzinzile. Ubudlelwano phakathi kwabesilisa abathandana nobungqingili abuyona imishado, kepha kuyaxoxiswana ngayo ubudlelwane obuvulekile. Noma kunjalo, kuvela ukubukeka okufanisa ubungqingili besilisa nobungqingili noma ubungqingili. ”
Konke lokhu kuphakamisa umbuzo wesidingo sangempela sokusemthethweni semishado yobungqingili, okwenzeka ngaphansi komshikashika womzabalazo “wamalungelo alinganayo”, yize umshado ungesilo ilungelo, kepha usiko lesiko. Eqinisweni, ongqingili sebevele banamalungelo afanayo nawo wonke umuntu, ngoba akukho mthetho owodwa obandlulula ngesisekelo sokuya ocansini noma owenqabela ongqingili kunoma yini evunyelwe kwabobulili obuhlukile. Ukubandlulula kuba lapho umuntu engakwazi futhi omunye engenakukwenza, kodwa e-Russian Federation, noma yimuphi umuntu ongungqingili nowesifazane ongungqingili angangena emshadweni osemthethweni phakathi kwabo (okuyinto kuqhubeka njalo) futhi zize zamukele izingane uma zihlangabezana nezimfuneko ezijwayelekile. Uma, beholwa yizintshisekelo, abesilisa nabesifazane bobabili abafisa ukubhalisa imishado yabantu bobulili obufanayo omunye nomunye (ngokwesibonelo, ukwenza lula ukuthola imali yokubolekwa, ukuvakashelwa ejele, ukudluliswa kwempesheni, njll.), Bazonqatshwa, njengazo zonke ezinye izakhamizi, kungakhathalekile ubulili bazo ukuma, ngoba imishado enjalo ayihlinzekelwa ngumthetho weRussian Federation futhi izinkanuko zocansi zabantu abathintekayo azihlangene nakancane nayo.
I-athikili i-14 SK RF isho ngokusobala ukuthi ubani ongashada. Kunabantu asebevele komunye umshado, izihlobo ezisondelene, abazali bokutholwa nezingane zokutholwa, kanye nabantu ababonwa yinkantolo njengezingafanele ngokomthetho ngenxa yokugula kwengqondo. Abathandazi abathandana nobulili obuhlukile abukhulunywa ngalo kulesi sihloko. I-Article 12 ye-RF IC ayivimbi indoda engongqingili ukushada nowesifazane ongungqingili. Ngakho-ke, lokhu akuphathelene nokuqeda ubandlululo kanye nohlobo oluthile lokungalingani kwamalungelo, kepha mayelana nokuthola amalungelo akhethekile abathandana nabobungqingili, kuleli cala, ilungelo lokungenelela emthethweni wezwe ukuvimbela inqubo yentando yeningi, futhi kuchaze umqondo womshado njengenyunyana yendoda nowesifazane. .
Ngokwesinqumo seNkantolo Yomthethosisekelo yaseRussian Federation kaNovemba 16, 2006 No. 496-o: "umshado nokwakhiwa komndeni kuhloswe ekuzalweni nasekukhulisweni kwezingane, okungenakwenzeka ukukusebenzisa kwabobulili obufanayo izinyunyana. "
Kungani-ke izishoshovu ze-LGBT ziphikelela ngokulangazela kangaka ekuqinisekiseni ukushada kwabantu bobulili obuhlukile? Akekho owenqabelayo ukuba ahlanganyele impilo ndawonye, futhi kubalesikhathi eside kukhona imithetho engokomthetho elawula impahla nefa lefa elibi kunaleyo esishade nayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba izibalo zamazwe abhalisa imishado yobungqingili zomthetho zibonisa, iningi labongqingili alizidingi nhlobo.
Sekuyisikhathi eside abameli bezindinganiso zomndeni bezama ukuveza ukuthi i-ajenda yangempela ayikona ukwengeza isigaba esisha "sabantu abasanda kushada" esikhungweni esikhona somshado ukuze uPetya ashade noVasya, kodwa ukubhubhisa izindinganiso zokuziphatha ezikhona. kanye namagugu endabuko amasiko nomndeni, okuhlanganisa ukuqedwa ngokuphelele kwaso kanye isisekelo somshado kanjalo. Lokhu akulona nje uguquko emagameni ambalwa emthethweni, kuwushintsho emphakathini. Lapho umshado wobulili obufanayo usuvele usemthethweni, umzabalazo wokugunyazwa kwesithembu kanye nobudlelwane bobulili obufanayo uqala ukuvela, futhi ngisho nowokuqala owaziwayo. isithembu izinyunyana.
Isishoshovu esimangazayo se "LGBT movement" uMaria Gessen, owayengumqondisi wensizakalo yaseRussia "Radio Liberty", ohlelweni Inhlangano yase-Australia i-ABC Radio National ikuqinisekisile ngokuphelele lokhu kwesaba kombono, yethula isambulo esilandelayo:
“Umzabalazo womshado wobulili obuhlukile uvame ukufaka amanga mayelana nokuthi sizokwenzenjani ngesikhungo somshado lapho sesivuma. Simanga ukuthi isikhungo somshado siyohlala singashintshiwe - sizoshintsha, kumele sishintshe. Kucace bha ukuthi kumele iyeke ukuba khona. Nginezingane ezintathu ezinabazali abahlanu, ngaphezulu noma ngaphansi, futhi angiqondi ukuthi kungani bengakwazi ukuba nabazali abahlanu ngokomthetho. "Ngingathanda ukuthi ngihlale ohlelweni lwezomthetho olukwazi ukuhlanganisa le nto, futhi angicabangi ukuthi luyahambisana nesikhungo somshado."
Uhlelo lwezomthetho "olukwazi ukuhlanganisa le nto yangempela" lungatholakala kuphela ku- "Isibindi Umhlaba OmushaI-Aldous Huxley, noma emadolobheni amabili amabi esifundeni soLwandle Olufile. Ngisho nangeGrisi yasendulo ebolile ngokuphelele yaseGrisi naseRoma ngesikhathi sokwehla ngokuphelele, akekho owaba nesibindi sokungena esikhungweni somshado.
I-Hesse ayisiyedwa ekuzwakiseni izinhlelo ezinjalo. Ngosuku olulandelayo ngemuva kwesinqumo seNkantolo Ephakeme yase-US sokugunyaza ukushada kwabantu bobulili obufanayo, uprofesa wesayensi yezepolitiki uTamara Metz kushiwoukuthi isigaba esilandelayo somzabalazo wukuqeda isikhungo somshado:
"Yini elandelayo?" - Qeda umshado, qeda ukubandakanyeka kombuso, uqede isigaba somthetho. Noma sigubha ukunqoba, kufanele siqale ukugcizelela ukuqedwa komshado. Inkululeko, ukulingana kanye nempilo yohlelo lwethu lwentando yeningi kuncike kulokhu ”
Ngu ngokusho Intatheli yobulili obufanayo uSally Cohn:
“Ibhokisi elincane lomshado wendabuko lincane kakhulu ukuba siveze imibono yothando nokusebenzisana. Mhlawumbe isinyathelo esilandelayo akuyona enye ukwanda kwencazelo emincane yomshado, kodwa ukuqedwa ngokuphelele komehluko wamanga phakathi kwemindeni eshadile neminye ubudlelwane obulingana, kodwa kungaziwa. ”
Ngu umbono Umfundisi weSociology waseVictoria Meagan Tyler University:
"Ukushiya umshado uwonke kuzoba yindlela esheshayo yokuthuthuka, ngoba ukuphela komshado kungaholela ekuthambekeni kokulingana kwabo bonke."
Umphakathi we-LGBT (iningi lawo unganakile) umane usetshenziswe njengefonti yenganono ukukhuthaza imibono yeSodoma kanye noshintsho kwezenhlalo ngaphansi kweziqubulo ezinhle zamalungelo nokulingana. Njengoba omunye ophawulayo akubeka: Uma idolobha lakho liyigayidi yisitabane - ungazifaki ngathi ngokuthi umzabalazo wamalungelo “wezitabane” uqalile. Umuntu ovule “amalungelo wobungqingili” ukuze ukuxazulula ezinye izinkinga".
Ngasikhathi sinye, abantu abaningi abathandana nobungqingili ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukene baphikisana nokuchazwa kabusha komshado, kodwa abambalwa ababa nesibindi sokukhuluma ngakho obala bashushiswa ngendlela engakaze ibonwe izishoshovu, futhi izwi labo lagaxeka. Ngokusho komunye wabo:
“Ubuhlobo bobulili obuhlukile buhlukile emshadweni, futhi ukwenza sengathi lokhu akulungile. Iphuzu alikona okungcono noma okubi kakhulu, kodwa ukuqashelwa kokungafani nokugujwa kokwehluka. Ukusho ukuthi awukho umehluko kuyahlekisa. ”
Njengoba ababambiqhaza kuvidiyo engenhla bayibonile ngokufanele, “umshado” wobungqingili abazinaki izintshisekelo zengane, yakha futhi iqinisa imibono ehlanekezelwe ngobuhlobo obuphakathi kwabobulili obuhlukile. Kusizakala kakhulu ukuthi ingane ikhuliswe ngunina noyise. Lo mthetho uqinisekiswa ngobunzima obuningi nezinkinga ezingokomzwelo nezingokwengqondo izingane eziningi eziyizintandane noma ezikhuliswe ngobuso bomndeni obungaphelele noma obukhulisa izingane. Ngokugunyazwa ngokusemthethweni “kwemishado” yobungqingili, isimo esingesihle salezi zingane siguqulwa “yinto evamile” ebekwe ngumthetho yengane ngayinye ekhuliswe ebudlelwaneni bobulili obufanayo. Ingane enjalo izohlala ilahlulwa nguyise noma umama wayo wemvelo, esikhundleni sayo iyophoqelelwa ebudlelwaneni bomzwelo nomuntu ongayazi. Vele, lokhu kungenzeka futhi ngokuqhekeka kwemindeni engafani nobungqingili, kepha lokhu kuwuphawu olucacile lokuthi kukhona okungahambanga kahle futhi akubhekwanga njengokujwayelekile.
Ngisho nangaphambi kokuba kube nodlame iStonewall, "unguphayona olwela amalungelo ezitabane," uCarl Wittmann, ekuguqukeni kwakheIsibonakaliso sobungqingili"Ukhiphe isexwayiso esilandelayo:
“Izitabane kufanele ziyeke ukuhlola ukuzethemba kwazo ukuthi zilingisa kangakanani imishado yobungqingili. Abashadikazi bobulili obufanayo bazoba nezinkinga ezifanayo nezalabo abathandanayo, umehluko kuphela wokuthi bazoba yisitoko. Ukukhululeka kwezitabane wukuthi thina uqobo sizonquma ukuthi siphila nobani, esikhundleni sokuhlola ubudlelwano bethu maqondana nabantu abaqondile nezindinganiso zabo. ”
Isishoshovu se-LGBT esinamandla uPaul Ettelbrick wabelana ngalokhu ukuphikisanaukuthi umshado uphambene nemibono "yesiko lezitabane" nezinhloso eziyisisekelo zenhlangano yezitabane:
"Ukuhlala ngokweqile kusho ukwandisa imingcele yezocansi, ezocansi kanye neyomndeni, futhi endleleni, siguqule isisekelo somphakathi ... Njengobungqingili, ngihluke kakhulu kwabesifazane abangewona abesilisa abathandana nabo, kepha ngivikela ilungelo lomshado osemthethweni, kuzofanele siphikisane nokuthi siyafana nabobulili obuhlukile izithandani, zabelana ngezinhloso nezinhloso ezifanayo, futhi nizinikele ekwakheni izimpilo zethu ngendlela efanayo ... Umshado ngeke usikhulule njengabongqingili kanye nezitabane. Empeleni, izosikhawulela, isenze singabonakali ngokwengeziwe, isiphoqe ukuba singene kokujwayelekile futhi ilulaze izinhloso zenhlangano yokulwela izitabane ... Kuyadingeka ukuthi sigxile ezinhlosweni zethu eziyinhloko - ukuhlinzekela ezinye izindlela zangempela zomshado kanye nokushintsha ngokuphelele imibono yomphakathi ngomndeni.
Isishoshovu “Esilinganayo Somshado” Esishoshovu iyavumaukuthi izinhlolo-vo eziningi ezisekela ngazo “umshado wobulili obufanayo” zisekelwe kudatha yomgunyathi. Ungabaza isidingo “sokungaguquki” somshado ngokujwayelekile futhi ubiza “ukugubha umehluko, hhayi ukuvumelana”:
“Amanye amaqhinga asetshenziswa yindawo yokuhlelela umshado wobungqingili ahlanganisa amaqiniso angafanele, ukusebenzisa izingxabano zokukhohlisa, ukwenza kanye nokuvimba izimbangi zakhe ngokuhleka usulu nangokuzenzisa. Enye yezimpikiswano ezigcizelela kakhulu isidingo sokulingana, yize lokhu kunokuxhumana okuncane kakhulu nesidingo esilungile "sokulingana kubo bonke." Kumele kwamukelwe ukuthi kuyindaba yepolitiki, hhayi ukuthi yikuphi okulungile noma okulungile ... Abasekeli bemishado yobungqingili bathi umshado "ulungelo". Kodwa-ke, umshado uyisiko lesiko, hhayi umthetho. Baveza ukuthi imikhawulo ngomshado iqhathaniswa nengcindezelo yomlando ababhekene nayo abamnyama noma abesifazane abancishwa amalungelo okuvota. Kepha imininingwane yemvelo, enjengobulili bomuntu noma umbala wesikhumba sakhe, ayifani nokuthi umuntu ukhetha kanjani ukubonisa ubuntu bakhe bobulili. ”
Ngokusho lo mbhali oshiwo ngenhla u-Andrew Salivan:
"Kunokuthile okungahambi kahle mayelana nokulondolozwa kwabantu abathandana nobungqingili ukuzama ukugxilisa abantu abathandana nobungqingili ngokwamukelwa kwemodeli yokumelana nobungqingili. Eqinisweni, ongqingili abayona into ejwayelekile, futhi ukunxenxa izimpilo zabo ezahlukahlukene eziyinkimbinkimbi kube yimodeli eyodwa yokuziphatha kusho ukulahlekelwa umbono wokuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu futhi emangazayo ngobunye ubuntu babo. ”
IQuer Dissident Collective, ebizibiza ngokuthi “Ngokumelene Nokulingana,” igxeka imiqondo egqamile yesishoshovu sezitabane ukhuthaza ukungabambi iqhaza kulezo “zinhlaka ezilondolozayo” njengomshado:
“Kungani abantu abashadile kufanele bajabulele amalungelo anikezwe labo abangashadile noma bakhethe ezinye izinhlobo zobudlelwano? Kungani kufanele siphinde sakhe kabusha impilo yethu engathandeki neyomzwelo, ukuze silingane kuphela nohlaka kanye namaketanga omhlaba we-hetero-world? Cha, ngokungathi sína, kungani kufanele sikhothamele izinga lobunzima? Umzabalazo wokulingana kwemishado eMelika manje ugcwala zonke ezinye izinkinga umphakathi wama-queer ubhekene nazo, futhi lokhu kuyinto ekude ... Futhi akufanele silinganiswe nabalindi kanye nabashisekeli benkolo. Ekugcineni simele ukucekelwa phansi kobukhulu bomshado kanye nomndeni wenuzi. Isimo sonke esithi "kungaba nathi noma sabashokobezi", esigcwele ikamu labasekeli bomshado wobungqingili, sifana kakhulu noBush Jr. futhi sishiya indawo encane yokucabanga kwangempela. "
Intatheli yobungqingili kanye nomsakazo u-Michelangelo Signoril kuphakanyisiwe izishoshovu ezimela futhi ziphikisana nalolo sengozi:
"Lwela imishado yobungqingili kanye nezinzuzo zabo, bese kuthi, ngemuva kokusemthethweni kwabo, chaza ngokuphelele isikhungo somshado. Funa ilungelo lomshado wobulili obufanayo ukuba ungahambisani nezindlela zokuziphatha zomphakathi, kodwa ukudalula inganekwane futhi shintsha kakhulu isikhungo esikudala. Ukugunyazwa ngokusemthethweni komshado wobulili obufanayo kwenza sikwazi ukushintsha ngokuphelele incazelo yomndeni emasikweni aseMelika. Leli yithuluzi lokugcina ongasusa yonke imithetho ngobungqingili, wethule izinhlelo zokufundisa ngobungqingili kanye nengculazi ezikoleni zikahulumeni, futhi, ngamafuphi, uzuze izinguquko ezinkulu ngendlela umphakathi osibuka ngayo nangendlela esiphatha ngayo. ”
Njengoba umkhuba ukhombisa, okuqala ngezitatimende ezinamahloni ngesidingo sokubhaliswa ngokusemthethweni “kwemishado” yobungqingili ngenxa “yobulungiswa nokulingana” kuphela ngokuhlaselwa ngonya ngobuningi, okuzama ukuvikela amanani asiko.