NgoJulayi 2020, uJohn Blosnich we-LGBTQ+ Health Equality Center washicilela enye ukutadisha mayelana "nengozi" yokwelashwa kokulungisa. Ocwaningweni lwamalungu ayi-1518 "abantu abancane abangashintshi ubulili", ithimba lika-Blosnich liphethe ngokuthi abantu abake bazama ukushintsha ukukhetha okushiwo ubulili (okubizwa kamuva ngokuthi yi-SOCE*) babika ukwanda okuphezulu kwemicabango yokuzibulala kanye nemizamo yokuzibulala kunalabo abazama ukuzibulala. anginayo. Kuye kwaphikiswana ngokuthi i-SOCE "iyisicindezelo esiyingozi esikhulisa ukuzibulala kwabantu abambalwa ngokocansi". Ngakho-ke, imizamo yokushintsha indlela umuntu abheka ngayo izinto ayamukelekile futhi kufanele kuthathelwe indawo "ukuhoxa okuqinisekisiwe" okuzobuyisana nomuntu nokuthambekela kwakhe kobungqingili. Lolu cwaningo lubizwa “ngobufakazi obuqand’ ikhanda bokuthi iSOCE idala ukuzibulala”.
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Ukuhlukahluka kwe-Sex drive kanye nenhlalakahle emadodeni
OLUNYE UCWANINGO LUFAKAZA UKUSEBENZA KANYE NEKUPHEPHA KWELAPHA LOKUBUYISA.
Nakuba osopolitiki abaholwa yi-LGBT bephasisa imithetho yokuvimbela usizo lokwelapha kubantu abakhangwa ubungqingili abangafunwa, kuphume olunye ucwaningo e-US olukhombisa ngokugculisayo ukuthi abantu abanjalo bangasizwa.
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Ukwelashwa kobungqingili ngaphambi kwenkathi yokulungiswa kwezombusazwe
Amacala amaningi okuphumelela kokulungiswa okwelashwa kokuziphatha kobungqingili nokuheha kuchazwa ngokuningiliziwe ezincwadini zobungcweti. Bika I-National Association for the Study and Therapy ofungqingili iveza ukubukelwa kobufakazi obuqandayo, imibiko yomtholampilo kanye nocwaningo kusukela ngasekupheleni kwekhulu le-19 kuze kube manje, okufakazela ngokuqiniseka ukuthi amadoda nabesifazane abanentshisekelo bangalwenza lolu shintsho kusuka ebungqingili kuya kobungqingili. Ngaphambi kwenkathi yokunemba kwezombusazwe, kwakuyiqiniso elaziwayo lesayensi, okuyinto ngokukhululeka Ubhale umshini omkhulu wezindaba. Ngisho ne-American Psychiatric Association, ngaphandle kobungqingili be-syntonic kuhlu lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo e-1974, kuphawuliwe, lokho "Izindlela zokwelapha zesimanje zivumela ingxenye enkulu yabongqingili abafuna ukuguqula isimo sabo ukwenza kanjalo".
Okulandelayo ukuhumusha izindatshana kusuka eNew York Times ye1971.
Ukwelashwa Ngokuvuselela - Ukushintsha Kungenzeka
Kusukela ngesikhathi senguquko yezocansi, isimo sengqondo ngobungqingili sishintshe kakhulu. Namuhla, kwabongqingili eNtshonalanga, impi ibonakala iyanqotshwa: amaklabhu wezitabane, amaqembu ezitabane, umshado wezitabane. Manje "kulungile." Izijeziso zokuphatha kanye nokuqulwa kwamacala okungakaze kubonwe kulindelwe kulabo abaphikisana nabantu be-LGBT, kanye namalebula womuntu othanda ngokweqile ne-Homophobe.
Ukubekezelela nokwamukelwa okwandile kwenkululeko yezocansi kusebenza kubo bonke abantu kodwa ingxenye eyodwa yabantu - labo abafuna ukuhlukana nobungqingili futhi baqale indlela yokuphila ehlukile. Lamadoda nabesifazane banemizwa yobungqingili, kepha abafuni ukwamukela ubunikazi bobungqingili. Bakholelwa ukuthi ubungqingili abumeleli imvelo yabo yangempela futhi bafuna ukukhululwa.
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Impi yokwejwayelekile - uGerard Aardweg
Igayidi yokwelashwa kobungqingili esekwe eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu yokuhlangenwe nakho kokwelashwa kombhali osebenzisane namakhasimende angongqingili angaphezu kwe-300.
Nginikezela le ncwadi kwabesifazane nabesilisa abahlukunyezwa imizwa yobungqingili, kepha abafuni ukuphila njengama-gay futhi badinga usizo nokwesekwa okwakhayo.
Labo abakhohliwe, abanezwi labo elisungisiwe, futhi abangazitholi izimpendulo emphakathini wethu, elihlonipha ilungelo lokuziqinisa lodwa lesitabane esivulekile.
Labo abacwaswa uma becabanga noma benomuzwa wokuthi umbono wobungqingili obungenakuguqulwa ungamanga alusizi, futhi lokhu akusikho okwabo.
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Ukwelashwa kabusha: imibuzo nezimpendulo
Bonke ongqingili?
Igama elithi "Gay" lingumuntu ukukhetha okwami. Akubona bonke abantu abathandana nobungqingili abakhomba “njengobungqingili.” Abantu abangazivezi njengezitabane bakholelwa ukuthi empeleni bayathandana futhi bafuna usizo ekuboneni izizathu ezithile zokuthi kungani bathola ukukhangwa okungathandeki kobulili obuhlukile. Ngesikhathi sokwelashwa, abeluleki kanye nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zisebenzisa izindlela zokuziphatha ukusiza amaklayenti ukuthola izizathu zokuhehwa ngabobulili obuhlukile futhi bawasize ngesineke ukuxazulula izimbangela eziholela emizweni yobungqingili. Lababantu, abayingxenye yomphakathi wethu obalulekile, balwela ukuvikela ilungelo labo lokuthola usizo nokuxhaswa ukuqeda ukuheha okungafunwa ngabobulili obufanayo, bashintshe indlela yabo yokuya ocansini kanye / noma balondoloze ukungashadi. Lokhu kutholakala ngezinhlelo ezibandakanya ubulili, okubandakanya ukwelulekwa kanye nokwelashwa kobungqingili, okwaziwa nangokuthi “I-Sex Oriental Intervention” (i-SOCE) noma i-Reoriorial Therapy.
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Idayari yongqingili
Mfundi othandekayo, igama lami nginguJake. Ngingungqingili owayeneminyaka engamashumi amabili ngivela eNgilandi. Le dayari ingeyalabo abaphikisana nombono wokushintsha isimo sezocansi. Ochwepheshe bafunde ezocansi amashumi eminyaka futhi baphethe ngokuthi ezocansi ziyahlukahluka kubantu abaningi. Ubufakazi busikisela ukuthi imizwa yezocansi ingashintsha impilo yonke. Iqiniso lokuthi abantu abaningi bashintsha isimo sabo sokuya ocansini iqiniso elifakazelwe ngezibalo. Ngingomunye walaba bantu.
Angisazizwa ngikhangwa ngabesilisa ngokobulili; amantombazane manje akhange kakhulu kimi. Ngake ngacabanga kanjalo, kodwa manje sengicabanga.
Ngesinye isikhathi, ngilele ngobusuku obunesizungu, ngazibona ngisezingalweni zenye indoda, manje sengingazibona ngise ntombazane yesifazane.
Abanye abeneme ngalesi simo sezinto. Baqinisekile ngocansi lwabo kangangokuba abakwazi ukwamukela ukuthi kunalabo abangasenayo imizwa yabo. Bajabule kakhulu lapho abantu baphenduka ubungqingili, kodwa abathandi lapho kwenzeka okuphambene. Kwesinye isikhathi abantu abanjengami babizwa ngokuba ngabasuki bezondo, futhi lokho kungenxa yokuthi angisafuni ukulala nabantu besilisa!
Ngabe bangathanda ukuthi ngithule ngokushintsha ubulili bami, ngiphile ngamanga futhi ngiphike okwenzekile? Yebo, kubonakala ngathi! Bafuna ukungithulisa, bangincishe ilungelo lokuphila ngendlela engiyikhethayo, futhi bangiphoqe ukuthi ngiholele indlela yokuphila ebona ukuthi iyadingeka!
Angigcinanga ngokuyeka ukuba yisitabane, kodwa futhi ngizizwa ngijabule ngokwengeziwe. Mina uqobo ngizophatha impilo yami ngendlela engifuna ngayo, hhayi indlela abangitshela ngayo. Nginqume ukuguqula ubulili bami futhi ngakwenza.
Icaphuna izishoshovu zezitabane:
Ngilapha!
Angisemgceni futhi!
Jwayela!
Indaba ephelele ngesiNgisi: https://www.equalityandjusticeforall.org/diary-of-an-ex-gay-man