Isigcini Sesigcini: Ukwelashwa

Ukwelashwa Ngokuvuselela - Ukushintsha Kungenzeka

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Kusukela ngesikhathi senguquko yezocansi, isimo sengqondo ngobungqingili sishintshe kakhulu. Namuhla, kwabongqingili eNtshonalanga, impi ibonakala iyanqotshwa: amaklabhu wezitabane, amaqembu ezitabane, umshado wezitabane. Manje "kulungile." Izijeziso zokuphatha kanye nokuqulwa kwamacala okungakaze kubonwe kulindelwe kulabo abaphikisana nabantu be-LGBT, kanye namalebula womuntu othanda ngokweqile ne-Homophobe.

Ukubekezelela nokwamukelwa okwandile kwenkululeko yezocansi kusebenza kubo bonke abantu kodwa ingxenye eyodwa yabantu - labo abafuna ukuhlukana nobungqingili futhi baqale indlela yokuphila ehlukile. Lamadoda nabesifazane banemizwa yobungqingili, kepha abafuni ukwamukela ubunikazi bobungqingili. Bakholelwa ukuthi ubungqingili abumeleli imvelo yabo yangempela futhi bafuna ukukhululwa.

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Garnik Kocharyan ekwelashweni kabusha kwabobungqingili

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Usizo lwe-LGBT

I-Kocharyan Garnik Surenovich, Doctor of Medical Sciences, uProfesa woMnyango Wezocansi, Psychology Yezokwelapha, Ukuvuselelwa Kwezokwelapha Nezengqondo kweKharkov Medical Academy. wethule incwadi ethi “Shame and Loss of Attachment. Ukusetshenziswa kokwelapha okuphindayo ”. Umbhali ungomunye wochwepheshe abahlonishwa kakhulu futhi abaziwa umhlaba wonke emkhakheni wezokwelapha ezibuyisela emuva, umsunguli weNational Association for the Study and Treatment of Homosexuality (NARTH) - uDkt Joseph Nicolosi. Le ncwadi yaqala ukushicilelwa e-USA ngo-2009 ngaphansi kwesihloko esithi Shame and Attachment Loss: The Practical Work of Reparative Therapy.

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Impi yokwejwayelekile - uGerard Aardweg

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Igayidi yokwelashwa kobungqingili esekwe eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu yokuhlangenwe nakho kokwelashwa kombhali osebenzisane namakhasimende angongqingili angaphezu kwe-300.

Nginikezela le ncwadi kwabesifazane nabesilisa abahlukunyezwa imizwa yobungqingili, kepha abafuni ukuphila njengama-gay futhi badinga usizo nokwesekwa okwakhayo.

Labo abakhohliwe, abanezwi labo elisungisiwe, futhi abangazitholi izimpendulo emphakathini wethu, elihlonipha ilungelo lokuziqinisa lodwa lesitabane esivulekile.

Labo abacwaswa uma becabanga noma benomuzwa wokuthi umbono wobungqingili obungenakuguqulwa ungamanga alusizi, futhi lokhu akusikho okwabo.

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Ukwelashwa kabusha: imibuzo nezimpendulo

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Bonke ongqingili?

Igama elithi "Gay" lingumuntu ukukhetha okwami. Akubona bonke abantu abathandana nobungqingili abakhomba “njengobungqingili.” Abantu abangazivezi njengezitabane bakholelwa ukuthi empeleni bayathandana futhi bafuna usizo ekuboneni izizathu ezithile zokuthi kungani bathola ukukhangwa okungathandeki kobulili obuhlukile. Ngesikhathi sokwelashwa, abeluleki kanye nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zisebenzisa izindlela zokuziphatha ukusiza amaklayenti ukuthola izizathu zokuhehwa ngabobulili obuhlukile futhi bawasize ngesineke ukuxazulula izimbangela eziholela emizweni yobungqingili. Lababantu, abayingxenye yomphakathi wethu obalulekile, balwela ukuvikela ilungelo labo lokuthola usizo nokuxhaswa ukuqeda ukuheha okungafunwa ngabobulili obufanayo, bashintshe indlela yabo yokuya ocansini kanye / noma balondoloze ukungashadi. Lokhu kutholakala ngezinhlelo ezibandakanya ubulili, okubandakanya ukwelulekwa kanye nokwelashwa kobungqingili, okwaziwa nangokuthi “I-Sex Oriental Intervention” (i-SOCE) noma i-Reoriorial Therapy.

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Idayari yongqingili

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Mfundi othandekayo, igama lami nginguJake. Ngingungqingili owayeneminyaka engamashumi amabili ngivela eNgilandi. Le dayari ingeyalabo abaphikisana nombono wokushintsha isimo sezocansi. Ochwepheshe bafunde ezocansi amashumi eminyaka futhi baphethe ngokuthi ezocansi ziyahlukahluka kubantu abaningi. Ubufakazi busikisela ukuthi imizwa yezocansi ingashintsha impilo yonke. Iqiniso lokuthi abantu abaningi bashintsha isimo sabo sokuya ocansini iqiniso elifakazelwe ngezibalo. Ngingomunye walaba bantu.

Angisazizwa ngikhangwa ngabesilisa ngokobulili; amantombazane manje akhange kakhulu kimi. Ngake ngacabanga kanjalo, kodwa manje sengicabanga.

Ngesinye isikhathi, ngilele ngobusuku obunesizungu, ngazibona ngisezingalweni zenye indoda, manje sengingazibona ngise ntombazane yesifazane.

Abanye abeneme ngalesi simo sezinto. Baqinisekile ngocansi lwabo kangangokuba abakwazi ukwamukela ukuthi kunalabo abangasenayo imizwa yabo. Bajabule kakhulu lapho abantu baphenduka ubungqingili, kodwa abathandi lapho kwenzeka okuphambene. Kwesinye isikhathi abantu abanjengami babizwa ngokuba ngabasuki bezondo, futhi lokho kungenxa yokuthi angisafuni ukulala nabantu besilisa! 

Ngabe bangathanda ukuthi ngithule ngokushintsha ubulili bami, ngiphile ngamanga futhi ngiphike okwenzekile? Yebo, kubonakala ngathi! Bafuna ukungithulisa, bangincishe ilungelo lokuphila ngendlela engiyikhethayo, futhi bangiphoqe ukuthi ngiholele indlela yokuphila ebona ukuthi iyadingeka! 

Angigcinanga ngokuyeka ukuba yisitabane, kodwa futhi ngizizwa ngijabule ngokwengeziwe. Mina uqobo ngizophatha impilo yami ngendlela engifuna ngayo, hhayi indlela abangitshela ngayo. Nginqume ukuguqula ubulili bami futhi ngakwenza.

Icaphuna izishoshovu zezitabane:
Ngilapha!
Angisemgceni futhi!
Jwayela!

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Indaba ephelele ngesiNgisi: https://www.equalityandjusticeforall.org/diary-of-an-ex-gay-man

Kwakheka kanjani ukukhanga ubungqingili?

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UDkt Julie Hamilton 6 iminyaka efundisa isayensi yezengqondo e-University of Palm Beach, wasebenza njengoMongameli weNhlangano Yezemishado Nezomndeni, kanye nanjengoMongameli weNational Association for Study and Therapy ofungqingili. Njengamanje, unguchwepheshe oqinisekisiwe ezindabeni zomndeni nezomshado ezenzweni yangasese. Enkulumweni yakhe ethi “Ubungqingili: Ikhosi Yokwethula” (Ubungqingili 101), uDkt Hamilton ukhuluma ngezinganekwane ezihlanganisa isihloko sobungqingili emasikweni ethu nokuthi yini eyaziwa ngocwaningo lwesayensi. Iqokomisa izinto ezijwayelekile ezifaka isandla ekuthuthukiseni ukuheha ubungqingili obufana kubafana namantombazane, futhi ikhuluma ngamathuba okuguqula isimo sobulili esingathandeki. 

• Ingabe ubungqingili buzalwe kabusha noma kungukukhetha? 
• Yini eholela umuntu ukuba akhangwe ebunganini bakhe? 
• Ubungqingili besifazane bukhula kanjani? 
• Ingabe ukuphinda uhlele kabusha kungenzeka? 

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