Isazi ngengqondo esidumileyo seDutch uGerard van den Aardweg ukhethe ngokukodwa esifundweni kunye nonyango lobufanasini uninzi lomsebenzi wakhe obalulekileyo we-50. Ilungu leKomiti yeeNgcebiso ngezeNzululwazi yoMbutho weSizwe woFundo kunye nonyango lobuNtu (i-NARTH), umbhali weencwadi kunye namanqaku ezenzululwazi, namhlanje ungomnye weengcali ezimbalwa ezinesibindi sokuchaza inyani engachanekanga yesi sihloko kuphela kwizikhundla eziyinyani, ngokusekwe kwinjongo, hayi ekugqwethekeni kwengqondo. Idatha ekhethiweyo Apha ngezantsi kukho ingxelo evela kwingxelo yakhe "Ukuqheleka" koBungqingili kunye noHumanae Vitae "funda ngaphandle kwinkomfa yoopopu I-Academy yoBomi baBantu kunye noSapho kunyaka 2018.

Ukuqinisekisa ukunyanzeliswa kweengcamango zesini, i-YouTube isuse ividiyo phantsi kwesizathu "sentetho yocalucalulo," nangona, njengeforamu yoluntu, i-YouTube ayinalo ilungelo lokukhangela. Ngoku kukho intshukumo eqhubekayo ngokuchasene neYouTube kwicala lePragerU isimangalo malunga nale nto. Izizathu zokutyalwa kwe-LGBT ideology ziveziwe apha.

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Ubufanasini kufuneka buchazwe ngokwemeko yomtsalane kunokuziphatha, njengoko ezinye iinkcazo zenza, ukuxuba ubungqingili njengengxaki yokulala nomntu ongatshatanga naye (ngokwesondo), umzekelo, amasiko okuqala kwizizwe zakudala okanye izenzo zesondo ezibambekayo. Ubufanasini yimeko yesifo esinganyangekiyo okanye esabelana ngesondo ukuqhuba kwisini esifanayo, kunye nomdla ongaqhelekanga okanye oncitshisiweyo wesini esahlukileyo, после Ubutsha, ukuqala, yithi, ngeminyaka ye-17 - 18. Uninzi uqikelelo oluthembekileyo, ngaphantsi kwe-2% yamadoda kunye ne-1,5% yabasetyhini bafumana umtsalane onjalo.

Ndiza kusebenzisa igama elithi "gay" ukuchaza abo bakhetha ukuchaza ukuba bathambekele kwesiqhelo kwaye baphile ngokufanelekileyo; zininzi namhlanje. Nangona kunjalo, malunga ne-20% andifuni chonga njenge "gay" kwaye wamkele le ndlela yokuphila. Eli qela alinalo nelizwi likawonke-wonke kwaye licalulwa luntu olungabantu abathandanayo.

Indlela umntu ahambelana ngayo nomtsalane wabo bobufanasini kubalulekile. Ngokukuqhelanisa nesiqhelo, uyasicinezela isizathu kunye nesazela sakhe, endaweni yokuqonda kwangaphakathi ukuba ubufanasini buchasene nendalo kunye nokuzikhohlisa ukuba kuyinto engokwemvelo kwaye iyinto yonke. Xa eqala ukuzixokisa ngale ndlela, unyanzelwa ukuba abambelele kuye ulungelelwaniso, ezixhasa ukukhetha kwakhe kwaye zimncede azibone njengomntu oqhelekileyo, osempilweni kunye nokuziphatha. Yiyo ke loo nto esithi uzahlukanise nenyani, azitshixele kwiingcinga ezinqwenelekayo kwaye, angafuni ukubona inyani ngaye, ufuna ukutshintsha iimvakalelo kunye nezimvo malunga nobufanasini kuma-98% oluntu, awubona "njengobutshaba". Ngapha koko, ayisiyontlalo, inkcubeko okanye inkolo emtshutshisayo, kodwa sisazela sakhe. Ukuqheleka kobufanasini kuguqula yonke into phantsi: "Ayindim - uyaphambana" ...

Zininzi izizathu ezahlukeneyo zobungqingili, umzekelo: "uthando lobufanasini, ingaphezulu kwe I-hepatal hetero-uthando; Unothando kakhulu, unobuchwephesha, umtsalane, uyaqhubekeka ”, njl. njl. inikezela ukungabi nalutho kwaba bantwana kwaba bantu baxheleke ngokweemvakalelo nolutsha lwabo, xa uthando oluqhelekileyo ngokwesondo phakathi kwabantu abadala lingekafumaneki.

Iimvakalelo zesini esifanayo ukulungiswa ngexesha lokufikisa, ngokunxulumene apho i-40% yamadoda athandana nabantu abathandana abatshatileyo inomdla kwishumi elivisayo, nakwi-2 / 3 yabo liqabane elifanelekileyo phantsi konyaka we-21. Ke, indlela yokuhamba ngeenyawo - ukunxibelelana ngokwesini kunye nabantwana, ibisoloko yezinye zezona zinto zibonakaliswayo kubufanasini. Ngendlela, izigculelo ezinababingeleli ezixhalabisa kakhulu. Aba babingeleli ngamafanasini aqhelekileyo. I-pedophiles yamafanasini, nayo, ilungisa "uthando lwendoda nenkwenkwe" ngendlela enjengomntwana (ngaphezulu pro-lgbt.ru/309).

Ingcamango ye-Gay ikhuthaza izizathu ezahlukeneyo, kodwa zonke zibubuxoki. Iyaphumelela "kwinto emnyama" imeko yemvelo, bathi, "uzelwe nje", kunye nakwi "ukungasebenzi"Ukuphazamiseka. Ngapha koko, ithiyori yendalo ayizange iqinisekiswe. Emva coupe gay kunyaka xnumxxa iManyano yezeNgqondo nezezifo zaseMelika ishiye imfezeko yesayensi, umbono wobufanasini waqala ukuwacinezela amaziko emfundo. Abaphandi, ikakhulu ababandakanyeke kwizenzo zobufanasini, benze iinzame ezininzi zokufumana uhlobo oluthile lwezinto eziphilayo kubufanasini. Kodwa okunomdla kukuba, iziphumo ezichaseneyo zafunyanwa-inani eliqokelelweyo ledatha yesayensi lonyusa amathandabuzo nje ukuba izinto ezinjalo zikhona. Intsomi yebhayoloji ichithakele yaziziqwenga: amafanasini anehomoni eqhelekileyo, imfuza kunye nengqondo. Kodwa le nyaniso ayinakufikelela kuthi. Imfundiso "yokungaguquguquki" ixhaswe ngokuqatha, kuba ukubakho kotshintsho kusongela kungekuphela nje izinto eziqhelekileyo, kodwa kwanempikiswano yokuba uninzi kufuneka luthethelele indlela yabo yobomi.

Ukohlwaywa koluntu ngokubanzi, okubonakalisa umntu onobungqingili njengexhoba lokucinezelwa kwentlalo kudityaniswa nentsomi "yangaphakathi", kuye kwangqineka sisixhobo esisebenzayo ukoyisa ukumelana nentando yabantu kumabango ngamalungelo okulwa namalungelo abantu abathandanayo.

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Ngoku makhe siqwalasele ezinye iinyani eziphambili zengqondo kunye nokuqaphela ngokubhekisele kubufanasini. Uninzi lwezi zinto zilapha ngasentla zisebenza kwi-lesbianism, kuphela umahluko wokuba "umama" kufuneka atshintshwe "nguyise", "boyish" ngo "girlish", njl.

Imvakalelo yesini esinye ihlala ivela ekukhuleni kwabo bafana abafuna iimpawu zobuntwana okanye zobudoda, oko kukuthi, umoya oqinisekileyo kunye wokulwa. Uninzi lwazo lukhuliswe kancinci, kwaye ke ngenxa yoko abanabo ubunzima benkwenkwe. Ukuthamba kwawo kunye nokuthamba kwawo kubenza bazive bengonwabanga phakathi koontanga babo ngokwesini, phambi kwenkalipho yabo baziva bephantsi. Lo ayisiyondawo yakokwabo, kodwa sisiphumo semfundo, ubudlelwane nabazali kunye nemikhwa emiselweyo.

Ngamafutshane yaphuhliswa okanye uxinzelelo Ubudoda benkwenkwana yangaphambi kobufanasini sisiphumo sesimo sengqondo sikanina, owalawula kakhulu ubomi bakhe ngokweemvakalelo, ngelixa impembelelo katata wakhe, ebefanele ukuba negalelo kuphuhliso lobudoda, yayingaqwalaselwa okanye yayimbi. Ukwahluka kwale modeli kufumaneka ubuncinci kwi-60% yamatyala obufanasini. Ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo zinokubandakanya isiphene emzimbeni kunye nokusilela, abazali abancinci okanye abadala, indlela abakhuliswe ngayo ngootatomkhulu, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantakwabo.

Ngokufuthi inkwenkwe yayibonakalisa ulwalamano olungafanelekanga nonina kwanokuxhomekeka kuye, ngoxa unxulumano noyise lwalunesiphako ngandlel’ ithile. Umzekelo, inkwenkwe inokuba phantsi kokhuseleko olugqithisileyo-uhlobo lwenkwenkwe kamama eyonakeleyo kwaye “oyikhaya”, okhohliweyo kwaye enziwe isithixo. Unina akazange amphathe ngendlela efanele ukuphathwa ngayo inkwenkwe yokwenyani-ngokungenelela okunyanzelwayo okugqithisileyo, maxa wambi ngendlela enesidima. Ezi zinto zempembelelo yabazali ziye zasekwa ngokuthembekileyo.

Unxibelelwano oluluqilima ngakumbi kunye nokuvela komtsalane wobungqingili kwixesha elizayo alinakho kwihlabathi lesini sabo ebuntwaneni nasebusheni - oko kukuthi, into yokuzahlula koontanga. Imvakalelo yokuba ngumntu wangaphandle kunye nokuba ngophantsi njengendoda iyothusa kakhulu intombazana ekwishumi elivisayo. Ngokuziva ngathi ayingobakhe, uyakulangazelela ukuba nobuhlobo kwaye uqalisa ukulunga nabanye ulutsha olunazo ezo mpawu zenkalipho, njengoko ecinga ukuba, azikho kuye. Kwaye akacingi njalo, kodwa ngokwenene uhlangabezana nemvakalelo ebuhlungu yokungathobi. Ngexesha lokufikisa, loo mnqweno unokubangela ukuba abanye abantu batsaleleke kodwa bangazifikeleli. Amaphupha anjalo anovelwano- avela kukuzisizela okanye ukuqhuba isizungu, ukungabikho kwabahlobo okanye into yokuba 'akangomnye wabafana'. Ngokukodwa xa la maphupha ehamba kunye nokuphulula amalungu esini rhoqo, andisa ulangazelelo lwenkwenkwe kwaye luyekisa imvakalelo yakhe yokuba sisikizi kunye nosizi. Ezi mvakalelo zi-drug.

Ngamafutshane, ubudlelwane bobufanasini kukufuna ukungafezeki; ilungiswe ngokwayo. Elinye iqabane ligxile ngokupheleleyo- “kufuneka ngokupheleleyo yamMsgstr ". Esi sisicelo esingenasiphelo sothando, imfuno yothando, hayi uthando lwenene. Ukuba obu buvuvu bungahambi ebubini, inokuthatha ulawulo lwengqondo yomntu kwaye luzimele qhuba. Ngenxa yoko, umntu ngokuyinxenye okanye ngakumbi ngokweemvakalelo uhlala ulutsha kuninzi lweengcinga zakhe, iimvakalelo, imikhwa, ulwalamano nabazali kunye nolwabantu abatshatileyo kunye nolwabo. Akaze afikelele ekuvuthweni kwaye ulawulwa ngu iintsana, i-narcissism engekavuthwa kunye nokuzifunxa ngokugqithiseleyo, ngakumbi kwiinkanuko zabo zesini esifanayo.

Umenzi wefilimu uPazolini, echaza "indlala yakhe engapheliyo yokuthanda imizimba engenamphefumlo", wayengomnye wemizekelo emininzi. Umyili wemfashini waseJamani othelekisa amafan la uthelekisa oku "likhoboka lokusela amanzi etyuwa" - okukhona usela, kokukhona unxaniwe.

I-analog yesini esingafaniyo sobuntu obunjalo iya kuba yinto yokwenziwa komfazi, umzekelo, umbhali weenoveli zabaphandi uSimenon, owayenekratshi ukuba uzuze amawaka amabhinqa. Amadoda anjalo anobukrelekrele bomntu okwishumi elivisayo, kwaye kukho nobuncinci bokungaphantsi.

Ngayiphi na imeko, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu besini esifanayo kukuziqhelanisa nokuzingca. Nantsi indlela indoda eyindoda elifanasini eyabachaza ngayo: “Ndihlala neqela labantu endihlala nabo, abanye endivuma kubo ukuba ndiyabathanda. Baphinde bafunga ukuba bayandithanda, kodwa ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu besini esahlukileyo buqala kwaye buyeke ngesondo. Emva koqhwithela olufutshane lokuthandana, isini siyenzeka kancinci, amaqabane aqala ukuba novalo, efuna iimvakalelo ezintsha kwaye aqalise ukutshintshana. Ushwankathela indlela yokuphila yobungqingili kunye nenyaniso enobunkunkqele nakwinyani, ngaphandle kwengqondo yokufikisa kunye nobuxoki: "Ubomi bobungqingili yinto enqabileyo. Andinqweneli oku nokuba lolona tshaba lwam lukhulu. Ke musa ukukholelwa isihlabo malunga “nemitshato elungileyo, ethembekileyo nethandanayo”, njengamaKatolika athembekileyo. Eli liqhinga lokulingana ngokwesini gay. Homo ngesondo yi-neurotic ngesondo. Ukulalana kwabantu besini esifanayo yi-neurosis yesondo, kodwa ikwasisifo somphefumlo.

Ezi zicatshulwa zingasentla zibonisa inyani yokuba unyango, okanye endaweni yokuzifundela, ngumzabalazo - ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, kunye nokulukuhla ngokwesini - kodwa ngaphezulu kwayo yonke imzabalazo, unomdla wokuzithanda, ukuzithanda kunye nokuzihombisa. Umlo ngokuchasene neempawu ezimbi kunye nokubonakalisa ubuhle, ngakumbi ezo zinjengokunyaniseka, uthando, uxanduva, ukunyamezela kunye nokuzimisela - zizinto eziphambili.

Ukoyisa utyekelo lokuthandana kwabantu besini esinye ikakhulu ngumzabalazo nesiqu sakho, nangona kunjalo, utshintsho olusisiseko, olunamandla kunye nolungapheliyo luye lwenzeka kwiimeko ezininzi, ikakhulu ngenkxaso yobomi obungaphakathi benkolo.

Ndiyabulela kwinkqubela phambili kwezopolitiko nakwintlalontle ye-gay ideology, unyango kunye nengcebiso ngobufanasini, egxile kutshintsho, iya isiba nzima ngakumbi, nangona kunjalo malunga nokuzinceda. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphaya kwendlela ephambili, ukusebenza kweendlela ezinjalo akuyeki ukufumana isiqinisekiso.

Amaziko ezopolitiko akhuthaza ubufanasini azama ukuyiphelisa le mikhuba kunye neempapasho. Yiyo loo nto, umzekelo, eyona mithetho iyilwayo iphelisa unyango lobufanasini eIreland. IHomotirania yawa kuthi.

Kwi-2003, umzekelo, uNjingalwazi Spitzer ovela kwiDyunivesithi yaseColumbia, ugqirha wezifo zengqondo ofanayo owahambisa i-APA kwindawo yokulala ngesini. kufunda kwimpembelelo yokufumana ingcebiso phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi ababhinqileyo. Inxalenye encinci yabo iguquke kakhulu, ngelixa uninzi luphucukile malunga nokuzibandakanya ngokwesondo kunye nokulingana ngokweemvakalelo ngokubanzi. Akukho zimpawu zokulimala, kodwa uphawu oluphawulekileyo loxinzelelo. Uqhwithela lwentiyo evela ekusetyenzweni gay lwawa phezu kwakhe ngomsindo ongathethekiyo. Ngaphandle kwesohlwayo esahlukileyo esichasene naye, kubandakanya ukwaliwa kopapasho kunye nokulahleka kwabaxhasi, uSpitzer wazikhusela ethethelela ukungabi natyala kwakhe ngeminyaka ye-200, kodwa ekugqibeleni waphuka. Uye wavuma kum kwincoko ukuba angaze, kwaye angaze, athathe esi sihloko sibi sobufanasini.

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* Kudliwanondlebe nephephandaba iThe New York Times, uSpitzer waxolisa kuluntu lwabane-gay watsho waxelela ukuba uzimisele ukuwuyeka lo msebenzi, ecacisa ukuba wavumelana nabagxeki bakhe ukuba akukho siqinisekiso sokuba iingxelo zabaphenduli zichanekile, nokuba kubonakala ngathi bayayithetha inyani. Nangona kunjalo, umsebenzi wesayensi unokukhunjulwa kuphela ukuba unezimpazamo okanye iintsomi, kodwa ekubeni uSpitzer wayenayo yonke le nto malunga nokugqibelela, umhleli wejenali yezenzululwazi wamala nje, kuba ukuphindiselwa kwedatha ekhoyo akuchaphazeli indlela ekusetyenzwa ngayo.
UScott Hershberger, isifundiswa kunye nososayensi ovumayo ngentshukumo yesini, emva kokuhlalutya uphando lukaSpitzer, wagqiba kwelokuba bubungqina obuqinisekileyo bokuba unyango olubuyisayo lunokunceda abantu ukuba batshintshe indlela abathandana ngayo nabathandanayo. “Ngoku bonke abo bathembela kunyango olubuyisayo kufuneka banike ubungqina obuqinisekileyo bokuxhasa isikhundla sabo,” uqukumbele watsho.

Ukongeza:

• Ithiyori yentlungu yobufanasini (Aardweg 1972).pdf

• Kwi-Psychogenesis yoBungqingili (Aardweg 2011) .pdf

Idabi lokujonga izinto ngokufana - Gerard Aardweg