NgoJulayi 2020, uJohn Blosnich we-LGBTQ+ Health Equality Center washicilela enye ukutadisha mayelana "nengozi" yokwelashwa kokulungisa. Ocwaningweni lwamalungu ayi-1518 "abantu abancane abangashintshi ubulili", ithimba lika-Blosnich liphethe ngokuthi abantu abake bazama ukushintsha ukukhetha okushiwo ubulili (okubizwa kamuva ngokuthi yi-SOCE*) babika ukwanda okuphezulu kwemicabango yokuzibulala kanye nemizamo yokuzibulala kunalabo abazama ukuzibulala. anginayo. Kuye kwaphikiswana ngokuthi i-SOCE "iyisicindezelo esiyingozi esikhulisa ukuzibulala kwabantu abambalwa ngokocansi". Ngakho-ke, imizamo yokushintsha indlela umuntu abheka ngayo izinto ayamukelekile futhi kufanele kuthathelwe indawo "ukuhoxa okuqinisekisiwe" okuzobuyisana nomuntu nokuthambekela kwakhe kobungqingili. Lolu cwaningo lubizwa “ngobufakazi obuqand’ ikhanda bokuthi iSOCE idala ukuzibulala”.
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IKocharyan G.S. - Ukwelashwa kwabesilisa nabesifazane kanye nokwelashwa kokuguqulwa: isifundo secala
Isichasiselo. Ukuhlolwa komtholampilo kunikezwa lapho sikhuluma ngakho “ubungqingili” endodeni, futhi ichaza indlela yokwelapha yokuguqula ayinikezwe kusetshenziswa uhlelo lwe-hypnosuggestive, olugcine lusebenza kahle kakhulu.
Njengamanje, kwenziwa imizamo engakaze ibonwe yokunqanda ukusetshenziswa kwendlela yokwelashwa (yokuguqula), ehlose ukuguqula isimo sobungqingili sesifiso sobulili sibe ngabobulili obuhlukile. Uyakhishwa inyumbazane futhi kumenyezelwa ukuthi akasebenzi nje kuphela, kodwa futhi uyingozi enkulu emzimbeni womuntu. Ngakho-ke, ngoDisemba 7, 2016 iphalamende laseMalta ngazwilinye baphasisa umthetho owenqabela ukusetshenziswa kwelashwa lokulungisa. Ukuze "kuguqulwe, kucindezelwe futhi kuqedwe inkanuko yomuntu yezocansi noma ubunikazi bobulili," lo mthetho uhlinzekela inhlawulo noma isigwebo sasejele. [7] IBundesrat (emele izifundazwe zaseJalimane) ngoJuni 5, 2020 yavuma umthetho ovimbela lokhu kwelashwa. Deutsche Welle ibika ukuthi ukuziphatha kwayo kungajeziswa ngokuboshwa isikhathi esingangonyaka, nokukhangisa nokulamula - inhlawulo efinyelela kuma-euro ayizinkulungwane ezingama-30 [1]. E-US, izifundazwe eziyi-18 kuphela, iPuerto Rico neWashington DC, ezivimbele ukwelashwa kokuguqula izingane. Abantu abadala bangazinikela ekwelashweni kwezinguquko ezweni lonke [9]... I-Instagram neFacebook zimemezele ukuvinjelwa kwakho konke okuthunyelwe kulezi zinkundla zokuxhumana ezikhuthaza ukwelashwa kokuguqula [8].
Izimangalo zokuthi ukwelashwa kokuguqula akusebenzi nje kuphela, kepha kuzo zonke izimo zibangela ukulimala okukhulu emzimbeni zingamanga. Ukuphikisana okuhambisanayo kungatholakala kuzindatshana zethu [3; 4; 6]. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imisebenzi yethu eminingi iveze ukusetshenziswa ngempumelelo kokwelashwa kokuguqulwa [I-2; I-5].
Nali icala elivela enkambisweni yethu yomtholampilo, lapho ukwelashwa kokuguqula kuphumelele kakhulu ekulungiseni inkombandlela yesifiso sobulili kumuntu othanda abesilisa nabesifazane.
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UGerard Aardweg kwi-psychology yobungqingili nobushiqela obunobunono
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esedume umhlaba wonke saseDashi uGerard van den Aardweg sikhethekile ocwaningweni nasekwelashweni kongqingili esikhathini esiningi semisebenzi yakhe eyinqayizivele ye-50. Ilungu leKomidi Leseluleki Lesayensi yeNational Association for the Study and Treatment of Homosexuality (NARTH), umbhali wezincwadi nezindatshana zesayensi, namhlanje ungomunye wochwepheshe abambalwa abathuse ukudalula iqiniso elingalungile lalesi sihloko livela ezikhundleni eziyiqiniso, ngokususelwa kunhloso, hhayi kuhlanekezelwe ngombono idatha yokubandlulula. Ngezansi kucashunwe embikweni wakhe "The Naturalization" Ubungqingili noHumanae Vitae "funda ngaphandle engqungqutheleni yopapa Isikhungo Sokuphila Komuntu Nomndeni ngonyaka we-2018.
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Ukwelashwa kobungqingili ngaphambi kwenkathi yokulungiswa kwezombusazwe
Amacala amaningi okuphumelela kokulungiswa okwelashwa kokuziphatha kobungqingili nokuheha kuchazwa ngokuningiliziwe ezincwadini zobungcweti. Bika I-National Association for the Study and Therapy ofungqingili iveza ukubukelwa kobufakazi obuqandayo, imibiko yomtholampilo kanye nocwaningo kusukela ngasekupheleni kwekhulu le-19 kuze kube manje, okufakazela ngokuqiniseka ukuthi amadoda nabesifazane abanentshisekelo bangalwenza lolu shintsho kusuka ebungqingili kuya kobungqingili. Ngaphambi kwenkathi yokunemba kwezombusazwe, kwakuyiqiniso elaziwayo lesayensi, okuyinto ngokukhululeka Ubhale umshini omkhulu wezindaba. Ngisho ne-American Psychiatric Association, ngaphandle kobungqingili be-syntonic kuhlu lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo e-1974, kuphawuliwe, lokho "Izindlela zokwelapha zesimanje zivumela ingxenye enkulu yabongqingili abafuna ukuguqula isimo sabo ukwenza kanjalo".
Okulandelayo ukuhumusha izindatshana kusuka eNew York Times ye1971.
Garnik Kocharyan ekwelashweni kabusha kwabobungqingili
I-Kocharyan Garnik Surenovich, Doctor of Medical Sciences, uProfesa woMnyango Wezocansi, Psychology Yezokwelapha, Ukuvuselelwa Kwezokwelapha Nezengqondo kweKharkov Medical Academy. wethule incwadi ethi “Shame and Loss of Attachment. Ukusetshenziswa kokwelapha okuphindayo ”. Umbhali ungomunye wochwepheshe abahlonishwa kakhulu futhi abaziwa umhlaba wonke emkhakheni wezokwelapha ezibuyisela emuva, umsunguli weNational Association for the Study and Treatment of Homosexuality (NARTH) - uDkt Joseph Nicolosi. Le ncwadi yaqala ukushicilelwa e-USA ngo-2009 ngaphansi kwesihloko esithi Shame and Attachment Loss: The Practical Work of Reparative Therapy.
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Ukwelashwa kabusha: imibuzo nezimpendulo
Bonke ongqingili?
Igama elithi "Gay" lingumuntu ukukhetha okwami. Akubona bonke abantu abathandana nobungqingili abakhomba “njengobungqingili.” Abantu abangazivezi njengezitabane bakholelwa ukuthi empeleni bayathandana futhi bafuna usizo ekuboneni izizathu ezithile zokuthi kungani bathola ukukhangwa okungathandeki kobulili obuhlukile. Ngesikhathi sokwelashwa, abeluleki kanye nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zisebenzisa izindlela zokuziphatha ukusiza amaklayenti ukuthola izizathu zokuhehwa ngabobulili obuhlukile futhi bawasize ngesineke ukuxazulula izimbangela eziholela emizweni yobungqingili. Lababantu, abayingxenye yomphakathi wethu obalulekile, balwela ukuvikela ilungelo labo lokuthola usizo nokuxhaswa ukuqeda ukuheha okungafunwa ngabobulili obufanayo, bashintshe indlela yabo yokuya ocansini kanye / noma balondoloze ukungashadi. Lokhu kutholakala ngezinhlelo ezibandakanya ubulili, okubandakanya ukwelulekwa kanye nokwelashwa kobungqingili, okwaziwa nangokuthi “I-Sex Oriental Intervention” (i-SOCE) noma i-Reoriorial Therapy.
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Idayari yongqingili
Mfundi othandekayo, igama lami nginguJake. Ngingungqingili owayeneminyaka engamashumi amabili ngivela eNgilandi. Le dayari ingeyalabo abaphikisana nombono wokushintsha isimo sezocansi. Ochwepheshe bafunde ezocansi amashumi eminyaka futhi baphethe ngokuthi ezocansi ziyahlukahluka kubantu abaningi. Ubufakazi busikisela ukuthi imizwa yezocansi ingashintsha impilo yonke. Iqiniso lokuthi abantu abaningi bashintsha isimo sabo sokuya ocansini iqiniso elifakazelwe ngezibalo. Ngingomunye walaba bantu.
Angisazizwa ngikhangwa ngabesilisa ngokobulili; amantombazane manje akhange kakhulu kimi. Ngake ngacabanga kanjalo, kodwa manje sengicabanga.
Ngesinye isikhathi, ngilele ngobusuku obunesizungu, ngazibona ngisezingalweni zenye indoda, manje sengingazibona ngise ntombazane yesifazane.
Abanye abeneme ngalesi simo sezinto. Baqinisekile ngocansi lwabo kangangokuba abakwazi ukwamukela ukuthi kunalabo abangasenayo imizwa yabo. Bajabule kakhulu lapho abantu baphenduka ubungqingili, kodwa abathandi lapho kwenzeka okuphambene. Kwesinye isikhathi abantu abanjengami babizwa ngokuba ngabasuki bezondo, futhi lokho kungenxa yokuthi angisafuni ukulala nabantu besilisa!
Ngabe bangathanda ukuthi ngithule ngokushintsha ubulili bami, ngiphile ngamanga futhi ngiphike okwenzekile? Yebo, kubonakala ngathi! Bafuna ukungithulisa, bangincishe ilungelo lokuphila ngendlela engiyikhethayo, futhi bangiphoqe ukuthi ngiholele indlela yokuphila ebona ukuthi iyadingeka!
Angigcinanga ngokuyeka ukuba yisitabane, kodwa futhi ngizizwa ngijabule ngokwengeziwe. Mina uqobo ngizophatha impilo yami ngendlela engifuna ngayo, hhayi indlela abangitshela ngayo. Nginqume ukuguqula ubulili bami futhi ngakwenza.
Icaphuna izishoshovu zezitabane:
Ngilapha!
Angisemgceni futhi!
Jwayela!
Indaba ephelele ngesiNgisi: https://www.equalityandjusticeforall.org/diary-of-an-ex-gay-man