Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esedume umhlaba wonke saseDashi uGerard van den Aardweg sikhethekile ocwaningweni nasekwelashweni kongqingili esikhathini esiningi semisebenzi yakhe eyinqayizivele ye-50. Ilungu leKomidi Leseluleki Lesayensi yeNational Association for the Study and Treatment of Homosexuality (NARTH), umbhali wezincwadi nezindatshana zesayensi, namhlanje ungomunye wochwepheshe abambalwa abathuse ukudalula iqiniso elingalungile lalesi sihloko livela ezikhundleni eziyiqiniso, ngokususelwa kunhloso, hhayi kuhlanekezelwe ngombono idatha yokubandlulula. Ngezansi kucashunwe embikweni wakhe "The Naturalization" Ubungqingili noHumanae Vitae "funda ngaphandle engqungqutheleni yopapa Isikhungo Sokuphila Komuntu Nomndeni ngonyaka we-2018.
Iqinisekisa ubushiqela bemibono yezitabane, i-YouTube isuse ividiyo ngaphansi kwezaba “zenkulumo ebandlululayo,” nakuba, njengenkundla yomphakathi, i-YouTube ayinalo ilungelo lokuyihlola. Okwamanje kunesenzo esiqhubekayo ngokumelene ne-YouTube ngasohlangothini lwe-PragerU icala ngalokhu. Izizathu zokutshalwa kwemibono ye-LGBT emhlabeni ziyadalulwa lapha.
Ubungqingili kufanele buchazwe ngokuya ngokuhehayo kunokuziphatha, njengoba ezinye izincazelo ezinjengamaphutha zenza, ukuxuba ubungqingili njengokuphazamiseka kobulili nemikhuba yobungqingili engashukunyiswa ukukhangwa (ngokwesibonelo, amasiko okuqala ezizweni zakudala noma obambele ezinye izinto zokwenza ucansi). Ubungqingili yisimo sokuya ocansini olungapheli noma kwesinye isikhathi ngemoto ebulilini bakho, kanye nentshisekelo yobungqingili noma eyehlisiwe, после ukuthomba, ukuqala, ukusho, ngeminyaka ye-17 - 18. Ngokuningi ukulinganisa okuthembekile, ngaphansi kwe-2% yamadoda kanye ne-1,5% yabesifazane bathola ukuheha okufanayo.
Ngizosebenzisa igama elithi “gay” ukuchaza labo abakhetha ukumemezela ukuthambekela kwabo njengokujwayelekile futhi baphile ngokufanele; kukhona iningi namuhla. Noma kunjalo, cishe nge-20% angifuni khomba njenge "gay" futhi wamukele le ndlela yokuphila. Leli qembu alinamsindo womphakathi futhi liyabandlululwa ngumphakathi wezitabane.
Ukuthi umuntu uhlobana kanjani nokuheha kwabo kobungqingili kubalulekile. Ngokukujwayela, ucindezela ukucabanga kwakhe nonembeza wakhe, esikhundleni sokuqonda kwangaphakathi kokuthi ubungqingili buphikisana nemvelo nokuzikhohlisa ukuthi kungokwemvelo futhi kuyindawo yonke. Lapho eqala ukuziqambela amanga ngale ndlela, uphoqeleka ukuba abambelele ukucabanga, okuthethelela ukukhetha kwakhe futhi kumsize azibone njengomuntu ojwayelekile, onempilo futhi oziphethe kahle. Ngakho-ke, uzihlukanisa neqiniso, uzivalela ekucabangeni okufisayo futhi, angafuni ukubona iqiniso ngaye, ufuna ukushintsha imizwa nemibono yemvelo ngobungqingili ku-98% wesintu, ayibona "inenzondo". Eqinisweni, akuwona umphakathi, isiko noma inkolo emshushisayo, kodwa unembeza wakhe. Ukujwayelekile kobungqingili kuguqula yonke into ibhekise phansi: "Akusimi - uyahlanya" ...
Kunezizathu eziningi ezahlukahlukene zobungqingili, ngokwesibonelo: “uthando lobungqingili, mkhulu kune- i-vulgar hetero-uthando; unothando oluningi, olwandayo, oludumile, oluthuthukayo ”, njll. Lokhu kukhombisa ukungabi nalutho kobuntwana kwalaba bantu abakhathazekile ngokomzwelo nentsha yabo, lapho uthando olujwayelekile locansi phakathi kwabantu abadala lungakatholakali.
Imizwa yezocansi yobungqingili efanayo ukulungiswa ngesikhathi sokuthomba, mayelana nokuthi i-40% yamadoda angongqingili akhangwa yintsha, futhi nge-2 / 3 yabo umlingani ofanele angaba ngaphansi konyaka we-21. Ngakho-ke, ukulala ngezinyawo - ukuxhumana ngokocansi nezingane, bekulokhu kungenye yezimpawu ezivame kakhulu zobungqingili. By endleleni, amahlazo abapristi ukukhathazeka kakhulu ngezinyawo. Labo bapristi bangongqingili abajwayelekile. Ama-pedophiles wobungqingili, nawo, ngendlela efanayo yobuntwana alungisa “uthando lwendoda nomfana” (okuningi pro-lgbt.ru/309).
Umbono wama-gay ukhuthaza izaba ezahlukahlukene, kepha wonke angamanga. Uyachuma "ngendaba emnyama" isimo sezinto eziphilayo, bathi, "uzalwe kanjalo", futhi nakwi-ukungasebenzi"Izinkinga. Eqinisweni, umbono we-biological awukaze uqinisekiswe. Ngemuva i-gay coup ngonyaka we-xnumxlapho i-American Psychological and Psychiatric Associations ishiya ubuqotho besayensi, imibono yezitabane yaqala ukucindezela izikhungo zemfundo. Abaphenyi, ikakhulukazi abazibandakanya nobushoshovu bezitabane, benze imizamo eminingi ukuze ekugcineni bathole uhlobo oluthile lwezinto eziphilayo kubungqingili. Kepha ngokuthakazelisayo, kutholakale umphumela ohlukile - inani elinqwabelene ledatha yesayensi likhuphule ukungabaza ukuthi lezi zinto zikhona. Inganekwane yezinto eziphilayo ichithekekile yaba izicucu: ongqingili banehomoni ejwayelekile, izakhi zofuzo nobuchopho. Kepha leli qiniso lisondela kithina. Futhi, imfundiso "yokungaguquguquki" isekelwa kakhulu, ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi ushintsho lusongele hhayi kuphela ukwakheka okuyisisekelo kwama-normalizers, kepha futhi nempikiswano yokuthi abaningi badinga ukuthethelela indlela yabo yokuphila.
Ukucatshangelwa okukhulu komphakathi, okufanekisa ubungqingili njengesisulu sokucindezelwa komphakathi okuhlanganiswe nenganekwane ka “innate”, sekufinyeleleke njengethuluzi eliphumelela kakhulu lokunqoba ukumelana komphakathi nezimangalo zezishoshovu zezitabane “zamalungelo alinganayo” abo.
Manje ake sibheke amanye amaqiniso asemqoka ngokwengqondo nokuqaphelayo maqondana nobungqingili besilisa. Iningi lalokhu okungenhla lisebenza ku-lesbianism, umehluko kuphela wokuthi "umama" udinga ukushintshwa ngo "baba", "boyish" ngo "girlish", njll.
Imizwa yobulili eyodwa ivame ukuvela ebusheni phakathi kwalaba bafana abafuna izimfanelo zobuduna noma zobudoda, okungukuthi, umoya wokungabaza nokulwa. Abaningi babo bakhuliswa kancane, futhi ngenxa yalokho abanabo ubulukhuni babafana. Ukuthobeka kwabo kwesimilo futhi nokuba yibona besifazane kubenza bazizwe bengakhululekile phakathi kontanga yabo ubulili babo, ngaphambi kwesibindi lapho bezizwa bephansi. Lokhu akuyona into eyenzeka ngaphakathi, kodwa umphumela wemfundo, ubudlelwane nabazali nemikhuba emisiwe.
Ngamafuphi ithuthukisiwe noma ecindezelekile Ubudoda bomfana wangaphambi kobungqingili buwumphumela wesimo sikanina, owabusa ngokweqile impilo yakhe yokomzwelo, ngenkathi ithonya likayise, obekufanele lifake isandla ekuthuthukiseni ubudoda, belingathandeki noma lingelibi. Ukuhluka kwale modeli kutholakala okungenani kuma-60% wamacala wobungqingili besilisa. Ezinye izinto ezibalulekile zingafaka ukungaphatheki kahle emzimbeni nokushiyeka, abazali abasebasha noma abadala, indlela abakhuliswa ngayo ogogo nomkhulu, ubudlelwano phakathi kwabafowethu.
Ngokuvamile umfana wayebonisa ukunamathela okungenampilo kunina ngisho nokuncika kuye, kuyilapho ukuxhumana noyise kungenasici ngandlela-thile. Isibonelo, umfana angase abe ngaphansi kokuvikeleka ngokweqile - uhlobo lomfana kamama owonakele futhi "osekhaya", okhohliwe futhi okhonzwa. Unina akazange amphathe ngendlela umfana wangempela okufanele aphathwe ngayo - ngokugxambukela ngokweqile, ngezinye izikhathi ngendlela yobulili. Lezi zici zethonya labazali ziye zasungulwa ngokuthembekile.
Ukuxhumana okunamandla kakhulu nokuvela kokuheha ukuthandwa yongqingili esikhathini esizayo kunokuhluleka emhlabeni wobulili babo ebuntwaneni nasebusheni - okungukuthi, isici sokuhlukaniswa nontanga. Umuzwa wokuba ngumuntu wangaphandle futhi ophansi njengendoda uhlukumeza kakhulu kosemusha. Enomuzwa wokuthi akuyona eyeyakhe, ufisa kakhulu ubungane futhi aqala ukujabulisa abanye abasha abanazo lezo zimfanelo ezinesibindi, njengoba ecabanga, ezingekho kuye. Futhi akagcini nje ngokucabanga kanjalo, kepha uhlangabezana nomuzwa obuhlungu wokuphansi. Ngesikhathi sokuthomba, ukulangazelela okunjalo kungaholela emibonweni evusa amadlingozi yokusondelana komlingani othile onamathele kodwa ongafinyeleleki. Amaphupho anjalo anesihawu - aqhamuka ekuzihawukeleni noma ekushisekeleni isizungu, ukungabi nabangane noma iqiniso lokuthi akayena “omunye wabafana”. Ikakhulu uma la maphupho ehambisana nokushaya indlwabu njalo, andisa ukulangazelela komfana futhi kuphakamisa umuzwa wakhe wangaphandle omubi nokuhawukela. Le mizwa iyimilutha.
Ngamafuphi, ubudlelwano bobungqingili kuwukuphishekela budedengu kokukhohlisa okungenakwenzeka; ilungiselelwe yona ngokwayo. Omunye umlingani ugxile ngokuphelele - “kumele abe ngokuphelele kimi". Lesi isicelo esingenasisekelo sothando, isidingo sothando, hhayi uthando lwangempela. Uma lobu buhlanya bungahambi ebusheni, kungathatha ukulawula kwengqondo yomuntu ngamunye futhi buzimele shayela. Ngenxa yalokhu, umuntu ngokwengxenye noma ngisho nangokomzwelo uhlala esemusha kuyo yonke imicabango yakhe, imizwa, imikhuba, ubudlelwane nabazali kanye nabantu bobulili obuhlukile nobakhe. Akafinyeleli ekuvuthweni futhi ubuswa yi izinsanaubunqunu obungenasici nokuzibamba ngokweqile, ikakhulukazi ezinkanukweni zabo zobungqingili.
Umenzi wefilimu uPazolini, echaza "ukulambela kwakhe okungapheli kothando lomzimba ongenampilo", ngesinye sezibonelo eziningi. Umqambi wemfashini waseJalimane ongaqhathaniswa nalokhu "ungumlutha wokuphuza amanzi kasawoti" - lapho uphuza kakhulu, uqinisa ukoma kwakho.
I-analogue yobungqingili bobuntu obunjalo izoba yinto yokwenza abesifazane, ngokwesibonelo, umbhali wezinganekwane zabaseshi uSimenon, owayeziqhenya kakhulu ngokunqoba izinkulungwane zabesifazane. Amadoda anjalo anobuhlakani besemusha, futhi kukhona nenkinga yokuphansi.
Kunoma ikuphi, ubudlelwane bobungqingili buzibonisa ubugovu. Nansi indlela indoda eneminyaka yobungqingili eyabachaza ngayo: “Ngihlala nethimba labahlala naye, abanye engivuma kubo ukuthi ngiyabathanda. Bafunga nokuthi bangithanda, kepha ubudlelwane bobungqingili buqala buye luphele ngocansi. Ngemuva kokuthandana okuyisiphepho okufushane, ubulili buba bancane, abalingani baqala ukukhathazeka, bafune imizwa emisha bese beqala ukushintshana. ” Ufingqa indlela yokuphila yobungqingili neqiniso elinengqondo nelingafinyeleleki, ngaphandle kwemibono yokuthomba nokuqamba amanga: “Impilo yobungqingili yinto enonya. Ngeke ngifise lokhu ngisho nesitha sami esikhulu kunazo zonke. ” Ngakho-ke ungakholelwa kunkulumo-ze mayelana nemishado “emihle nethembekile,” njengamaKatolika athembekile. Lokhu kuyinkohliso yokwenza ubulili bobulili obujwayelekile bube bujwayelekile. Ubungqingili ubulili be-neurotic. Ubungqingili i-neurosis yocansi, kepha futhi kuyisifo somphefumlo.
Izingcaphuno ezingenhla zibonisa iqiniso lokuthi ukwelashwa, noma-ke, imfundo uqobo, kungumzabalazo - ngokungangabazeki, ngomlutha wobulili - kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke umzabalazo onobugovu wokuzithanda, ukuzithanda nokuzihawukela. Ukulwa nemikhuba emibi nokubonakaliswa kwezimfanelo ezinhle, ikakhulukazi lezo ezinjengobuqotho, uthando, umthwalo wemfanelo, ukuphikelela nokuzimisela, kubalulekile.
Ukunqoba ukuthambekela kobungqingili ikakhulukazi umzabalazo wedwa, noma kunjalo, izinguquko eziyisisekelo, ezinqala nezingapheli zenzekile ezimweni eziningi, ikakhulukazi ngokusekelwa kwempilo yangaphakathi ezinzile yenkolo.
Ngenxa yentuthuko yezepolitiki neyezenhlalo yemibono yezitabane, ukwelashwa nokwelulekwa kobungqingili, okugxile ekushintsheni, kuya ngokuya kukhula kakhulu, yize empeleni kungokwenzelana ukuzelapha. Noma kunjalo, ngaphesheya kokujwayelekile, ukusebenza kwalezi zindlela akuyekeli ukuthola isiqinisekiso.
Izikhungo zezombusazwe ezikhuthaza ubungqingili zizama ukuqeda imikhuba nezincwadi ezinjalo. Ngakho-ke, ngokwesibonelo, izikweletu zangempela ezivimbela ukwelashwa kobungqingili e-Ireland. IHomotirania yawela phezu kwethu ngempela.
E-2003, ngokwesibonelo, uSolwazi Spitzer waseColumbia University, udokotela wezifo zengqondo ofanayo owahambisa i-APA endaweni yokulungiselela abathandana nabobungqingili ukutadisha ngomthelela wokwelulekwa phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane abangama-200. Ingxenye encane yabo isishintshe kakhulu, kanti iningi lithuthukile ngokuya ngesimo sobulili kanye nokulinganisela okungokomzwelo sekubonke. Akunazimpawu zokulimala, kepha ukuncipha okumakiwe ekucindezelekeni. Isiphepho senzondo evela ekusungulweni kwezitabane sehlela kuye ngentukuthelo engakaze ibonwe. Phezu kokujeziswa okuhlukahlukene kuye, kufaka phakathi ukwenqatshwa kwezincwadi kanye nokulahlekelwa kwabaxhasi, uSpitzer waphikelela ukuvikela ubumsulwa bakhe ngeminyaka ye-9, kodwa wagcina ephulwe. Ubuye wavuma kimi engxoxweni ukuthi wayengeke, futhi angaphinde, athathe lesi sihloko esibi sobungqingili.
* Engxoxweni abe nayo neNew York Times, uSpitzer waxolisa emphakathini wezitabane futhi waveza ukuthi unenhloso yokuwuhoxisa umsebenzi wakhe, ecacisa ukuthi uvumelane nabagxeki bakhe ukuthi asikho isiqiniseko sokuthi imibiko yabamangalelwa inembile, noma ngabe bekubonakala kubo ukuthi bakhuluma iqiniso. Kodwa-ke, umsebenzi wesayensi ungakhunjulwa kuphela uma uqukethe amaphutha noma izinganekwane, kepha njengoba uSpitzer wayenakho konke kulokhu mayelana nokuphelela, umhleli wejenali lesayensi umenqabile nje, ngoba ukuphindiselwa kwedatha etholakalayo akuthinti nganoma iyiphi indlela ukusebenza kwabo.
UScott Hershberger, isazi nesazi sezibalo ezwelana nezitabane, ngemuva kokuhlaziya ucwaningo lukaSpitzer, uphethe ngokuthi kungubufakazi obukholisayo bokuthi ukwelapha okubuyekelayo kungasiza abantu ukuthi bashintshe indlela abathandana ngayo nabobungqingili. “Manje bonke labo abangabaza ukwelashwa okubuyelelanayo kufanele banikeze ubufakazi obukholisayo bokusekela isikhundla sabo,” kuphetha yena.
Ngaphezu kwalokho:
• Umbono Obuhlungu wobungqingili (Aardweg 1972) .pdf
• Kwi-Psychogenesis of Ubungqingili (Aardweg 2011) .pdf
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