NgoJulayi 2020, uJohn Blosnich we-Center for LGBTQ+ Health Equity washicilela olunye ucwaningo "ngezingozi" zokwelapha ngokuvuselela. Ngemva kokuhlola abantu abangebona abashintshe ubulili abayi-1518, ithimba likaBlosnich laphetha ngokuthi abantu abaye bashintsha indlela yokucabanga ngocansi (i-SOCE) babike amazinga aphezulu okufuna ukuzibulala kanye nokuzama ukuzibulala kunalabo abangazange. Baphikisana ngokuthi i-SOCE imelela "ukucindezeleka okulimazayo okwandisa ukuzibulala kubantu abangebona abashadile." Ngakho-ke, imizamo yokushintsha indlela yokucabanga ayamukeleki futhi kufanele ithathelwe indawo "ngokunakekelwa okuqinisekisayo" okusiza abantu ukuthi balungise ukuthambekela kwabo kobungqingili. Ucwaningo lwabizwa ngokuthi "ubufakazi obunamandla kakhulu kuze kube manje bokuthi i-SOCE ibangela ukuzibulala."
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IKocharyan G.S. - Ukwelashwa kwabesilisa nabesifazane kanye nokwelashwa kokuguqulwa: isifundo secala
Isifinyezo: Lesi sihloko siveza icala lomtholampilo lendoda " ethanda abantu abathandana nabobulili obubili " futhi sichaza ukwelashwa kokuguqulwa eyakwenza kusetshenziswa uhlelo olusikisela ucansi, olwabonakala lusebenza kahle kakhulu.
Okwamanje kuqhubeka imizamo engakaze ibonwe yokuvimbela ukusetshenziswa kokwelashwa kokuguqula (okuvuselelayo), okuhlose ukushintsha isifiso sobulili somuntu kusuka ekubeni ngumuntu ongqingili kuya ekubeni ngumuntu ongqingili. Kuyacwaswa futhi kumenyezelwe ukuthi akugcini nje ngokungasebenzi kodwa futhi kuyingozi kakhulu emzimbeni womuntu. Ngakho-ke, ngoDisemba 7, 2016, iPhalamende laseMalta ladlulisa ngazwi linye umthetho ovimbela ukusetshenziswa kokwelashwa kokuvuselelayo. Lo mthetho uhlinzeka ngenhlawulo noma isigwebo sasejele "sokushintsha, ukucindezela, noma ukubhubhisa ukuthambekela komuntu ngokobulili noma ubunikazi bobulili" [7]. Ngomhlaka-5 Juni 2020, i-Bundesrat (inhlangano emele amazwe aseJalimane) yagunyaza umthetho ovimbela lokhu kwelashwa. I -Deutsche Welle ibika ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwayo kungajeziswa ngokuboshwa isikhathi esingafika onyakeni owodwa, kuyilapho ukukhangisa kanye nokulamula kungajeziswa ngenhlawulo engafika kuma-euro angu-30 [1]. E-United States, izifundazwe ezingu-18 kuphela, iPuerto Rico, kanye neWashington, D.C., zivimbele ukwelashwa kokuguqula izingane ezincane. Nokho, abantu abadala bangahlanganyela ngokuzithandela ekwelashweni kokuguqula kulo lonke izwe [ 9] . I-Instagram ne-Facebook bamemezele ukuthi bazovimba zonke izikhala kulezi zokuxhumana ezikhuthaza ukwelashwa kokuguqulwa [8].
Izimangalo zokuthi ukwelashwa ngokuguqula umzimba akugcini nje ngokungasebenzi kahle kodwa futhi kuhlala kubangela umonakalo omkhulu emzimbeni zingamanga. Izimpikiswano ezifanayo zingatholakala ezihlokweni zethu [ 3 ; 4 ; 6 ]. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izifundo zethu eziningana ziveza ukusetshenziswa okuphumelelayo kokwelashwa ngokuguqula umzimba [ 2; 5 ].
Nali icala elivela enkambisweni yethu yomtholampilo, lapho ukwelashwa kokuguqula kuphumelele kakhulu ekulungiseni inkombandlela yesifiso sobulili kumuntu othanda abesilisa nabesifazane.
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UGerard Aardweg kwi-psychology yobungqingili nobushiqela obunobunono
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseDashi esidumile emhlabeni wonke uGerard van den Aardweg ugxile ekucwaningweni nasekuphathweni kobungqingili isikhathi esiningi somsebenzi wakhe ovelele weminyaka engama-50. Njengelungu leKomidi Lokweluleka Lesayensi le-National Association for the Research and Treatment of Homosexuality (NARTH) kanye nombhali wezincwadi nezihloko zesayensi, okwamanje ungomunye wochwepheshe abambalwa abanesibindi sokudalula iqiniso elingakhululekile lalesi sihloko ngombono oyiqiniso kuphela, ngokusekelwe kudatha eqondile engangcoliswanga ukucwasa ngokwemibono. Ngezansi kunesiqephu esivela ephepheni lakhe, "Ukwenziwa 'Kokujwayelekile' Kobungqingili kanye neHumanae Vitae ," elanikezwa engqungqutheleni ka-2018 yePontifical Academy for Human Life and the Family .
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Ukwelashwa kobungqingili ngaphambi kwenkathi yokulungiswa kwezombusazwe
Amacala amaningi okuphumelela kokulungiswa okwelashwa kokuziphatha kobungqingili nokuheha kuchazwa ngokuningiliziwe ezincwadini zobungcweti. Bika I-National Association for the Study and Therapy ofungqingili iveza ukubukelwa kobufakazi obuqandayo, imibiko yomtholampilo kanye nocwaningo kusukela ngasekupheleni kwekhulu le-19 kuze kube manje, okufakazela ngokuqiniseka ukuthi amadoda nabesifazane abanentshisekelo bangalwenza lolu shintsho kusuka ebungqingili kuya kobungqingili. Ngaphambi kwenkathi yokunemba kwezombusazwe, kwakuyiqiniso elaziwayo lesayensi, okuyinto ngokukhululeka Ubhale umshini omkhulu wezindaba. Ngisho ne-American Psychiatric Association, ngaphandle kobungqingili be-syntonic kuhlu lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo e-1974, kuphawuliwe, lokho "Izindlela zokwelapha zesimanje zivumela ingxenye enkulu yabongqingili abafuna ukuguqula isimo sabo ukwenza kanjalo".
Okulandelayo ukuhumusha izindatshana kusuka eNew York Times ye1971.
Garnik Kocharyan ekwelashweni kabusha kwabobungqingili
UGarnik Surenovich Kocharyan , MD, uprofesa eMnyangweni Wezocansi, I-Medical Psychology, kanye Nokuvuselelwa Kwezokwelapha Nezengqondo eKharkiv Medical Academy, wethule incwadi ethi "Shame and Attachment Loss: The Practical Application of Reparative Therapy." Umbhali nguDkt. Joseph Nicolosi, omunye wochwepheshe abahlonishwa kakhulu nabadumile emhlabeni jikelele emkhakheni we-reparative therapy kanye nomsunguli weNational Association for the Research and Treatment of Homosexuality (NARTH). Le ncwadi yanyatheliswa okokuqala e-United States ngo-2009 ngaphansi kwesihloko esithi "Shame and Attachment Loss: The Practical Work of Reparative Therapy."
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Ukwelashwa kabusha: imibuzo nezimpendulo
Bonke ongqingili?
"U-Gay" ubuwena umuntu azikhethela bona. Akubona bonke abantu abakhangwa abantu bobulili obufanayo abazibiza ngokuthi "abangqingili." Abantu abangazibonakalisi njengabantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo bakholelwa ukuthi empeleni bangabantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo futhi bafuna usizo lokuthola izizathu ezithile zokuthi kungani bethola ukukhangwa kwabantu bobulili obufanayo okungafunwa. Ngesikhathi sokwelashwa, abeluleki kanye nodokotela bezengqondo basiza amakhasimende ngokuziphatha ukuthi athole izimbangela zokukhangwa kwabo kwabantu bobulili obufanayo futhi babasize ngozwelo ukubhekana nezici eziholela emizweni yabantu bobulili obufanayo. Laba bantu, abayingxenye ebalulekile yomphakathi wethu, balwela ukuvikela ilungelo labo lokuthola usizo nokusekelwa ukuze banqobe ukukhangwa kwabantu bobulili obufanayo okungafunwa, bashintshe ukuthambekela kwabo ngokocansi, kanye/noma balondoloze ukungashadi. Lokhu kufezwa ngezinhlelo zokuqinisekisa ubulili, okuhlanganisa ukwelulekwa kanye nokwelashwa kokuqinisekisa ubulili obufanayo, okwaziwa nangokuthi "ukungenelela kokushintsha ukuthambekela kobulili" (SOCE) noma ukwelashwa kokushintsha ukuthambekela kobulili.
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Idayari yongqingili
Mfundi othandekayo, igama lami nginguJake. Ngingungqingili owayeneminyaka engamashumi amabili ngivela eNgilandi. Le dayari ingeyalabo abaphikisana nombono wokushintsha isimo sezocansi. Ochwepheshe bafunde ezocansi amashumi eminyaka futhi baphethe ngokuthi ezocansi ziyahlukahluka kubantu abaningi. Ubufakazi busikisela ukuthi imizwa yezocansi ingashintsha impilo yonke. Iqiniso lokuthi abantu abaningi bashintsha isimo sabo sokuya ocansini iqiniso elifakazelwe ngezibalo. Ngingomunye walaba bantu.
Angisazizwa ngikhangwa ngabesilisa ngokobulili; amantombazane manje akhange kakhulu kimi. Ngake ngacabanga kanjalo, kodwa manje sengicabanga.
Ngesinye isikhathi, ngilele ngobusuku obunesizungu, ngazibona ngisezingalweni zenye indoda, manje sengingazibona ngise ntombazane yesifazane.
Abanye abeneme ngalesi simo sezinto. Baqinisekile ngocansi lwabo kangangokuba abakwazi ukwamukela ukuthi kunalabo abangasenayo imizwa yabo. Bajabule kakhulu lapho abantu baphenduka ubungqingili, kodwa abathandi lapho kwenzeka okuphambene. Kwesinye isikhathi abantu abanjengami babizwa ngokuba ngabasuki bezondo, futhi lokho kungenxa yokuthi angisafuni ukulala nabantu besilisa!
Ngabe bangathanda ukuthi ngithule ngokushintsha ubulili bami, ngiphile ngamanga futhi ngiphike okwenzekile? Yebo, kubonakala ngathi! Bafuna ukungithulisa, bangincishe ilungelo lokuphila ngendlela engiyikhethayo, futhi bangiphoqe ukuthi ngiholele indlela yokuphila ebona ukuthi iyadingeka!
Angigcinanga ngokuyeka ukuba yisitabane, kodwa futhi ngizizwa ngijabule ngokwengeziwe. Mina uqobo ngizophatha impilo yami ngendlela engifuna ngayo, hhayi indlela abangitshela ngayo. Nginqume ukuguqula ubulili bami futhi ngakwenza.
Icaphuna izishoshovu zezitabane:
Ngilapha!
Angisemgceni futhi!
Jwayela!
Indaba ephelele ngesiNgisi: https://www.equalityandjusticeforall.org/diary-of-an-ex-gay-man