UDkt Julie Hamilton 6 iminyaka efundisa isayensi yezengqondo e-University of Palm Beach, wasebenza njengoMongameli weNhlangano Yezemishado Nezomndeni, kanye nanjengoMongameli weNational Association for Study and Therapy ofungqingili. Njengamanje, unguchwepheshe oqinisekisiwe ezindabeni zomndeni nezomshado ezenzweni yangasese. Enkulumweni yakhe ethi “Ubungqingili: Ikhosi Yokwethula” (Ubungqingili 101), uDkt Hamilton ukhuluma ngezinganekwane ezihlanganisa isihloko sobungqingili emasikweni ethu nokuthi yini eyaziwa ngocwaningo lwesayensi. Iqokomisa izinto ezijwayelekile ezifaka isandla ekuthuthukiseni ukuheha ubungqingili obufana kubafana namantombazane, futhi ikhuluma ngamathuba okuguqula isimo sobulili esingathandeki.
• Ingabe ubungqingili buzalwe kabusha noma kungukukhetha?
• Yini eholela umuntu ukuba akhangwe ebunganini bakhe?
• Ubungqingili besifazane bukhula kanjani?
• Ingabe ukuphinda uhlele kabusha kungenzeka?
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Ingabe ubungqingili buzalwa kabusha, noma kungukukhetha?
- Akekho omunye noma omunye. Kuningi okungelona iqiniso mayelana nobutabane esikweni lethu. Izinganekwane esizizwayo azilona iqiniso. Abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ubungqingili buyimvelo futhi abuguquki. Kodwa-ke, abantu abazalwa bengabantu abathandana nobulili obufanayo - lena inganekwane nje esakazwa kakhulu emasikweni ethu. Ngawo-90s, kwaba nomzamo omkhulu wokufakazela isisekelo sebhayoloji yobungqingili, njengoba kungase kube nomthelela “ku-Gay Rights Movement,” ngakho-ke kwaba nocwaningo olunzulu, kodwa akekho owake wafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi kungenxa yesayensi yezinto eziphilayo. .
UDean Hamer wenza ucwaningo ngezakhi zofuzo, abezindaba bamemezela ngokushesha ukuthi kutholakale isakhi sofuzo, yize umcwaningi ngokwakhe engazange asho kanjalo. Akekho owayengaluphinda ucwaningo lwakhe ngakho-ke lwahoxiswa. Lapho iScientific American imbuza ukuthi ubungqingili busekelwe kuphela kwisayensi yezinto eziphilayo, waphendula wathi, “Cha. Sesivele sazi ukuthi okungaphezu kwesigamu sezinto eziguquguqukayo ekuthambekeni ngokocansi akutholakali njengefa ... Lakhiwe ngezinto eziningi ezahlukahlukene, kufaka phakathi amathonya ezinto eziphilayo, ezemvelo nezenhlalo. "
Umcwaningi we-Brain uSimon LeVay uthe into efanayo futhi wavuma ukuthi wehlulekile ukunikeza noma yibuphi ubufakazi obuxhasa i-biology: "Kubalulekile ukugcizelela ukuthi angizange ngifakazise ukuthi izitabane zizalwa zinjalo - leli yiphutha elijwayelekile kakhulu elenziwa ngabantu lapho behumusha umsebenzi wami. Nami angitholanga sikhungo sezitabane ebuchosheni. “Asazi ukuthi ngabe umehluko engiwatholile ubukhona yini ngokuzalwa noma wavela kamuva.”
Ucwaningo oluhlola irejista yase-Australia yamawele aqukethe imininingwane kuma-40 ezinkulungwane zemibhangqwana ithole ukuthi uma amawele alinganayo angobungqingili, khona-ke cishe kuma-20 noma amaphesenti angaphansi wamacala, elinye lizoba ngongqingili. Uma ubungqingili bubangelwa i-biology, sizobona inani elikhulu kakhulu lokuhlangana, ngoba amawele afanayo anesakhiwo esifanayo semvelo.
Eqinisweni, akekho noyedwa umcwaningi ozokutshela ukuthi uthole imbangela yemvelo yokuheha ubungqingili. Iningi labaphenyi lithi ukuheha ubungqingili obufanayo kuhlotshaniswa nenhlanganisela yezici zebhayoloji nezemvelo, ezingaboniswa ngale ndlela elandelayo:
Ngisho ne-APA, enye yezinhlangano ezinethonya kakhulu kwezengqondo, engahlali iisetha ithoni yesayensi emfundweni enkulu yengqondo, yashintsha isikhundla sayo isuka kwi1998, lapho bekuphikiswa khona ukuthi izimbangela zokuheha ubungqingili zigxile kakhulu kwizifundo zebhayoloji.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukusabalalisa lolu lwazi, ngoba amanga mayelana nokunqunyelwa kusengaphambili ngobungqingili kunemiphumela emibi kakhulu. Abantu abaningi ababhekene nokushayela ubungqingili abafuni ukusifeza noma banaso, kepha ngokwesiko lethu batshelwa: "Lokhu kungumongo wakho, wamukele, wazalwa unjalo, akukho okungenziwa ngakho." Futhi la manga aholela ekuzondeni okukhulu nasemicabangweni yokuzibulala.
Ngendlela, phakathi kobungqingili sibona amaphesenti amaningi aphezulu wokudangala, ukuzibulala, umlutha wezidakamizwa, njll. Bakucacisa lokhu ngokuthi umphakathi awubemukeli, kepha futhi lokhu akulona iqiniso. Ngemuva kokubheka izibalo zamazwe abekezelela kakhulu, njengeDenmark, iNetherlands, iNew Zealand, iFinland noma iSweden, lapho ubungqingili bube yinto evamile, ngeke sawubona umehluko.
Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi ongqingili abazalwa, ngeke kushiwo ukuthi ongqingili abavamile “bakhetha” ukukhangwa amalungu obulili obufanayo (yize kukhona: http://www.queerbychoice.com/) Abantu bangazikhetha ngezenzo zabo - ukuthi bangangena ebudlelwaneni bobungqingili noma cha, kodwa okuhehayo uqobo, njengomthetho, akukhethiwe.
Yini eholela umuntu ukuba akhangwe ebunganini bakhe?
Yize izici zemvelo zingafaka isipiliyoni sodlame lwezocansi noma ezinye izehlakalo ezihlukumezanayo, isizathu esijwayelekile ukwephulwa kwentuthuko yobunikazi bobulili, okuthi kuma-80% wamacala aphela ekuthandeni ubungqingili. Ubunikazi bobulili yindlela umuntu azibona ngayo evela endaweni yokubukwa ubulili bakhe, okungukuthi, umqondo wobudoda bakhe noma ubufazi bakhe. Kwakhiwa ngobuhlobo bengane nomzali kanye nontanga bobulili babo.
Ekuqaleni, izinsana zizibona zizonke nonina, kodwa phakathi kweminyaka ecishe ibe mibili nengane yokuphila, inqubo yokuthola ubulili iqala. Kulesi sigaba sokuthuthuka, umfana kuzodingeka ahlukane nobunye bakhe nonina futhi azixhumanise ngokujulile nobaba wakhe, ngoba ngobudlelwano naye ufunda ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba yindoda. Umfana uyazibuza: enza kanjani amadoda? Bahamba kanjani? Benzani? Futhi ubaba uphendula le mibuzo ngobudlelwano bakhe nendodana yakhe. Ukwenza lokhu ngokuchitha isikhathi naye, ekhombisa intshisekelo kuye nakwimisebenzi yakhe, nangokuxhumana ngokomzimba. Ukuxhumana nomuntu onothando kubalulekile, njengokumbambazela noma ukubamba izandla, kanye nomuntu onobuqhwaga, njengomdlalo wokulwa noma onzima. Kungenxa yokuxhumana ngokomzimba lapho umfana eqala ukuthuthukisa umuzwa womzimba wakhe onesibindi nobudoda bakhe.
Eminyakeni ecishe ibe ngu-6 yeminyaka, lapho izingane ziqala ukuya esikoleni, isigaba esisha siqala: manje umfana ubheka ontanga yakhe lapho efuna izimpendulo zemibuzo efanayo neyayise ngaphambili. Ufuna ukwamukelwa futhi aqashelwe abanye abafana. Ngenxa yobudlelwano enza nabo, uyaqhubeka nokukhulisa isimo sobuntu, ethola okuningi mayelana nabanye abafana, ngakho-ke, ngaye.
Eminyakeni yokuqala esikoleni samabanga aphansi, izingane ngokuvamile azithandi ukudlala nabobulili obuhlukile. Bancamela ukuchitha isikhathi nobulili babo. Lesi yisigaba sokuthuthuka esingokwemvelo nesidingekayo, ngoba umuntu akakwazi ukuba nentshisekelo kwabobulili obuhlukile aze aqonde esakhe. Ekugcineni, ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi yokuxhumana nabamele ubulili bakhe, umfana ufinyelela ebusheni, futhi manje useqala ukukhombisa ilukuluku nentshisekelo kwabobulili obuhlukile. Ngokuvela kwezidingo zobulili, lokhu kulangazelela kuphenduka inzalo yocansi kanye nesifiso sobudlelwano bezothando nabobulili obuhlukile.
Kumfana ogcina eqhuba idrayivu yobungqingili, inqubo engenhla ivame ukungahambi kahle
Njengomthetho, okuthile kuyamvimbela ekuhlukaniseni ngempumelelo nonina futhi anamathele kuyise. Kungenzeka ukuthi isibalo sobaba sasingafinyeleleki kuye, noma kungenzeka ukuthi akazange abone ukuthi uyise uyatholakala, uthembekile noma uyalahlwa. Umbono uyikho konke. Okwenzeka kithi akubalulekile kangako, kodwa ukuthi sikubona kanjani. Ngakho-ke, lolu daba kungenzeka ukuthi alukho kubaba, kepha ukuthi ngesizathu esithile umfana akazange ambone njengowakhona noma efiselekayo ngokusungula uxhumano. Ukuqonda kuthonywa umoya wethu futhi yilapho i-biology ingadlala khona indima encane, ngomqondo wokuthi umfana onomoya ophansi ozwelayo angabona ukwenqatshwa lapho ingekho ngempela. Angacabanga ukuthi uyise akafuni ubudlelwane naye, noma ezinye zezenzo zakhe zingathathwa njengokwenqatshwa, yize lokhu kungasho njalo. Ukwenza isibonelo, ubaba ezinhlizweni zakhe angakhwaza indodana yakhe, futhi kumfana oneminyaka emibili ubudala, indoda ekhalazayo ibukeka isabisa kakhulu, futhi ngenxa yalokho ayifuni ukushiya induduzo yobunye nonina futhi inamathele esigungwini esihlaselayo nesikhalayo.
Kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ukufudumala okubucayi kukodwa akumenzi umuntu abe ngongqingili, kodwa uma ehlangene nezici ezithile zezemvelo angaba nesandla ekuthuthukiseni ukuheha ubungqingili. Kubalulekile futhi ukungabi mkhulu kangako ubaba uqobo njengoba eyisibalo sikababa, i.e. indoda ekhonjwe umfana wayo. Kubafana abakhula ngaphandle kobaba, umqeqeshi, uthisha, umalume, umkhulu, noma nomakhelwane bangakhonza kanjena.
Ngakho-ke, uma umfana ezwa ukuthi uyise akafuni ubuhlobo naye, khona-ke ekugcineni uyama ukuzama ukusondela. Kulokhu, kunegama elithi - "ukuzihlukanisa okuvikelayo." Ubebonakala ebopha udonga futhi ethi: "kulungile, uma ungangidingi, nami angikudingi." Futhi ngaphakathi uyenqaba ubaba, nakho konke okumelwe ubaba, okungukuthi, ubudoda. Esikhundleni salokho, uhlala exhumene nonina futhi edonsa ubuntu besifazane, kuyilapho ngasikhathi sinye elangazelela, ejulile, uthando lowesilisa nokuxhumana nobulili besilisa. Imvamisa, umfana onjalo uba nobunzima esigabeni esilandelayo sokuthuthuka, lapho kufanele alingane nabafana abangontanga futhi akhe ubuhlobo nabo. Kuphakathi ukuthi ukhululeke kakhudlwana nabesifazane abamjwayele kakhulu, noma wesaba abanye abafana. Uma esehlakulele imikhuba ethile yabesifazane, ontanga bangamhlukanisa bambulale bambize ngamagama. Ngakho-ke, udlulela esikoleni samabanga aphansi, egcina ukuxhumana namantombazane, kepha ngasikhathi sinye, elangazelela ukubonwa, kwamukelwa futhi kuqashelwa abafana. Kulesosigaba sokuthuthuka lapho kudingeka khona ukuhlangana kabusha nabesilisa, asondele emhlabeni wabesifazane, osebenza njengomthombo wakhe omkhulu wolwazi. Njengoba esefinyelele ebuntombini, ngeke abe nokuheha ezothando ngamantombazane - bafana nodadewabo kuye, abanandaba naye, usevele wazi konke ngabo. Okusembozwe nge-halo yemfihlakalo kuyena, nokuthi yini asalangazelela ukuxhumana ukuxhumana nabantu besilisa. Isidingo sakhe esingathandeki somzwelo sobudlelwano obusondelene nobakhe ubulili, njengoba eshicilela, uqala ukuthinta imizwa yezocansi. Umfana onjalo ngephutha ucabanga ukuthi wazalwa ngaleyondlela, ngoba yonke impilo yakhe eyazi uyazikhumbula efuna uthando lowesilisa. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi wayehlala efuna lolu thando, kepha ekuqaleni lwalungeyona inkanuko yezocansi, kepha isidingo esingokomzwelo sokuqashelwa nokwamukelwa, esaguqulwa saba yisifiso sokuya ocansini.
Iningi lalabo, ebusheni babo, ngokuzumayo bazithola behehwa abafana bazokutshela ukuthi lokhu bekuyinto ebabhoboza kakhulu. Abantu abaningi abafuni ukuzizwa beheha ubulili babo, kepha lokhu kuyabagcwalisa ngaphakathi ngoba izidingo zabo bezingakafaneli. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi singazihlambalazi: "lesi yisinqumo sakho - ngokwakho ukhethe le mizwa." Ulahla ukuzethemba ngokusho njalo ngoba kuphambene nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo - bayazi ukuthi abayikhethanga.
Ukuthuthukiswa kobungqingili besifazane kunzima kakhulu
Kwabanye besifazane, ukukhula kokuheha kwabobulili obufanayo kuyafana nentuthuko yabesilisa echazwe ngenhla: basungula ubudlelwano nobaba nabanye abafana, kodwa hhayi namantombazane, futhi isidingo sokuxhumana nabesilisa babo bobulili asigculiseki. Kwamanye amantombazane, ubungqingili luhlobo lokucinga kothando lwabesifazane, ukugcwalisa isikhala esivele ngaphambili. Kwamanye amantombazane, umbono wobuntu besifazane ungasontwa kakhulu ngolwazi lwabo. Mhlawumbe babone ubaba wabo eshaya umama wabo noma bemhlazisa, futhi bafika esiphethweni sokuthi ukuba ngowesifazane kusho ukungabi namandla, noma ukuba yisisulu. Futhi ngakho-ke bahlukane nobunikazi babo besifazane, njengoba kuthathwa njengengathandeki kakhulu futhi imbi.
Kungenzeka ukuthi nabo uqobo bahlupheka. Lokhu kungenzeka ngisho nasebusheni, njengokudlwengulwa kosuku, noma olunye uhlobo lokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, okubenze bahlukana nobuntu babo besifazane noma ukugwema abesilisa.
Manje esikweni lethu, esikoleni esiphakeme nasekolishi, sekuyimfashini ukusho ukuthi uyathandana, futhi amanye amantombazane ahamba ngale ndlela ngaphezulu kwesiko lesiko. Ngaphansi kwethonya lolwazi olungalungile olujikeleza emasikweni ethu, abanye abantu abasha bazama ukuzama ubulili babo futhi lokhu kuba yindlela yokuphila, ngoba ngomuzwa wethu, sakha izinkanuko nezifiso.
Enye into eyenzelwe abesifazane yilokho okubizwa ngokuthi “ukuncika ngokomzwelo”. Abesifazane bangazithatha njengabobulili obuhlukile futhi bashade, kepha bangena ebudlelwaneni nomunye umuntu wesifazane ongena mpilo ngokweqile. Ungaqala njengobungani, oba nokudida okukhulu, bese kuncike kakhulu ukuthembela phakathi kwabo. Kubukeka sengathi: “Ngiyakudinga, uwena wedwa ongizwisisayo futhi ongizwayo, akekho ohlangabezana nezidingo zami njengawe.” Bese kuba yizwi elithi “angikwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwakho, ngizokufa uma ngingenalo wena. ”Lobu budlelwano bungabonakala kakhulu futhi bube nobunzima. Futhi njengoba laba besifazane, ekuthembekeni kwabo ngokomzwelo, bewela imingcele yalokho okuvunyelwe ngokomzwelo, lokhu kungaholela ngokushesha ekunqamuleni imingcele endizeni ebonakalayo. Ngaphambi kokuthi babe nesikhathi sokuqonda, bazithola sebudlelwano bocansi.
Kungenzeka ushintsho
Kunezici eziningi eziba nomthelela entuthukweni yethu, ngakho-ke kungenzeka wazi abantu abangaphandle kwalokhu okungenhla, noma ezinye izinto ezifakayo ezingashiwo lapha.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi kubantu abahlangabezana nokuhehwa okungathandeki kobungqingili, empeleni likhona ithemba. Siyazi kusuka ocwaningweni ukuthi ushintsho kungenzeka, hhayi kuphela ekuziphatheni, kodwa ekuzilolongeni ngokwalo. I-National Association for the Study and Therapy ofungqingili inikeze umbono ocacile wobufakazi obuqandayo, imibiko yomtholampilo kanye nocwaningo lwesayensi olwenzeka ngekhulu le-19, okukhombisa ngokuqiniseka ukuthi amadoda asebekhulile nabesifazane abangasuka ebungqingili baye kobungqingili.
Kumele kwaziwe ukuthi inkinga yokuhehwa kwabungqingili ayihlukile kunenye inkinga yokwelashwa - "ushintsho" akusho ukuthi inkinga yakho inyamalala kanye. Isibonelo, uma umuntu ephendukela kumelaphi ngenkinga yokudangala futhi wenza ngempumelelo ukwelashwa, ukuzizwa eshintshiwe, aneliseke kakhulu futhi ejabule, lokhu akusho ukuthi ngeke esaphinde aba nengcindezi. Ngokungangabazeki, esikhathini sobunzima bempilo yakhe, angabuya, ikakhulukazi uma enengqikithi yalokho. Izinkinga azinyamalali kalula, ushintsho yinqubo ende. Ngakho-ke uma ongqingili bethi sebeguqukile, bese beqhubeka nobunzima, lokhu kuyinto eyejwayelekile. Siyakubona lokhu emkhakheni wokulutha. Ngakho-ke, abantu abasendleleni yokuqeda umlutha wezidakamizwa noma wotshwala bayazi ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi kusadingeka babhekane nezilingo, kodwa ngokwezinga elincane kakhulu, nokuthi kulula kakhulu ukukhubeka nokubuyela emuva. Ngakho-ke ungadikibali ngamanga owezwa emasikweni ethu, izinguquko ziqinisekiswa yisayensi futhi siyazi ukuthi ziyenzeka. Iningi lalabo abashintshe abashayeli babo bobungqingili ngosizo lwe-psychotherapy bazisola ngokungakwenzi ngaphambili, njengoba isiko labo noma umndeni wabo wabenza bakholwa ukuthi bangahle noma kufanele bangaguquki.
Ngishaqekile kancane.
Ngokuvamile, i-athikili ihambe ngezindlela ezifanele, kepha ithuba lokushintsha lingifakele i-stupor.
Uma wenze isinqumo esingalungile mayelana nokuzinqumela, okungukuthi, isiphetho semizwa yakho, khona-ke ngokushesha noma kamuva uyaqaphela ngempela ukuthi wawunephutha. Kodwa inkinga ukuthi yonke i-athikili iyicala elikhethekile (sorry). Kukhona ngempela imicabango ehlakaniphile lapha, kodwa uma umuntu enquma kahle ukuthi uzimisele ngani, alikho nelincane ithuba lokuyilungisa.
Kuyihlazo ukuthi i-homo isabhekwa njengokuphazamiseka. Isebenza ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele. Kuyishwa ukuthi bambalwa abantu abakubonayo lokhu.
I-APA ibifuna iminyaka eminingi ukuthi "uketshezi lwezocansi»Futhi izintandokazi zocansi, njenganoma yikuphi okuthandayo, zingashintsha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, phakathi kwabantu be-LGBT I-xnumx% yamadoda kuphela ne-xnumx% yabesifazane bakhetha ubulili babo kuphela. Okusho ukuthi, ngenani elixakile labantu be-LGBT, ukuqondiswa kwesifiso sobulili akunayo ukulungiswa okucacile emkhakheni owodwa.
Iqiniso yindlela ekhuliswe ngayo nendawo ezungezile yengane. Alukho ufuzo oluthandwayo lwabantu bobulili obufanayo. Konke kusekhanda. Umndeni ugcwele futhi amasiko omndeni abalulekile! Kumele uqaphe ngezingane. Ukuhambisana nezimiso kanye nesimo sengqondo sokukhuliswa. Umfana nentombazane abafani futhi badinga ukukhuliswa ngokobulili.
Ucwaningo
A., indoda, iminyaka engu-32. I-Anamnesis: ivela emndenini ongaphelele, okuwukuphela kwengane yabazali babo. Asukume nonina. Ukuthambekela ngokweqile. Ukuthomba ngaphandle kokuphambuka. Kusukela eneminyaka engu-10 wayenentshisekelo kumantombazane, wazama ukwakha ubungane, kodwa ukuxhumana nabantu ontanga kuvame ukuba nzima ngenxa yezinkimbinkimbi ngenxa yokuphelela. Kusuka eminyakeni ye-14, ukushaya indlwabu ejwayelekile kusetshenziswa i-erotica yowesifazane njengesikhuthazo se-erogenous. Kusukela ngeminyaka ye-16, imizamo eminingana yokwenza ubuhlobo namantombazane, igcina ingaphumelelanga. Ukuhlala wedwa okuqhubekayo kanye nokungabaza. Ngeminyaka ye-25: ukulungisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. "Bengingazi ukuthi ngizobukelani, ngibukeze konke ukuphazamiseka okungenzeka." Ukulungiswa okukhethekile kwezithombe zocansi zabesifazane zobungqingili. Ubudlelwano bobulili obuhlukile abukasungulwa, kwakungekho okuhlangenwe nakho kwezocansi. Kusukela eminyakeni ye-25: waqala ukubuka izithombe zocansi ngama-transsexlines, wayejabule kakhulu. Ukulungiswa kwesithombe se-phallic. Umqondo wokuvuselelwa kwesifiso sobungqingili besilisa uthuthuka kancane kancane, ngemuva kwalokho ubhekwe "bobabili abobulili obuyi-gay kanye nama-porn aqondile", waqala ukwenza ukuzijabulisa kwe-anus ngabalingisi "Ngithole injabulo, kepha hhayi injabulo". Ngeminyaka ye-27, ukulungiswa okuqinile kokuxhumana kwabantu bobungqingili, isimo sengqondo sokuziphatha ngokungathandeki kwabobungqingili sasingathathi hlangothi, zazibheka njengobungqingili. Ngalesi sikhathi, nge-Intanethi, waxhumana nesifebe esingungqingili, umuzwa wokuqala wobungqingili, onomdlandla. Kamuva, ukuzisola okunamandla kunakho konke. Ngemuva kwesonto, ukuxhumana okuphindaphindiwe Waqala ukuvakashela imigoqo yezitabane ngokuxhumana njalo nocansi phakathi nesonto, isikhathi ngasinye ne-orgasm, futhi ngemuva kwalokho waziphatha ngokuziphatha okubi. Ngayeka ukuhileleka ezingcolile zobulili. Inani labalingani bezocansi mayelana ne-20 esikhathini se-27 - iminyaka ye-29. Ufihle indlela yokuphila kwabathandekayo. Wathola ihlazo elikhulu ngemuva kokuxhumana ngakunye. Ngeminyaka ye-30 yokudangala ngokweqile, ukungagculiseki, ukudideka, ukuqwasha, izinkinga zokuqamba. Eminyakeni ye-30, umhlangano wokuqala nesihlobo esikude, indoda yeminyaka ye-60, umqeqeshi wezemidlalo. Usungule ukuxhumana okusondelene nesihlobo, kamuva kwamvulekela. "Ungisekele kakhulu." Isisusa esifakiwe sesihlobo, saqala ukuzijwayeza indlela yokuphila yezemidlalo. "Ngonyaka we-31, ngilahlekelwe i-40 kg!" Ngokukhula komzimba, wenqaba ukuthintana nobungqingili. Waqala ukusebenzisa ukunakwa kwabobulili obuhlukile. Ngokushesha okuhlangenwe nakho kokuya ocansini nabobulili obuhlukile, ukwakheka ngaphandle kobunzima, nge-orgasm. Ngesikhathi i-4 inyanga isobudlelwano obuzinzile nentombazane, ihlose ukuqala umndeni. Azizwakali izifiso zobungqingili, ukhumbula ngokunengeka. Kukhathazekile okuqinile mayelana nokuthi kungenzeka adalule imininingwane yempilo yakhe kumakoti.
icala olichazile aliyona eyodwa;
Ngiyesaba ukuthi kuzoba kubi kakhulu, kuzofanele ngibone ukubekezelelana, ukushada kwezitabane, njll. Ngoba ayikho indlela yokuxazulula inkinga yobungqingili obuvelayo. Lesi isiza esihle, kepha lokhu kuncane kakhulu ... uhlelo ludinga ukuguqulwa.
Ngeshwa lokhu akwenzeki.
Cishe wonke umuntu kufanele akhulume ngakho futhi ungesabi! Asikho isidingo sokubheka eNtshonalanga nase-United States. Kuyinzuzo kubo ukwenza abantu bobulili obufanayo. Ngakho-ke kulula ukuhlanekezela nokucekela phansi isibalo sabantu. Sebeyahlanya nje,! sebeneminyaka beyilungiselela. Abantu abajabulile. Inqubomgomo yesimo sengqondo sobulili obufanayo iholela ekuwohlokeni, ikakhulukazi uma le mishado ingumndeni we-GAY futhi izokhulisa isizukulwane esisha!
Okuchazile kuvamile.
Indoda, hetero. Ubunzima ngamantombazane, ngakho-ke ujabulele i-hetero-porn, kepha bese kuqala ukukhathaza, futhi kancane kancane uba nentshisekelo ku-gay / trance porn.
Konke lokhu kulungiswe njenge-reflex ene-conditioned. Ubuchopho bubonakala "bukhohlwa" injabulo yabo kwabesifazane futhi bugxila ekucabangeni kongqingili.
Iphathwa nge-Reflex efanayo enesimo. Kuyadingeka ukubuyisela kancane injabulo kubo besifazane, futhi yilokho.
Azikho izifundo zesayensi eziqinisekisa ukwakheka kobungqingili ngenqubo yemfundo.
Imibono ephathelene nokwakhiwa kobungqingili ehambisana nokunganakwa noma ubudlelwano nobaba iyisimo sokucabanga kwengqondo esime isikhathi eside esingenaso isimo esifakazelwe ngokwesayensi, empeleni. Ikhuthaza umbono wokuthi ubungqingili bungalashwa ngempumelelo, kepha funa kuphela. Ngizokusho manje ukuthi lokhu akuphathwa nganoma iyiphi indlela. Ngoba akukho okuzopholisa. Lokhu akuyona i-pathology! Yebo, umphakathi awubemukeli abantu abanjalo. Ikhulukazi eRussia. Ngakho-ke inani eliphakeme lokuzibulala.
Yebo, umuntu wazalwa ngaleyondlela. Akabakhathaleli abantu besifazane, akabathandi. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi abasitholanga isizathu akusho ukuthi alikho noma ngeke latholakala ngokuzayo.
Kube nesikhathi sokuzama "ukwelapha". Lokhu kuholele emiphumeleni ngokuphelele. Ukuhehwa ebulilini obufanayo kwagcinwa ngokugcwele.
Ukuthi awazi ngabo akusho ukuthi azikho. Bachazwa ngaphakathi bika... Yini empeleni engekho bukhona ubufakazi bethonya lezinto eziphilayo, okucacayo utshele i-APA.
Okufakazelwe ngokugcwele ekusebenzeni ngokomtholampilo. Uma usebenza ukuxazulula lezi zinkinga, ukuthambekela kobungqingili kuyize. Imininingwane engaphezulu: https://pro-lgbt.ru/5195/
I-Demagogic "ingxabano ngokugomela" nokucabanga okufisayo. Izinkolelo zakho azivumelani namaqiniso.
Iphutha elinengqondo "Non sequitur". Izinga lokuzibulala longqingili kulawo mazwe lapho bengasolwa nakancane emphakathini lihlala liphezulu ngendlela engavamile, njengakwezinye izindawo. Ngokuxakayo, ukwamukelwa okubanzi komphakathi ngobungqingili kuholela ekwandeni kwezifo nokuhlupheka phakathi kwabantu be-LGBT. Imininingwane eyengeziwe: https://pro-lgbt.ru/386/
I-APA icela izishoshovu ze-LGBT ukuthi ziyilahle ingxabano, ngoba ayinasayensi, ayisebenzi futhi ayibandlululi. Imininingwane engaphezulu: https://pro-lgbt.ru/285/
Iphutha elinengqondo "ukulindela isisekelo." Uma sebeyitholile, sizokhuluma.
Akulona iqiniso. Izindatshana ezingaphezu kwezi-100 zolimi lwesiNgisi ezichaza imiphumela ephumelelayo yokwelashwa okuyi-refocuse zifingqiwe kuthebula elingezansi. Imininingwane engaphezulu lapha.
Sawubona, futhi yini okufanele ngiyenze uma nginenkinga efanayo naleyo ekulesi sihloko? Ngidinga usizo ngempela ..
Kufanele uthande lokho uNkulunkulu akunike khona. Unezandla, amehlo, impilo, ubusha - lesi isipho esivela kuNkulunkulu - ukuphila. Futhi iBhayibheli liyakutshela ukuthi ungaphila kanjani. Inye kuphela indlela ejabulisayo, zonke ezinye ziyinkohliso futhi ziwumgunyathi ngenxa yezifiso zethu zesikhashana. Khumbula: akudingeki uphile ngemizwa, kodwa ngeqiniso, futhi imizwa izoqina lapho kuneqiniso.
gaskiya nima ina bukatar taimako akan lamarin nima yashafeni
Imininingwane enhle. Qhubeka wabelana ngama-athikili amaningi.
I-LGBT isifo???
Namuhla, ngizokwembulela imfihlo embi. Ngakho. I-LGBT ayisona isifo, kodwa ifa lofuzo lokhokho bethu, futhi elibi kakhulu kulokho. Futhi kwahamba, yilokho kuphela, kusukela esiqhingini saseCeylon, (manje uFr. I-Sri Lanka), lapho abafokazi bevela ohlelweni lwenkanyezi ye-Tau Ceti, (inama-exoplanets angu-8 ajikelezayo embuthanweni, kanye ne-asteroid eyi-1 ekude, ene-orbit engavamile, ethambekele, ngokuphathelene neLanga lendabuko - Tau Ceti ), emandulo izikhathi, benza izivivinyo zabo zofuzo lapho, bezama ukuzivumelanisa neplanethi yethu, futhi bawela abantu nezilwane, ngenxa yalokho, saba nezidalwa ezinjengalezi: ama-satyrs, ama-centaurs kanye nama-mermaids !!! Kodwa, mayelana nakho konke, ngokulandelana: ezincwadini zamaVeda, kunomqondo onjengokuthi: "Inombolo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukusinda komuntu". Okusho ukuthi, kumuntu, kungaphezulu (phakathi kwezizwe ezimhlophe), kothile, kuncane (kwabamnyama, amaLatinos namaShayina), kodwa sonke sihlanganiswe yinto eyodwa: kanye, lokhu, ukuguquguquka kwenani labantu. Ukusinda kufinyelela, ngenxa ye-hybridization, izinga elingaphansi kwama-50% elokuqala, kumuntu onjalo (uhlanga lwesintu: HOMOS SUPIENS), ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, kwebhayoloji, kanye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kuqala emzimbeni, ngezinga lamandla e-aura, ngenxa yalokho, ngokuphelele, ubunikazi bakhe bobulili kanye nokuzibona kwakhe kulahleka, futhi yena, ezama ukuvala lezi: "izimbobo" zengqondo, ku-aura yakhe, uqala ukubheka, (ngokungazi), yena ngokwakhe, okufanayo- umbhangqwana ocansini, ukuze, kumuntu onempilo, ngokusho kwe-aura, ondliwe amandla engqondo futhi ngaleyo ndlela azinzise i-aura yomuntu. Okwenzekayo yilokhu: 1. Izintandane. Ake sithathe, isibonelo, 1 (oyedwa), owesifazane onempilo, ovela ohlotsheni lwamaScandinavians, (omhlophe), onenombolo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukusinda, i-10 (ishumi). Futhi sizomwela ngendoda enempilo, kusukela ohlotsheni lwamaScandinavians, (omhlophe), futhi, ngenombolo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukusinda, i-10 (ishumi). Futhi sizobashada. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, imithetho (Vedic) ye-RITA ayiphulwa, futhi uma benezingane, ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi inani labo, bayohlala benezingane ezinempilo, kusukela, ekukhulelweni nasekuzalweni, i-10 plus 10 futhi ihlukanise, ezimbili, (kubazali bobabili), nazo zizoba yi-10. Okungukuthi, ekuzalweni, ingane enjalo, (intombazane), izalwe: evamile, enempilo, (engqondo), owesifazane wesikhathi esizayo. Futhi manje, ake sizame ukungenelela kule nqubo futhi sengeze, ochungechungeni lwabo lomzali nengane, umhlanganyeli wesithathu, (umfokazi), onenombolo yokusinda, (ngokokuziphendukela kwemvelo, kuplanethi enguMhlaba), 5 (abahlanu) futhi babone yini, sizoyithola. Sesivele sinabazali abangu-3 (abathathu), ochungechungeni, ngofuzo kanye nokwengezwa kwe-DNA alien, inani lokusinda, umuntu ngamunye, ukuziphendukela kwemvelo, ekuzalweni, ukuwa, ngokushesha, ngamayunithi angu-1,666666666666667, kusukela: 10 plus 10 plus 5 ilingana 25 futhi uma, lokhu, kuhlukaniswa ngo-3 (abathathu), khona-ke uthola 8,333333333333333. Imithetho ye-RITA iphulwa ngokucacile, futhi nakuba, kumfokazi, lokhu kuhle, ngoba, ku-hybrid enjalo, inombolo yakhe yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, esimweni esijwayelekile, iye yanda, ngenxa yohlanga lwesintu, lokhu kubi, ngoba, nge okunye ukuhlanganiswa nokuxuba, izakhi zofuzo, ingane enjalo, ene-Negroid, Latinoid noma i-Chinese genetics - inombolo yakhe yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukusinda, umuntu, izowa kuphela (ezizukulwaneni ezilandelayo). Futhi ngolunye usuku, kuyofika isikhashana lapho, inzalo yakhe ekude, (esizukulwaneni sesine noma sesihlanu), ngokuzumayo ezwa ukuthi kukhona okushodayo, njengoba, inombolo yakhe yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukusinda komuntu, iwile, ngenxa yalokho, I-hybridization yomhlaba wonke yezinhlanga nabafokazi, ngaphansi kwama-50%, kusukela ekuqaleni, kubazali, 10 futhi yena, OKOKUQALA, UZOBHEKA OWESIFAZANE ukuze azixhumele, lezi "zimbobo" zengqondo ku-aura (ngaphezu kwalokho. , ngokungazi). Phela, intombazane (intombazane, owesifazane), enenombolo yokusinda engu-4 (ezine) noma ephakeme kancane, kanye no-0,5, izozizwa kahle ngowesifazane onempilo, enenombolo yokusinda engu-10, (njengokungathi, 4 plus U-10 ungu-7 uma ehlukaniswa ngo-2) noma, nge-hybrid, yangaphambili, (eyomuntu ne-alien), enenombolo yokusinda, 8,333, (njengoba u-4 kanye no-8,333 engu-6,1665 uma ehlukaniswa ngo-2). Futhi kanjalo nje, ama-lesbians abonakala ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba, ngenombolo yokusinda yomuntu engaphansi kwamayunithi angu-5, (kowesifazane), owesifazane onjalo, (intombazane, intombazane), akakhangwa amadoda, kusukela, ngokofuzo kanye nasesikhathini. izinga lamandla e-aura, akakwazi ukwakha umbhangqwana ozinzile nendoda !!! 2. Izitabane. Ake sithathe, futhi, isibonelo, 1 (oyedwa), owesifazane onempilo, ovela ohlotsheni lwamaScandinavians, (omhlophe), onenombolo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukusinda, i-10 (ishumi). Futhi sizomwela ngendoda enempilo, kusukela ohlotsheni lwamaScandinavians, (omhlophe), futhi, ngenombolo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukusinda, i-10 (ishumi). Futhi sizobashada. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, imithetho (Vedic) ye-RITA ayiphulwa, futhi uma benezingane, ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi inani labo, bayohlala benezingane ezinempilo, kusukela, ekukhulelweni nasekuzalweni, i-10 plus 10 futhi ihlukanise, ezimbili, (kubazali bobabili), nazo zizoba yi-10. Okungukuthi, ekuzalweni, umntwana onjalo, (umfana), azalwe: ojwayelekile, onempilo, (wengqondo), indoda yesikhathi esizayo. Futhi manje, ake sizame ukungenelela kule nqubo futhi sengeze, ochungechungeni lwabo lomzali nengane, umhlanganyeli wesithathu, (umfokazi), onenombolo yokusinda, (ngokokuziphendukela kwemvelo, kuplanethi enguMhlaba), 5 (abahlanu) futhi babone yini, sizoyithola. Sesivele sinabazali abangu-3 (abathathu), ochungechungeni, ngofuzo kanye nokwengezwa kwe-DNA alien, inani lokusinda, umuntu ngamunye, ukuziphendukela kwemvelo, ekuzalweni, ukuwa, ngokushesha, ngamayunithi angu-1,666666666666667, kusukela: 10 plus 10 plus 5 ilingana 25 futhi uma, lokhu, kuhlukaniswa ngo-3 (abathathu), khona-ke uthola 8,333333333333333. Imithetho ye-RITA iphulwa ngokucacile, futhi nakuba, kumfokazi, lokhu kuhle, ngoba, ku-hybrid enjalo, inombolo yakhe yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, esimweni esijwayelekile, iye yanda, ngenxa yohlanga lwesintu, lokhu kubi, ngoba, nge okunye ukuhlanganiswa nokuxuba, izakhi zofuzo, ingane enjalo, ene-Negroid, Latinoid noma i-Chinese genetics - inombolo yakhe yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukusinda, umuntu, izowa kuphela (ezizukulwaneni ezilandelayo). Futhi ngolunye usuku, kuyofika isikhashana lapho, inzalo yakhe ekude, (esizukulwaneni sesine noma sesihlanu), ngokuzumayo ezwa ukuthi kukhona okushodayo, njengoba inombolo yakhe yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukusinda komuntu, iwile, ngenxa yesimo somhlaba wonke. ukuxutshwa kwezinhlanga nabafokazi, ngaphansi kuka-50%, kusukela ekuqaleni, kubazali, 10 futhi yena, OKOKUQALA, UZOBHEKA INDODA ukuze azixhumele, lezi "zimbobo" zengqondo ku-aura (ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokungazi). Phela, umfana (insizwa, insizwa), enenombolo yokusinda engu-4 (ezine) noma ephakeme kancane, kanye no-0,5, uzozizwa ejabule ngendoda enempilo, enenombolo yokusinda engu-10, (njengokungathi, 4 kanye no-10 kungu-7 uma kuhlukaniswa ngo-2) noma, nge-hybrid, (eyomuntu ne-alien), enenombolo yokusinda, 8,333, (njengoba u-4 ehlanganisa no-8,333 engu-6,1665 uma ehlukaniswa ngo-2). Futhi kanjalo nje, ama-gay avela ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba, ngenombolo yokusinda yomuntu ngezansi, amayunithi angu-5, (kowesilisa), indoda enjalo, (umfana, umfana), akakhangwa abesifazane, kusukela, ngokofuzo futhi izinga lamandla e-aura, akakwazi ukwakha umbhangqwana ozinzile nowesifazane !!! 3. Abesilisa nabesifazane. Lapha, konke kulula. Lezi zimane ziyinzalo yalezo nzalo (abantu nabafokazi), okhokho okwathi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi baqonda, baxosha abameleli bezizwe ezixubile kanye nezinhlayiya endaweni yabo (njengesibonelo, eRussia Yasendulo, lapho abantu abanjalo bexoshwa. kusukela emiphakathini, ukuya eYurophu, lapho, kamuva, bakha izindawo nezifunda, ngemithetho emihle ye-LGBT) futhi bayeka ukuxubana (ngofuzo) nabameleli bezinye izizwe, bathola ukuthi ngisho nezingane zabo ezibuthakathaka, (ekuzalweni), zine ukusinda inombolo 5, okungukuthi, into isilinganiso, ngokwengqondo, phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, futhi ngalokho - nabesilisa nabesifazane!!! 4. Abashintsha ubulili. Leli izinga elidlulele kakhulu, ukuwa, inombolo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ukusinda, komuntu, kumuntu wesilisa noma wesifazane, lapho, ngokofuzo, ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba, ezingeni, lamandla e-aura, umuntu, (owesilisa noma owesifazane), unenombolo, yokuphila, yomuntu, elingana no-1 (owodwa) futhi umuntu onjalo akasenawo amandla engqondo ku-aura namandla ayo (owesilisa noma owesifazane) ngokulandelana, ngenxa yokuhlanganiswa kabusha. , womzimba wakhe, ukubuyisela, kuye ngokwakhe, isimiso sowesilisa noma sowesifazane futhi ngakho-ke, kulula kuye (njenge-hourglass) ukuqala, kuye ngokwakhe, inqubo entsha, ukwakheka - amadoda noma abesifazane, (ukuthatha amahomoni), ngalokho kubuyisela, ngo-100%, okunye, okwangempela, ubulili. 5.
Yamukela futhi usekele izindinganiso zomndeni. Kumelwe futhi siwavale amafilimu anenkulumo-ze yezitabane kanye ne-LGBT! Izingane zidinga ukuvikelwa. Manje njengoba i-Disney isiqalile ukukhipha opopayi namafilimu anabalingisi bobulili. Izikole kumele zibuyise indlela esafundiswa ngayo izifundo zamantombazane nezabafana. Othisha badinga ukuqeqeshwa ngokomsebenzi. Futhi ukuqinisekiswa, okuningi kuvela ekukhulisweni. Kuyadingeka ukuhlonipha nokwazisa omunye nomunye, akudingekile ukulinganisa abafana namantombazane. Kunezindlela eziningi zokufundisa othisha abahle eRussia. I-inthanethi kufanele iphephe ezinganeni zethu! Ibuye ibe nomthelela manje ngokuyisisekelo kwi-psychology yengane!
"Futhi konke kwavela esiqhingini saseCeylon, (manje esiyisiqhingi saseSri Lanka), lapho abafokazi, abavela ohlelweni lwenkanyezi ye-Tau Ceti, (bane-exoplanets engu-8 ejikelezayo embuthanweni, kanye ne-asteroid eyi-1 ekude"
Ingabe uyaxakeka?
Hmmm, ungabuza, kodwa uma intombi yami yayinobuhlobo obuhle nomama wayo kwaze kwaba yilapho ineminyaka engu-13. Kodwa kamuva ubuhlobo obuhle nonina baphuka, ingabe ingafuna enye indawo yothando lukamama? (manje uthi uphikisana ne-lgbt)
njengokuthi, angaba umuntu we-lgbt ngokukhetha ukubukwa kwabantu abathandana nobulili obufanayo??
ukuthi ubungqingili bungokwemvelo noma umuntu uzalwa nabo akwaziwa ... kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi amadoda amaningi nezinsizwa zivumela ukuvuselela i-prostate gland nge-dildo .. ngaphambili, ngenkathi amaSoviet ekhona, isidingo esinjalo sasikhona. kwakungadingeki .. kuphela ngoba kwakukhona ukudla okuseqophelweni eliphezulu futhi okunempilo .. manje i-chemistry kanye ne-bioadditives ..izingane zizalwa ziyi-freaks ..omama abayitholi imithi edingekayo kanye nemali yengane ..sinenkinga ezweni lakithi . .amaphoyisa namasosha bathola imali eningi ngethangi elidiliziwe isigidi ..kanye nomholo wezinkulungwane ezingama-200 ... emva kwalokho noma iyiphi indoda izoba yifagi ..njengoba iholo liyinkulungwane eziyisi-7-12 ... Ifulethi elingu-8 thousand .....
Yebo Yebo. Konke kwaba njalo.
Kufanele ulengiswe ngesihloko esiwumbudane esingaka! Izinganekwane, ezivunywe ngokucacile isimo sesimanje se-chauvinist samanzi. i-elite, ayidingi ukwethulwa njengocwaningo lwesayensi, ikakhulukazi mayelana noshintsho okungenzeka lungenzeka ekuziqondiseni. Akulula kangako, ungathatheki nge-chauvinism!
Izishoshovu ze-LGBT zihlala zibonisa ubungqingili futhi zifuna ukubhujiswa kwalabo abanganamatheli emibonweni yabo. Ngale ndlela ukhombisa ubungozi bokunyakaza kwakho emphakathini.
Ukuqaphela kukaGerard Aardweg mayelana nezizathu zokuthuthuka kobungqingili kubonakala kimi kuyiqiniso kakhulu. (ukuzidabukela, ukuzibona uphansi ngenxa yokunganeli/okucindezelwe ubudoda/ubufazi, ubudlelwano nabazali, ukuzicabangela, njll.)
Ngikujabulele ukufunda incwadi yakhe ethi “The Battle For Normality”. Ukuqaphela kwakhe kubanzi, kuyiqiniso ezimweni eziningi ngesikhathi esisodwa futhi kuchaza kahle izizathu zokuziphatha nokuthambekela kongqingili.
Kodwa, ngeshwa, uGerard "uyangilahlekelwa" uma kuziwa ngokuqondile ekwelapheni kanye nezizathu zokuqala ukwelashwa.
Akukacaci kimina ukuthi usho ukuthini ngempela uma ekhuluma “ngokuziphatha,” “unembeza,” kanye “necala.”
UGerard uyakwenqaba ukuzithoba kokuziphatha (kanye “ne-superego”) futhi uthi ukuziphatha nonembeza kuyingxenye engokwemvelo yengqondo yomuntu.
UGerard ugomela ngokuthi izinto ezinjengamanga, ukukhaphela, ukubulala nokudlwengula zibonwa ngumuntu njengento embi cishe “ngoba nje”.
UGerard ubala ubungqingili phakathi kwalezi zinto, ethi bubangelwa “ukonakala okujulile” “nokungcola,” ebhekisela eqinisweni lokuthi ongqingili abaningi bazozizwa benecala. (isibonelo ngemva kocansi)
Uthi ongqingili abanawo unembeza, kodwa bayazama ukuwucindezela.
Angiwuphiki lo mbono, kodwa kimi ubonakala ungagculisi futhi awuthuthukisiwe kahle - kukhona ukuntula ukuqonda okujulile, uGerard afaka esikhundleni senkolo. (ikakhulukazi ubuKristu, ezinye izinkolo azibhekwa nhlobo)
Ukwelapha, ngenxa yokuqonda okunjalo kokuziphatha nonembeza, kubukeka njengomzamo wokufaka ukuzizonda “necala elingokwenkolo” kongqingili, okungukuthi, njengomzamo wokushintsha ukwethuka ngomunye. (wedge by wedge)
Nginokungabaza ngokusebenza (nokuphepha?) kwale ndlela yokwenza. Umbono lapho ukholo lwezenkolo kuphela olungasiza ekwelapheni ubungqingili kimi lubonakala lungamanga, luphambene nesayensi. Nokho, ngiyaqaphela ukuthi inkolo inikeza impendulo elula embuzweni othi “kungani” (kungani uqale ukwelashwa) okunzima ukuyithola ngaphandle kwenkolo.
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Ubungqingili, njengokuphazamiseka kobuntu, bunquma imikhuba yomuntu, umlingiswa kanye nalokho akuthandayo ngaphandle kokuziphatha kocansi, ikakhulukazi uma kwenzeka ngaphandle kokucindezela kwangaphandle kanye nesimo "sokwamukela."
Okusho ukuthi, ngokuqonda kwami, ukuphathwa kobungqingili kusho ukuhlelwa kabusha, futhi esimweni sokwelashwa okwaziswa ngenkolo, mhlawumbe nokubhujiswa kwengxenye ye-ego. I-ego iyancipha futhi ithathelwe indawo inkolelo yenkolo emandleni aphakeme.
I-"ego-lobotomy" iyenzeka, lapho ingxenye yobuntu isuswa kanye nobungqingili.
Umbono wami siqu, okungenzeka ungamanga: - “ababengongqingili” abelashwe ngokuphendukela enkolweni banokuziphatha okuthile okuphambene nemvelo, njengokungathi badlala indima ethile. Imibukiso yokugabadela yokuzithiba, njengokugqoka izingubo ezinemibala emnyama nethulisiwe, ukushukuma komzimba okucindezelwe nezinkulumo ezilungiselelwe ezinjengokuthi “Ngimtholile uNkulunkulu,” kuklanyelwe ukucindezela ukuzizonda okufakwe ekwelapheni futhi kusikhumbuza amasiko “ehlelo lempahla” angenanjongo. lapho owayekade engungqingili ezama ngayo ukufinyelela “ukuhlanzeka” okukhulu. (eshintsha inzwa eyodwa afake enye)
Akumangazi ukuthi ongqingili basabela embonweni wokwelapha cishe njengokungathi ukubulawa. (okufana nesifo sobuntu be-schizoid, ukwesaba ukuzibhubhisa)
Yebo, lokhu kugxilwe ekuzidabukeleni kongqingili nothando “lokuqoqa ukungabi nabulungisa.”
Futhi, akumangalisi ukuthi ukwelapha okunjalo ngokuyinhloko (?) kusetshenziselwa ongqingili abavela emikhayeni engokwenkolo, okungukuthi, ngokuzizonda okugxilile noma umuzwa wecala, owawungavumeli ubungqingili ukuba bube yingxenye yobuntu ngokugcwele.
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Спасибо.